Pregnant after loss and dreaming of rainbows - 2

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Just setting up a new thread to keep the 🌈 conversation going....

Good luck. I already had 4 scans, and down as high risk so will also have one at 28,32 and 36, which I think/hope will help with the anxiety.

@fool11 I'm high risk too due to the fact I had a major blood clot around ten years ago so I also get the 28, 32 and 36 week scans. I also have to see a consultant and have blood tests every few weeks, I'm on daily injections as well as aspirin so it's a heavily medicated pregnancy but I don't mind if the end result is good..... I find it baffling that some ladies manage to go through their entire pregnancy with just a couple of scans, I would be tearing my hair out!

Hi all
Been quite quiet as have had a horrid chest infection, pregnancy exhaustion is just about destroying me, and today I’m 8w4d, which is when my last baby stopped growing, so definitely into my most anxious time so far. DH doesn’t want another scan before the 12week one in 4 weeks... I’d like another but then also think it would only ease my anxiety for a short time so might be a waste of money?!

Welcome to the new people. @fool11 my mum had her last child naturally at 46, so I’ve always been optimistic about my age! (I’m 40 and pregnant with #2). I’m not surprised the Dr said that, my mum was told she should have an abortion as she was too old! She walked out & refused to see him again. Keeping everything crossed for you, if you’ve made it this far the odds are definitely in your favour.

Hope everyone else is doing ok, keeping everything crossed for all the scans coming up xx

@fool11 congratulations! Hope it all goes well for you, and it’s natural to have a nervous feeling.

@tmc14 sorry to hear that you’ve been unwell, hope you start feel better soon. Of course it’s going to be an anxious time for you. I’m at an anxious stage, but have a consultants appointment and scan on Wednesday. I agree the relief you get from them appointments is only short lived though.

My GP had told me to ring the antenatal clinic if my consultant / midwife appointment hadn’t come through by today, I’m 7+3. There’s notes on my medical history stating I would need injections, asprin etc to help the fact I’ve had recurrent mc. I called them, and the receptionist told me I’m in the list, which is dealt with in order. I kindly explained I’m high risk, and that my GP told me to call and the EPAU team, who did my first scan. She said despite having these people say I’m high risk, and having it in black and white on the screen, it’s her decision and I will be seen at 10 weeks as that is standard procedure! I cried! A midwife called me back through, and apologized and said that I need to be seen ASAP and to come in Wednesday.

@dressinggown87 glad your midwife called you back and was able to put your mind at rest a little...not sure if it will be the same for you or not, but I also have to take aspirin and have been told that I won't be starting it until I have my 12 week consultant appointment on Thursday after my scan. Apparently it's usually not started until 12 weeks so I wouldn't worry too much about that x

Hi
I wondered if any one could help. I am so so ill with morning sickness.. every min of the day sickness. I just feel so so down and sometime don't feel like I can cope. I have just been sick a lot.... again. I realise I should be grateful and I am hoping that everything is ok as it has taken so long to get to this step.
However, I wake up every morning and have about ten seconds when my body doesn't realise it's awake. Then it realises I am awake and the day of sickness starts again :-(.

I just feel terrible. I am only 8w on Wed and it feels likes a mountain to climb. I am taking cyclizine but I don't feel it is doing anything. Has anyone felt this bad and managed to have something which makes it better?

Thank you xx

@DressingGown87 sorry that you've had a rough day of it. I know that receptionists for the NHS probably have to deal with quite a lot, but that wasn't an appropriate response. It might be worth flagging it with the practice manager. All she had to say was that she would check with a midwife and someone would be in touch. She definitely can't make medical decisions in anyone's behalf.

@tmc14 sorry that today's been a tough, anxiety filled one. I couldn't wait for the 12 week scan, I was going out of my mind. I'd recommend researching the private scan places in your area and having a good look at the reviews. I've found because we have videos from our scan at 9+4, if I'm struggling I can watch them back and it really helps. Obviously it's a placebo, but it helps remind me that everything was going well at that point and get my head back on straight

@SammiLou2312 I have a uterine blood disorder, which reduces blood flow, and stops the placenta and baby developing in the early stages. Which is why a private consultant has suggested I take asprin. The MW has said 150mg per day to start with. So I’m happy she confirmed this. It’s just one of 4 issues I have to face. Hope your getting all the answers and support you need.

@unh111 I’m not suffering with sickness, I feel for you. Hopefully someone can give you some suggestions.

@Knotemma thank you. The lead midwife called me back, from the way she spoke, I think she over heard the conversation and. I understand they are under so much pressure, but when she is making a judgement which isn’t hers to make, it upset me. Especially as I’m suffering badly with anxiety at the minute.

Afternoon all!

Had my 16 week appointment today I'm now 16+5. All was well, all results from blood tests fine, downs screening risk was 1 in 100,000 which is the lowest they go to! Have come away with date of next midwife appt, date for glucose test and having an extra 2 growth scans at 30 and 36 weeks, for the date for those too!!!

All seems so real!

Hope everyone else had a good day

Sorry I've been so quiet. I've felt so awful the last couple of weeks. I have insomnia most nights waking at 3am and that's me done for sleep as then I've got nausea until mid afternoon, exhausted then indigestion and retching acid all evening. Being told 2weeks rest after my bleed means I've had to avoid all my normal activities. I've barely left the house or seen anyone. Just feeling so low at the moment. Finally got the guts to tell my mum I'm pregnant after a miscarriage. She's reacted really negatively, telling me how selfish I am for not telling her about the miscarriage, second guessing my decision to have another child and telling me I will never be happy as it's twins. To top it off she's informed me she's moving away with her bf. She barely sees my kids now living 5min away, apparently she doesn't like the travel and hates being in my home as we have dogs (I crate them when she dies come). Her bf is rich and has a super nice non child friendly home. She's told me she has no inclination to be a proper grandmother and it's my choice to have kids so my responsibility. I've never expected her to help, I just want my kids to have a grandma. Just feeling abandoned and alone 😔

@Rachael321 I've also just got back from my 16 week midwife appointment and everything was fine. She went through my blood results with me (although I'd already had a copy through the post) which were good and I'm at low risk so that's relieving and I got to listen to baby's heartbeat which was amazing although I definitely have a wriggler on my hands because as soon as she put the doppler on baby moved and it kept knocking it when she was doing it 😂 Have you only just had your results back from your blood tests, did you have them taken after your 12 week scan? When are you due your 20 week scan, are you finding out what your having?

@Sunflower1608 sorry to hear you've been feeling awful! Hope it eases soon! Sending hugs re your mums reaction, I have no idea how I would have handled that from my mum.

@bellsx glad all went well for you today too. I had bloods at booking appt 29th jan and at 12 week scan 4th feb. And only got results today. They operate on a no news is good news kinda thing which is a pain. They had no issues with bloods so just left it about telling me until i was next there today. 20 week scan is on 3rd April, not finding out, keeping it as a surprise.what about you?

@Rachael321 and @Bellsx so pleased that you've both had such positive days, that's really wonderful news.

@Sunflower1608 I'm so sorry that you've been feeling so unwell. If you're really struggling with heartburn and acid indigestion maybe speak to your GP? They've prescribed me omeprezol to help with it and it's definitely making a difference and has no known side effects impacting pregnancy.
I don't know you're situation and relationship with your mum, but it seems that she's very focused on making this about her and not you. You're entitled to keep things to yourself if that's how you choose to work through them and I feel like it's justifiable that you're upset at the response you've gotten. Especially because it's doesn't seem like you're asking for or expecting anything other than moral support from her. I wish that there was more that I could do, but hopefully we can help you feel a bit less alone. Being stuck in the house is crappy and it's easy to start to feel stir crazy staring at 4 walls.

I'm going back to work tomorrow, after nearly 5 weeks off. I'm mostly hoping I can remember any of my computer passwords and that I have half a clue how to do my job! Planning on taking it very slow this week and have already agreed with my manager that I'll work from home on Thursday around our scan. Hopefully a bit of normality and routine will help and I can start to get back to things.

Just wondering if this has happened to anyone else?

I had a scan last SUnday, there was a heartbeat and apparently everything looked fine. Fast forward to today, I got a call from Dr's receptionist saying that the Dr wants a telephone app with me to discuss the results of the scan, surely if something was wrong the sonographer would/should have said?? DH and I are trying not to freak out, we are saying maybe it is to do with my previous pregnancy as the cause of miscarriage was trisonmy.

I just feel like it is going to be snatched away from me

@Rachael321 oh I see. I guess everywhere is different isn't it and they have there own ways of doing things,glad it was all fine though and your results were low. Ah I have my 20 week scan on the 3rd April too but due to my previous miscarriages I do have one on Friday aswell which I'm very grateful for and yes we will be finding out.

@bananamuffin99 if they've not said anything at the time I'd try not to worry. Perhaps it's to ask if you'd like extra testing this time? Hope all is okay though, what a way to worry you.

@bananamuffin99 that can only be anxiety inducing. Hopefully it's just for a chat and to discuss your options for additional testing as they might offer you NIPT with your history? How far along are you now x

@Treaclepie19 @Knotemma I know that I am getting extra care, I was told even before I fell pregnant again. I just feel that if something was wrong, surely it would be a Dr at the hospital that would want to talk to me. Maybe it's just a see how I am thing? Regardless it has got me worried. I having my booking in app with midwife before I have my Dr app, so I'll ask her if there is any reason why my GP would want to see me to discuss the scan.

I am 7 weeks 1, at the scan I was 5 weeks 6 and was measuring 4.3mm which I think might be on the smaller end?? Maybe it's due to that?

Hi @bananamuffin99. 4.3mm is perfect for 5 +6 so don't worry about that (look at www.fetalmedicine.com/synced/fmf/2010_27.pdf if you want reassurance....)
As others have said it's probably just to give you some clarity around next steps and any additional support you will be given as a result of your history. When is your telephone appointment scheduled for? Let us know how you get on, if it's making you feel anxious then maybe ask the receptionist if it's possible to bring it forward?

@Bellsx how exciting that you'll be finding out this week! Do you have a feeling one way or the other?

@Knotemma good luck for work tomorrow, I hope you're back in the swing of things soon but that you do manage to take it easy.

@Sunflower1608 I'm sorry about your experience with your Mum, as others have said she sounds incredibly self absorbed which is a shame when she could be excitedly looking forward to meeting her grandchild. Neither of our families are nearby (mine are 300 miles away!) and I do envy those friends who have their own parents close by, but appreciate that proximity isn't the same as having a close relationship! Harsh as it sounds, just because we're related to someone doesn't mean that we necessarily have to like them. I hope you have some good friends around you who can give you the support that your Mum clearly isn't willing to provide at the moment....

@Rachael321 congrats on the fantastic blood test result. I can't wait to get to the stage where it feels 'real', at the moment I feel more run down than pregnant.....

@bananamuffin99 have you already seen a consultant?
I've had a baby with a chromosomal abnormality so this pregnancy we've already seen the consultant.
It could be about how you are and just confirming your choices like you say.

@Rachael321 @Bellsx congrats on your scans and bloods! 🥰 you must be feeling so relieved!

@Knotemma you've been so poorly, I my hope you're feeling enter and all going well back at work!

@Sunflower1608 I'm so sorry to hear about your mums reaction, that must be terrible 😔maybe distance yourself a bit now, you don't need more stress in your life. I hope you feel better soon 💐

@bananamuffin99 they probably just want to discuss NIPT! You can have the Panorama from 9 weeks already, maybe it's that? Must be very worrying for you ❤️

@Avocuddles how are you feeling? Big week for both of us next week 😳

I have been feeling so crap, this nausea (not being sick but constant, all day nausea) is really getting me down. I have to eat because being hungry makes me nauseous, but I feel even worse after I eat. It's a horrible cycle. Been trying to eat well but eating more carbs than usual 🤦🏻‍♀️ I really hope it eases up next week at 12 weeks...

Have you ladies put on any weight yet in 1st trimester? I've put on 0.5kg so far which I'm ok with. I'm really trying to stay within 10kg for this pregnancy so will be checking thoroughly 😬 and any inclination about what you're having sex wise? I have absolutely Nada, not a feeling in my body what it could be! We also don't know how we want to find out yet (just the 2 of us together or a fun balloon which just closest family and few friends). In either case won't be until after 20 week scan we decided. We have asked the Dr to hide the sex on our NIPT results so we can check later if we want.

Hello everyone, so glad we are seeing positive scans and bloods now 😊
I've been struggling to keep up these days I'm so tired! 11 weeks today and getting lots of little cramps and back ache as well which is both worrying and reassuring that something is actually happening. I'm assuming I'm getting more back ache because of tilted uterus but I may be way off the mark there. My MIL has paid for us to have another scan(!) this weekend, I probably wouldn't have done it myself but if offered I will take it!

@Sunflower1608 that sounds incredibly difficult, I'm sorry she is being so hurtful.

@bananamuffin99 I hope everything is ok, how anxiety inducing to be told there is something they need to discuss but not WHAT! If it had been serious I imagine they would have got you in quicker so that may be a good sign? Good luck 💐

Thank you @Avocuddles @SunStruck @Knotemma. @Avocuddles I think a girlie only because I feel like I did when I was carrying my daughter but I guess we'll see on Friday. @SunStruck @Knotemma yes so relieved that everything is going well and test results have come back as low risk, always makes you feel a bit better after you have got past these different stages in pregnancy.
Hope all you other ladies are doing well and are having a good day today.

Hi ladies, dating scan went well, everything looks ok, just need to wait to hear on nuchal, but height was 1.8mm which I'm pretty sure is in the "normal" limit. Due date has been revised to 23-9-20, which matches up with our previous scans. Hope you're all having a good day x