@ELW85 you mostly left the paneer?!!?!?!?!? Insanity!!!!! Glad you got your fix though, I love the feeling of getting to eat EXACTLY what you're in the mood for. So sorry to read about your difficult week - at least if you know it's going to be a heavy one you can take it extra easy, be really kind to yourself and allow yourself the time you need to grieve. Big hugs, it sounds really, really difficult.
@MrsEG It's a tricky one isn't it? I'm in much the same position in that we live closer to my family, see each other regularly / actually like one another and DH gets along with them all really well. Whereas everything is an effort the other way around. I'm trying to practice accepting the situation/them, as I can't change anything. But as you no doubt know, that doesn't always make it any easier. Why couldn't they just say thank-you graciously?!?! Oh thank god for good friends though - that haul sounds AMAZING (and only slightly intimidating 
!! We're kind of the opposite in that we only have one set of friends who are parents, but they are being so lovely. I think they're just excited to have someone in their club! They've already given us so much stuff and they popped over this mini toddler wetsuit the other day, as we live near the beach. I might have teared up. Damn pregnancy hormones!
@MrsR16 thanks very much! I'm crazily excited atm, sure the nerves will kick in later.
@LikeTheFruit yeah from about 12 weeks until fairly recently I just looked like I'd gained weight rather than a bump! I feel like it's getting more and more obvious every day now. I don't think it helps that I don't really like tight clothing either, and it's hard to spot a small bump under a billowy shirt or baggy jumper. Eeeek can't wait for The Capture later either....it's so gripping! And it's practically impossible to avoid takeaways/eating out when you're away from home.
@BabySquid re: tearing fears, I was exactly the same. I know all I ever harp on about is The Positive Birth company digital pack, and I can't remember if you've done it, but she has a section on tearing and I found it incredibly reassuring. Basically she said tearing is unfortunately very common, but in most cases it's actually really minor, that area of the body is perfectly designed for efficient healing and in the majority of cases things are back to normal really quickly. I know it's still not a nice thought, but I have to say after hearing the facts and figures, I'm no longer overly worried about it. You could also look into perennial massage / water births (though if I recall correctly, the evidence doesn't suggest you're any less likely to tear in water) / coached pushing (i.e. allowing the baby to come out slowly and gently, which the midwife should be able to help with, rather than in one big push...but in in the moment it's probably not always easy to control.
No that you'd have missed it from my relentless wittering on...but it's scan day!!! I've been up since the wee hours....think I'm going to need a nap if I'm going to watch The Capture later!! Have a fab day everyone and I'll update you all this evening.