Pregnant after loss and dreaming of rainbows - 2

[Avocuddles]

Just setting up a new thread to keep the 🌈 conversation going....

@didslysquiddlydoo thank you, it's really reassuring to hear positive stories. It's just because my personal experiences have been negative though in much earlier pregnancy, but that doesn't mean that this time it will be the same outcome. I'm definitely feeling calmer and in a more positive headspace now, especially because it seems like the "bleed" has been small. I'm just keeping everything crossed and having a good rest up this weekend.

Awwww congratulations @SunStruck how exciting to know that you're growing a perfect little boy! I think we'll probably find out at 20 weeks but that feels a very long way off.

Forgot to say that the nuchal measurement on Thursday was perfect, need to await the results of the bloods but fingers are crossed. Just hoping that little one is safe and cosy whilst the rest of me fights off this virus!

Hi all just wanted to let you know that I had my private scan this morning and everything looked fine thankfully. She could see the baby, sac and a tiny flickering heartbeat. She couldn't see a reason for the bleeding but said it could be implantation. I'm so relieved especially as I had more spotting today. She put me at 6+2 and due date currently 13 November. Hopefully the relief lasts a while!

That's great news @shefliesonherownwings really pleased and I hope it's put your mind at rest

Great news @Shefliesonherownwings so pleased for you! Xx

@Shefliesonherownwings congratulations that’s great news.

@avocuddles that’s great news too! Fingers crossed for the blood results.

@Knotemma all my experiences have been different, and negative. Just waiting for my mind set to be positive and less anxious. Everything so far has been positive.

Just wanted to wish all you lovely mummies a happy mother's day...hope you are all relaxing and being spoilt. Glad to see the happy updates x

Morning ladies how are you all doing? I'm 13 weeks today - does this mean I'm officially in the second trimester or there still another week to go?

I'm onto day 4 of self isolation and still feeling pretty ropey though thankfully my breathing is generally fine. Although there's no testing anymore unless you are very seriously ill, it seems pretty certain that I have covid19 - not ideal but hopefully I'll be on the mend soon. The weirdest bit is the complete loss of smell and taste - I can't even smell neat disinfectant and all food tastes exactly the same! My midwife left me a message which basically said just to rest up with paracetamol and lots of fluids, so that's exactly what I'm doing. It's disconcerting not knowing how the baby is but keep reminding myself that we saw them waving away only on Thursday and there's no reason at all to think anything will be wrong....

@Shefliesonherownwings glad your early scan went well. Your baby might share my birthday!

@Avocuddles snap! 13 weeks today 😄we are officially in the 2nd trimester!

I'm sorry to hear you're feeling so bad, hopefully on the mend soon with lots of rest! ❤️ baby will be fine in there... won't even know you're going through this.

I can't believe we're officially in the 2nd trimester!

@Avocuddles aww I'm sorry to hear you're unwell but really hope the symptoms stay where they are and you slowly start to feel better from here! Yay for second trimester - how exciting!! Xxx

@Avocuddles aww sorry to hear your unwell! Listen to doctors orders, and stay hydrated, and rest lots! I agree they don’t seem to be testing, so the figures being released are incorrect xx

@DressingGown87 to be honest you should probably all take comfort from how very understated the figures probably are - it means that in reality the percentage of people suffering serious complications is very, very low. Though of course still be very careful all of you!

I'm still unsure what to do.
Cannot get to work without using public transport and working in a call centre. Social distancing at 2m is impossible. And call centres are awful for the spread of anything! Working from home isn't an option. I'm off sick due to sickness still. Dont know if I should change it to self isolating. Anyone know what the difference in pay would be. Ie if I need to self isolate would it be 80% of salary or just ssp like if off sick?

I'm in the qualifying period for my SMP just now so need as much as I can get (dont we all!)

Now at the point I'm unsure if its pregnancy nausea/sickness or anxiety causing it

@Avocuddles sorry to hear that you're not doing so well. Fingers crossed it doesn't get any worse.

We had our scan today after the bleed and everything looks fine, which is a massive relief, literally feel like a weight has been lifted off my chest. Feel a hell of a lot better. So we have celebrated by going to McDonald's for a final drive through of the pandemic. Hope you're all doing ok

Glad to hear that @Knotemma.

I had my last RMC scan today. Baby wasn’t doing anything but when the dr moved the ultrasound wand, suddenly it was flipping and swimming like mad! Got a streak of pictures to bring home - dp is on the ‘shielded’ list so was sad he couldn’t come, definitely cheered up with the pictures. Dating scan on Thursday - might be cheeky and ask if I can FaceTime him

@Avocuddles hope you are feeling better soon

@Littlegoth, I'd ask, it's not exactly normal circumstances. It was obviously a bouncy baby kind of day, ours was rolling over front to back and flinging it's arms and legs around. Either totally unaware of laughing at the fact it had caused mum and dad the most stressful weekend of the year!

Hey all, hope we are all okay- how does the new announcement affect your work @Rachael321. I'd say your work still being open when it can't social distance is terrible. I think they have to say you would otherwise be made redundant for the 80%.

We had a successful scan last week, the hospital still said I could go but my partner couldn't. Little bean measured on dates exactly and was wiggling around happily.
My 12 week scan, under this new world, I presume is a medical need. Even if partners were allowed, I dont think he could come anyway as we obv dont have childcare for my older two. Feel so sad he has to miss out on this

@avocuddles sorry you are feeling unwell. Keep drinking like every 10 minutes, I read somewhere that stomach acid kills it so you want to flush it down into your stomach before it goes to your lungs. Rest up and feel better soon, as others have said I'm sure bean is ok in there.
@rachael321 I believe the 80% only applies if you are 'furloughed' so in situations where they would normally have to sack you because they can't afford to keep you on. You can't get it if you are wfh or off sick. I think this is what is going to happen to me, we have no jobs and no work to do and they are running out of money fast. Your official salary stays the same, you just only receive 80% of it unless employer tops it up, so I don't think it will affect SMP.

It's scan day for me, 12w6d. Just had a call from the hospital and they said dh is allowed to come with me thank god. We have to call a number from the car then they will tell us which entrance and waiting room to use so they can limit the amount of people in there at one time. I'm so glad I had all the early ones now, and dh can come with me. If he couldn't I would be so scared!

@seaduck @TunnocksTcake work dont even know what's supposed to happen, spoke to them this morning and they referred to me as high risk before I did. They are waiting on an update and will be in touch so its wait and see..I'm going to try and go in tomorrow if I can

@seaduck that's our issue. Partners are currently allowed but we have a 4yo and obviously I can't ask anyone to look after him.

I've got a right cold and just generally feeling sorry for myself.

@TunnocksTcake Good luck for your scan today and such good news that your hubby can go with you.

I just wanted to say that the information about drinking plenty to combat the virus is incorrect sadly. The only way to kill off the virus and prevent spread is to handwash handwash handwash.

@misssparkles81 thanks for correcting, I saw that shared by a nurse I know so thought it must be true! There is so much false information it's unreal!

@TunnocksTcake I can't believe a nurse shared that. Im a nurse too and only share information published by accurate sources.

The amount of info online is scary and so much of it is utter bullshi* 🙄🙄

@MissSparkles81 there's so much rubbish being spread around, drives me mad. I've had to deactivate my Facebook, because I was asking people where they'd sourced information and ending up in keyboard wars 🙈😂 I'm an analyst so inaccurate info drives me to distraction. Here's a really good resource for checking Covid19 facts www.who.int/emergencies/diseases/novel-coronavirus-2019/advice-for-public/myth-busters
It's from WHO and I think it's a really good guide

How is everyone coping with the news about lockdown last night? I'm really struggling today. Spoke to my midwife earlier and she confirmed that my appointments with her will be done via phone call from now until after 30 weeks. My consultant appointments will be via the phone unless I have a scan due too. Means that my next bit of reassurance now isn't until my 20 week scan in 6 weeks time. So worried and then worrying more that the stress will cause more harm. Hope you are all coping a bit better than me x