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Uki · 14/08/2007 13:15

Thanks for the thread name Purplelostprincess

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ejt1764 · 20/09/2007 20:04

Ellie & goingfor3 ... repeat after me: "healthy and well, healthy and well" ... and keep on sharing your worries ...

fettleandminifettle · 20/09/2007 20:29

Hi girls

Thanks for your support - Toby and I safely home from hospital this afternoon. He's absolutely gorgeous!!

Off to bed now, but I'll catch up properly when I have time!

Take care all and thanks again - I enjoyed my brief skim through the thread!!

Go Mumpy, Go Mumpy!!!

xxx

missworry · 21/09/2007 01:28

ELLIEG I can relate to everything you are saying and worry about exactly the same things. When I had my scan I felt happy and then a couple of days later I'm back to worrying again. Do pg hormones really fluctuate? I thought that they were supposed to increase until the placenta took over. I wish I'd never read that bloody pregnancy book . I can still remember things it said even though I've thrown it away. I keep remembering what it said about lower back pain which is what I had last time.

My biggest fear apart from losing this pregnancy is that I'll never have any children. Now that I have finally realised how important it is, I can't imagine any joy or happiness in my life without children. I am so lonely and frightened and have not really recovered from the extreme anxiety and depression which developed during the pregnancy in earlier in the year when things were going wrong from the start. There were twins and one started going straight away and then the other eventually died and I had to wait 3 weeks to find out. This is why I want a scan every week. I am still crying often, afraid to be alone, I really can't cope with seeing families and children when I go out, and going to the supermarket is torture. I move through my life like a ghost. I routinely I follow the same steps as the day before get up, go to work, come home, eat, try to watch telly, then go to bed early. The weekends are horrible because I can't enjoy my life anymore.

Yesterday I felt tired and slightly nauseated for a few hours and today nothing except a sore lower back so I am pannicking.

On a lighter note, since the beginning of the pg I too have been constantly feeling my breasts to check that they are sore enough and sometimes they just aren't . I even do it at work, people must think I'm mad! This process is so fraught.

Another long post from me, sorry. I so hope we'll all be ok. Love from Missworry (aka Naomi).

Happy and well, happy and well, happy and well.

Uki · 21/09/2007 05:28

WELCOME TOBY CONGRATULATIONS FETTLE- you must feel so relieved after all that drama.

Miss worry- your feelings sound so familar to how i was. you will gets lots of support here. You will also start to feel better in the 2nd and third trimester. it is a bit of a hormone thing in first trimester exuberated by the grief of m/c. If you don't feel better soon, you could ask about some councelling. I had some through the hospital and it felt great to get it all out in person, as no one in RL including dh really understood.

We all fret about every little symptom, so good on you for throwing the book away. Try and enjoy your pg you've done the hard bit.Think happy healthy positive vibes.
i'll send some your way

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positive · 21/09/2007 07:49

CONGRATULATIONS on the arrival of Toby, hope that you are all well

Fingers crossed this good news will bring good vibes to everyone.

positive · 21/09/2007 08:19

Hi missworry,

I'm just taking one day at a time as each day is so different. one day i'm so tired, other days i'm great & its those days I start to worry if everything is okay. Only 2 wks to wait for my scan now. If I had scan around now it would ease some of my worries but would then worry til i had the next one!! Hopefully the rest of this pregnancy will be uneventful, as this will be our first ds/d.
We did opt for a pm after the mc last year, we were having a boy, but he had loads of medical problems and would have been in/out of hosp. Obviously dh and I were devastated after the mc but now we look back and think that this was the way it was to be --- but it does not lessen the grief of our loss and what might have been.

sorry this has turned into a bit of a downer message, so

good vibes, happy thoughts, good vibes, happy thoughts

goingfor3 · 21/09/2007 08:20

EllieG - It doesn't matter what stage of pregnancy you lost a baby at it still really hurts and so many hopes and dreams fall away.

ejt1764 - very wise words!

missworry - You sounds exactley like me after my first mc. I was so scared that I would nver be able to get pregnant again and once I did that I would mc again and never be aable to have the children I had always wanted. I did have a couple of early scans with DD1, there have to be some perks working in a hospital because I wouldn't have got them otherwise. After my mc's I found seeing pregnant women and new babies very difficult, I didn't even go to my nephews birthday party a few weeks ago because I knew that there would be pregnant women there. Even yesterday I took DD2 to ballet and couldn't look at the five week old baby someone had with her because I was basically jealous that that woman had a baby and mine had died and then I got really annoyed when the women left the baby with her mother so she could go out for a ciggarette! Having these feelings is not a way to live, I know I just have to let go and look to a happy future and I don't what difficulties others have had to have thier own baby so I really have to let go of these feelings of jealousy!

MrsMcJnr · 21/09/2007 10:32

Thanks Goingfor3 ? it really is amazing that this issue was not really picked up in my family before because my Mum is one of 5, and there are 4 girls and nearly all my cousins were born early or at term and most of us weighed less than 6 pounds, my cousin Hannah was only 4 pounds at 41 weeks! I lost a twin at birth apparently due to cord issues but other than that and my loss, incredibly no one else has ever lost a baby. My Mum and her sisters are being tested (we already knew one had the clotting problem) my Mum has it and is now on Warfarin for life!

Oh Fettle I am so pleased for you! x

Missworry ? it?s not so much the hormones that fluctuate, it?s your symptoms to them and they can start to ease off completely around 10 weeks when the placenta starts being active. The sickness etc is sometimes called Progesterone Poisoning as that it what is causing it! Hon, I know what you mean about the sadness and emptiness, I felt like that for a long time, like I was just going through the motions and nothing had any meaning and I felt like I had nothing to look forward too. I really hope that you feel much happier as this pregnancy progresses.

ejt1764 · 21/09/2007 10:43

This book helped me to regain some of my sanity when first pg ... it can be quite difficult to get hold of, but if anybody wants to borrow it, I'm happy for it to be passed around the ladies on this thread.

It's bizarre, but I still can't quite believe that it maight all turn out ok for us this time: I don't think I will until I hold my baby in my arms ... but I keep telling myself tha this feeling is normal after suffering losses.

ejt1764 · 21/09/2007 10:44

So, email me at eirian dot thomas at gmail dot com if you want to borrow it.... (should have put that in my last post!!)

goingfor3 · 21/09/2007 10:47

ejt1764, it is normal not to really beleive everything will be okay. When DD1 was born the first time I held her I felt numb and couldn't beleive that I had my very own real live baby. It took a few days to sink it that I had done it and created the most perfect beautiful baby I could ever imagaine and she was mine to keep!

EllieG · 21/09/2007 11:24

THat's EXACTLY how I feel. DP was fine after scan and is all 'See? I knew it would be OK' but I can't believe I will actually have a real live baby somehow. I just take it a day at a time.

EllieG · 21/09/2007 11:26

Missworry - sorry you are feeling down. I started a thread on ante-natal depresssion which has been quite useful to me in reading other people's experiences of not feeling good whilst PG, will put the link in for you as might help to read.

EllieG · 21/09/2007 11:26

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/49/389394?stamp=070921104715

Hope that worked

nh101 · 21/09/2007 11:40

OMG! MrsMCJnr, goingfor3, Ellie - it's like a home from home in here!

Sorry I am still a bit giddy from my BFP

Hi to everyone else, I am 3+5 today, got BFP this morning exactly six months after my MC. I feel very positive right now, unlike my other pregnancy which I was sure from the start would end in tears (which obviously it did - at 13 weeks).

I have been on Clomid so does anyone want to have a bet with me on how many I am having????

MrsMcJnr · 21/09/2007 11:52

That is a fab book Ejt, I have it and am still using it the stuff at the back about when you are pregnant again is excellent.

NH101 YES! Fabulous, fantastic, congratulations and welcome! we?ll take great care of you ? I am SOOOO pleased for you! That positivity is fab, hold on to it, you will need it to get you through the tricky times do you think you might be having more than one then? I?ll say triplets! you?ve made my day.

nh101 · 21/09/2007 11:54

Put it this way, I'll think myself lucky if I am only having twins

My friend had twins so I know how hard it is so I really hope it is one but I am not bothered as long as I get at least one!

my1stbaby · 21/09/2007 12:18

Hi nh many many congratulations on your BFP . Very lovely to have you here. Good you are feeling positive. I hope it'll be an uneventful pregnancy for you IYSWIM.

x

spugs · 21/09/2007 12:38

congrats nh i reckon thers 2

EllieG · 21/09/2007 14:59

Yey! nh is here! Am still really excited!!!

Flamesparrow · 21/09/2007 16:40

Hiya, stopping by on behalf of Mumofmonsters

Her internet has gone for a bit, she is fine though. M/W appointment today went well - heartbeat all ok, but hers was overpowering so placenta might be at the front, will check at scan.

MerlinsBeard · 21/09/2007 17:30

ty Flame!

Have sneaked on at MILs house to let you know all was ok but i need to pay the internet bill so unsure when we will be back!

Possible anterior placenta so heartbeat was hard to find...however it was there!!! sounding like a train, which actual;ly i haven;t had before, its always been like a galloping horse so we will see.
As far as i know anteriour placenta isn't an issue, just means hb is harder to find but i haven;t time to google properly|!!

Flamesparrow · 21/09/2007 17:40

I have never understood the whole horse/train thing. Mine both sounded like hearts Although they both had very similar heartrates (sort of bang in the middle of the girl/boy ones) so that could be why

sonya2580 · 21/09/2007 17:48

Hi all

im now just over 11 weeks now and i go for my scan next tuesday

Is it true that once you pass 10 weeks the risk to having a m/c drops

i dont really feel sick just sore nipples and consitpated i normaly go everyday but its like evey 4 days and after i do go i will go the next day then nothing againfor 4 days

can you take fibre sure in pregnancy it dont say noting on the box or the leflet

i know it is normal to get cramping but i cant work out if its things getting bigger or its due to not going to the loo

feedmenow · 21/09/2007 18:02

Sonya, my mw at booking in visit advised me to take Fibrogel (even though I didn't mention being constipated! She just told me to avoid any sort of straining because I'd had a small bleed!). Anyway, asked for Fibrogel at Boots and they said that companies are no longer allowed to sell non-presciption items with the same name as prescription items, so non-presciption Fibrogel is no sold as Senokot High Fibre. Anyway, I bought some and have taken it a few times. So maybe you could get yourself some of that.

Hope everyone else is well. I'm feeling rather poorly today, very tired and sickly again. Desperately racking my brain to try and remember when (or if!) I started feeling better with dd and ds, but I have an awful memory! I know I never felt really great - always more tired - but I KNOW that I didn't feel this crappy the whole time!

Still no news from Mumpy???

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