Pregnancy after Miscarriage

[sadtoday21]

Starting a new thread for all of us that find ourselves pregnant again after one or more heartbreaking losses. I know it is really hard to join a pregnancy thread after miscarriage and we all fear the worst will happen again, but let's go on this journey together and hold hands along the way.

This is a safe place for all the ladies on the first pregnancy missed miscarriage thread and for any newcomers who want to join - you are all most welcome! All of the ladies on here have suffered one or more miscarriages and most of us have had particularly difficult losses, such as mmc and other complications. You don't need to be pregnant again to join - you are also most welcome if you have had a loss and are trying again. But we will be sharing scan photos and details of the new pregnancies, in case anyone might find that to be triggering.

Tagging @Catconfusion @Amanda81 @Kiki061190 @3204ECL @Babypending @Ginmonkey84 @MrsMGE and please add anyone else I may have left off. Without further ado, let's start the roll call.

About me: Age 31, trying for my first baby. Previous mmc at 12 weeks in February (hb stopped at 9+4), this turned out to be a partial molar pregnancy and I was monitored by CX hospital for three months. CP in March.

Now 9 weeks, EDD in March, if I make it that long. Oscillating between hope and extreme anxiety every day!

@EPSpartyof3 it sounds like you have a good plan. Sometimes the scans can be too stressful. We had one at 6 plus 3 and although it was lovely to see the heartbeat, the 8 plus 5 one gave much more reassurance. Hopefully in the meantime you can keep busy. Try not to worry about symptoms, I know that's hard! Xx

@Kiki061190 the scan is on Saturday. We're nervous band excited all at the same time. Not long now. 4 sleeps should hopefully fly. Xx

@Kiki061190 thank you I didn't want to go back and read the 700 threads lol - what is your story ?

@Catconfusion Thank you- it is hard how far are you? Ugh it is so hard to just sit and wait and not know- not worry be happy but not think too much -

@EPSpartyof3 yes it's so tough and some days will be harder than others. The only way is through it. Just focus on getting to the next milestone.

I'm coming up to 15 weeks now. Goodness knows how I got here but am very pleased I am. I've had a tough road with hyperemesis and still struggling with sickness to some extent but pleased baby is doing well. I'm 40 and this is my first pregnancy. We had a mmc and another early loss straight after earlier in the year not long after we got married. It's hard after loss but It seems most losses are out of our hands so there's not much we can do apart from get through each day and look after ourselves. I really hope this is it for you! Xx

So ladies the scan went brilliantly. EPAU was a little quiet so the sonographer had a little play and we saw baby from all angles. It's grown huge and is now at the 10cm mark. We also saw it's little face. She wouldn't comment on the sex. At first I thought a girl but now I'm wondering if it's a boy. I can't compliment the EPAU at our hospital enough. Our sonographer gave us a big hug and seems genuinely sad she wouldn't see us again as we've been discharged. She begged us to bring baby in too when he/she is here. I'm now feeling genuinely excited about this pregnancy.

I hope you're all doing ok today. Thinking of you @Kiki061190 and I'm sure all the worry will be worth it on Monday. Xx

Awww @Catconfusion I’m absolutely delighted for you! Everything is going amazing for you ♥️ How have you been feeling?

I’m so nervous about Monday. I think I will also allow myself to be excited if the scan goes well. I’m so nervous as I was 11+6 at the last scan and feel like I was still in the danger zone! Fingers crossed at 14+3 baby is still in there and is ok!

@Catconfusion great news, congrats!!! Very happy you had time with baby.

I’m also very nervous for Monday, when I’ll be 19+4. The scanxiety never ends!

Arh thank you @Kiki061190 My tummy is still a bit sore from the stomach bug but generally the sickness has improved.

I can completely appreciate you're nervous. 11 6 is pretty much 12 weeks so still highly unlikely anything has gone wrong. After 9 weeks with a healthy heart beat the odds go down considerably. It's so unfair mmc gives us all the extra anxiety. Such a shame you've had the extra wait but not long now! Just keep as busy as you can! Xx

Thanks @sadtoday. How are you feeling? Any movements yet? I had a chat with the sonographer today who said my placenta in anterior. She said it will probably be well after 20 weeks until I feel movement. Also it might come at the sides rather than the front. Xx

Interesting @Catconfusion, it seems that anterior placenta is very common! I thought I felt some twitching/muscle spasm type of thing two nights ago, but nothing since then so not sure whether I just imagined it. Had a scare this morning because I thought maybe I've been overdosing on prenatal vitamins accidentally, but I think I'm just nervous for Monday. Are you going to find out the gender soon?

@EPSpartyof3 I can relate! I miscarried in May at just under 6wks. I was full of symptoms, sore breasts, sickness, strange urges to eat bananas.... hate fruit normally?! I’m now pregnant again (5weeks) but no symptoms 🤯 I’m trying to stay calm but it’s playing on my mind. I did have symptoms last week, sickness and night sweats but now nothing. I know all pregnancy’s are different so I’m sure I’m just being a worry wart but it’s hard. I’m flying to Corfu today for my birthday so I’m hoping the break will give me time to relax. Congratulations! Xxx

@Thatgirl123 congrats on your pregnancy ! I’m in the same position of you!! Almost 5 weeks and soooo nervous all the time - happy but scared ! I had a MMC in July which was my first ...

@EPSpartyof3 I’m now 15 weeks tomorrow! Had 4 scans and baby is very healthy and I’m so so in love

@Thatgirl123 awww sooo happy for you congrats!! Hope and pray every day thag I get there !!🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️*@TRex28* aww it’s nice to know other people are in the same position and share the same exact fears it’s just so crazy because my first pregnancy was our first and I was 35 and I was just so excited I went in for a six week scan and saw a heartbeat my progesterone was a little bit low I was on pills and then went back to the eight week and I had a missed miscarriage and it was just shy of three-ish my more months ago so to say were excited is beyond anything but I’m just so nervous now you know I don’t know what to think I feel like if things are great that’ll be great but I won’t be OK until at least 12 or 14 weeks and if they’re not they’re not and then will have to deal with it when it comes but I just feel so on the fence and it’s so hard because my symptoms are almost nothing besides being hungry being tired and a little bit dizzy and nauseous on and off other than that my boobs don’t hurt like at all - scary 😣🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

@sadtoday21 I've had moments where I've wondered if I've double dosed. As you say probably just distracted by the scan. Good luck tomorrow. It's amazing you've reached this huge milestone. I'm sure you'll feel better after tomorrow. I'm not sure about a gender scan yet. The 20 week one is in 5 weeks. My midwife appointment is next week. I'm thinking it might be nice to wait it out. I'm feeling less anxious now. Maybe I'll see how I am in a couple of weeks. It's £55 for a gender scan near me so not too expensive but also money we could spend on the baby. I'm not gonna lie it's driving me a little crazy not knowing Xx

@Catconfusion I'm so glad you are feeling more relaxed now and thinking about waiting it out. Have you heard the hb yet? It's also a really amazing milestone for you to look forward to next week. I couldn't wait at all for the gender scan, I booked it as early as the private clinic would allow! 55 pounds is a really good price too, mine was 65. Now they are running scans near me for 40 pounds, so its even more tempting.

Thanks for the well wishes on my scan tomorrow! Only one more sleep to go now. It's going to be a long day/night, but hope we get through it tomorrow alright. Thinking of you too @Kiki061190!

@sadtoday21 Virtual hand hold! What time is your scan?

@Kiki061190 its at 1300. How about you? Xxx

@sadtoday21 no we've only seen the heartbeat. Looking forward to hearing it.

Good luck again to you and @Kiki061190 I hope you've both got some relaxation in this weekend! X

@sadtoday21 Mines is at 9:10am so heading there before work tomorrow. Hoping all is ok! Good luck for tomorrow, I know you’re going to be just fine ♥️

@Catconfusion Thank you so much ♥️ I appreciate all the support you’ve given me! You have been a star 🌟

No problem @Kiki061190 thank you for your support too! Thinking of you today. Not long now! Xx

One last good luck @sadtoday21 can't wait for an update. I've got a good feeling it will all be just fine! Xx

Good luck for your scans today @sadtoday21 and @Kiki061190 x x

Hey ladies! Just out my scan. Baby was really awkward again! They took some time to get measurements but I have an official due date now of April 16th. I’m now measuring 14+4 so little one is growing at the right rate. Lady said all is how she would expect just now and any defects should be picked up at 20 week scan if there is any. I’m going back tomorrow for blood tests for the downs as I’m past the cut off now for the neck fold measurements.

@sadtoday21 Thinking if you today and sending hugs! ♥️

@Kiki061190 yay, looking brilliant! Such a lovely picture of little one. It must be a relief. So your due rate is 4 days after mine. It's so bizarre how us and @bananamonkey are all so close. Lovely though! There's going to be lots of happy news on this thread. Xxx

Fantasists scan results @Catconfusion and @Kiki061190 - makes me very happy to hear such positive news. Less than 2 hours to wait now @sadtoday21 - looking forward to hearing your good news too xx

Congrats @Kiki061190 on great scan results!! That's amazing and hope your blood tests go well Xxx

Thanks @Amanda81*@Catconfusion @bananamonkey* @Kiki061190 for all your well wishes! The baby is still alive, heart was beating, no abnormalities found at the scan. I want to feel relieved, but my sonographer was so so horrible that I just left with this sick feeling inside. She was so cruel, it was in the same scan room again as my 12 week MMC, and when I mentioned this she just looked at me and didn't say anything. She was really quiet the whole time, didn't tell us anything she was doing or checking, refused to answer any of my questions about baby's health, and generally just left me feeling very uncertain that baby was ok. All she said at the end was "it's normal" and "it's a boy." Then she refused to print us any photos because she said we didn't pay in advance (I explained I'm too afraid to buy them beforehand but I always pay afterwards), so wouldn't give us any until I went to the machine and paid 10 pounds and then when I came back she handed me two grainy photos that don't even show the baby at all. The image on the screen was really terrible in the room we were in and I just felt that I couldn't see baby at all, even though sometimes I could see some wiggling, I just couldn't make anything out and he looked more indistinct than at my 16 week scan. And when I mentioned I'm worried about lack of movement at this stage, the sonographer again just ignored me completely. I'm so upset, I was looking forward to this day for so long and this terrible biddy just ruined everything with her negative attitude, brashness, and unkindness. Also the scan was so rushed and I'm not sure she thoroughly checked everything at all. Even DH commented that he had no idea what just happened - our 12 week scan was more in-depth than this one! We were going to go out and celebrate after if all was well, but just left confused and upset and wanting to go straight home. I'm going to write an e-mail of compliant, but I doubt the hospital will do anything about it. Now we think we need to pay for a private scan to actually see the baby again, but we don't really have the money for this and that's stressful too. Sorry, I am really happy that baby is ok, but i just don't feel reassured and it was such a stressful time waiting for the scan without getting the reassurance I needed from it.