Christmas babies

[Mamabear12]

Just found out I’m expected a Christmas baby, well due 23 December according to online, which has been accurate in the past give or take a day! I know my cycle etc. Excited and nervous. Had some minor spotting the past few days, but AF never showed so took a test today and it was positive!

Anyone else due within days of Xmas? Might take a few days for people to find out if they are expecting a xmas baby. But thought I would start the thread now.

I’ve been on a weight loss kick since last summer, in total I’ve lost around 23lbs and taken my BMI from 24.9 to 21.3 as I was heavier than I was comfortable with and wanted to be a healthy weight before getting pregnant to reduce risks, however since finding out about the pregnancy a fortnight ago I’ve been absolutely gorging, nonstop snacks and huge meals and not remotely taking any notice of calories or eating well, I very hesitantly stepped on the scale this morning terrified I’d gained like half a stone only to find I haven’t changed weight at all despite what I’ve been eating and I feel so delighted and empowered to get back on the healthy eating train! Obviously I’m not planning to lose more (was on 1100-1200 cals per day which I have gotta increase now) but I also don’t want to pile on weight from overeating. But I’m so hungry always, I woke up at 3am cos my stomach felt so empty and had to go eat before I could get back to sleep 😂

Have been taking vitamins though.

@EmeraldRubyShark you have done amazingly well..... I'm trying to follow slimming world so that I get plenty of fruit and veg and can eat all day however the weekend went completely wrong. When I write it done I'm not over eating hugely I'm perhaps not eating the right things and with digestion being as slow as it is, I'm constantly feeling bloated..... I'm sure things will settle down 😬

@Emmilou82 @Emmilou82 Thanks ladies mine are definitely worse later in the evening & first thing in the morning. I may actually have to invest in a sports bra or something to sleep in as didnt exactly have small ones to begin with & already they are much fuller so this morning when I rolled over & nipped one of my boobs it was not pleasant!

I have also been ultra hungry. At night I go to bed with my tummy rumbling and empty! I think I will have to start bringing crackers to bed. I do not like eating so late at night before bed after brushing teeth. I am too tired and just want to go to bed!

It’s mainly nausea for me - been feeling pretty rough yesterday and today. Nibbling crackers is definitely helping!

@EmeraldRubyShark I am only 7 weeks today and usually a size 8/10 and I am soooo bloated and look like I am about 12 weeks pregnant! I'm embracing it rather than letting myself get upset but it's crazy this early!

Up 3 times in the night needing to pee! Driving me mad lol no wonder I'm knackered all day at work.

I'm 6 + 4 and have still got no sickness....it's great. Sometimes feel a bit queasy but no physical sickness.

Anyone's else's sense of smell gone mental? My son had a McDonalds yesterday and I couldn't stand the smell of it. An advert came on the tv for them too and I heaved at the sight of it!

I hate the smell of my house at the minute too.....not sure why cos I have a cleaner who does a great job but I just smell something particularly first thing in a morning that I don't like lol....

I keep thinking about McDonald’s. I think today I’m going to allow myself McDonald’s for lunch! I used to eat it a few times a week (fast metabolism, but I have high cholesterol). And now I only eat it like 3-5 times a year. I do need to work on adding more fruits and veggies to my diet.

I’m still not sleeping well. It’s so frustrating. At night I wake and find it hard to get back to sleep.

@Mamabear12 luckily I'm not having an issue getting back to sleep but it's the disturbed sleep that's doing my head in lol

I'm not keen on McDonalds but naturally the kids love it as a treat but the smell of it yesterday 🤢

I have a love/hate thing with McDonalds at the moment, the thought of it makes me drool but then if I give in and have one I feel 🤢 all day. Mind you I'm 6+2 now and ever since Sunday the nausea has been very full on - I haven't physically been sick but have had nausea basically all day every day.

Having an early scan tomorrow - obviously I just want to know that everything's ok and as it should be but because the nausea is so much worse than it was with my son my husband's convinced we're going to find out there's two in there!

I’m exhausted 😭 i woke many times last night and it took ages to get back to sleep. I don’t understand what is causing this. Is this the pregnancy hormones??? Boo hoo. All I want is 8 hours sleeping through!

I’m waking so early lately! Before 6am naturally every morning. Probably cos I’m going to bed so early, like 8pm sometimes, and asleep for 9pm. Treated myself to the new kindle that’s cheaper but has a backlight, it’s absolutely amazing! Decided to read loads of books while I can and to take my mind off the anxiety. Currently reading an amazing book about humans and the different species there were in the past and what life was like 30000 years ago for us. It’s very reassuring to remind myself I’m just another animal who is naturally built to have sex, get pregnant and give birth, and how much safer and better chances of success there are for me and baby in the world of modern medicine :)

I keep waking up too - I do remember this from last time, the insomnia is a killer! @EmeraldRubyShark I have a kindle like that too, I'm getting through more books at the moment than I have in ages!

@Mamabear12 I feel your pain today! What a terrible nights sleep.....couldn't get comfortable at all, then I think I'm subconsciously worrying about which side I'm lying on, then starting getting restless legs, then my husband wasn't happy this morning cos he said I just kept pushing him away lol! Was just getting so frustrated with myself......if I'm like this now who knows what I'm gonna he like in 5/6 months!

EmeraldRubyShark What is the book called? It sounds interesting.

Summersun8383 Sleep is def harder the last two months. Which is why I’m hoping my sleep improves now!!! It’s supposed to be easy to sleep now. Once you get a bump it can get uncomfortable as your not allowed to lie on your tummy or back!

The book is called sapiens: a brief history of humankind. It’s amazing! So readable, I’m devouring it so excitedly. I can’t get my head around the fact that the humans in this book from thirty thousand years ago had a daughter who had a daughter who had a daughter stretching all the way to me and the little jelly bean inside me right now. An unbroken matriarchal line!

@Mamabear12 I know I don't remember being this restless with my first so hoping it just a passing phase lol

@peasando lol my husband said exactly the same this morning. My nausea has been much worse this time round and seems to have started much earlier so he's convinced there's more than one ha

Hi ladies,

Hope you don't mind if I join. According to online calculators my EDD is Dec 20. DH and I have been trying for 6 years... a few chemicals and an IVF (which succeeded but baby's heart stopped at 8w) later - we all but gave up. Doctors even took me off the usual meds (metformin) and voila - I'm apparently 6w+4d today. Had some cramping around the time I missed the period and was bloated all the time (still am). We even joked about pregnancy as I had the weirdest craving for wasabi peas 2-3 days before expected period (which I still have, though not as strong). My breasts became sensitive this weekend and now I'm struggling with the bra. Anyone else's nipples being at 'hello sailor' all the time? No nausea, no vomiting (so far).

First midwife appointment on Thursday (quite early but I guess they don't want to take risks given my history). Having major ups and downs these days. Mostly just terrified of another 'no heartbeat' scan. I so wish, more than anything in the world, this little bean makes it!
Hugs to all expecting mums here.

Ahh fingers crossed Aneley!

I've just booked my first MW appointment for a week on Friday when I'll be 8+1. Was stupidly nervous on the phone!! Think it's because I still can't quite believe it, although the sore boobs, bloating, occasional nausea and sleeping are a good indicator! I have contemplated having an early scan but think I'm just going to wait for the 12w one.

Hello all.

Just looking for a bit of reassurance. I’m 5+5 with my first. We were trying, so are really happy about it. However; I’m really struggling with a low mood and low energy.

My mood seems to dip every evening and even during the day I feel anxious and lonely and tearful. I really am happy about being pregnant, but am dreading the thought of feeling like this for the foreseeable! The friends that I have aren’t close ones and I already feel like I’m failing because I don’t have a close group of girls to share my news with.

Is this just hormones (well, not the friends bit - I don’t think that I can blame hormones on that! )?! Any reassurance would be welcome because I really do already feel like I’m messing this whole thing up!

@GoldPaperStars, I felt a bit like this at first despite trying for and really wanting a baby, I'm sure it's normal in the early stages!
For me, the realisation that it was a loooong time until 12 weeks (let alone the rest of pregnancy!) was what was getting me down, causing a lot of anxiety and making me feel lonely.
Do you have close family you'd be happy to tell at this stage? It really helped me to tell my parents and sister, as I could then talk to them about things that were worrying me, and share updates. It made me feel much less alone!
As you say, a lot of it will be down to hormones too. Just try to go easy on yourself, get lots of rest but also try to keep busy so the time doesn't feel like it's going so slowly and you're not dwelling on things. For me the low mood only lasted about a week and then started to improve. Talking here helps too!

@GoldPaperStars it's totally normal to have weird mood swings, high and low. It sounds trite but it really is hormones! Mine seem to be manifesting themselves at the moment in making me even more of an arsey cow than normal, I've been so irritable it's unreal. Surprised my husband hasn't left me actually!

Is this your first? On the friends thing, I was sort of the same - plenty of friends but no real close female friends to confide in. With my first I did NCT classes - it might be worth looking into them (or other ante-natal classes) - the classes themselves were ok but the best bit was leaving with a what's app group of seven other girls, all having babies within two weeks of me. Lots of late night chats and stupid questions, people to meet up with after the baby was born who totally understood exactly what was going on with me, and after a year hanging out together on maternity leave, great friends too.

For me, the realisation that it was a loooong time until 12 weeks (let alone the rest of pregnancy!) was what was getting me down, causing a lot of anxiety and making me feel lonely.

Yeah same. Not so much lonely but anxiety. I’ve felt shocking so far during pregnancy, and I’m only 6+3. I desperately want this baby and it’s the not knowing if it’ll work out or not that’s getting me down, I feel really anxious and almost frantic with worry and then so upset at the thought of it going wrong and then so low at how slow time is ticking and feeling so so down knowing how many days I have to get through for the next scan, almost like I feel I can’t emotionally tolerate waiting that long not knowing if it’ll be good news or not but at the same time knowing I have no choice and I can’t speed up time. The wait is horrific. I never anticipated how miserable early pregnancy would be but it’s just awful. If I had a crystal ball and knew I’d have a healthy baby in my arms come December I’d be thrilled but I don’t. And it’s horrible how one minute I’m all excited planning nursery themes and the next minute envisaging what it’d feel like to get the news at the next scan the baby hasn’t grown. It’s just a rollercoaster and I fucking hate it. I’m subfertile with one tube blocked and endometriosis and we somehow managed to get pregnant within two weeks of starting to try for the first time but that doesn’t reassure me, if anything I feel horrified at the idea I could lose this baby, my first, and then be trying for a year to have another, then that could go wrong too, and so forth.

I don’t even have anxiety usually. I’m the least worried person ever in my normal life. But having a little jelly bean inside me I love so fiercely and deeply so much already, the thing I want most in the entire world, has turned me insane.

@EmeraldRubyShark this is exactly how I feel. I'm very grateful not to have had any fertility issues and I'm almost 9 weeks, but I could have written this post. Even though it's sad we feel like this it's comforting to know someone feels the same.
I was upset and worried sick after having a tiny bit of brown blood last night, and my husband was telling me (in a very understanding way) that I just need to try to accept that whatever is going to happen will happen, and that other than taking care of myself/not drinking alcohol etc., there's really nothing I can do about it. He said that if I keep worrying myself like that and googling too much, I'm going to have a very miserable year.
I know he's right, and I do have many good/optimistic days, but on the days I'm really worried about something being wrong I think it's impossible for our partners to fully understand. I've told him if we have another baby he can carry it next time!
Are you having/have you had an early scan? I had mine at 8 weeks and found it very reassuring (despite knowing that it's no guarantee things will still be ok at 12 weeks). I'm just trying to take it one day at a time. Sending hugs, we will get there!