Early Oct babies part 2!

[Treacle81]

Hi girls, hope I’ve started new thread correctly 😕

Times like this I wish we had a car. Didn't sleep last night thinking about the visit we made to our family over the weekend - wish the guidance about pregnant women came out earlier.

MIL now had a cold so I'm extra worried. Feel like I've put little bean at risk - will never forgive myself if I have CV now - it will definitely be because of that journey to visit family because apart from that I've been social distancing since Thursday. My family weren't hugging etc because of CV but MIL was kissing and hugging, especially after we told her we were pregnant. She's been very blasé about CV (to the extent it's making my husband mad) I should have been more careful and stood my ground about not touching etc.

Hey guys, just found this thread- please can I join!? 9 weeks pregnant tomorrow and feeling a bit overwhelmed with the news!! Am a teacher and went in yesterday and there were staff and pupils off all the place and was regretting my decision. Luckily within an hour of Boris' announcement, my manager phoned and said I am not to go in today so that was good. She said for 14 days.....I was like, I think you'll find it's 14 weeks!!

We are planning the same, my husband is going to self isolate as much as possible but do the shopping etc but we are not going to see anybody else. My main worry is that I a high risk (thyroid) and will scans/ante natal care be disrupted?? How will we buy things for baby down the line!? So many questions!!

It is such a worrying time with all of this and i'm particularly worried about my job. I work for an airline and have been grounded since Jan but now with all this kicking off i worry what will happen if redundancies are made. I've basically been in the house for 7 weeks already so the thought of not going anywhere for 12 weeks is very overwhelming. Have to do what's best but like others my boyfriend can not work from home. He does have very minimal contact with other people but i'm going to go stir crazy just being around him for 3 months!

I know it's hard, because I can't stop thinking about it all either, but we are just going to have to sit tight and see how it plans out.
I'm considering buying a few bits that I would have waiting to get soon-ish like a body pillow to make myself more comfortable. We will be waiting to buy things for the baby, it's just too early yet and I'm sure we'll be able to get the basics bearer the time. Hopefully after the 12 weeks things will have slowed down and it will be a much lower risk and we can all get sorted then.

I've not heard from work yet today, I'm just waiting for someone to turn up with a computer and all the documents I need from the office. DH is working from home and has taken over the study, it's going to be interesting sharing a desk with him. I'm not sure how he's going to cope as I need to call people quite often.
I'm still waiting on my checking in appointment, it's a week away still and I'll be 10+3 by then. I'm really hoping my scan won't be too long after then but knowing me it will probably be right at the 14 week mark...

So the outcome - I told them and they said you can work from home for two weeks and then two weeks in the office . It’s absolutely ridiculous. I don’t even know what to do.

@Zaalfruit that is completely wrong advice and goes against government advice- government said 14 weeks isolation- don't go in and refer them to the government website!!

I think the advice has changed / been clarified now hasn’t it? Not 12 weeks isolation, it’s 12 weeks social distancing. WFH where possible and avoid crowds. Obviously difficult if you’re a teacher...
You can still go shopping just be sensible. That’s what I read anyway. Have I made that up?! 😂

I’ll miss a wedding and a hen but I don’t want to risk it. I’m very fortunate that I live in the middle of nowhere so if I do go out, the chances of me bumping into someone are slim.

@Zaalfruit that is really worrying, I've seen on other threads that there's a big meeting about pregnant women today and information will be updated asap so might get better info to show them you should be at home. (Unless of course they come back and say we should all be fine)

@rainbow178 welcome and congrats!

@MrsD1990 I have one of those in my family. Not just over CV. They also vape and claim it's no harm to them or anyone else so refuses not to. It's so hard though, I often go away thinking I should have stood my ground. I'm sure everything will be absolutely fine so don't be hard on yourself. Get some rest and look after yourself x

@BntTowers Luckily I can work from my living room. I could not share a desk with DH. Good luck haha!

@MsSian93 Sorry about your job, that is really worrying.

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Hopefully this works and is interesting

@Spark27 thank you so much for posting that's really reassuring and I feel like I can leave the house at some point today!

@Zaalfruit The food situation is madness – we’re the same, we buy our dinner on the day, so we’re trying to get a bit organised now and stock up on some essentials (not stockpile, mind!) but we just looked at online shopping and Ocado and Sainsbury’s just aren’t allowing you on the site and Morrisons and Tesco don’t have delivery slots until 4th April! Husband has gone out to try the local Aldi and Tesco but not holding my breath.
Not a good response from your work! For now I guess just go with it as the advice is liable to change every single day so they may implement something more concrete that your work haevt to adhere to. I have a feeling they may clarify further in today's press conference as there is a lot of confusion after yesterday's.

@LexiM sounds like such a stressful work situation – there’s no easy answer, is there?! It’s so hard just not knowing what’s going to happen.

Interesting about the scans and number of people allowed to go – I hadn’t even thought of it! As long as husband is allowed in then I’m happy – would be so sad if he had to miss it.

@Bluemoon2468 Great thinking about going for walks in the countryside, may follow suit there. We have some lovely walks just at the bottom of our road but can see us getting bored of them very quickly as we’ve already done them a lot!

@MrsD1990 Try not to worry too much – it’s unlikely you do have CV and even if you did, you can’t blame yourself, we’ve all just been doing our best and what we’ve been told to do.

@Rainbow178 Welcome! Glad your manager was proactive in telling you to not come in and hopefully she’ll extend when the advice is a bit clearer.

@MsSian93 I really feel for you and everyone in the travel industry, it must be such a scary time.

@BntTowers Did you get all set up for work in the end? Good luck sharing a desk with your husband! I’m at the dining table as there’s no space for me in the home office – don’t mind too much though as nice views out of the back and radio etc, just worried I’m going to snack constantly and end up huge 😂

@CousCousEvaporator My understanding of it all is the same as you – social distancing as much as possible. I think the confusion came about as Boris said it’s 'likely' that so-called ‘vulnerable’ people will be told to go in to self-isolation for 12 weeks from this weekend but that isn’t yet the advice. He’s such a bumbling idiot though that people are now just confused about what’s what!

@Lucylou37 yeah luckily DH is WFH indefinitely as well so it's essentially just us not seeing anyone. Very low risk of CV but very high risk of arguments 😂

@CouscousEvaporator that's not how I interpreted it at all - all people are being told not to interact socially with others as much as possible, to WFH, to avoid crowds etc. They went one step further for pregnant women and said it's extremely important to limit all social contact with anyone. I interpret that as full social isolation if possible 😕

ahh this is so confusing @bluemoon2468

I’ve just seen one article saying to try and work from home but try and avoid hospitals. I can’t work from home and I work in a hospital. What the heck am I meant to do?!

I swear yesterday they were saying not to isolate (ie you can go out but be careful) and that they would contact anyone who was to self isolate due to medical reasons.

Why can’t we just have a straight answer??? :(

@SkyBlue20 I’m glad you seem to have seen similar to me. I swear I am losing the plot. I have such vivid dreams I forget what’s real and what’s not 😂

@CouscousEvaporator I watched the whole press conference yesterday and that wasn't what was said. They said for pregnant women to fully socially isolate as far as possible aka don't go out unless you absolutely have to. They didn't say anything about contacting people individually (they did say they'd be issuing further guidance relating to specific health conditions).

I think Boris should have released a simple document alongside the statement confirming the exact advice. I am doing social distancing but also 95% working from home and only going in the office when nobody is there. I did pop to the shop but made sure I did hand washing, keeping my distance etc. and I have no plans to socialise.

Being pregnant makes it easier to stay at home for me because I feel tired and more likely to want to stay at home. Before I was pregnant I hated sitting around and wouldn’t even stay in for a weekend! Shall see how I feel about that in a couple of days haha!

There was absolutely no chicken, pasta or loo roll in Tesco, we don’t desperately need it but interesting to see what goes first. No orders soon online either for us, I wonder if I should put an order in now for 4 weeks time!

@SkyBlue20 no not yet, was suppose to have a call this morning but nothing came. Just had a message from my line manager asking if I had managed to do anything productive work wise... I had to reply no as I don't have a pc/ laptop and no access to emails etc. I'm not sure what I was suppose to be doing apart from trying to remember random client numbers to talk and phone people about... My pc is supposed to be arriving at 5.30 so we'll see.
I was asked not to go in, so I didn't. They also didn't provide me with the tools to work from home until after the work day is over. Not sure how I'm supposed to work from home without equipment.

I'm struggling a bit.
I'm so nervous about getting ill before the scan and missing it.
We're desperate for this nuchal measurement. My husband is working from home, I'm a SAHM, I'm keeping son off school.
Though when it comes to the actual scan if we get there I have no clue who we can leave our son with.

What a mess. The stress is getting to me today.

@bluemoon2468 i understand what you’re saying, I watched too! This is what was confusing me!
However this tweet followed shortly after during the questioning period after the speech mobile.twitter.com/PaulBrandITV/status/1239616279398449152?s=20

And then this government advice says social distancing, not isolation eg you can get a bus just not at peak times etc
www.gov.uk/government/publications/covid-19-guidance-on-social-distancing-and-for-vulnerable-people/guidance-on-social-distancing-for-everyone-in-the-uk-and-protecting-older-people-and-vulnerable-adults

Obviously we are all going to err on the side of caution with it and self isolate any way, but I’m taking some comfort in the fact that I can leave the house, even if it’s on my own 😂

@Treaclepie19 I’m nervous about everything to do with the 12 week scan as well.
Will I be well enough to go, Will my DH be able to come, is there actually a baby in there or have I just been living a dream for the last 3 months... can’t wait to have it.

@CouscousEvaporator my last pregnancy ended in a termination for medical reasons and our first sign something was wrong was the high nuchal measurement so I'm just so on edge.
I expected that anyway but I didnt expect a pandemic on top.

Fingers crossed we all get there okay 😩

I’m so sorry to hear that @treaclepie19 ❤️
I completely understand why you are so on edge, this is such a worrying time on its own without previous experience, and a pandemic on top. Try and be kind to yourself. I’m sure it will all be fine, this is a new pregnancy and a new chance ❤️

Thanks @CoucousEvaporator ❤
It's just a lot to deal with. I'm just trying to hide away now until my scan and then once that's done at least it's the first step to knowing if baby is okay. Then itll be a countdown to the anomaly scan.

@bluemoon2468 @couscousevaporator I saw that tweet and watched the whole press conference, too – I think it’s a VERY fine line between the suggested distancing for us and complete isolation but I’m reading it much the same as Couscous – we can go out in less high risk situations at the moment and don’t HAVE to stay at home completely (though obviously we’re all likely to!) For example, I’m having my mum and my MIL round at the weekend for a Mother’s Day dinner and have told them no hugs and handwashing on arrival but if we go in to complete isolation then I likely won’t see them. I know it seems ridiculous waiting for the government to tell me when that is but both of our mums are alone so we don’t want to cease all physical contact until we’re told we absolutely have to.
Again though, it comes down to the government just not being clear- even when Boris was asked to clarify in tonight’s press conference he just repeated the same old thing and didn’t clarify at all. It says a lot that people are reading it in different ways – that should absolutely not be the case in a situation like this. Agree with @LexiM that I hoped for/expected a document/statement to be released after the press conference that went in to more detail but what they have on their website is quite loose.

@BntTowers How frustrating! Please tell me it’s all arrived now? Work can’t expect you to have done anything without the equipment!

@treaclepie So sorry to hear how much you’re stressing but it is completely understandable. It sounds like you’re doing all of the right things, just keep doing what you’re doing.When’s the scan? Can a friend or school mum have your son while you’re there?

@SkyBlue20 thank you, it's not until 1st April. The plan was for my mom to have him, I started reconsidering because she is high risk (67, asthma, precious COPD) and I didnt want my son to pass it to her.
Now though it's the opposite worry. My son won't be out socialising but my mom is off out everywhere as normal including parties of 80 people and bingo. So now I'm nervous to send him to her for that reason.
I don't think anyone else is any better an option though. Possibly my friend if she would have him.

@Couscousevaporator I'm with you. What if I go for the scan and they tell me it's just wind. I'll have to go back into work next week all 'hi guys....'
But I remember feeling the same last time round.

Decided to head into work tomorrow am as I need to collect some stuff for the next 12 weeks. And I need to be onsite to sign into the laptop first time. I can only access 1 system instead of 4 so cant really do anything anyway. Fortunately i can drive there, and my office is separate and secure so provided all there are well I'll hopefully be ok for a few hours. Then I'm done

Got my standard tuesday night tescos delivery (had deliveries ever since i had my DD) and no bread, no wraps, no crumpets, only 1% milk, no tissues, no toilet roll......urgh