Pregnancy after miscarriage - Various ways of getting from one day to the next...

[Uki]

Thanks for the thread name Purplelostprincess

what a horrid doctor keeping fingers x'd 4 u

Thanks ladies. Feedmenow that was so kind of you to look out your notes for me - really appreciate it.
I was 6+3 but I oved on day 18 so reckon a few days behind that.
Spoke to a really nice sonographer at the women's ultrasound clinic on harley street who told me 5mm would be fine so I'm just 1mm over. He also thought a heart beat was a really good sign.
He really calmed me down and said that if I was going to miscarry they it would happen in the next week or so. That's terrible but to honest I would rather get it over with it's going to happen than wait till 12 weeks to find out.
I'm booked in with them for a scan on Monday and then having another scan a week later just to see how things are progressing.
It's amazing how speaking to someone kind and reasurring can make you feel that all is not lost. Before I spoke to him I was in floods of tears because the thought of losing this baby is just to aweful to even think about.

Thanks again for all your support and hope you are all really doing well and feeling good.
x

Just want to say a quick hello to everyone and sorry that I've not been posting lately. Had a quick run through and it's good to read that everyone is well.

dolly a special hello to you. I hope all will be well at scan on Monday. Try to relax at the w/end, I understand just how anxious you must be feeling as I have threatened m/c with this baby twice. It's pretty scary. My thoughts will be with you on Monday.

I've not been posting here recently as been terribly unwell. I have a long term illness that reared it's ugly head again due to the pregnancy. Been in a lot of pain and can't take any medication because of the baby. I'm just about coping with the pain and I'm praying that it will ease off, hopefully.

On a happy note, I had my nuchal scan yesterday and saw the little beanie waving it's arms and legs . It was a very special and emotional experience. I feel so lucky to have the little one growing inside me. The result of the nuchal is good too, so we don't have to consider CVS/amnio. The consultant that scanned said once we hit 13-14 wks, we don't have to worry about m/c anymore but I know that I will still worry a little bit until I have baby in my arms .

Sorry it's been a me me post.. I will do better next time. Have to rush off for a meeting now. Have a good w/end everyone!

MOM ? cross ectopic off your list hon you are doing well keep chanting and you?ll be fine.

Glimmer ? interesting about the adrenaline, really good point

Gingercat12 ? welcome to the list are you in Hungary then?

Spugs ? sorry about the ladies on you?re AN thread, really sad. You are all getting safer, the 12 week scans do tend to make each thread lose a few ? repeat after me? healthy and well, healthy and well

Hotchoc ? that?s fab news!! ? DH says I can?t get any bigger ? boy has he got a lot to learn

Bouncing sorry about those dreams ? last night, I had given birth, it was a boy but I had slept through the whole birth experience ? wish that was one likely to come true! how exciting for your friend, everything crossed!

Springflower I am so very sorry hon, I really am. Sending huge hugs x

VV ? great news hon ahhh anterior placenta ? there you go!

Bumpkin32 ? welcome back hope you get that scan soon, keep chasing until you get one

Uki ? I am so sorry to hear about both of these worrying things, I hope you are feeling alright and I have everything crossed that Monday gives you the all clear. Will say my prayers for you xxx

Feedmenow ? good news about the consultant

EllieG- that is exciting I met an old work colleague last night and we talked babies for 3 hours. In the beginning, I found it hard to talk to her as her due date is 2 days after mine would have been with my lost angel but you lot have helped me so much that I can actually discuss it now without feeling quite as much pain ? thank you! Re mat leave ? by all accounts, the hormones make you work in the house like a slave!

Mumpbump ? hello glad you are feeling more reassured about the homebirth now sounds like that grouting will really help with moving that baby round

Firsty ? thanks for the reassurance hon so glad all is well with you.

Hello and welcome Dolly1 how awful that the Dr said that to you and laughed and that he was so flippant totally unacceptable anywhere but even worse as you were paying, make sure you channel your fear into anger and lodge a complaint. I am really furious for you. When you say you are 6 weeks, when are you counting from? It may just be that you are further along than you thought, it must be hard to say if you got pg again straight after a MC and from my own experience, I ovulated on CD17 or 18 but Beanie has caught up with the 15/1 due date rather than the 18/1 due date given to me by ovusoft so maybe yours has too. Plus, seeing a heart beat is a great thing hon. If I were you, I?d kick up a terrible stink at the private place. What an insensitive bastard!! 6 weeks is quite early to see a heart beat so maybe you are further along, measurement wise, I had a scan at 5+6 and the GSD was measuring 7.2mm then (didn?t get a yolk measurement) there was no heart beat at that stage. Had another scan at 8 weeks saw the heartbeat then and was measuring 14mm CRL. Apparently the measurements can be quite inaccurate at this stage. HTH So glad that you have now spoken to someone nice and that you can get some reassurance on Monday don?t let that man get away with it though! Positive thinking is so important in the early stages and he might do that to lots more people

Hey Ladylush ? how are you hon?

My1stbaby ? welcome back sorry to hear about the illness and the pain, I hope you feel much better soon. Great news about your scan

mom- my symptoms have died right down as well, i only feel sick when im getting hungry (though that does seem to be more often!) and my boobs are no where as near as sore. to be honest thats about it on the symptom front. its the stage were at hun

dolly - your doc sounds like a right prat, good luck for your next scan x

uki - i got an infection adfter dd1 and i remember it being not too nice!! it did clear up quickly with abs so hopefully you'll feel better soon.

my friends just had her baby, a boy so im all excited it was her 1st and shes had a crap time of it episiotomy and ventouse im going to see her next weekend though to get some new born practice in.

im already thinking about the birth and ive got forever to go, i think its cos the last ones still so fresh (16 mths ago) it was fab but i still remember how much it hurt keep thinking as well that as i ve had 2 straight forward labours somethings bound to go tits up this time plus the mw told me #3s are normally either really quick or difficult!!

sorry for blabbing on - how is everyone this evening anyhow? x

I called the hospital today for advice on what Beanies heart rate was....

My file was checked and no record of heart rate had been made.....

I am not happy.............

I now have no choice other than to hope and pray that Beanie will be OK...

I am trying so hard to relax but it is difficult.

My FIL is on life support in hospital and my best freind has been given two days to live. Cancer is in its final stages...
I have made a hard and maybe selfish decision not to see her....
I just feel the stress wil be too much for me to bare.... She would totally agree with me.........

Evening all - a quickie from me - I have a date with a chinese takeaway and BB!

oinker - at hospital for not writing down heartbeat - how stupid is that?
And, I totally understand your decision not to go and see your friend ... it'll be better to remember her as she was before, rather than see her with all the wires and stuff. to hear of your FiL too ... hugs to you.

dolly - what a stupid, stupid stupid doctor! And, great that you were able to get some reassurance! You need a mantra too ... remember, healthy and well, healthy and well.

my1st - sorry to hear you've been ill - here's hoping you recover fully very soon.

bumpkin - hiya - tbh, I would phone the EPU to ask their referral process ... GPs do tend to forget ...

ellie - great to hear about your friend being pg too - it makes a big difference to have somebody to share with!

MoM - healthy and well, healthy and well ...

ladylush - hiya - how's you?

uki - sorry to hear that your recovery from the birth hasn't been the easiest ... hope you're completely back on your feet soon.

spugs - hiya!

Waving madly at anybody I have missed out ....

I had open house at mine this afternoon for all the girls and their assorted children that I met when doing antenatal classes when pg with ds - there were 6 of us (from the 8 in the class 5 years ago), and between us we now have 9 children (and my bump) - and have suffered a total of 6 mc and 1 ectopic pg - - it was a tad noisy in our back garden with us all doing stuff! It was lovely to see them, but I'm tired now ... my chinese takeaway and BB are waiting!

Have a good weekend all!

Have a good evening all, take care

Hi to everyone. Sorry I disappeared today, but I was thinking of you.

MrsMcJnr I am in Newcastle really, but my mother tongue is Hungarian. Being as inexperienced as I am in everything to do with childbirth and children, I can do with all the help and advice as I can get

How awful for you guys losing people off of your a/n threads, it always makes me sad when someone loses a baby but when you are pg yourself (even once you get to the safer stages) it is doubly hard as it makes you worry and brings back memories.
Hi Hotchoc, how are things going with you? I too feel like I am getting bigger by the hour, someone asked me the other day when baby was due and when I said December they just looked at my bump and said (with much quizzical eyebrow raising) ?are you sure??. Daft thing is I am not as big as I was at this stage with either DS, don?t think I am carrying as much water!
Hi Gingercat are you new to this thread? If you are Hi and welcome, if not then give me a slap for silly hormones making me forgetful! I think you are right that we come out of it stronger although perhaps we do not always get over it, for me moving forward from it is more accurate.
Bouncing, how exciting about your friend! My BF is due in 3 weeks and am so exited for her, will make me even more excited about meeting my LO.
Springflower, so sorry to hear your news. Deciding to stop trying for another is a difficult decision, have a good think on it before you make your final decision and if you decide to try again then perhaps ask for a referral due to recurrent m/c. I don?t think it matters how many DCs you already have, the want for a baby is still as strong x
VV, so glad your scan went well! You must have fab stomach muscles! Big relief about the placenta being in the way of movement, wonder if that could be why your bump is still tiny? As I said to Hotchoc, this bump is smaller than my other 2 were although baby is measuring well for dates!
Bumpkin, I would chase it now, my early scan referral form got lost twice between the GP and the EPU! Glad you feeling so sick though (in the nicest way)!
Poor you Uki! Fingers crossed that the anti-biotics will help you and that the scan on Monday will show nothing serious in your breast. Could it be a blocked milk duct or something? Hormones do funny things to our bodies ? sometimes its so much fun being a woman!
Feedmenow, fab about getting the top consultant! Hopefully you will get just the birth you want this time!
Ellie, congrats for your friend! Is fun being pg with a friend although have not had one at the same stage as me before.
Mumpbump, glad bubba is head down, back to back is not fantastic but DS1 was in that position until quite close to the birth, I think it is quite common for them to turn at the last minute and certainly easier than if they were breach! Lucky you with the grouting (not), hope you manage to find the energy. Nesting is certainly something that has never affected me although while in labour with DS2 I did spend the day ironing but that was mainly because I knew it wouldn?t get done otherwise!
Hi Firsty, hows it going? Glad all is well in your household, baby settling in well?
MOM, I?m sure your LO is fine in there, I had many days when I felt empty and full of despair, I know the feeling you are describing perfectly, it is a hard one to shake and I found the first 14 weeks of this pg extremely difficult to get through. Keep talking to us on here (I give these ladies full credit for the fact I am still (relatively) sane), mmc is a big worry hun but if your symptoms are still fluctuating a bit then I would take that as reassurance, plus you are now at the stage where symptoms do start to ease up a bit. Keep up with the mantra and if you don?t hear about your scan soon then chase it up!
Dolly, welcome to the thread, of course we don?t mind you joining us! I can?t believe the way the doc was with you at your scan! I can?t help you on the size but it is a good sign that there is a heartbeat there, especially at 6w. I would definitely complain, how dare he laugh and be flippant about such and emotional and important thing as your baby?s life? I hope you get some reassurance from your next scan, please don?t give up hope yet x
My1stbaby, sorry you have been so unwell, pregnancy stirs the body up so much it often heightens other illnesses/problems we have. Have you seen your GP or MW to see if there is anything you can do about the pain? I think paracetamol is safe to take during pg. Really pleased that your Nuchal was good though and beanie was nice and active! It is a relief when you get to the point where the biggest threat is over but I don?t think any of us relax completely until baby is here and safe.
MrsMc - how goes it hun? Pg does bring some strange dreams our way doesn?t it?! I have found that even the daft dreams are far more vivid and ?real? than they used to be!
Spugs, lucky you with a friend with a newborn, hope you have a great time when you go and see her. I can?t wait for my BF to have hers so I can get a cuddle in, newborns are so warm and yummy! I have been worrying a bit about the birth too, DS2 was born nearly 5 years ago but I can still remember the pain! Am hoping for quick third rather than difficult!
Oinker at hospital for not writing down heartbeat, I do wonder about the medical profession at times, they seem to see us as numbers and cases rather than as people with feelings, hopes and fears. What a terrible time you are having at the moment too. I think your decision not to see your friend is a very difficult one and I?m sure your friend would agree that you are doing the right thing. Cancer can take a lot of a person?s dignity at the end too so I agree with Ejt that it is better to remember her as she was as on the inside that is who she still is. Sorry to hear of FIL too, my heart goes out to you at the moment x
Ejt, sounds like you had a lovely afternoon! Enjoy your Chinese (and BB)!
Hi to everyone else, hope you are all okay and have a great weekend x

Sorry for monster post guys, must try to catch up more often!

Beckle - How are you, still waddling?
Gingercat - whereabouts in Newcastle? I live in Stockton, and work in Sunderland.
EJT - wow it must have been noisy with all the kiddies, but I bet you all had fun
Oinker - so sorry that you have so much on your plate, my friend lost her bf to cancer about 4 months ago - and she had the same feelings too didn't want to see her in the last few days, so you are not alone. [Shock} at poor record keeping!
MrsMc still having these wierd dreams, though last nights one was better as DH came back and gave me an eternity ring Anyone else having these kinds of dreams. DH reckons it's because I'm anxious about the baby and how it will change everything in our relationship, but I think the changes will be for the better.
Myfirstbaby congrats on your scan, wonderful seening the beanie isn't it
Dolly that Doc was an absolute tosser - too right you should complain! Personally I think it sounds quite positive, but good you've been to EPU for 2nd opinion.
Spugs my sickness has died down, and like you I sometimes feel sick when I am hungry, also if I'm poorly too.

Hello to everyone else, especially to Dais, Uki and firstar and their little ones

My friend had her scan Thurs am, but her heart was racing like mad (she has a heart condition) so they decided to admit her and do an ECG. She went home that night but they've given her a heart monitor. I got an email from her yesterday pm saying she is waiting for the 2 consultants to get back to her to tell her what to do. Main thing is baby is fine and she is okay, just resting up and letting her DH wait on her hand and foot

Bouncingturtle We are really close then. Last week I bought some lovely blouses in the Mothercare sales in Sunderland

I work in Newcastle city centre and live in North Tyneside.

I am SO irritable and have just burst into tears over nothing. Am hoping it's just hormones and that I'm not just turning into a complete cow.

i live in sunderland its a small world.

Spug - Tis indeed!!
EllieG - Mood swings, tears and tantrums are all part of being pg. Use it to your advantage

Evening all - hope you are all doing well!

Lots of you from up North - is always a bit strange thinking you have no idea if someone you speak to on here, is actually someone you know!!! DD was born in Durham and we lived just south of Newcastle for about 18 months - now down South again.

Oinker - what an awful time you are having at the moment? I can't think of anything useful to say, except i'm thinking of you {{{HUGS}}}.

Ejt - keep meaning to ask how are the feet? Did you try and pillow under mattress? i'm starting to suffer more and more with my pelvis - how do you manage sleeping? I just can't get comfortable on either side, or even my back, which although I knew wasn't a good place to sleep, was at least comfortable for a time. Only 4 weeks to go now, I suppose!

EllieG - I concur - use those hormones to your advantage - you have an excuse. Don't worry it will pass, once the utter exhaustion of the first few weeks of having a newborn pass!!. If it's any conciliation, I think you have some months off in the middle when you are in a good mood! First few weeks - horrible, last few weeks, probably even worse (well I am anyway!!)

Mumpbump - great news babe is head down - still time for it to turn back to front - are you sitting on an exercise ball >.

Dolly - at that doctor!! To laugh is completely inexcusable. i do hope that everything is ok - I'm afraid I can't help with your questions though.

Feedmenow - great news on the consultant - glad to hear that things are going well for you.

MOM - hang in there - you are entering another of the worrying stages of pg after mc, the time when your pg symptoms appear to leave you and you start feeling better, but you really dont' have any other outward symptoms of pregnancy. I remember worrying like crazy at this time - I felt nowhere near as sick with this pg, as I have when pg with DD and with both mc. Waiting for my dating scan at 14 weeks was probably the worst time of this whole pg, but then I'm sure I felt a little kick in the waiting room. Only one, but I definitely felt it - almost as if little one was saying don't worry Mum, I'm still here! didn't then feel him move properly again for a good few weeks, but I know what I felt! Healthy and well!!!

Mrs Mc - Health and well and kicking!! Will be thinking of you lots on Tuesday. On maternity leave now, so will be checking up all day - what time is your appointment?

Rubles - hope the move is going well and with less breakages than we had!!! Please make sure you are not doing too much, I'm sure part of the reason my pelvis is so sore, is from all the unpacking I've been doing over the last few weeks. But could also be because MW thinks baby is 2/5 engaged already, which with the apparent size of the head from my scan last week, can't be helping my pelvis!!. Anyway, hope you are not off-line for too long!

Glimmer - how you doing? Cruising into the 3rd trimester?

Hello everyone else - if I go on much further, I'll use all the thread up!!! hope you are all doing well at your various stages.

Take care and hugs to all
xxx

Ta all. Told DP what you said and he said 'No! Tell them to tell you to be nice!' or words to that effect. He's gone off to make me a cup of tea to butter me up though.

EllieG You must have a lovely DH.

Hello Spugs and Fettle. It is a tiny tiny world. I am so happy I am not the only one in the North.

At last my symptoms are getting better. Yesterday I have done lots of things I have been delaying for two months now. Excellent!I know I should worry about not having symptoms, but I keep saying HEALTHY AND WELL. Just as I learnt here. And it works!

Morning ladies. Hope everyone is having a good weekend?

I went to see Knocked Up at last yesterday - it was hilarious!! I don't think I was expecting it to be quite so.....crude though! I think I assumed it would be a 12a and all lovely, lovely, but it is a 15 and is quite, well, blunt, really! I think that is the first time I've seen a head crowning shot and it was on a fictional film!!!

Anyway, I wanted to ask for all those in the 1st trimester, did everyone else find themselves sleeping really lightly? I'm permanently shattered, but I seem to wake up so easily in the middle of the night and then often struggle a bit to get back to sleep. Is this normal?

Fettle, sorry to hear about your uncomfy pelvis. Are you walking like John Wayne ?

Ellie, I know that feeling! On Friday I seemed to swing rapidly from maniacal laughter to shouting obscenities in the street (seriously!) to booing my eyes out at ET. I was knackered by the time I got to bed!

Dolly, how did you get on at the EPU yesterday?

Oinker, so sorry to hear about your bf and your FIL . Look after yourself at this trying time.......

My1st, I hope your health starts to go up hill instead of downhill. Take it easy....

v. quickly - I've allowed myself on to have a look at how everybody is in the middle of my frantic preparations for going back to school tomorrow - not helped by the fact that I didn't sleep too well last night - fettle, I can't seem to get comfortable at all - and every time I move, apparently I groan ... I know I wake dh up every time I get up. Oh well, not long to go now ... my feet are ok as long as they're not pointing down too much - I'm almost expecting them to be awful tomorrow night! Pillow under them doesn't really do the trick as it bends my knees funny ... mind you, with all the pillows I've got in bed with me, there's not much room for any more!

feedmenow - I did quite fancy seeing knocked up, but the problem I have when I go to the cinema is that I fall asleep ... have had this problem since ds was small ... think I'll have to wait 'til it's out on dvd.
As for the sleeping thing in the first trimester - it seemed to me like the only time I could eat without puking was the middle of the night - I'd take myself off downstairs for a bowl of cereal or something - but I had lots of bouts of wakefulness!

ellie - I had the horrendous ups and downs too ... try to remember that it's the hormones doing it. DH has said that it was like I'd turned into somebody else - he felt like shouting at me:
"Who are you, and what have you done with my wife?"

Honestly, it does pass.

gingercat - healthy and well, healthy and well.

dolly - let us know how things are.

Hi to everybody else (waving madly again!)

Right, off to agonise over the agenda for the departmental meeting tomorrow ... we've got 1 1/2 hours for the meeting, and it's the only one I get with the department before I go off on Maternity leave, and I've got my cover there AND a new member of the department (who also happens to be a newly qualified teacher!) ... got to sort the priorities!

Maternity leave starts on Friday ....

Have a good end to your weekend all!

ejt x

Thanks ejt and feedmenow - SO glad it's not just me being like this and that there will be an end to it!
Very jealous of maternity leave starting ejt, when is your LO due?

Hey ladies very tiring weekend with other people?s kids so I thought I?d jump on here for some R&R for a little while Had my girlfriends (4 of them round for lunch yesterday) 2 brought their toddlers and today we had friends round for a roast with their 2 little girls who are 2 & 4 ? my poor cats are shell shocked but luckily the house remained intact ? just! I can?t believe it is Monday again tomorrow (or that it?s September!) Hope you?ve all had a lovely weekend

Spugs ? I remember when my boobs stopped hurting, it was great most days I only feel sick when hungry or tired too ? welcome to the easier stage congratulations to your friend on her baby boy, shame she had such a medical labour though hope she is feeling ok. Keep the faith, two good labours under your belt sounds like a good precedent to me

Oinker ? I can?t believe that they made you worry so much and didn?t even bother to make a note about it I am so sorry that you are having a hard time ? so sad about your FIL and BF too, be strong for Beanie hon xx

Hey Ejt I watched that film ?Adrift? last night ? anyone seen it? Horrible, made me cry. Your girly get together sounded fun that?s a lot of MCs/ectopics great that there were so many successes too Hope the first day back at work isn?t too tiring ? not long to go now before Mat leave!

Gingercat I?m in West Lothian how interesting about your mother tongue being Hungarian can I call you My Fair lady!?

Beckle ? don?t you think people just say that about the bump because they lose perspective? I am not really big at all and yet have had that said to me too ? already!

Bouncing ? eternity ring how nice I have a friend who is a gemologist and she was busy telling DH recently that the trend now is to give a pink diamond for a girl and a blue one for a boy ? would personally love an emerald! Glad your friend is ok

Ohh Ellie it?s the hormones, I was a loony for the first trimester and haven?t been much better since I get into such rages!

Fettle sorry to hear you can?t get comfy to sleep but hey?.no more work thanks for your good vibes for Tues my appointment?s at 10.15.

Feedmenow ? at the crowning head in the film! Hope you start sleeping better soon.

MrsMcJnr Of course, you can call me My Fair lady, nobody else does I am afraid. Good luck with your appointment tomorrow.

thanks.

Hi All

Thanks for all your concerns, this is such a suppportive thread
Sorry not caught up on much lately, been pre occupied with worry, BUT GOOD NEWS had u/s on breast today and no lump seen, sonographer said they looked normal, although couldn't tell me what the lump i feel is anyway much less worried. also pp/t bleeding much better yay!!! i might avoid 2 operations

Bouncing turtle, Mrs Mc and others- re: baby clothes- last night baby spew and wee resulted in 3 suits, 3 singlets and 6 wraps, a lot of changes for 9 hours. SO STOCK UP!!!

Oinker- so sorry to hear of BF and FIL how sad for you all, I agree you need to stay positive and think of the new life you have. Strong healthy wishes to you.

I'll have to catch up more tomorrow when less drained