Due December 2019

[Boogie20]

Hi!!

This week I have taken 4 pregnancy tests, all positive. I’m afraid to get too excited because it is so early. I’ll be 5 weeks tomorrow. I have no other signs of pregnancy so it doesn’t feel real yet. Anyone else in the same boat?

First pregnancy, so many questions but I can’t ask friends or family yet.

I'll be 10+2 by the time I have my first appointment with the midwife, which seems really late, but they apparently have no appointments before this. Not sure there's much I can do but seems like such a long time to wait.

@BirdIsland I suppose that means you'll have less time to wait till your first scan? I had my first midwife appointment Tuesday, and she said I'll have my scan around the 12th week, gotta wait for a letter through the door, but only 4 and a half weeks to go!

@1990carey I suppose so, I just hope I don't then need to wait ages for the scan because I can't get an appointment there either!

@blondie87 yup that's my due date too! I'm having a section though so will probably be around the 5th Dec he/she will be born.

I didn't feel sick at all in my last pregnancy and hoping for the same again 🤞🏻 I'm going on holiday abroad in a few weeks time so I'm really hoping I'm not feeling rough on holiday!

I'm a bit worried as I've had a bit of spotting which I've not had in any pregnancy before. I know it can be normal but just feeling less pregnant in myself iyswim and just not got a good feeling about it.

Just had some more. It's pink so hoping that's a good sign but I've booked an ultrasound tomorrow for reassurance/to find out what's going on.

Squeaking in with a due date of 30/12

@NaughtyLittlePassport congratulations!

Ekk were getting to the end of December due dates now! Soon people will be expecting in January! Sounds strange but its kinda nice not be the very last ones Haha!

@blondie87 I was the same when I had some spotting about 2 weeks ago! Phoned the midwife in a panic and they said it’s not uncommon and it went away after 2/3 days. Haven’t had any since. 6+1 today and got a reassurance scan tomorrow so hoping for good news 🤞

Thanks @Kiki061190 fingers crossed we both have good news! What time is yours?

@blondie87 it’s not until 5pm 😔 yours?

It's at 10. I know the wait is agonising!

Good luck @blondie87 and @Kiki061190! Will be great to have that reassurance :)

I've started being super worried about everything, a guy bumped into me today on the train and I've spent the whole day imagining I've lost it...

Got my booking appointment today, two weeks tomorrow so I'll be 9 weeks. Do they do listen to the heartbeat then?

@leonasa tell me about it! I’ve been worried there’s going to be an issue with the pregnancy non stop!

Hello all, I was gonna stay away from threads as it was stoking my anxiety but wanted to let you know I have a transvag scan Tuesday morning to check it’s in the right place due to endometriosis and high risk of ectopic. Not sure what I’ll be able to see, maybe only the sac or yolk as I’ll only be 5+6, but they should be able to see something at least and confirm whether it’s viable so far and in my uterus or my tube. So glad it’s so soon, I’ve been feeling shockingly scared most of the time.

On the plus size the baby is the size of an ant apparently! And I took my first belly photo while I’m not showing at all for progression :)

I also made a list of the positives to take from this situation even if the pregnancy isn’t viable. For example that I ovulate, my partner’s sperm work, my eggs work, my right tube works, I can conceive, we caught it on the first cycle so we’ve already beaten the odds, my endo has been treated the best it can, we’re financially stable, and we live in a country with healthcare so if it’s ectopic or a loss they’ll do everything they can to restore me to normal health. If we were in a different country without healthcare we wouldn’t necessarily even know if it’s ectopic until it ruptured and either killed me or ruined my only working tube.

So lots to be thankful for.

@EmeraldRubyShark hey, I had a transvaginal scan last week & this week as I had suspected ectopic. Last week they were only able to see gestation sac so couldn't confirm the pregnancy, however this week (I was 5+2) they were able to see the yolk sac too so could confirm. Baby was still too small to see fetal pole and heartbeat so I'm back in another 2 weeks to see baby for the first time. Hope all goes well with your scan and I LOVE your positivity. Xx

Wow xoxhayleyxox that’s good news! I wonder whether they’ll let me go back to check for the baby if they don’t see them at 5+6? Was there a reason they allowed you to return to see the baby one they’d confirmed the sac was in the right place? Or is it sometimes that the baby and sac end up in different locations?

I’m the least anxious person in the world about my life in general but I’m already driving OH mad telling him I might pay for private reassurance scans if I don’t feel I’m having enough from the NHS, I know they’re busy! He’s a doctor so he’s so matter of fact and ‘but it won’t change the outcome’ whereas I just feel the only way to ease some of this anxiety is to see the baby and I’m scared if I don’t on Tuesday I might not be given another until twelve weeks. Honestly I’d give my life savings right now just to see the little peanut and the heart beating whenever that becomes possible. I’m trying desperately to focus on the positives! In fact I’m off today with it being bank holiday and I’m napping off and on in bed all day until I go out later as at least if I’m asleep I won’t be stressing and googling 😂

@EmeraldRubyShark they just said they'd have me back. I think once you're under EPAU they like to keep an eye on you until they can see the fetal pole and heartbeat, so if they don't see it on yours they'll probably ask you to come back again. I didn't ask to, they just told me to, so I wouldn't worry about them just abandoning you.

Bless you! It's sooo hard not to google and worry though isn't it! And waiting feelings like the longest wait of your life! I'm a believer in what's meant to be will always be, just do what you need to to get you through until you have your scan xx

@EmeraldRubyShark fingers crossed for Tuesday but even if it's too early just book a private scan for a week later when you're 7 weeks. Your DH is right but I understand the anxiety! And I think your list of positives is great, anything is possible now. I've had a MC before so finding this tough but the way I see it, the chances are in our favour. Just got to stay positive 👍

PS have you seen this? I find it really helpful

datayze.com/miscarriage-chart.php?mode=table

I found out really early at 3weeks + 3. At that point there was a 31% chance of MC.

Today at 6 weeks + 4 that has reduced for me to 12%.

By the time I go back to work after Easter it will be below 10%.

It helps me stay focused that things are continuing in the right direction. Xx

Hi. I'm 5 weeks yesterday and it looks like due date will be 18th December. Booked in for an early scan next week as I had two early miscarriages last year. Trying hard not to be really anxious this time round but it's really difficult...

Thanks so much both of you! I thought coming on here was making me worse but it’s actually reassuring to know I’m not alone in being a ball of anxiety. My poor OH thought I’d been bleeding or miscarried this morning when I came into the room sobbing, but it was because I’d read the baby was the size of an ant and I’d realised to myself if anything went wrong it’d almost certainly be because there were chromosomal issues and that the baby would never have survived or had a good quality of life and I realised I’d rather they pass away early and never suffer and me take the pain than any other option if that was the case 😭😂 I will definitely book a private scan at 7+ weeks if the hospital don’t invite me back. I don’t even remotely care at this point where OH agrees lol. I’m kinda saying to him don’t worry I won’t be a nightmare the whole nine months, I think I’ll feel I’ve hit a good moment at twelve weeks and will just relax and enjoy it then.

I love that site agteacht, only with endometriosis the chance is increased by 73% so even though it gives me about 17-18% chance of loss at this stage I know it’s much higher for me but every day that it stays in there is a good thing.

I could cope if I knew that I’d know if something went wrong as I’d bleed. It’s the fear of something going wrong and me not knowing at all and carrying on happily in ignorance only to find out later that scares me. Especially as I’ve not really had any symptoms yet. Though realistically at 5+2 with a 30ish day cycle I’m only less than a week past my missed period. The whole dating system on one hand gives me hope cos 5 weeks sounds so long! But on the other hand it’s nonsense isn’t it as I probably only conceived a couple of weeks ago! So fragile.

@EmeraldRubyShark I share all the same fears as you! I find not knowing if something has gone wrong so scary too. Also trying to reassure my husband that I hopefully won’t be this anxious the entire time, but these first 12 weeks are so nerve wracking.
I’m 6+6 now and I was an anxious wreck until 6 weeks when nausea kicked in. It’s coming and going and is only ever quite mild, but I do find it reassuring when it’s there.
I have an early scan booked for next Thursday so I’m counting down the days to that, and trying to stay busy and positive.

I have the same anxieties as you ladies, I had a MC in February at around 5 weeks. I’m 5 weeks now, been spotting brown for 3 weeks and I’m on edge. I had a scan on Wednesday (because of previous MC) but they couldn’t see much so I’m booked back in for 1st May and I cannot wait!!! I’m really hoping this little poppy seed is a survivor!! Sending love and positivity to you all! roll on 12 week scans!! 😘

MrsS7 is it crazy I’m seething with envy you have been getting nausea? 😂 I the week after conceived I had it all week, really strongly, not eating because I felt sick and gagging brushing my teeth, it seems impossible to have been related that early but I def wasn’t imagining it as I was gagging and I didn’t even query whether I was pregnant I just was waiting for my period to keep trying. No nausea since but today at 5+2 I have a very dull very mild ache in what I assume is my uterus area for a few hours, which is incredibly reassuring. I’ve ruled out it being my bladder as I get tonnes of bladder pain often and know it well (hence why I’m taking morphine every day inc the pregnancy :( ) and ruled out my bowel as it feels more in front and I didn’t end up being gassy or needing a BM so I’m just gonna take it as a good sign my uterus is stretching to make way for ant growing into a ladybird! I’ve never had a single period pain before despite the endo so cramping is unfamiliar to me.

LPMR1989 oh good luck with the next scan! I had spotting of bright red blood this Monday just gone which terrified me but the doc said it’s normal and fine as long as it doesn’t develop into a period. Hoping for lots of stickiness for your poppy seed 💜 is it just me btw who is confused at sizing? Apparently the baby at five weeks is a ladybird, a grain of rice, and a smartie. They all seem wildly different to me haha. But I’m holding onto the grain of rice for my scan as if they can’t see much yet I’ll try remember they’re literally trying to find a grain of rice sized thing inside all of my internal organs and layers of other tissue, it’s no big deal if they can’t yet and especially no big deal if they can’t find the microscop beating heart of a grain of rice 😂

We’ve had a huge kilo bag of rice in the kitchen for months we got given by someone and knew we wouldn’t use and struggled to offload into anyone else’s hands even shelters as it’d been opened and I sobbed this morning when I went to find it to get a grain of rice out to show my OH when he woke up (god he hates me so much right now haha) and realised he’d finally evicted it.