March Babies #3

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Just looking for some advice really and was wondering if anyone else here has the same... I'm 15 weeks now but am really struggling to get anything do e other than work... I have crohn's disease so fatigue is something that I'm used too but this is on another level.... no interest in anything, walking the dogs, yoga anything unless it involves the sofa really.
I suffer with anxiety and depression and am starting to feel like a failure and lazy in pregnancy this is my 1st and I'm 39 not planned but very wanted....
I was very active before so I know that by doing nothing is a huge shock to my system ...
Thanks for any help anyone can give!

@misspepper8 my opinion would be to stick with it as its in your best interest. @brookelopez if you're asking for opinions I personally would let him as its his baby too but on the same argument he has to pay for his baby too. Hope you figure it out x

@avocadoincident Yup.. She said today if I had given birth vaginally despite having thyroid problems could of gone midwife led (and before I was only high risk when my waters had gone and I was induced, they told me I peed myself when I had a slow leak).

It is due to the scar hemorrhaging and them needing a consultant then and there if this happens. Sucks doesn't it, I know ladies who've had 1 emergency section and 2 vbacs and still told no.

@Jesskir89 Ah yeah I know this really, I just had an awful time as a child and giving birth with DS. I don't do well, I just wanted something that felt a bit more like home x

@avocadoincident Sorry that's to say it's any c-section, emergency or elective x

@mispepper8
You could ask to speak with the supervisor of midwives about the birth centre.
Labour ward normally recommended as can have continuous monitoring which may detect uterine rupture earlier. Think the risk is about 1% if I remember correctly.

@Cariad80 take it easy! Hopefully you’ll start to feel better soon.

@Jesskir89 we went backwards and forwards for a bit via text, he said he's worried about being shut out from the baby's life, and I said I'm worried about receiving no help from him towards costs.
I then said one of us needs to show some trust, so I sent him the 3d scan pic and told him we were having a boy. he seems genuinely so happy about it and probably more involved.
he then sent me £70 to cover half of what I have spent recently on clothes, bottles and a scan.
I agreed he can come to scans before he sent me the money, just so it was clear it's not a 'blackmail' kind of thing.

im hoping it continues this way. I don't need his emotional support, I have a lot of friends and family, I just need to know i can buy what I need and that half of the cost is covered and I won't be left short.

@MunchyMunchkin I don't know how much more to push it without becoming a nuisance :(

Dr checked when I was leaving and said providing pregnancy was all OK, I could potentially use pool. I feel many ladies go through this, maybe if this was DC3 after a vbac I would prehaps have more of a chance?

It sucks but I'm still aware this is more about baby than me. I'll just have to prepare for help with anxiety attacks if I get them again x

@Cariad80 hi lovely, I think it all sounds normal your body is making a whole new human no wonder we are exhausted.
I'm 39 too and my first pregnancy was when I was 19! There's a massive difference in my energy levels now I'm 39, I'm done in this time.

So give yourself a break and embrace that sofa. If your energy levels go up a little as the pregnancy goes on, you could aim to do one 'extra' thing a day as a small challenge, but only if it makes you feel better.

What sort of work do you do?

@MissPepper8 have you been able to visit the consultant led ward? It may help you with feeling anxious if you know what to expect.

What aspects of the midwife led unit were you particularly hoping for? Maybe you could incorporate them into your room on the consultants led ward?

I had planned a water birth with my second but as I was two weeks late and induced so there wasn't one on my ward which was a shock to me but everything was still ok.

Although there were consultants in charge on this ward I only briefly saw one once when she popped in to say hello. The rest of the time were wonderful midwives so it felt very relaxed and caring and 'midwife led'.

All isn't lost for you, you have time to plan how you want it within the parameters of what's safe for you and the baby.

@Cariad80 Sorry you are going through such a rubbish time. As another pp has said, I think you have to go with what your body is clearly telling you to do, i.e. rest! I am 14+4 and also only have the energy for work right now. Literally feel no motivation whatsoever to do ANYTHING! I had my first sick day from my job yesterday after catching a cold from one of the kids and felt so guilty! I'd never judge another pregnant woman for being off and protecting herself/resting but I give myself such a hard time, thinking I need to be doing all sorts to prove I'm some kind of super woman! "I'm not ill, I'm pregnant" mentality. Silly, really! You have a lot going on with your Crohn's as well as growing a baby, so you just do what you need to do. Hopefully you have a supportive DP and work? xx

@brookelopez it's not blackmail he should support you financially you both made this baby so shared responsibility :) it sounds like he's realising that so fingers crossed it continues

@avocadoincident Thank you 😊, I haven't no, basically my hospital labour wards been closed for inquests and I had a choice between two. It looks like ive made my choice now so I will ask next week if i can go see it.

I struggle with anything that's hospital (sounds dumb), I don't like needles.. Or fuss just to be left alone. My sister gave birth in Midwife led unit, it was dark, lovely and relaxing and more like home. When I had DS I was stuck on a bed, monitor on and I had to wee on a pot on a stool.. It wasn't a nice experience. I just want to feel like I'm still at home and relaxed :).

I had a bad experience with DS birth, several mistakes were made and ended in my section. I guess it's a mental thing as well to try to avoid it.

@MunchyMunchkin thank you!

@avocadoincident @emmaclare83 Thank you both, I am starting to see that there is a lot worse things to be feeling than wanting the sofa all of the time!! I'm lucky enough to work from home but start at 6am so it's not helping but I have found that I'm wearing my PJ's more and more which is helping!! Job is stressful though but work are supportive DH is wonderful and I am super lucky to have him! Great advice about trying to do one thing extra a day... Thanks again it's nice to hear that it's ok to feel like crap... it's a shame that no matter what we do as women we seem to find the 'I should be better' button xx

Hi Ladies
I've been abit quiet as been away on holiday. Came home to my screening results letter. Down syndrome risk has come back at 1 in 63000, so I'm really pleased and relieved. Hope everyone else has received reassuring results

@mockingjay27 I got 1 in 100000. Came on the app on Friday morning. As much as I miss the green book that is so handy.

Ah I just had my first person try and impart there pregnancy knowledge to me. I really don't give off the impression that I want it. I made spinach and ricotta tortellini for tea with a bit of feta cheese. All pasteurised. But of course I have to be told to be careful because I couldn't possibly check these things for myself 🙃

@Yvonne1988 great results. I've started getting it now I'm showing abit. I had a coffee at weekend and a friend commented "oh you having caffeine, I didn't have any when I was pregnant" as if I'm not aware it needs to be restricted.

@mockingjay27 this is why I don't have friends because I can't be bothered with people telling me things haha. They didn't seem too impressed when I said actually its ok cos it's pasteurised

Does anybody know any mosquito repellent that is safe to use during pregnancy? I go on holiday in a few days & I really don't want to be covered in annoying bites 😣

If anyone is interested in the nub theory..
This was our 12 week scan & we've just found out we're having a girl! 🎀

I have mum friends who say things like "enjoy it while it lasts" each time they find out I've had a nap or lie in.
do babies keep you awake or something?

(nc I was brookelopez)

@maria94 congratulations that's fab x

Who's gonna be in charge of a new thread ladies? I'm useless with technology

@maria94 Avon skin so soft spray? Should be ok to use.
And it's that's a girl then mine must be a boy 🙈