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Pregnant after loss and dreaming of rainbows....

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Avocuddles · 21/01/2020 18:22

Hi,

Starting a thread for ladies in early pregnancy after one or more miscarriages or stillbirths. A safe place to let off steam and hopefully grow healthy rainbows together......

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Avocuddles · 30/01/2020 14:19

@LouiseD2018 so sorry to hear your worrying update. I hope that things turn around over the next few days, but either way we're all here for you.

@Scout20 gentle congrats to you too! Sorry to hear about your traumatic second pregnancy, it sounds like a truly awful experience. I hope your scan on Saturday is a positive one and that you'll be welcoming your rainbow baby in less than 8 months!

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Scout20 · 30/01/2020 14:28

So sorry to read your update @LouiseD2018. Gentle hopes for you that it's 'just' too early to see anything, but I understand what you say about feeling you need to prepare for the worst. I know it'll be a really hard few days until you have the results of the repeat HCG back on Monday. Were you on your own for the scan?

Jojowash · 30/01/2020 18:08

Hi guys,

Yep me too, found out I'm pregnant on Tuesday.

Had two mmc's last year 10 weeks and 7 weeks. Absolutely petrified.

So frightened to go for scan! Not that I could have one yet, that fear beforehand and then the lingering but it could still go wrong.

First time I had brown bleeding, so went in for scan, told me baby had stopped growing.

Second time I booked private scan, first one ok, second one at 7 weeks heartbeat stopped.

I really don't know what to do to make myself feel better? The EPU told me to go through them next time @ 8 weeks. I can't bear it.

Due 11th October

Jojowash · 30/01/2020 18:17

@LouiseD2018

Please try not to worry! It's absolutely scary I know!!

Your wee may have been really strong or you're carrying double bubbas!

There was a thread say hcg being to high was sign of molar pregnancy but I can't find it.

I personally would take that as a great sign.

We worry if it's not dark enough, to dark, or changing on different days, we will worry no matter what!

Just have hope xx 😘

SammiLou2312 · 30/01/2020 18:31

@LouiseD2018 try not to give up hope yet Hun, keeping everything crossed for your test results and next scan. Sending hugs your way x

Rachael321 · 30/01/2020 21:16

Evening ladies, been away from here for a few days got some catching up to do!!

Had booking appt yesterday, lasted over an hourShock lots of questions mainly. Midwife was lovely and so reassuring.
Being treated as high risk for bloodclots/preeclampsia due to family history. And also treatment going to be consultant and midwife led as opposed to just midwife led. Reassuring and worrying at the same time!!
Estimated due date 16th august, will know more at scan on tuesday Grin

Seahawk80 · 30/01/2020 21:24

@LouiseD2018 I'm sorry to hear that. I know what you mean about not building up your hopes. I gave up all hope after my first scan. Guess my story goes to show you never know. But I would feel exactly the same as you. I just really hope there is some positive news for you.

@Treaclepie19 it's rubbish how different hospitals offer different things. Did they not offer it even after a high nuchal fold measurement? My hospital offers it then but to be honest I think they have only offered it this time at 10 weeks because they have made several mistakes with me and I ended up making a pals complaint.It's a very well regarded hospital in London but I've been unlucky. Hopefully this time I'll have a better experience.

@Scout20 gentle congratulations from me too!

Treaclepie19 · 30/01/2020 21:54

@Seahawk80 they organised it for us but we still got charged for it.
The worst thing was they said nobody else they knew of had been charged but they couldn't rule out us getting a bill so it just felt like another kick in the teeth.

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Avocuddles · 30/01/2020 23:02

@Jojowash hi! Your experiences are very similar to mine (7 and 8 weeks), it's such a scary time isn't it..... I've got my first scan at 7 weeks, much as part of me would like to go sooner I'd rather go at a stage where hopefully it might be a little clearer if things are looking ok or not. I saw a heartbeat at 7 weeks last time but it was measuring behind and not looking good, I'm praying for a strong and healthy one this time but also trying not to get my hopes too high to protect myself if it comes to the worst....

@Rachael321 I'm also high risk as I had a dvt 10 years ago. My stomach is already like a pincushion from all of the blood thinners and I knew all along that I would have to be consultant led if I ever managed to get pregnant. My first consultant appointment is next week but I know exactly what to expect having been through this stage twice already..... do you know what your treatment / care will look like?

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avocadoincident · 31/01/2020 04:04

I'm consultant led too as I have an under active thyroid. Anyone else here with that?
Ps. Can't sleep again.Hmm

LapsedVeganAcademic · 31/01/2020 06:30

Will also be consultant-led: have multiple medical issues, am old, am having arrrgh twins.

Finding this all so hard. Terrified of miscarriage. Sickness worse than any pregnancy yet, fatigue so extreme. And I still have to keep going with work (though luckily have WFH job) and children and adulting. Want to curl up and cry.

Rachael321 · 31/01/2020 07:04

@Avocuddles just gave me a rough idea of what kind of appointmentsil have and when. And arranged appt for consultant at start of match so will know more then

HighHopes20 · 31/01/2020 07:05

Will I be consultant led because I had to have an emcs with my son?
@LapsedVeganAcademic oh poor you, I’m dreading the morning sickness starting. I remember feeling dreadful with my son so it must be doubly worse for you, have you had it throughout your previous pregnancies or does it get better in the 2nd trimester for you?

Seahawk80 · 31/01/2020 07:41

@HighHopes20 you will be but probably just one or two extra appointments. You can normally decide on a planned section or VBAC.

@LapsedVeganAcademic I have been struggling too. More sickness and tiredness than before. Although I wonder how much of the tiredness is due to already having a toddler. No chance to lie down and have an afternoon snooze at weekends 😩

TunnocksTcake · 31/01/2020 10:16

Sorry Ladies, had my Dad's funeral on Wednesday so took a couple of days to go offline. It went well, it was a nice service (although felt too quick) and a good turn out.
Yesterday I was shattered and had one single spot of dark red/ almost brown blood, so have been doing extra knicker checks ever since. I am still wearing thin pantyliners, usually start putting them in when I expect my period and havent stopped yet. I seem to feel sickest when I first wake up (at the moment 4am when I need a wee!) and comes and goes throughout the day. No actual sick yet.
I am going to ring the midwives today to arrange booking in appointment. I have now passed the point I miscarried in December which is a small relief. Cant decide whether to get an early scan at 7 or 8 weeks - I know I ovulate a bit later than average at CD 17 ish and don't want to freak myself out.

@LouiseD2018 Sorry to hear about your upsetting scan, thinking of you.

Pugmum19 · 31/01/2020 12:03

@LouiseD2018
Sorry to hear about your scan, hoping for you that there may still be positive news ahead.

Pugmum19 · 31/01/2020 12:05

I had my third scan at 9 + 2 on Wednesday and all good with a good heartbeat.
Today though went to toilet to spots of blood. Completely panicked and convinced it must be the end. After a miscarriage any confidence I can carry a baby seems to have completely gone. I have my booking in appointment this afternoon so will discuss with her. This is just so hard.

SammiLou2312 · 31/01/2020 12:34

@Pugmum19 here's hoping that your midwife can help this afternoon. From what I understand some spotting can be normal but I get what you mean about it being hard not to worry. I had a successful first scan (at 6weeks) on Monday with a good size and strong heartbeat. I was fine for a day or two, even started to let myself think about plans to announce it to folk yet started with some cramping last night and this morning and am now freaking out again that something is going wrong again. Just want to be able to relax and enjoy this time without panicking at every little twinge or symptom change. Sending good luck vibes your way x

LouiseD2018 · 31/01/2020 12:57

We got a call from hospital hcg 7000 they had 3 consultants scan me, unsure but suspicious area in left tube.

Looks like I'm out of this journey, probably permanently I can't put myself through this again.

I'd like to wish you all the very best, when I'm feeling stronger I'll pop on and check your progress, praying for all your rainbow babies x

Seahawk80 · 31/01/2020 14:23

@Pugmum19 I can imagine it's such a worry. They did say to me at EPU that bleeding that isn't heavy is normal I had so much bleeding both with DS and this pregnancy that I didn't think it could possible be ok. It was never heavy but dark blood and red blood and went on for 2 weeks.

Also just wanted to say about cramps, I never really had any with DS but with my pregnancy that ended in TMFR (so not a miscarriage) and this time I've had cramps that took my breath away. I think that once your uterus has stretched a bit, even if you weren't that far along, it seems to hurt more doing it again, which is the opposite of what you'd think! Hope this gives some reassurance.

I think my worries are slightly different as I'm less worried about miscarriage having not had one, although it is on my mind. My worries are all focused on the day of the 12 week scan and test results. I can imagine it's very hard living witg day to day worry and thinking every twinge could mean bad news Thanks

Knotemma · 31/01/2020 14:26

Louise that's such sad news, sending lots of support your way.

I had my scan today, all seemed reasonably positive, definite heartbeat though measuring a couple of days less than expected. Everyone in the room seemed happy enough though which was good.

I think I'm in shock if I'm honest. I didn't expect today to go well, I booked the afternoon off work so I didn't have to go back in a state and now I'm at a loose end. Honestly unless I actually get to 9 months I don't think I'll really believe it's happening.

Pugmum19 · 31/01/2020 16:13

@LouiseD2018 so sorry to hear that. Look after yourself and give yourself time. It will all feel too much right now but time is a great healer and you may feel strong enough one day. It’s such a tough journey.

Littlegoth · 31/01/2020 18:32

@Avocuddles @HighHopes20 I’m another Leeds local too - might be bumping into each other. I’ve got my first scan next Friday (I’ll be 6+1). Dreading the sting of the injection later, and hoping I have to carry on with them for months to come x

Littlegoth · 31/01/2020 18:33

@LouiseD2018 Just saw your post, so sorry. I’m thinking of you xx

Treaclepie19 · 31/01/2020 18:49

I'm so very sorry @LouiseD2018 Flowers

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