Early Oct babies part 2!

[Treacle81]

Hi girls, hope I’ve started new thread correctly 😕

@Spark27 I'm staying home apart from for walks and essential shopping.
We all need to be extra careful because we could be carrying it without realising. The less people out the better.
Though I know its rubbish and especially with a toddler.
My 4yo is going a bit insane.
I'm very teary all the time.

In happy news, I'm 12 weeks today. Only a week and a half until my scan 🙄

Big milestone @Treaclepie19 😊

Happy 12 weeks @Treaclepie19

I am not seeing anyone at the moment except my husband here at home, but to be honest looking at advice generally everyone should be doing that where possible now, not just pregnant women. I will only go to the shop if I need to for essential items. It is isolating but sadly it looks like it’s the way things are going and if people don’t stop socialising I think the government will bring in a total ban for all unnecessary movement.

Happy Mother’s Day girls 💐xx

Happy Mother’s Day everyone! 💕 How exciting that this time next year we’ll have our little ones to celebrate with (and hopefully be allowed out of the house 😂)

@spark27 That sounds like a lovely way to tell them 💕

@LexiM I’m doing much the same - only leaving the house for walks (I’m lucky I can wfh) and husband is doing all of the supermarket trips. It’s a bit boring but got plenty I need to sort out so can get on with that and we have a nice garden I can spend some time in.

Doing some cleaning and having a pamper day today as husband is off out on a (very distanced) walk with his mum. Feeling a lot better than yesterday but mindful not to push myself! still woke up at 6:20 though 😒

Happy Mother’s Day everyone!

@skyblue20 glad you are feeling better, it makes all the difference. I had an awful night, was awake at 2am feeling sick, had to have a ginger biscuit in the end and still feeling rough today.
I also have lots of stuff I can be doing at home, just don’t really feel up to any of it! I can’t wait for the day I will feel more like myself - hopefully that will come in second trimester! 🤞
I really feel for those of you with children and being isolated, must be ten times more difficult.

Oh no, so sorry to hear that @lexim 😔 Hope it goes away soon.

I need advice - we’ve told our mums not to come round today however husband said he’ll go for a (socially distanced!) walk with his. She’s now trying to invite herself round for a glass of wine in the garden after the walk. She wouldn’t have to go through the house so would probably be ok to come sit outside (though if she needed the loo or anything...), however I would feel terrible on my mum as we’ve told her to stay away, so we’ve said no to the wine in the garden. My MIL still goes on walks with her friends a few times a week and says she keeps her distance but tbh I don’t think she’s quite understanding what it is we’re meant to be doing, so I’m a bit concerned about seeing her just in case. However, she is widowed and alone, which is why my husband said he’d go for a walk (and then properly clean up before he came in to see me). Are we being unreasonable by saying the glass of wine isn’t a wise idea? She’s making us feel so guilty and we are really worried about her so it’s a really fine line but tbh I think both of us would rather just be at home the two of us with him just popping out for food when necessary. I feel like I’m being a monster, especially when she asked ‘so can I not see you at all now until this is over?’

What’s everyone else doing in terms of seeing people/parents, etc? My mum is upset to not see us today but is understanding, has a partner she lives with and is stronger than my MIL so I’m not as worried about her! It’s all so difficult!

@Skyblue20 I'd stick with the blanket rule.
We all need to be staying home and not visiting people so it's best to just stick to your guns.
I've just driven to my moms and dropped her present on her doorstep.
Also planning on going to my scans alone now since obviously childcare isn't on the cards.

@SkyBlue20, I think it depends what you feel comfortable with. If you're happy with separate garden sitting then go for it (but warn her no popping to the loo), but if you're not just stick with a firm no. If you got a cold or virus would you blame her and feel resentful? If so I'd do with a definite No.

I'm finding it tricky as DH will be in the office every other week. So while DD and I will be in, he could be bringing stuff back. I'm going to be staying in, but I feel if my mum came round for a coffee how would I know if she passed on any bugs or if it was DH? DH has offered to stay away on camp for 12 weeks, but theres no way I could cope with that (not him being away, although getting food would be a pain), but more me looking after DD constantly and alone and being pregnant. I just dont know what to do.

@SkyBlue20 it’s so hard isn’t it. My mum has also mentioned about not seeing us for weeks but unless we met and went for a walk, the whole point is everyone should be social distancing and not having their friends round, not just pregnant women. My Mums like well I might as well see my friend because my step dad has to go out for work - she seems to miss the point that the more people the household comes into contact with the more chance there is of CV multiplying. I’m not overly paranoid but equally the government advice is there for a reason and they aren’t saying it for fun.

I would go with your gut on what you want to do, which from your comments I feel you want to say no. At least she would still be seeing him today even if she didn’t come round. I agree a walk is different to sitting in the same area, coming in the house etc. I appreciate it must be so hard for people living on their own right now.

I’d allow it tbh. Think of the partners who are having to work and come home afterwards? In the garden, staying 2 metres apart is ok imo. Unless they are of course showing symptoms xx

Thanks all. We’ve said no to her coming round but I’ve suggested to my husband he go to her house for a drink in the garden - again, he can get to the back garden without going through the house. More than anything, I’d just feel terrible on my mum not being able to come round but my MIL being here, it would be so unfair. And this way I can carry on with the cleaning and my pamper day ☺️ Plus, none of us would ever forgive ourselves if I caught it and it affected baby. I know the research says it’s not likely to but better safe than sorry.

@LexiM Agreed that they just don’t seem to understand the rules - my MIL is doing her absolute best and taking it seriously but it’s still not quite right.

@Spark27 That is really difficult. How much contact with other people does your husband come in to at work?

In other news, I’ve just self-diagnosed (via Google - terrible habit 😂) as having an iron deficiency. I’m losing my hair a lot more than usual, out of breath a lot (even reading a passage out loud), extra tired and husband says I look pasty and tired (charming 😂). Obviously I could be wrong but will mention it all to the midwife on Thursday and see what she says. In the meantime I’m just going to up my intake of red meat and leafy greens just in case.

@SkyBlue20, unfortunately a lot. He works on an open floor plate with about 300+, although there will only be half on shift at a time, and all the vulnerable people and ill/isolating people will be out. Hes the COVID lead for a lot of organisations so will be organising a lot, although hopefully all the meetings will have changed to emails now.

I think of things escalated and escalated he could push to stay at home due to me.....but I'm not sure.

Currently making plans to move DD into the guest room and out of the nursery bedroom. Just spent £500 on wayfair. Good job I dont have to pay nursery fees next month! Online shopping and boredom will be my downfall over the coming months!

Ooh girls happy Mother’s Day !! Feeling so guilty can’t see my mum - I brought some gifts for her that where meant to be delivered but got cancelled . My mums so sweet she called me today and said Happy Mother’s Day lol told her I got 6 more months till I give birth 🤣😂

Also my neighbours are all being very selfish - inviting guests around .. not sure if they under stand social distancing the whole concept of it . :/

@Spark27 same 😳 I've bought a pressure washer to sort the garden 😂

@Zaalfruit mine are doing the same. I'm getting so annoyed.

@SkyBlue20 I think I agree to saying no. I visited my uncle who was returning to Canada on friday- we stood in the garden and he stood inside but I totally wouldn't have done this if I knew I would see him soon but no idea when he will be able to come back over. I am tempted to see my Dad in the garden but once I do it once, that will become a 'routine' for him and I think it could get risky. He's annoyed me- he not self isolating, feels under the weather but went to see his 88 year old mother yesterday!! Don't think he quite gets it!! So am staying well clear till he feels better and even then it will only be In the garden or maybe a walk!

Ladies we are doing the same, hubby is doing all supermarket runs while I sit in the car (where I am right now!) which he is NOT enjoying!! And I am not enjoying not being to pick my own things but needs must. Only 6 months to go.....!!

Hi all, been a bit quiet - had a bit of a scare but I had a scan and baby is fine 🥰 and I’m a week ahead so I’m actually over 12 weeks!!

@SkyBlue20 I wouldn’t risk it. And I say that as someone who is social distancing from my husband at the moment in our own house :(
Loving not doing the supermarket shop or litter tray scooping though haha

Happy Mother’s Day to you all xxx

@CouscousEvaporator aww glad to hear that x hope everything is alright and how far along are you?

Also after hearing the new update from the government are pregnant women to continue with social distancing ? I really don’t want to go back into work . So many people with colds - one girl has whooping cough 😷!!

After thinking about it I've decided to not let my mum take my DD for a few hours on tuesday. I know my mum is trying to limit her outside contact as much as possible, but I know others in the family are relying on her for stuff so she cant stop going out completely. It's difficult as she'll miss my DD, and I'm going to go mad! But it's just worth it is it (I'll be cursing this decision by 1100 tuesday )

Feeling a bit down today with everything that's going on. Watched a sad programme earlier, then has a message to say my beautician had closed for the foreseeable (expected, but urgh, my eyebrows) and then saw McDs in closing (asked my DH for a McDs breakfast this morning but he said no, now what do I do with my cravings?) and that was it. Full blown, hysterical, crazy lady, sobbing. I like to think it's mostly due to pregnancy hormones and stress, and not just the sadness at the loss of Mcmuffins

Oh @Spark27 I feel the same way 😔
Its just such a lot to take in and when pregnant things always feel harder.
We're all protecting these little lives growing inside us and trying to deal with the world feeling like its falling apart.

I'm sad for my 4yo too. It's all just hard.

Hi girlS, feeling the same and woke and 4am feeling sick so had to eat a banana. I’d be asking hubby v nicely today @Spark27 as McDs shutting shop from this evening! 😩 Just v hard uncertain times! However I am doing the 12 wk dance today!! 💃🎉💃xx