Due October 2019 Thread 2 💙💖 babies are coming x

[HJWT]

Thread 2

@mrsnotnice yes I also did one and definitely started to feel a bit better afterwards. I think a lie down helped as well as I wasn't squishing my bump.
Do you think spending time lying down will prevent labour starting? I'm trying to stay seated upright or bouncing on my ball, but sometimes I'm only comfy led down, but want to encourage labour as much as I can.

I've also just eaten about 6 prunes (from a tin) in the hope that it'll help shift what's in there for more comfort and maybe give baby an easier exit.

@Em39ma do they go if you move or change position/activity or are they in a constant pattern no matter what? Def keep an eye on them as there's no reason why it couldn't be the start of something.

I cooked a chicken for tea to do a nice chicken salad, with croutons and mozzarella in. Dh has decided he would like takeaway instead so I've just munched all the chicken skin (it never tastes the same the next day) and then we'll be having that salad tomorrow.
Don't think pizza will do my bowels much good, but it might cheer me up.

@Frizzy1986 snap! I just can’t get comfy today. My bump, hips & fanjo are all really uncomfortable. My heads banging. Nothing is right about my mood either!

@MrsNotNice I had a similar thing last night - I was in so much pain. Then I had a poo and all was good! (As good as can be at this stage anyway!)
Glad I’m not the only one feeling emotional about the impact on the older child. I’m constantly teary today - thinking about how much his life will change. I don’t think it helps that he’s been ill this week & stuck to me. He’s slept with me most nights & his little face when he snuggles up to me is the sweetest.
I’m hoping that the fact that he’s just started full time school will make things a bit easier for him. My parents live super close & he goes there lots when I’m at work. We’re planning on giving him that option still. But not forcing it, so he doesn’t feel pushed out.
I don’t know if I’ll get him a present. He’s just had a birthday & loads of new stuff. I’ve a feeling that lots of family will bring him stuff too. Something to think about. He has chosen a comforter for the baby.
I think we are probably worrying about nothing and they will all get on ok. Kids are amazingly resilient & adjust well.
When the teenager moved in with us a year ago - ds didn’t bat an eyelid. He just totally accepted that she’s a part of our family. He never talks about home now without referencing her, me & dh. It’s lovely.

It does sound like somethings going on for you @em39ma. Fingers crossed she’s getting ready to say hello!

I need to get off the sofa & feed the clan. I’m so lazy that I started off roasting a chicken for a roast dinner - but lost motivation and will be serving it with oven chips! Oh well!

Yes they stopped after me moving around for a bit. Hoping it means she is actually ready to come out, as I know this makes the induction easier.
I always steal all the chicken skin, best bit.
I tell everyone chefs perks😂

Sorry for no response but Thankyou so much for the congratulations messages, unfortunately after the first night baby went down hill and got transferred to neonatal care, after a tough 12 days he is finally home and we couldn't be happier sorry if I have missed any births and hope it's not much longer for those still pregnant, I Havnt had chance to catch up yet!

Just took time to catch up with what everyone has going on and I literally feel the exact same as you all!!

Today I’ve been really emotional for no reason whatsoever, really fed up/uncomfortable and also worrying how 17 month old DD will cope when baby arrives. It’s as if we are all in sync with one another lol

Was at mat unit earlier with reduced movements and as always I ended up really embarrassed as he decided to do cartwheels once I was hooked up to the monitor. Been told it’s protocol to send me for a scan within the next 48 hrs due to having more than one episode within 2 weeks.

The only thing different today was that as well as leucocytes there was also blood in my urine even though the last sample came back no growth. Part of me secretly hopes this can in some way be a good sign (since bloody discharge normally means plug?) . Not had any tightening or cramps in the last couple of days so sitting here hoping for a miracle 🤷‍♀️

Hello again everyone. I was really interested to read about others who already have a child under 2. I’ve only got a week left to go (ELCS) but I’m really struggling with my 17 month old and very worried about how the arrival of the newborn will affect him. Like a PP I’m planning to carry the newborn in a sling (when I’ve recovered enough) so we can carry on our usual activities but I’m not sure how realistic that is. The toddler is very attached to me and I don’t want to damage our relationship because it’s so lovely. To those who have already got 2 or more children, how did you cope?

@Slinkyreptile Haha we posted at the same time. Yes to being extremely emotional and uncomfortable and in pain too.

@MrsNotNice My DD is 3 and only goes to nursery 1.5 days!! Iv got a swing for baby and sleepyhead so will probably be in that when ever he sleeps and I will make time for DD then! I don't sleep during the day anyway so I should be fine 😁

@2018isanewyear really sorry that things didn't stay on track, but the important thing is that all is now well and you are home. It won't make the slightest difference in the long run.

I feel lucky that dd is 5 (6 at Xmas) as she has a real understanding and I can explain everything to her once baby arrives. But she'll suffer as they'll be interested in different things as they grow up.
I wouldn't worry too much about how other siblings will cope. There's 2.5 yrs between me and my sister and 20 months between dh and his brother. None of us remember any of it.
It's tougher on the parents than the child as they won't remember it at all. God, dd doesn't remember what she did at school when I ask her at the end of the day (yet somehow she remembers the time I drove for 10 mins forgetting to strap her into her car seat. She was 2! I sat and cried in the car after wards and felt like the world's most awful mum and she loves reminding me of it)

@cattaxi DD is on a sweet ban atm! So think baby will bring her a kinder egg! She will love him forever 😂 I was going to get her a toy but like yours she has just had a birthday and struggling to make a christmas list as it is!!

@Frizzy1986 every time I eat a pineapple I manage to go the next day and empty myself out TMI but it is helpful to know!

Sorry but I did laugh at that last bit 😌 kids! They love to wind us up, at least nothing happened, when DD was little she fell of the changing unit 🤦🏻‍♀️ I was right there to but she head dived!! Will never forget it...

I have forgotten the strap the kids in before and there not mine!
There’s normally this scream from the back of Emma my straps, my straps.
My best oh god have I just done that moment is. I was cutting youngest nails when number 2 asked me something and I squeezed the clippers and took a chunk of his finger off!! Dad was there too and said don’t worry I did it to number 3. He said we have 4, I’m sure we can a replacement bit off one of the others.
They all like to remind me about it and the youngest I did it to is now 11.

How is everyone getting on with name choices? We’re struggling a bit, because our fave name would mean the baby will have the exact same initials as Ds. And we’re not sure if it will cause problems down the line. We were so set on ds’ name, that I kind of feel like everything is second best this time. Another thing making me emotional today 🙄
I started a thread in baby names and some of the responses are hilarious, if not a bit rude!

I’m right there with you on the chicken skin @em39ma. Yum!

@2018isanewyear Glad baby is ok and you are home again. Sorry you’ve had a tough time 💐

Interesting that I’m not the only one having the worries about an older child. I guess it doesn’t matter how old they are, we will worry about the impact. I’m sure they will all be ok.

@HarryHarry I think a sling is a good idea. I’m sure I’ll use one lots. What kind have you got? I found my soft stretchy much comfier than the ergobaby in the first few weeks post c-section.

@Frizzy1986 they have an astounding capacity for remembering the wrong things, don’t they. I forgot to shut the baby gate when ds was about 20 months and he took a big tumble on the stairs. Still brings it up now!

I almost left ds at a baby group once! When he was really tiny - I gave him to the group leader to watch while I popped to the loo before going home. It was outside the building & I got in my car & very nearly drove off without getting him back! Can you imagine if I did?! 😂

@cattaxi I’ve got a stretchy Ergobaby wrap (I think it’s called the Aura) as well as an Ergobaby 360 carrier.

Iv just done a bit of pumping mainly to help toughen my nipples which I also did with DD (I think thats why I never had any problems with my nips!) but also to see if it starts anything of as iv had a few cramps today 😬 I actually got colostrum... kind of grossed me out a bit 😂

Thank god I'm not the only one who is reminded about the stupid things I've done. Thankfully no harm done in the end.
Dh dropped dd down the stairs when she was about 8 months old. We'd taken the bannister rail off to decorate and he fell carrying her down. She slipped out of his fingers as he tried to save the fall and went from top to bottom. She was fine. I feel bad now that I didn't take her to A&E or anything. I called 111 and got an emergency gp appointment instead but they checked her and called the hospital to check with the paeds team what else they should be looking for.
At least it shows that none of us are perfect and no matter how hard you try, things still go wrong.

Might go and get some pineapple tomorrow @HJWT. Is it fresh or tinned? I have still been going every day but maybe I need it out sooner to relieve the discomfort in my bump.
I've not been great eating fruit the last week as I've felt so "meh"

@cattaxi hmmmm names. Don't get me started on it. Girl name, sorted, I think. I like it a lot, but dh has started to sound less enthusiastic about it. But if I ask him if he's changed his mind he says not. He's not great at sharing his thoughts and making a decision.
Boys, well we have struggled. My favourite name would mean both first and surname being the same letter. It makes me think of people like Harry Hill and Declan Donnelly and that they sound a bit "stage name" like. I'm also not sure that me and dh can pull off naming our child it and people might think wtf!
We have maybe 2 other possibilities so I expect we will go with one of those if it's a boy, but I'm not sure me or dh are fully convinced. Hoping when baby arrives, if it is a boy, the name will just become at one with the baby so it will be OK.

@HJWT I've been squeezing clear liquid out since about 16 weeks and have been able to get some drops of colostrum for about the past 6 weeks or so.
My boobs didn't fully dry up for about 2 years after I stopped bf though and if I squeezed a few drops of something would come out.

Can squeezing help start things? I'll sit here squeezing my nips all night if I have to 😂

Oh and I'm so panicked that once I've been the last to pop on this thread, one of you will have already used the names we have and even though I have no relationship to you in RL it'll feel weird, like the baby isn't specially named anymore. Is that stupid, especially considering the names are used by other people in the world so not unique.

@Frizzy1986 No don't be silly! Your Baby be here soon anyway I think ill be induced at 41 weeks so iv got another 4 to go yet 😂 so you will definitely beat me, at least you can let me know all the info about the hospital 😝

It is always fresh and I eat a whole small one x

I’ve been collecting colostrum since yesterday- it’s hard bloody work!

@cattaxi we’ve got an ergobaby omni 360 carrier, think I’m going to hit up the local sling libraries and see how the baby likes them before I invest in a proper sling, but I did like the look of the caboo in John Lewis that has rings on it so you don’t have to tie any knots.

Oh wow I didn't realise you can express before baby arrives. Stupid question but can the colostrum run out or will it keep producing as you are pregnant?

I got sent this today on a bounty email! Not sure if its any good x
@AngeIoMysterioso @cattaxi

@Ju5tAgirlstandinginfrontofaboy it keeps producing! You might not get any yet its different for everyone, I didn't get any with DD I don't remember even getting it when she was born! My milk came in within 48 hours xx

Interested in the pumping talk. I think i’ll look into colostrum collecting over the next few days. I keep worrying that ds wont be ready to be born when I have the section & that it will affect feeding. Maybe having some colostrum on standby will help ease that worry.

@HarryHarry @AngeIoMysterioso @HJWT I loved using the sling with ds. I had a stretchy karri-me to start, then an ergobaby & then a toddler connecta. I was still back carrying him on really long walks up until getting pregnant. The only proper purchase i’ve made this pregnancy has been a decent babywearing coat. I think it will be invaluable for the walk to school. Sling libraries are great for trying different types.

@Frizzy1986 if he’s a boy, use the name you love. I really don’t think that double initials are anything to worry about. I quite like alliteration.
We are using Welsh names, so I doubt we’ll use yours. But again, it doesn’t matter. I still keep in touch with a group from my mumsnet antenatal thread. Out of about 20 babies, two had the same name. No one was or is worried by it.

Ladies I can confirm that you can pump collustrum because I’m still breastfeeding my 20 months old and he is getting collustrum which doesn’t seem to be filling but I definately head if flowing and when I asked the midwife she said if doesn’t run out or harm.

Therefore, enjoy pumping.

I’m breastfeeding on demand still and I’m still not in labour at 39 weeks so I don’t know about nipple stimulation doing anything will see.

Seems like we are all on same boat with our mum guilt. Mum DS doesn’t go to nursery and is stuck to me but I will get him busy in playgroups.

I have no idea how some of you don’t sleep during the day for me I can doze off all day everyday and I have to fight not to sleep when baby sleeps . I have no idea how I will cope with two breastfeeders but let’s see!

I will try put them all to sleep with me I guess but I can envision me going crazy juggling both.

Good luck ladies! The prunes are a good idea I’m going to start having those along side the pineapples