The Graduates of TTC after loss thread #7 - 🐧 The Penguin Huddle

[TwittleBee]

This is a safe space and supportive thread for anyone who is pregnant following a loss.

We all understand the worry and anxiety that can come from being pregnant again following miscarriage/stillbirth/neonatal death.

Plenty of births on the last thread, congratulations to you all!

Let's start a fresh roll call below? I'll collate as we go.

@TwittleBee it sounds like you are in the best hospital for you now, I'm glad the contractions have stopped and they are monitoring you so closely, sorry the side effects are making you feel so unwell. Take care of yourself xx

@Twittlebee glad he/she is still in there. The longer the stay in the better. You're in the right place if anything happens though, so that's good. You are such a brave lady, hang on in there xx. And lots of lieing down x

Hang on in there @TwittleBee 💪🏻 x

@TwittleBee that sounds very scary, but they seem on it and the plan is a sensible one to keep you both safe. I’ve been thinking of you and really hope you have no more bleeding.
@Kayjay2018 that’s really tough. I lost both grandparents within a month of each other when I was 17, it was very upsetting but I got through it and it didn’t affect my exams. Good to keep the school involved and also that he has a bit of time to see her as much as he needs to. Sorry to hear this sad news.
@TinyPaws wondering how you’re getting on?
@hayleyfx congratulations!!
@squirrelnutkins1 what lovely news! It will probably start to feel more real now. I bonded with baby a lot more after my 20 week scan and started to pick things like the pram etc. I felt movements from 17 weeks but that’s only because the midwife pointed them out, they were subtle.

Hi all,

I just wanted to offer my congratulations to @Rubyroost on the safe arrival of her little one :)

@TwittleBee I really hope you and baby are okay. How many weeks are you now?

Hi @Squiff70 how is Ava doing? X

Hi @fnej01. Ava is doing really well thanks. She's on full feeds of milk and off TPN (intervenous nutrition) now. She's been off CPAP and on just oxygen for three weeks and is being weaned off that now too. The only problem we have left is her bowel needs putting back together as she has two stomas currently but they won't do it for another 4-6 weeks from now. Assuming they don't do it for 6 weeks and assuming she takes another 4-6 weeks to recover, we're looking at June before she's home. I'm bloody crushed. She'll be 7 months old. I just want to take her home but I need her to be as well as she can be.

@Squiff70 thanks so much x

I honestly have so much admiration for you, I don't know how you have got through this, obviously I know you have no choice. I would have been such a mess, you are such a brave mama. That's such good news that she's taking milk etc and will be off the oxygen soon. Gosh 7 months old, but what a little fighter she has been. Sending all my love and thinking of you x

That's great news about Ava's progress @Squiff70 but it must be so so tough on you not to be able to just take her home.

Thinking of you and hoping things get easier soon xxxx

@squiff70 echoing as others have said you are doing brilliantly, at staying strong for Ava. And what a warrior she is being! I think you were originally due in the next few weeks it must be so hard with such a long hospital stay, but she has done brilliantly to come such a long way on this journey. X

@Rubyroost thanks for the assurance 😊

@Mistymeow I've been feeling a sort of rolling sensation a bit so wondering if that's movement? We're in the middle of a house move at the moment and the new house is a state so we're not going to be able to buy cot, pram etc for quite a while yet but I think we've picked a name so we're going to try it out on bump and hopefully that'll help me bond and make it all feel more real. My anxiety has subsided so I'm really hoping it can last.

Thinking of you @TwittleBee and @Kayjay2018

Morning ladies! Have been reading the thread but not had a chance to reply.

@sadtoday21 Congratulations!!! What an ordeal for you but so glad you're both doing well. Are you at home now?

@squirrelnutkins1 Welcome! I recognise your name. Are you on my July board or have we spoken before on a MC board maybe? I'm 23+2 so due on 2nd July. The anxiety hasn't left me alone... I thought it would after the 12 week scan and then after 20 week scan but no. It's here to stay until he's born. I've got an issue with my placenta so will be having growth scans from 31 weeks but trying to push for one at 28 weeks as everyone else with the same issue seems to be having a 28 week scan!
Glad your 20 week scan went well and so lovely you're having a girl. I didn't mind either way but I'm now loving shopping now that I know it's a boy. Still feels wrong buying stuff but I have to try to ignore my anxiety!

@yukka Lovely to hear from you!

@hayleyfx Lovely to hear from you too. Gorgeous girl! Hope you're both doing well.

@fnej01 Good luck for Monday! Xx

@TwittleBee Have been regularly checking for updates on here and fb. You're in my thoughts a lot. Have everything crossed for you xx

@Squiff70 I just can't imagine how you are feeling and I admire you so much. Ava is doing amazingly well and it's so sad she's had to spend so long in hospital but hopefully the next 12 weeks will go quickly for you all and you'll soon be home xx

Not much to update - went to see the midwife on Thursday as I hadn't felt my boy move for two days. I know it's still early at 23 weeks but I'd been feeling him since 16 weeks and I am so anxious. Felt guilty when the midwife said he was all good in there but she didn't make me feel silly. I'll be 24 weeks on Thursday and we'll have finally reached viability. My baby will exist, no matter what.

Sorry the end of my post was insensitive ☹️ Shame there is still no way to edit a post!

@Squiff70 thanks for the Ava update, it sounds like she is doing really well- she has come so far! Sorry that there is still some time to pass before home time, but I really hope the weeks fly by and she keeps making all this great progress. I hope too you had your ceremony for baby Elliott x

@squirrelnutkins1 those do sound like movements! Must be stressful moving whilst pregnant but we aim to move this summer with newborn- there probably isn’t a good time to do it! But all the extra space will be worth it. My neighbours wake me every morning at 6am clattering about with their baby- but I guess I will get my own back soon haha. Good idea picking a name and using it :)
@RedRobin7 I didn’t realise you had placenta issues, sorry to hear that. It seems most of us on this thread have some sort of complication as well as anxiety over loss. Anyone who has gone through loss feels the importance of the 24 weeks, it means a lot to us. I’m sure no one would think you insensitive having gone through what you have experienced. It’s insensitive of the medical profession to label a pre 24 weeker as a late miscarriage, so hard for the women to hear that.

Hi ladies, quick update from me - babyFrilly was born yesterday morning weighing a very healthy 8lbs - we are so in love, she is perfect. I was induced at 41 weeks as per my request. The antenatal ward didn't believe me when I said I laboured quickly and my contractions were painful which meant little girl very nearly arrived in the lift up to labour ward 😂

Sorry I haven't kept up with the thread of late but congratulations to @Rubyroost and @sadtoday21- hopefully see you both in the FB page soon! Xx

Congratulations @frillyfarmer!!!

Glad it all went well ❤️ enjoy all the baby cuddles! Xxxxxx

@frillyfarmer congratulations!! Sounds like it all went beautifully. Enjoy your lovely newborn x

@frillyfarmer massive congratulations on the safe arrival of your little girl, I'm pleased they listened to you about induction. Enjoy tour little

Sorry dog knocked my phone! Meant to say enjoy lots of new baby cuddles!

Congratulations @frillyfarmer so glad that little girl is here safe and sound x

Congrats @frillyfarmer lovely news. Hope you're feeling ok.

@fnej01 presume you have an early start tomo for c section. Hope you're not feeling too nervous, it will be amazing! XX

Thanks @yukka very nervous today but channelling the energy to housework which is probably not the worst plan!

They're coming in fast and furious now! Congratulations @frillyfarmer sounds like it went pretty smoothly, not sure smoothly is right word for child birth but as good as it could be. @frillyfarmer now to navigate the toddler and newborn baby stage. How was your little one when they met? Apart from cluster feeding from 12 til 5 last night this little one is very sleepy so currently have plenty of time to spend with toddler.

Oops sorry @fnej01 meant to say all the very best and good luck for tomorrow. Don't have pregnancy brain, but can now blame bsby brain instead

@fnej01 I was also very nervous before my Csection and worried that he'd be taken to special care because of lungs and the extra fluid which apparently can get into lungs etc. All was good and my elective was so calm and couldnt feel a thing, unlike my emergency section. Baby had agpar score of 9 despite only being 37 weeks and 2 days and paediatrician said had 100% oxygen! I think the steroids are just a precaution aren't they.
It's nerve wracking befire the section, but once you're actually having it done you'll most likely relax and all will be fine. X