The Graduates of TTC after loss thread #7 - 🐧 The Penguin Huddle

[TwittleBee]

This is a safe space and supportive thread for anyone who is pregnant following a loss.

We all understand the worry and anxiety that can come from being pregnant again following miscarriage/stillbirth/neonatal death.

Plenty of births on the last thread, congratulations to you all!

Let's start a fresh roll call below? I'll collate as we go.

Could I join please? I'm 19+4 and having my 20 week scan tomorrow. I had an early mc last year so my anxiety is through the roof constantly. I'm going to speak with my consultant tomorrow to try and get some help with it.

EDD 26.7.2020

Sounds a scary time for @twittlebee ☹️

Hey, so they have decided to keep me here and monitor me very closely. Not sure what has changed their mind about needing to move hospitals, maybe its too busy elsewhere? Shitting myself though as bleeding is getting heavier.

Welcome to the group @squirrelnutkins1 - youll find it lovely and supportive here

Hope you're ok @TwittleBee! It sounds terrifying :( are they still planning on doing an emergency c section?

@TwittleBee I'm sorry things are so up in the air, it must be really confusing why they have changed their mind for now. We were learning about c sections in nct this week and apparently they reckon they can get baby out in one minute if they have to. Is there anyone around that can talk to you? The not knowing what's going on is not fair on you at all. Xxx

Oh goodness @TwittleBee just seen your update. Keeping fingers and toes crossed and praying that you and baby are going to be okay. Sending lots of hugs x

Baby boy is here! To recap, had cramps overnight and didn’t know it must have been contractions. I saw the health visitor this morning and then was talking to my dissertation supervisor on the phone and told him had to go! 😂 Called MAU but was advised to stay home, which only lasted half hour or so as I started bleeding so rushed into MAU. Had to walk part of way as taxi couldn’t get close to building. Found out contractions were actually only four minutes apart and was made to wait in MAU for twenty minutes with only one paracetamol, no one taking me seriously until they checked and found I was 8 cm dilated already! That was the worst part getting to 8 cm without any drugs. Rushed upstairs had natural birth just gas and air two and a half hours no time for the pool just pushed him out on all fours. Gas and air was lovely, helped a lot in the final stage, didn’t actually find transition to be bad at all. Placenta delivered with injection right after, very cool looking. Second degree tear after birth and had to have lots of stitches but able to move around right after. Baby fed right away, he was so hungry! He had a good latch after half hour or so. Very calm baby, as I suspected from his movements! And not too small in the end, 6.8 pounds. It was all really incredible and I’m just so grateful for all of your support.

@TwittleBee I really hope you and baby are ok and I’m thinking of you both tonight. Sending hugs Xxx.

@sadtoday21 massive congratulations on the safe arrival of your little boy! Wow sounds like you did amazingly and what a lovely weight. Hopefully you will be home soon with you new arrival! Congratulations again!! 🎉

@sadtoday21 CONGRATULATIONS! Sounds like you done amazingly well! So pleased little boy arrived safely. Enjoy newborn cuddles!

@TwittleBee any updates this morning? Hope you're being looked after and bleeding has eased. You must be confused and anxious but you are in safe hands xxx

CONGRATULATIONS @sadtoday21 !! What lovely news to wake up to. Do PM @Beaglemum93 if you want to join us on the Facebook group. Enjoy the snuggles! xxx

Congratulations @sadtoday21 !!!

Thinking of you and your baby @TwittleBee hope all is ok with you both xxxx

Sending love @TwittleBee . What a scary time :(

Congratulations @sadtoday21 ! Sounds like everything is going well for you and baby. Well done

Welcome @squirrelnutkins1 ! Best of luck for your scan. I found this group great in helping to ease the anxiety as it helps to talk and read about the experiences of other ladies who have suffered through loss. I hope it does the same for you!

Hi ladies so sorry for not keeping up, just seen the roll call of due dates and can see some have arrived, congratulations to you it's so wonderful xx

@TwittleBee fingers crossed for you, they might rather keep you in case the transfer could move things along quicker perhaps? How are you today?

@fnej01 gosh induction tomo, are you feeling ready?

Congrats again to all you lovely ladies, hope you are enjoying these first few days and weeks, it's magical and I want to do it again already! 😱

@sadtoday21 congratulations! Sounds like you did amazingly well, I'm so pleased for you. Hope you are enjoying all the cuddles!

@Twittlebee thinking of you today, hope everything goes well for the both of you.

Congrats on all the new babies How amazing to have got through your losses and to now be holding a little bundle of joy. So genuinely happy for each and every one of you :) x

Hope you're being looked after well and being kept informed of what's going on 💕@TwittleBee

Thanks for letting me join. I've struggled to find a board following the infertility one I was on which was amazing but you ladies sound lovely and supportive of each other 😊

Needless to say I didn't sleep well due to anxiety. Even though I can see my little belly getting a little bigger and I've had four scans up to now, I'm still very much struggling to believe my little miss is going to be ok. I can't let myself enjoy pregnancy and I hate talking about being preg is RL as it feels as tho if I let myself get excited then it's all going to go wrong again. I know it's my brain trying to protect me but it's overwhelming and I've felt terribly down this week. Generally in life things don't phase me and I'm very pragmatic and just get on with things but not with this.

Sorry for the essay, you can kick me off the group if you like 🙈

@squirrelnutkins1 welcome to the group, we have all been where you are in terms of anxieties and they tend to morph into different worries as our pregnancies progress. You will find this group really really supportive, I think looking at due dates there is scheduled to be another influx of new arrivals in the next few weeks! I've found it great to read other people's worries and the responses they get as it makes me feel less alone. In RL not many people get the anxiety and assume once passed 12 weeks everything will be fine, I've enjoyed seeing my bump grow, and in the last few weeks it's got the the stage where the whole of my tummy moves when the baby gets a wiggle on.

Ps you won't find yourself kicked off- we all post essays at some time - it's good to get things off your chest rather than bottle things up.

@Kayjay2018 thank you that's very reassuring 😊
You're so right, after the 12 week mark people think it's all peachy but sadly that's not always the case.
It's amazing how your brain fixated on things and your normal, reasonable self goes out the window.
My last meltdown, which is totally nonsensical, was that they'll take the baby off me as I seem neurotic with worry!!
It doesn't help that we're also moving house and it needs quite a bit of work before we move in. It's all come together, two of the most stressful things you can do in life 🤣

That sounds lovely with your little wriggler in there! 😊😊😊

@sadtoday21 Awww congratulations that’s the most wonderful news! Thanks for sharing your positive birth story, sounds like it all went well in a very unexpected way and I’m sure you will recover quickly from the tear.
@fnej01 eek induction! I’m curious to hear what will happen as I will be induced at the end of the month. Think they are aiming for pessary or balloon thing! Hope you’re feeling ok and all the best.
@squirrelnutkins1 welcome! A couple of us have gone through infertility issues (my husband has a condition which means he doesn’t naturally produce the hormones to create sperm) Is yours an IVF pregnancy? We did conceive naturally but have had some miscarriages due to high sperm dna fragmentation and I have high natural killer cells. We didn’t have any treatment as this little one snuck through mid testing and I’m 35 weeks. So I understand this is a very precious baby for you. I must admit after the 20 week scan and then starting to feel more movements I felt a lot better. I hope you feel the same.

@TwittleBee I have been thinking of you. I really hope the bleeding slows down and there is a way to keep baby in a bit longer. Do let us know. Very concerning time and you are an incredible mum.

@squirrelnutkins1 a house move is stressful no matter when you do it! We moved house, our car died and we got married all in the space of two weeks - mad time but at least it was all out the way quickly 😀.

@Kayjay2018 oh blimey! Haha that's a positive spin tho! I'll try and adopt that when I'm stressed living in a building site 🤣

Oh wow, you've really been through the mill, that must've all been super distressing @Mistymeow so happy you're at 35 weeks now and you didn't have to go thru treatment 💕
The first time I was waiting for my period so I could start on Letrazole but I'd fallen preg naturally during the wait but then mc at 7 weeks. This was after 19 months of trying, surgery for stage 3 endo and 'unsticking' a lot of my insides (all sounded very gross when the surgeon explained what he'd had to do!). Then this time I was so fed up that I didn't bother taking my last month of Letrazole (next step starting IUI) and ate and drank whatever I pleased and it happened! We actually found out on what would have been my original due date so softened the blow of the day a bit. All in all took 27 months.
My placenta is anterior so not really feeling anything just yet.
Let's hope today is a turning point 💪🏻 just need to keep myself busy for the next couple of hours.

Thanks for the support ladies, I feel very welcome already xx

@yukka !!!! Lovely to see your positive pants again! 😜 Will you join us on the Facebook group? Be great to see how you're getting on xxx

@sadtoday congratulations so very pleased your little one has arrived safely.

@squirrelnutkins1 welcome and good luck for today.

@mistymeow @Yukka sorry ladies my plan is csection Monday. Not long now. I think @frillyfarmer is our induction

@Yukka lovely to hear from you. Hope your little one is doing well. Csection for me at 38+1 as baby is breech and they don't want to leave me too long with APS diagnosis too long, as growth slowing. Can't believe I've got this far, but nerve wracked now to get over the finish line. I won't ever forget your early support with the APS diagnosis xx

Ps does anyone ever hear how @hayleyfx got on? I think she was also an APS diagnosis and about 4 weeks ahead of me? @Yukka?