Due October 2019 Thread 2 💙💖 babies are coming x

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Thread 2

Frizzy1986

Fair enough but, DH spent his whole time during labour massaging my back until his fists were seriously broken. And was in charge of the TENS machine. Hot water bottle. Making sure people stick to the birth plan.

Took baby when I couldn’t for skin to skin. Nappy changes and so on.

So me packing for him is just because I’m utilising my nesting hormones which hasn’t kicked in for him yet and hopefully he will utilise his protectiveness while I’m giving birth and our little cutesy is born.

I feel the same @MrsNotNice, I think I will sit DH down tonight and tell him that we need to sort it all out!.

@Frizzy1986 just tell him to pack what he needs, if he forgets then that’s his problem

@mrsnotnice that's good. My dh won't give me a massage, I've tried to get him to but he's not really the type to put in much effort with stuff like that.
He had a mum who did everything for him growing up so a lot of those self sufficient ideals never materialised. Probably works well for us though as I'm rather stubborn and bossy and take control!
And after 3 days of him not packing anything, I'll prob get frustrated and end up doing it so it's not like I help the situation at all.

Last time I told him not to touch me as I was in labour in the pool as I couldn't stand anything on my skin.

Hello @Slinkyreptile. I’m booked for a c-section on the 14th, so we might have our babies around the same time.
And welcome @CarysRed!
It’s nice to see the thread getting busier 🙂

@secretlyhermione the photos will be a lovely memory for you. I adore those squishy newborn shoots.

Great bag list @frizzy1986. Will totally be stealing it when I get round to mine.

I’m having a lazy day today @SRK16. I’ve just got no energy at the moment. No harm in it!

Oh, I bet it’s hard not to be on pins @MrsNotNice if your dd came at this stage. My ds was late, so I’m not expecting this one to make an appearance before my c-section date. I think I’ll full on panic if anything does kick off before.

I’ve just had a Moses basket delivered. It’s too cute! I didn’t use one much last time, but I think this baby will need a space that is clearly his - away from all of ds’ trains & dinosaurs.

Missed a page! I’ll definitely be telling dh to sort himself out a bag of stuff. We were there for days last time & he was so glad he’d got a change of clothes etc. Hopefully it will be a bit easier to plan for this time with a planned section.

I’m also making use of the sunshine and have done baby washing - the sleepsuits and vests look so cute all hanging up! DH is hoovering the car (because obviously the new baby will be seriously unimpressed if the car is a mess!) I’m contemplating packing my bag - thanks for the lists - but hoping I won’t need much as I haven’t stayed in with either of my others (although sod’s law I will have to this time) I’m on day 4 of mat leave and can’t help feeling like I’m skiving work! I feel naughty going out and about, like I’m doing something wrong, but definitely going to head to the beach this afternoon and get some sun!

We have got one of those next to me things, I’ve just about finished the nursery. Just need to add the final bits. I feel like I’m pretending and I’m not actually having a baby if that makes sense

Welcome!

Don't think I will pack for DH. Might throw in a pair of his underwear into the bag and an extra toothbrush. Still need to pack my bag so that is a helpful list.

Saw the new midwife and team today and was told that I could deliver there instead of my planned hospital. Need to find out transfer rate. Baby is head down and partly engaged which would explain the pressure I have been feeling. DH came too and got to hear the heart beat which was nice.

Last day today at work!!!

@CarysRed - totally makes sense! I still can’t believe that there is going to be another baby in the house - even though it’s making its presence very felt to my ribs and bladder!!

@YorkshireIndie enjoy your last day of work!!

@Figuiringitout god knows how weird it must feel to DP! I’ve been carrying the baby but nothing has changed much for him

Thanks for the well wishes @HJWT @newbabyyy2019 @cattaxi...
@newbaby glad it's all under control & you've got as best a plan as possible in place...@HJWT I've had weird leg pains since second trimester...left leg only!Like a numb dead bum feeling & if I turn it a certain way it's like a threatened cramp!...Its got really bad now & I'm limping abit & struggling leaning forward without it shooting & giving me the cramp feeling up near my back and bum cheek!Bloody sore.Making me feel even more waddly x

@cattaxi I'm booked in for my csection 10 days after you!Are you staying awake?...This is my 4th (and last) section/baby...First was emergency.2nd & 3rd were electives and I was awake.Found it TRAUMATIZING...I'm being awake again as the guilt trip of it being safer is too much to ignore.But I'm so scared...How are you feeling X

How’s everyone preparing mentally for labour ?? I’m sort of pushing the thought away but equally anxious as I’m not prepared

It’s terrified @MrsNotNice.

I don't feel nervous about labour just yet, I found labour first time very easy so I think this time around my luck will change and it will be completely different 😂.

I think I am more nervous to how DS will react to having a baby around, he says he is super excited and happy but with his autism i just feel nervous that he doesn't fully understand what's actually going on.

@Figuringitout my dh has been on about cleaning the cars too! Like the baby cares! Maybe it’s the male version of nesting.
We were also having a similar conversation last night about having another little human around. It’s so hard to believe it’s all real. We’ve taken on guardianship of a teen in the past year, so with ds, her & the new baby we will be outnumbered! Eek!

Hope you are enjoying your last day at work @YorkshireIndie.

@Cantthinkofanameeee I’m planning on being awake. Ds was an emcs where they just topped up my epidural with a block I think. I don’t react well to general, so avoiding that completely. I’m feeling ok about the section. Despite it being an emergency, my last one was fine. As soon I was in the theatre everything felt calm and under control. I also recovered really well.
I am getting really anxious about going into labour on my own and then trying to persuade me to try for a vbac. That scares the shit out of me! Ds was a failed induction, born 60 hours after my waters broke. It wasn’t a great experience, so I really don’t want to repeat it.
I’m super impressed at you for being on number 4. I hate pregnancy, so this will definitely be my last!

Just had a good dig around in the attic storage & found the last of the stuff I was looking for. Everything is at least together in one room now. And most of it is washed. Nappy washing, cleaning the pram chassis and packing the hospital bag tomorrow and we’re ready. I reckon that getting prepared early is a good way of making sure he doesn’t appear early 😂

@cattaxi I'm exactly the same worrying about going into labour & being pressured into a vaginal.Ive never gone into labour myself before (appart from my first) I was only 17!...And it was horrendous.They said I had a lip on my pelvis so he got stuck.Lost loads of blood.They made me push for an hour & I was only 6cm!!Which the doctor came in and went mental about.Rushed me off & put me under for a section...So it's always been csection for me...but I just imagine what if...what if I get far into labour without noticing and they tell me I'm so close I've got to push!!Theyve assured me they wouldnt.But you just dont know.I was offered a vbac with my last baby & I was horrified.Why would they risk it after I've had 2 sections now due to the first labour?And she said they have techniques now to push the lip out the way ect...I was just like no no no I'm not going through that again.3 day labour.Epidural that fell out and nobody noticed until I was having contraction upon contraction due to the hormone drip so I was in agony!Then hemmeraged due to them making me push too early...No way!..It still feels weird to me to say I'm on my 4th!...I'm only 29...I had my 2 eldest boys very young.I had 2 by the age of 19!...Had a big 7 years gap...And then had my 3rd boy who is now 2 & half..So this is 100% our last.The older ones are more independent...So il have 2 small ones together again...And no more!!x

Oh god @Cantthinkofanameeee - that sounds horrific! I’m not surprised you are afraid of labour. I guess all you can do is go in to hospital if you have any sign. The nice guidance is very clear about maternal choice. And after 3 sections, I’m sure they won’t push you into a vbac.
My waters went with ds, but no contractions. They induced me eventually & put me straight on the drip as they wanted him out quickly. I spent 24 hours on the drip - having at least 3 strong contractions in every 10 minutes right from the start. But ds was back to back, looking up & not hitting my cervix properly, so no chance in hell of him coming out. The midwives knew & I knew, it’s just a shame it took the dr so long to realise. By the time he was born I was exhausted & severely dehydrated as the drip triggered my hyperemesis and I vomited so much.

Bring a young mum must be great. I’m almost 40. Dh and I never really wanted kids, but we were afraid of regretting it, so along came ds 4 years ago. We’ll be a family of 5 with the teenager as well, and I’m loving the thought of a big family. It’s probably a good job I suffer with hyperemesis and wouldn’t get pregnant again if you paid me. Because I love babies & kids, and could easily have many more if it wasn’t for that part!

Thanks @Frizzy1986 @SRK16 @cattaxi, I'm also really happy to be investing in these pictures, once in a lifetime opportunity! DP thinks the expense is a bit over the top but we live in an expensive city and I know he will love the pictures when they're done. I plan on framing them and having them around the house so they'll be put to good use! My sister will also be coming, she lives abroad so it will be a nice experience for the both of us as she is super excited to be an aunt.
Am getting slightly freaked out that a few of you on here have given birth to their first at 37 weeks! I'm 36 weeks today and hoping to go as close to the due date as possible as not ready at all yet and have a wedding next Saturday when I'll be 37+2 and we're staying the night and wouldn't want any surprises!!!

@Cantthinkofanameeee I’m sure they’ll give you a C-section considering you’ve had so many before. I’d just go in at the first sign of anything.

@secretlyhermione i’ll Keep my fingers crossed that LO stays out until after the wedding

Feeling quite FED UP after seeing consultant!! When I saw the woman last time she said she would probably want to induce me... I go today see a man and he said I can go 13 DAYS over my due date WTF 🤦🏻‍♀️ because I am 'low risk' but yet I am not low risk enough to have a water birth I mean what a pr.ck 😡

RIP to my vagina, this baby will be 11LB I just know it 😢 taking DH next time to tell them straight!

My stomach measuring 4 weeks behind is distressing me right now :( they keep saying no issue but same happened with DS and turns out there was an issue and it was too late to address !

Afternoon all.
Got a call from the Day Assessment unit this morning, saying they were moving Monday’s scan!! DH was like they are not, especially after everything from fridays.
As it happens they have moved to Tuesday just before my consultant appointment, so means only one run, which is nice.
Anyone else suddenly got a blocked stuffy nose, was fine, then sneezed about 4 times in a row ( which was agony). Now can barely breathe.
Not done much today, but DH has washed the walls in our bedroom so painting can start tomorrow and tidied the garden.
Hi to all the newbies.

I hope your right @CarysRed..Oh god that sounds awful! @cattaxi the drips horrendous isnt it.And its definetely worse when you get so far & try for so long for it to end up in a csection...But at least with electives we know our dates & can plan for it...I'm grateful for that.But then you really can never be sure if the baby will stay put until then...I suffered with hyperemesis with this one (Its my first girl after 3 boys!) I totally feel your pain there.Mine luckily stopped at about 18 weeks...but the nausea in the morning came back around 30 weeks.And I've had the odd day where I've felt I could be sick...but havent done luckily...But it really is one of the worst things in the world isnt it...I was vomitting multiple times a day.Lost 10lbs & ended up in hospital at 9 weeks with ketones...If I'd had it that bad with my 3rd...who knows if there would of been a 4th lol!...Yeah I'm glad my children will be older when I'm getting older...I've defo done it all backwards...But it's worked out well in the end.Im the same & a big family all round the table at christmas & birthdays and the Family days out are all so worth the tough bits!You definetely made the right choice to go for it...but I'm sure you know that :)