Due October 2019 Thread 2 💙💖 babies are coming x

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Thread 2

@HJWT yeah, I've read that baby being engaged doesn't really mean much at all. I was told they tend to engage from 36 weeks, and are more likely not to engage until labour starts in subsequent births (guess that's a good thing as none of that pressure between your legs)
Mine is def not engaged yet although I don't think dd did either.

Had my flu jab today, they said I might feel more lethargic afterwards and some people feel slightly unwell, but obviously not from flu. I said I was hoping the injection would make my body less inhabitable and therefore baby will want to GET OUT. Can you tell how I've had enough of this. I thought I had some cramps earlier, but they went when I moved around so yet again nothing, and nothing will stop these damn BH which are so so so uncomfortable. I can't bear them anymore.

@slinkyreptile happy birthday! At least youre not going to share it with a baby.

@YorkshireIndie hope baby stays put until it works for you.
I'm def good for any time at all now.

I think my baby keeps dropping in and out of my pelvis as sometimes I feel like there’s a bowling ball between my legs and others (like today) I feel fine and can move easily.
We have a big family event next weekend and my mum is desperate for the baby to be here (partly to meet family but also because she is our childcare when I go into hospital and she’ll be on edge all weekend if the baby hasn’t come). Bless her, I know she is excited (as are my kids) but it’s almost like their excitement is making me impatient and fed up when actually I was feeling ok!
I’m also getting the ‘how are you?’ and ‘any news?’ phone calls. My bestie sent me this picture this morning - which made me think of this thread!
I’m planning on a bath, early night and relaxing my body as much as possible this week - and not focusing on my due date!!!

@Frizzy1986 thank you 😊

DH is convinced baby isn’t coming because I keep eating lovely food. I think his words were ‘screw that, I’m not coming out to drink milk when I’m getting the good stuff’ 😂

@slinkyreptile my dh is clueless. He still doesn't get that I'm constantly uncomfortable, but don't want to be made out to be an invalid. He has no thoughts on when baby will come. Although he does keep mentioning gaming tournaments that are coming up like that's going to make a difference.

I half can't believe that I'm actually going to go past my due date (Tuesday) even though I've been saying since the start that I would. I guess I was hoping that life would want to prove me wrong or something (reverse psychology haha)

I get on and off pressure down there and have been for a couple of weeks.
DH and DM think I’ve dropped a bit more again today. Be nice if she does decide to come on her own before Wednesday or her being nearly ready when the induce. As I here it makes the induction much easier.
@Slinkyreptile happy birthday.

@Frizzy1986 I feel like I have jinxed it but thank you

My mum was saying the same thing about just because the head is engaged does not mean that baby is coming soon. Felt like my cervix is getting a battering whilst I was walking the dogs today

@SunshineSophia LO is doing pretty well so far although nurse home visit the other day showed she’d only put on 30 grams so while her long sleeps are good I have to try and dream feed her to keep her food intake up. Nurse coming again Monday morning, we’re a “priority” since she’s such a tiny baby, but she’s otherwise healthy.

MIL isn’t very maternal (how she had 3 of her own I will never understand) so she’s very hands off. Only opts in for the occasional cuddle and maybe gives a bottle if my hands are full with the other two during dinner/bath time. She’s been hit with a DV bug we’ve had go through the house so she’s on quarantine away from the little ones (although my 2.5yr old was spewing last night so daresay she’s got it now, poor mite). SIL isn’t a baby person either so she just stays to herself playing computer games, I think I prefer this so any unwanted interference though lol

So many bottles lol I forgot how much washing up I end up accumulating..

Weirdly, I had a scan today and My due date was changed and I am now 39+2 pregnant instead of 38 wks. Based on measurements.

So panic is real!

How is everyone? I have had too much Chineese & think I might explode!
I also feel like i’ve been kicked in the fanjo! Like a bruising feeling. It’s probably pressure. Anyone else have it?

Welcome @bethD98

Happy birthday @Slinkyreptile 🎂 I hope you’ve had a great day.

I’ve been tearful the past few days @HJWT. I cried last night because I was worried we hadn’t given the name as much thought as we did ds’ name. And today I got really upset because I realised I may need to stay in hospital for more than 1 night & i’ve Never been away from ds for that long.

Love the meme @Figuringitout! I went overdue with ds & the messages were a nightmare. I got quite into sarcastic replies along the lines of “yes, baby arrived 3 weeks ago, but we’re keeping it secret 🤫”
My bump is so big that I am getting a lot of “still here” comments at the school gates etc. I just laugh and reply along the lines of having ages to go. People can be so rude!

Wow @MrsNotNice! I’ve never heard of a due date being changed so late on. That makes things a lot more imminent for you!

I just want too sleep.
Sorry I say this every night, really have had enough. Force myself to stay awake all day, in the hope it means I will hopefully sleep at night.

Morning ladies! Hope you're all having good weekends. I went to my cousin's wedding yesterday which was a lot of fun. I danced a lot and on the way back was Def having some mild period type pains/cramps up until I went to bee but they've petered off now. Know that this is fairly common and that I may still have a long way to go so not getting my hopes up to much!
Parents are coming today for the next few days so will be nice to have them here and will make the time pass quicker.
I slept pretty ok this eve with the usual bathroom breaks. The baby is as active as ever, he/she is showing no signs of slowing down!

@Em39ma maybe you need to change tact. Have lots of naps in the day, knowing that you'll be awake at night. At least then your body is getting the sleep and rest that it needs. Sorry its not much help but instead of fighting the nocturnal tenancies, maybe go with them.
Snoozes during the day and have a movie and snacks ready for when you wake up in the night.
The lack of sleep can't be doing you good especially with what is to come. Thinking of you as I know how rough it is.

My tummy is currently rumbling like an earthquake is going to hit. I keep forgetting to bring something upstairs in case. If I go downstairs now, the dog will then want to come upstairs so I'm trying to take my mind off it.
I wonder how loud it sounds to baby?!

@Em39ma my advise is just sleep when ever you can! Sometimes I sleep better in the day for some odd reason 🤷🏻‍♀️

@Frizzy1986 whats the plan for you then? Have you got a midwife app booked for next week, do you think she will give you a sweep x

@cattaxi I will be upset if I have to stay more than one night! The mum guilt will kick in, I am hoping DH can bring her at visiting time and we can all go home together! That would be lovely 😁 xx

@HJWT I have my 40 week appointment on Wednesday (40+1) as that's when the clinics are at my gp.
I wasn't told what to expect if I got to that appointment when I went for my last one. I keep reading a lot of posts about people who get advanced notice they'll be offered a sweep. It doesn't seem that people go to their app and are offered it then and there. I wonder if different trusts offer it at different times and if it is different for first/second babies?
I think I might ask for one though, although I know they can't do it unless cervix is low and starting to prepare for labour.
That'll probably be me, they'll check and be like, nothing is happening down there.

I think that's what's been frustrating by not having a constant midwife. You don't really build up that relationship and therefore each appointment is just about where you are now, how you have been before and not what the next steps would be if this or that happens.

I got a random Facebook message yesterday from one of the mums I met during nct with dd. We don't really talk. She is always the one who makes contact via the app and we never see each other. I'd say my replies tend to be short but polite as we are really more acquaintances. Anyway she messaged to say not long now. It's like what the hell. Can't people just leave you in peace. Yes I know it's not long and surely having had a child, you know how hard this stretch is and how frustrating the constant reminder that you haven't given birth yet is.

@Frizzy1986 ah well hopefully they will offer you a sweep! Thats a bit rude of her never understand people like that, not really your friend but want to be nosey in your life!!

I have midwife and a scan this week and then consultant again next week! Which i might give a miss he wasn't very helpful last time and I was sat waiting nearly an hour 🤔 xx

@Frizzy1986 - I also have midwife on Wednesday and she said she would give me a sweep. Although, last night I went to maternity triage as I had been concerned about the baby’s movements (all is fine) but the midwife there said she would usually offer a sweep but as baby was still high, there was no point.
Baby has been wiggling like crazy all night, but got no signs of labour. I think this baby is in it for the long haul. However, she did say that if movements reduced again then they would probably want to induce me - which I would like to avoid but obviously will do whatever is best for the baby.
However, the positive from last night was that she said the pools in the unit are very rarely all in use at the same time, so not to worry about not getting a water birth. Phew!

@HJWT my consultant for my tear was rubbish. I wasn't kept waiting but he literally didn't speak to me. I cried when I got into the car.
The next one was lovely though and she happily signed me off to the midwives when I said I def didn't want to opt for a CS. Although had they been on time with the appointment I could've had my growth scan then and there as I was measuring super tiny, instead of waiting a week to find out all was OK.

@figuringitout midwives have said absolutely nothing to me at all. Which means I worry they won't offer a sweep this week.
If baby doesn't want to come out and I end up induced then so be it, I'll have to deal, but I'd rather start trying to get things going earlier rather than later.
I'd have had a sweep at 38 weeks if I could have.
Good news about the pools! One of my questions for the birth unit was if they had ever had to turn anyone away to delivery suite as they were full and she said no, it had never happened. She did say that sometimes they have to move people to postnatal ward (instead of spending 24hrs in the birth unit) if another labouring mum is expected as they need to clean prior to arrival (and the pool takes the most cleaning)

I'm currently sat at the swimming pool watching dd and dh have a swim. I just can't manage the getting changed afterwards anymore which is rubbish. Plus, this close to due date, I don't want to cause a pool evacuation if my waters suddenly go.

Good afternoon! I’ve just had left over Chineese for lunch. Nap time next. Living the dream 🙂

@Em39ma - I second the advice about sleeping whenever you can. You need to be as rested as possible for the birth and newborn. Being over tired won’t do you any good at this stage.

@secretlyhermione - glad you had a good time! The pains sound promising - maybe you should try to dance the baby out!

@HJWT apparently they do discharge 24 hours after a section in my hospital, so hopefully I won’t need 2 nights in.
The mum guilt is the worst. I’m feeling super emotional the past few days & keep getting ready about how much the new baby will change things for ds. I’m sure he will love being a big brother. I just hope he likes sharing his parents! He’s adjusted so well to the teenager moving in, but she isn’t half as needy as a newborn!

@Frizzy1986 that’s such a strange message to send someone you’re not that close to. Being around pregnant women tends to bring out the worst in some people.

Hope everyone is ok today. Thinking if @SRK16 and hoping it all went well yesterday.

Omg I feel like I'm going to explode today. I am beyond uncomfortable. I struggled walking round pets at home to get the dog some treats and just can't stop my bump hurting/aching whatever position I'm in.
I'm in such a bad mood today

@Frizzy1986 I know how you feel!! Its like the baby is trying to escape today! Feet out my side bum out my front and I can feel all sorts of going ons in my vagina 🥴 I think he is trying to find his way out!!!

@HJWT @Frizzy1986 I’m the same. Been like that now about 3 weeks.
I do occasionally sleep in the day, but then have trouble falling asleep when I go up to bed, that’s why I have stopped. I’m then literally awake all night.

So yesterday I was genuinely struggling with my stomach feeling like it’s ripping apart. I was really unable to move or bend and it was horrendous. Sleep was awe full.

Then I woke up and I was able to... errr... tmi... do number 2 couple of times today. Not sure how I managed I think it might be the fruits I was eating or soup.. but it helped my bowels few times today..

Which completely helped deflate my stomach a bit and now I’m not conscious of any ripping skin. Feels better.

So I thought if any of you ladies are struggling maybe consider releasing some stool to give baby some space

keep getting ready about how much the new baby will change things for ds. I’m sure he will love being a big brother. I just hope he likes sharing his parents!

Same position, I’m very emotional about it. How are you planning to cope with giving him the attention he needs with a newborn?

I already got him the “coming home” present from baby. I’m trying to convince myself I will keep newborn in the wrap and give ds one on one time. DH will be spending time with him while on paternity.

I’ve signed him up to all those activities that I can think of so he can have fun everyday while I’m working around my newborn.

But he is only 20 months and I’m not sure I will have energy for all of this. I think all I’m going to want to do is cuddle newborn and sleep.

I hope I manage!

What’s everyone’s plans for their older child? How old are they?

So since 2 I’ve been getting tightenings every 10 minutes. But only down my right hand side?
Be nice if can get herself ready before Wednesday. My first so not sure if I’m feeling it or not

Sounds exciting @Em39ma
Have you checked in with triage to see what they think?