Early Oct babies part 2!

[Treacle81]

Hi girls, hope I’ve started new thread correctly 😕

@SkyBlue20 I am 10+5 and saw the midwife last Friday, so hopefully the scan letter will come soon. My husband is totally gutted about the thought he may not be able to go but I understand why they are doing it. That being said our hospital generally is saying only 1 visitor per patient so that could include day appointments I guess.

We also have a spoilt brat of a cat! Mainly due to my husband playing with him likes he’s also a cat. I think we will have to shut him out the bedroom at night when baby arrives as whilst I think he will stay away I will worry.

I am feeling really anxious about my job and whether I’m going to make it to the maternity leave deadline. With events simply not happening and lack of sponsorship from companies it could really affect me. It’s so hard not to worry as without any maternity pay we would struggle. Generally I’ve tried to avoid stressing about it all but feeling really anxious today.

@Zaalfruit I am glad your Company saw sense and let you work from home.

@Spark27 pleased to hear your scan went well, I am the same and keep thinking I hope there’s a baby actually there when they scan!

@Quiffy We did think about locking her out but she would just miaow and miaow at the door - she’s incessant 🙈 Plus I’d feel too guilty - I’m so soft with her!

@Treacle81 I hadn’t thought about the fact we’re reaching the second trimester! That’s so exciting!

@LexiM Our hospital are currently banning visitors unless end of life or parents of children, so I really wouldn’t be surprised if my husband can’t come in 😬 I quite like the idea of booking a private one if he can’t, though we are trying to avoid going out much.
It’s such a stressful time with work, isn’t it? Just heard Boris tell businesses to hold on and support their staff as they’re going to support businesses so I guess it depends on what the government actually do and how quickly. We work very month-to-month in our business and have already have some clients say they’re feeling the strain from all of this and will be leaving/are unable to pay so I’m just hoping that it won’t go on too long and we can just about manage to stay afloat and pay ourselves 🤞🏼 My husband is also self employed and currently just doing a couple of smaller projects so we really need my salary 😬 Like going on maternity isn’t stressful enough for women without a global pandemic to add to the mix 🙈🤦🏻‍♀️😂

@Spark27 yay your scan went well also great news less time to give birth xx you must be so Happy !! I’m so happy for you.

Had a chat with my doctor today he says it seems like my 12 scan on Wednesday might not go ahead :( getting anxious now . He said best thing is too call on Tuesday and find out if it’s cancelled .

In terms of hormones I feel like mine are worse in the night and my husband just annoys me 🤪

FYI everyone I love being in this group - sometimes when I feel alone or scared or anxious I read the messages and I feel like I can breathe and we are all in the same boat . All wondering about our babies wanting to pass mile stones . Thinking about maternity pay and jobs , childcare , food , dreams , growing and painful breasts - tummies . It’s so nice to be part of something - once we become adults all our friends and close people have different ambitions and are moving to their own rhythm but here we are all in the same boat 🚣🏽‍♀️

Lol maybe it’s all the hormones I claim that I don’t have actually making me soppy 🤣🤪

What a lovely thing to say @Zaalfruit and I agree. Today I have been struggling, unfortunately I am on my own as partner is holed up at his parents and I won’t see him till end of the month and just felt really lonely, scared and emotional today. V glad to have this ☺️xx

@SkyBlue20 I was thinking about a private scan too, which didn’t really want to do but might consider.
Sorry to hear about your job too, I am very aware I’m not the only one going through it and sadly there will be lots of us worrying about our jobs. It’s so unfair isn’t it!

@Zaalfruit I feel the same way, I have one pregnant friend that knows except for that this is the only place I can chat. It’s really good to hear about everyone’s experiences at a similar stage.

Hi all
I wanted to jump in too. I have been reading since the beginning. 10 weeks pregnant with my first. Was already mega nervous and overwhelmed before all the latest shenanigans! I’m in London and had my first midwife appointment before things got crazy. I had an early scan at 8 weeks where we saw the heartbeat and not much else! NHS Scan is booked for 1 April!

Want to echo what everyone has said in that this group is really comforting. I haven’t told our parents yet as I just don’t want them to worry!

@Treacle81 sorry to hear you aren’t having a great time. Are you on your own until the end of the month? That must be really difficult as I feel that way sometimes being inside and I’m not alone.

Thanks @LexiM. Yes, my partner is moving in with me at the end of the month but he has asthma so has been staying isolated himself. His lease is up 30th so he’ll be moving in then. Just counting the days - I know nothing can be done but still sucks! xx

I agree @Zaalfruit and @nwnature I get so much comfort confiding in this group and hearing what everyone else is experiencing.

@Spark27 you were right, got a text today from the hospital saying no visitors allowed with me for my appointments.

Really sad husband can't come with me but now extra grateful we panic booked today's private appointment this evening so husband got to see little bean while he or she was wiggling around and waving at us! It was absolutely amazing, a little human now with a nose and everything! And could see their heart beating on their chest ♥️ I'm in love!

Seconding @Zaalfruit 😊 I think it’s lovely to have something else to focus on, best perspective there is. And so grateful for the chat here. And congrats @MrsD1990 🥳

Oh, @Zaalfruit, would be such a shame if it is off - surely they HAVE to do it though as it’s such a crucial one?
Such a lovely message too, I feel the same - so nice to have a group of people to go through it all with (and everyone here is so nice!)

@Treacle81 Sorry to hear you’re alone, hopefully the time until you’re together will fly by 💕

Welcome, @NWnature! What’s your due date (as it stands)?

Scan sounds lovely, @MrsD1990! Must be so nice to see them looking like an actual baby! 💕

@MrsD1990, so pleased you got to go to the private scan together and see baby. Yay. My DH welled up a bit when he saw ours today (he missed them with DD as was deployed). Been looking into private gender scans and they're now saying you can only take 1 with you, so DD wont be able to come. But will probably still book one, then at least if DH cant come to the 20w one we'll have found out the gender together

@Zaalfruit, such a lovely thing to say, and I totally agree. This is such a lovely and supportive group (please don't kick me out even though my EDD is now 27th Sept ) I feel like this group is going to become even more important in the coming weeks when we're all trapped inside and facing uncertainty. But we can do this ladies, we are all strong mums, now and in future years we'll look back and be proud of all we are doing to protect our babies from the off xx

Morning girls! My nausea seems to be mild today so I am going to try this live feed instagram work out if any of you fancy it. RWL. It’s at half 12 and you’ll need dumbbells and a mat if you have them. Suitable for pregnancy 🙌🏻💪🏼Wish me luck lol! xx

@zaalfruit

This is it

I've just had a call from my midwife. I am due to have my first appointment on Tuesday and they've just changed it to a telephone one with a blood test some time after. I did ask about scans and she said at the moment they are still going ahead but are taking it day by day. They are also restricting the amount of people coming in.
I'm wondering if because my booking in appointment has been so late (will be 10+3) that the scan might end up being at the 14 week mark and dreading if it's cancelled. I've already have told hd that he might not be allowed into the scan and he's a bit upset about it. I might see if we can book a private one...
This pandemic isn't making it easy to be pregnant.

@Quiffy thanks, I would just appreciate getting to the maternity pay and then having to look for a different job would be ok.
My cat is the same, I’m pleased he hasn’t tried to shred carpets he just voices his annoyance and then goes away.

@BntTowers sorry to hear your appointment isn’t going as planned. I had mine at 9+6 and still don’t have a scan date. That being said she seemed to think it would still be around 12 weeks, once you have that telephone appointment she should instruct the scan. My husband is also upset about the thought of not being able to go in and I had to talk him round to accepting there’s a reason for it and they aren’t doing it to be annoyingly. I totally don’t find it easy being pregnant at this time although I have decided I would prefer it now to later near birth or with a month old newborn, I would feel more isolated then after the initial phase of enjoying being home. I hope your scan date comes through soon! I am so sad when the post box goes i jump to check and it’s always junk mail 😂

@Treacle81 Have fun with that, I've just lost my rice crispies so that sounds too energetic haha

@LexiM hopefully they have some leniency on the mat pay. Cats really do rule the household!

@BntTowers Over the phone sounds safer but still sad. You might get your bloods at 12 week one, that was the plan for me. Hopefully you'll get your big book and notes then too.

@lexiM @bnttowers the partners at scans is so very sad. I understand and I'll follow but I know my DH is gutted. Feels like he's getting left out of such a major thing. Esp if he's not allowed, he'll just be sat there in car being sad. I'm really glad we got the early scan so we saw first together. I know in the past it was unusual for men to be at the scan but still, he's just pretending it will be fine at the moment.. Certainly a strange time to be pregnant!

Morning all!

@Treacle81 that sounds fun, alas I have a work call at 1 so shall sit it out. Also did an hour of yoga this morning so feel I've done my dues 😂 Found a couple of great prenatal yoga videos on YouTube, if anyone wants the links?

@BntTowers Annoying about the appointment being on the phone but sensible I guess - the only things they won't be able to do are bloods, urine test, that weird pollution test and BMI measurements, all of whichI assume they can do pre/post-scan. The longest part is ALL THE QUESTIONS!

@LexiM I think it took about 10 days for my scan date to come through so hopefully yours will follow suit and be quite soon. I was told they'd ring me to arrange it so was very surprised when it just came through the letterbox!
Agreed that I think I'd rather be at this stage of pregnancy rather than later on - I know people who have just had babies and who are due to have babies really soon and they've been told they shouldn't have any visitors at all until this has all blown over - that would kill my parents and MIL! I'd also rather it now than a bit earlier as at least we're really close to being able to tell people and be honest about it - would hate to have to be hiding it throughout most of the next 12 weeks.

My husband is gutted about the scan, too - we completely understand but he just feels sad that it's a once-in-a-lifetime experience seeing your first child on that screen and he would like to be there - for support too, should the worst happen (please god no). We have already had an early scan but tbh it wasn't that magical - we were too anxious and it was just a blob on the screen at that point. I've told him it's up to him if he'd like to go for an early scan before the 12 week one so he can be a part of it there.

11 weeks today! The last six weeks have absolutely dragged but hoping it'll all speed up from here!

Have just cancelled our mums for Mother's Day - they understand but I feel so sad about it :-( Told my mum to STOP GOING OUT for the next week or so and then we MIGHT be able to see her (in the garden or something) but she's been a social butterfly and still at work (who have now shut for the next 12 weeks), etc, so it's just not safe as it stands. Ultimately, we have to put the baby first and they get that but MIL is recently widowed so we worry about her in particular. Such a crappy situation.

@SkyBlue20 I would like the links to the yoga videos, it's hard to know which ones are actually worth doing as there's so many!
I know it's all for the best, and obviously will follow all of the guidelines, just frustrating. It's best to cancel plans where possible I think.

I think I'm going to have to tell my mum and step dad to stop going out. They are going out quite a bit still, although the only good thing is mum volunteers at citizens advice and she decided to close the branch that she runs yesterday for the foreseeable so at least she won't be going there anymore. I don't think they quite get the social distancing thing applies to them as well.

Hey ladies, busy morning so far. Booked a private gender scan for the 19th April when I'll be 17w 1d, could go from 16w, but didn't want there to be a chance they couldn't tell. That's currently saying you can take 1 with you, but if it changes nearer I can get it in an develop and let him open it in the car. I'll be gutted if DH cant come to the 20w scan. He missed last one as was in Afghan and it's such an awesome, detailed scan.

My DD has been testing me this morning. She was awake from 0200-0430 talking to herself and shouting at us. She wants to potty train, but then sh*t in her knickers this morning. I took them down and it rolled out on the floor! She had a cough when she woke up, but it went once she drank something. I swear shes testing me.

Oh, and one of the mums who's little girl is in the same nursery class as mine as been posting about being in self isolation, then yesterday I saw her take her DD to nursery, and then last night she posted on FB that her DD had come out with chicken pox but she could get anything as was self isolating. So why was she, or the child at nursery?! So annoyed. If the nursery wasnt shut now I'd make a complaint.

Sorry, just realised that was a bit of a rant. Lol x

@Spark27 rant away! Sounds like a trying morning!

Ha @Spark27 you're def entitled to that rant! Hugs