Pregnancy after Miscarriage

[sadtoday21]

Starting a new thread for all of us that find ourselves pregnant again after one or more heartbreaking losses. I know it is really hard to join a pregnancy thread after miscarriage and we all fear the worst will happen again, but let's go on this journey together and hold hands along the way.

This is a safe place for all the ladies on the first pregnancy missed miscarriage thread and for any newcomers who want to join - you are all most welcome! All of the ladies on here have suffered one or more miscarriages and most of us have had particularly difficult losses, such as mmc and other complications. You don't need to be pregnant again to join - you are also most welcome if you have had a loss and are trying again. But we will be sharing scan photos and details of the new pregnancies, in case anyone might find that to be triggering.

Tagging @Catconfusion @Amanda81 @Kiki061190 @3204ECL @Babypending @Ginmonkey84 @MrsMGE and please add anyone else I may have left off. Without further ado, let's start the roll call.

About me: Age 31, trying for my first baby. Previous mmc at 12 weeks in February (hb stopped at 9+4), this turned out to be a partial molar pregnancy and I was monitored by CX hospital for three months. CP in March.

Now 9 weeks, EDD in March, if I make it that long. Oscillating between hope and extreme anxiety every day!

Thanks @sadtoday21 I completely agree we’re opposite sides of the same issue. The only difference I can think of is I’m less emotional which is strange because I’ve been through two miscarriages. It was January last time so bleak weather so stuck in feeling pretty ill. I also got a much stronger positive much earlier so it probably implanted earlier. I’m not really sure if those details mean anything really because other than that I feel the same. The intensity of the nausea is very similar. The good thing is I know what to do so I’m not feeling so desperate this time. I do however have a feeling this is how it’s going to be. It’s getting worse each day which is fine as long as we get good news.

Such good news you’re feeling some symptoms today. I’m feeling cold all the time too. I’m sitting in the sun with a jumper on at the moment. Good you’re feeling the scan getting closer too. I was feeling hungry but now everything tastes off so struggling a bit with food. DH is amazing though. He knows just what to make me so I’m sure he’ll do me a nice lunch when he’s home. You’re right, it’s completely out of your control but all signs look good! Xx

@BabyPending My heart is breaking for you! I know it seems like it won’t get better but I promise you it will! We are here to support you ♥️ There are lots of success stories of conception with one working tube. I know it probably seems like the last thing on your mind now but it can and will happen for you! Sending you lots of love ♥️

@sadtoday21 Fatigue is all I’m feeling just now. I’ll be 10 weeks when I go to see the midwife and 12 weeks when I go for a scan. I kind of have to give my work my scan dates as I finish up next week for 2 weeks and my booking app will be the week I return to work so need to give them some notice 😂 I agree with you about feeling cold! I have been wearing jumpers and layers for the past week! It’s only August!!!!

Hi everyone glad to see so many success stories I'm currently in my tww I'm about 6 dpo and waiting is driving me insane. I think I'll test on Saturday at 9 dpo.
A little about me - age 28, ttc #1, have had 2 mc one in April at 7 weeks and one beginning of July at around 6 weeks.

I've read so much about people taking mini-aspirin and I'm panicking incase I should take some. Can I ask if anyone has taken it when pg after mc?

Hi @FirstTimeMama91 I'm so sorry for your losses and I really hope you get your BFP this month!! The TWW is so rough, I remember all too well. Please do not take aspirin unless your doctor has advised you to do so - this is not healthy unless you have a specific problem that can be detected by running some simple tests. Best of luck!

I’m so sorry @BabyPending I’ve been thinking of you, my heart breaks for you that’s so unfair. Take it one day at a time x x

Glad things are going well @3204ECL

I’m sorry @Guest1233 and @nicola18737 have you called gp about having a scan? I had similar with my first pregnancy but it worked out in the end x

@bananamonkey @Kiki061190 @Catconfusion

Thank you for your thoughts and kind words. I went for a scan today expecting the worse and theres now a heartbeat!! They don't know why I'm having brown bleeding but it doesn't seem to be related to my little baby

That’s great @nicola18737 you must be so relieved

@bananamonkey I am! I just wish this brown bleeding would stop then I could relax

That's great @nicola18737, I'm so happy for you! Fx the brown bleeding stops soon.

How are you doing these days @bananamonkey?

@sadtoday21 thank you. I've just been to the loo and its bright red now. This is so hard.

Can't keep up at the minute (feel bad about this and am very sorry)...I'm just hectic and am trying to keep to a promise to myself about downtime from screens etc...anyway...

@sadtoday21 - my first trimester symptoms faded from around 11 weeks, it was a gradual fade and not overnight (which is what happened on the first MC, the MMC). However, between week 9 and 11 my Symptoms would come and go which would totally wreck my head so can completely sympathies with how you are feeling. Stay strong 💪🏻 you are almost at the 12 week mark!

Wow @3204ECL - you are almost at the half way mark and you are going to find out if it's pink or blue...amazing! As soon as you find out (I think) you get a stronger bond with the little one.

So sorry to hear that the sickness is so bad @Catconfusion - totally not fair. As your GP is super amazing, they may be able to prescribe you something if it gets too bad.

Well done on booking in @Kiki061190

So sorry about the ectopic @BabyPending - just devastating. I haven't experienced an ectopic before but have read many ladies stories on MN who have gone on to have successful pregnancies. I hope you treatment and the healing process is not too discomforting. Take good care of yourself.

The days are flying by at the minute, I think that's because I am so busy. Hopefully once September arrives time will start to slow down a little as we have a tonne of stuff to do in the house. I'm 21+5 today. Last night I got my first proper boot in my stomach! I also popped over the weekend and look pregnant (rather than just had a big meal). Movement before now has been quite low down, but as my belly has popped the movement has moved upwards on to my middle abdomen. My arm has finally stopped hurting from the whooping cough jab also, which is a relief as I was getting pains in my other shoulder for over- compensating in moving around and doing things. Not much else going on. My SIL describes this as the 'boring' phase as not much happens. I couldn't disagree more (obvs didn't say that to her). I love feeling how the movements of her are getting stronger and how my bump is forming. I relate the pregnancy bump almost like when you first go through puberty and your body changes so much for the first time in your life. All so new!

Sorry if my post is a little garbled...love and hugs to all xxx

Thank you so much everyone for your kind words and wishes. I am recovering well but now in a whole new world of different worries! I have a family member and friend giving birth imminently, I'm going to focus on them and give my body a break for a while. I think I'm rushing things too much and I need to let me body heal, especially this time round.

I hope to be back on this thread in the future with you all nearing your due dates ❤️ xx

@BabyPending even after all you have been through, your positivity still inspires me! It's amazing that you would feel able to be there for your family member and friend at a time like this. All my thoughts are with you and I know you will be back here when the time is right. We are here for you no matter what Xxx.

@Amanda81 aww I loved reading your post, as always! It's great to hear about what to possibly expect later on, if I get that far. Totally understand the need for screen detox, I keep promising myself to stay off google and MN so that I can stop worrying about the baby and focus on work for the next week or so, but then I end up right back on here! I definitely need to limit my obsessing time. Really glad to hear you are doing so well and starting to feel kicking! That is amazing!

@nicola18737 I'm really sorry to hear that. I would suggest giving your EPAU another call tomorrow to let them know if it continues. Hoping for a good outcome for you!

@Catconfusion hope you managed to get some food down today and to rest! I'm in bed already at 7.00 pm...so so tired!

@sadtoday21 I got a little food down but everything tastes off. I won’t be far behind you. Baby making is a tiring business.

Great to hear from you @Amanda81 and fantastic news about your tummy popping. It must be lovely feeling the movement. My doctor preemptively prescribed anti sickness medication but I’m saving it for when I’m a bit further along as there are some very small risks. Hoping I won’t need it.

@nicola18737 I’m so sorry that must be so confusing and distressing for you. I hope it stops!

Love and hugs to you all! Xx

@Guest1233 how did your scan go? I’ve also had loads of brown bleeding.

Wishing you strength @BabyPending x

Definitely give them a call again tomorrow @nicola18737 if it hasn’t eased up.

Thanks for asking @sadtoday21 I’m ok, taking it one day at a time which is helping as time is moving at a glacial pace. The perils of testing early! Got a text from the gp today to say my antiphospholids test came back normal and wishing me well so that was nice.

Am going camping this weekend and there is talk of cocktail making so will need to be sneaky about that. Hope everyone has nice long weekend plans or some lovely rest ahead x

@bananamonkey and @sadtoday21, I don't know whether to ring them as I think they'll just say to do nothing unless it gets heavy enough that I am changing a pad every half hour. Thats what they said when I rang about the brown blood then the clots. I don't want them to get fed up of me

@sadtoday21 I am finding MN particularly challenging at the minute as for every success story you have a negative story. Can't be helped I guess (nature of the forum), but when I am working so hard on staying positive I need to restrict my time on threads where there are some very sad outcomes. My anxiety seems to be still lurking and is triggered by the sad stories of women losing their babies close to giving birth. I have found that by limiting my screen time on forums such as MN and staying away from google my anxiety has improved massively. It's great to hear how well you are doing and how far you have come...I have a good feeling for you and really hope this is the one for you. When would your due date be based upon your most recent scan? Xx

I hear you @Amanda81 and I completely agree. The support on here is immense, especially in our little group but there is a lot of sadness too. It does make staying positive tricky. Bad things keep happening to lovely people. It makes the bad stuff feel so much more possible than it probably is. I think it’s healthy to have breaks and take the focus away from pregnancy loss related groups for spells.

I had a massive wobble yesterday as it was the due date of our first pregnancy and this baby was 6 plus 1 yesterday which is when we lost the first one. Im just holding tight now until we have our scan next week. I feel a bit less anxious today than yesterday but it’s been a surprise as I’ve been pretty positive so far. I think I’m going to have a break from MN until we know more about this pregnancy. I’ll hopefully be back with some good news next week! Xx

I really understand what you are saying @Amanda81 and @Catconfusion, I do often find it helpful to step away from MN for a short time when I'm feeling particularly stressed out. Sometimes this is easier said than done! The really large threads in particular can be difficult because there are so many ladies and so many issues. I want to be informed about what can go wrong, but not dwell on it too much. I'm also not on any other social networking sites - it's just not really my thing - so I do like to disconnect sometimes and focus on other things that are not baby related. I actually did this right before I got my BFP when I was quite low and I spent the whole week just relaxing and not thinking about TTC. This is easier done with wine haha! I think I have to find a new relaxing pregnancy thing that I can do to focus my energy elsewhere, at least until the scan next week.

When is your scan next week @Catconfusion? Mine is on Friday - we can hold hands together! Hope it will be ok for both of us and that is the last thing I will say about it for now, in the spirit of both of us trying to relax and focus on other things in the meantime! Xxx

I find that this group is helpful @sadtoday21 and @Catconfusion - doesn't create any anxiety whatsoever. However on the other thread (you know the one) there was a post recently where the lady lost her baby a day before her due date because of the cord. This scared me so much and of course is very rare, and pure hell for her and a family...but gosh it just put me in to a bit of spiral. Since then you may have noticed my absence on that thread.

I know what you mean about the anniversary dates. I had my 8 week scan on my first due date (May 21st). It was hard to go to the scan, you know just in case, but we received good news and it made the day more positive. I remember some very kind words from the both of you during this and it helped me through it. Try to remember that the dates that we pass (which are important to us) are all arbitrary. They have significance, but actually what do they mean? It would be very rare for things to go wrong at the very same time, and the likelihood is that things will be perfect...different egg and different sperm.

Stay positive (both of you) and keep focusing on seeing your babies arrive next year xxx

I know what you mean @Amanda81 and I feel exactly the same way. Our little group has been through a lot together right from the beginning of this journey and it just feels like a safe, uplifting place. I was struggling a bit when trying to decide about starting this thread over here, but ultimately I just missed our group and needed a place to talk about pregnancy issues openly.

I personally have learned a lot from you and it does really give me hope to follow your journey, even though I know its been difficult and full of anxiety too. I remember giving you that advice about your 8 week scan and now you have to give it back to me! I love that :). Sometimes it just helps to be reminded to look forward, not back. Xxx

Hi ladies!

How are we?

I completely understand what you are saying about MN being both a great source of support and perhaps not the best when it comes to anxiety!

I am in a phase of extreme fatigue and maybe slight nausea. I definitely don’t feel like I’m going to be sick but I have been finding myself feeling queasy throughout the day at work which has been horrendous!!!

Good morning ladies, so I have some news.

EPAU called yesterday and booked me in for today for my reassurance scan due to the bank holiday. I’d been up since 3am with the sickness and worrying about what my awful stomach might be doing to the pregnancy, even though I know it’s unlikely to affect it.

Anyway we got very good news. Baby is measuring 6 plus 3 and I thought 6 plus 4 so pretty much bang on. We also saw the heartbeat which is strong regular and normal. The baby is double the size our first baby got to so all signs are looking very good. To say I’m relieved is an understatement. We didn’t see the heartbeat the first time round so it was a very emotional moment. The sonographer was lovely and has booked us in for another scan in two weeks time.

I hope you’re all doing well and enjoying the lovely weather! Xx