Due December 2019

[Boogie20]

Hi!!

This week I have taken 4 pregnancy tests, all positive. I’m afraid to get too excited because it is so early. I’ll be 5 weeks tomorrow. I have no other signs of pregnancy so it doesn’t feel real yet. Anyone else in the same boat?

First pregnancy, so many questions but I can’t ask friends or family yet.

What does this + thing man? Like 7+ 3 I've always been a little confused. Probably get dumb.

I hope i don't get morning sickness.

@stripes416 I had some cramping on Sunday on felt really bloated and had a sore back.

I don't feel sick at all but I'm only 4+5 no sore boobs either. Just a sore back really and a maybe a bit more tiered.

I didn't get sore boobs until about 7wks last time and never felt sick 🤞🏻 same this time.

Sorry for the TMI
Has anyone else had a light brown discharge when wiping? Not much but enough to scare me 😟

@fonxey it means weeks and days so e.g. I'm 6+2= 6 weeks and 2 days, it's just an easier way to write it lol.

Also everyone who's feeling down and worried etc etc I feel you all! I keep going through constant ups and downs atm, one day I'll be really happy and the next in convinced I cant do it and I've made a horrible mistake, even tho this is something I've wanted forever! But remember guys your hormones are going all over the place. Nothing is as bad as you feel like it is atm, and you can do this! If your also worried about something going wrong I have a good website that helps my anxiety about it all-datayze.com/miscarriage-chart.php?mode=table - it basically gives you the percentages each day of your pregnancy that you will have a successful pregnancy and it has helped me a lot to over come that fear and its really reassuring to see the percentage get higher each day!!. Also I keep reminding myself theres nothing I can do! Its out of my hands, all I can do is hope and pray my little bean is growing safely and that I will get to see them in 7 and a half months. It's easier said then done I know, but dont let the worry take over your life, try your best to forget about it for now, because like I said its completely out of our hands. And remember, were right there with yah, we know what your feeling, but know we can do this ladies!!

@smitch82 this happened to me with my last pregnancy, I think i was 6 weeks. I rang the hospital and they asked me to go for a scan that afternoon and everything was fine, she just said that sometimes these things can happen. If you're worried give the hospital a call

@stripes416 thanks I am going to see the doctor tomorrow to tell them I am pregnant so will speak to her then and hopefully it will clear up overnight!

@1990carey oh yeah, duh, of course! Thanks. How obvious. And do you all count from the beginning of your last period? I find that very strange. As that means i am 3+6

Whereas really I'm only 2 weeks and 2 days from ovulation. But i guess it makes it easier to calculate.

I'm glad that everyone has the same thoughts and anxieties. It's so easy to feel alone in all this.

My boyfriend says he feels... Strange because he finds it such an abstract thing right now. We know not to get excited but due him it is kinda easier. He doesn't feel the changes in his body.

And it's hard not to. I'm trying to allow myself to be happy but not excited. Like with our house purchase, the first time it feel through and i was soooo excited that i felt devestated. The second time i just kept thinking as if it might not happen and didn't spend as much time planning all the things.

Harder with this. But i am trying to not look too far ahead. Just... Looking up what next week might entail.

I don't know if my funny thing is due to pregnancy or unwanted excitement. I always get an update stomach when overly excited, happy or anxious.

Also hungry all the time. But again that is the same for me when excited, all i wanna do is eat.

@fonxey i’m glad you mentioned about the hunger.... its like every 3 hours after eating i’m hungry again. I started to eat breakfast now but even so i’ll get into work for an hour and be hungry again!

My OH had the cheek to tell me its in my head (i think he was just trying to wind me up as thats his humour) and I reminded him my body is changing and working harder than normal why is it hard to believe hunger is a related thing? I also warned him i will not appreciate ‘its in my head’ comments throughout this regardless of whether he is just trying to wind me up 😂💁🏼‍♀️

@fonxey aww bless yah, dw theres a lot of things people say and I have 0 clues what they mean Haha. It's all a learning curve lol.
Yah its defo easier for other people to not think about it too much. For us we can feel that our body is different and we have all the symptoms, so yah its defo not something we can just turn off in our heads epically when your so worried about it.
Yah I always get a funny stomach when im anxious.
Oh and yah everyone counts from their last period, it's strange but for some reason its included, also makes it feel like it's going quicker lol.

@1990carey thanks for your lovely message, I had a chat with my mum after work and feel a lot more positive now. I found that website too, it’s very reassuring!

@smitch82 I had some brown spotting yesterday mixed with lots of mucous and some dark red streaks. I called the epu and they are seeing me tomorrow for an early scan. It’s all stopped now. I feel so anxious and now I’ve read it might be normal, I’m getting nervous about a scan that may not show a heart beat simply because it’s too early and that would make me even more anxious. Strange emotions about it.

@1990carey thanks for saying that, I am also all over the place, I'm happy and excited but also completely freaking out, I have moments of genuine panic and really don't know if I can do it. And I can go between these extremes several times in a day.

My pregnancy wasn't planned and I am single and don't have everything quite as set up in terms of my job as I'd like (in terms of getting decent maternity pay) so I think that is probably contributing to the anxiety. I had hoped to have a baby soon though so it is very much wanted, the circumstances are however not what I imagined and I am just feeling very overwhelmed. Am starting to feel a bit nauseous sometimes but I think that could just be nerves!

@Bumpingalong84 I am sure they will tell you if you don't hear a heartbeat it is just too soon. Try not to be worried, it is a really scary time when you haven't got a clue what to expect but trust the experts and do all you can to be healthy.

I have only a tiny bit today, I am seeing the dr so will ask more from her but from reading it seems like it is just normal. Although I am panicking as I have been wanting this for so long!

@leonasa We all have different circumstances but are all in the same boat. I think we are all going to have anxiety about lots of things going forward but it will all be fine.

I had to lie to my sister yesterday. She was asking how we were getting on TTC as she knows how much we want this. I hate doing it but I really don't want to say anything until we know it will be fine. Anyone else the same?

@smitch82 yah I've had to lie a few times. It's annoying. It's funny how many times its come up in conversation with family that I havnt told. randomly they've made a comment about how they want to be grandparents or an uncle etc, and I laughed and told them it may never happen, all the while sitting there thinking, well actually you are lol!

Morning everyone, I’ve been throwing up all morning, have had to cancel all my morning appointments. I know it’s great to have strong symptoms early on, but I’m so drained now. I don’t know how I’m going to cope with another 6+ weeks of feeling like this.

@1990carey ha!

We are being really cautious because of my age (37) so really trying not to get excited as this was our first cycle tying too... we know there is a chance it won't stick but really hoping it will!

@lordofthefries it really isn't nice even though it is a good sign. I have only felt nauseous and not been sock, but my sister had really bad sickness and had to leave work early because of it!

Thanks @smitch82 this is my second pregnancy, and it already feels different than my first. Feel far more anxious this time.

@leonasa I’m sure all will be fine, things don’t always work out the way we plan. If it’s something you are happy with and really want you will be amazing I’m sure and make things work. Do you have a good support network around you?

@smitch82 I never got symptoms this early with my DS, maybe I have a little girl in there.

@leonasa This pregnancy wasn’t planned either, neither was DS, and I’m on the younger side so may get a bit of judgement from family. We all have different circumstances, but we’re all strong enough to deal with them

@Bumpingalong84 good luck with the scan today, I'm sure everything will be fine. @smitch82 is right, it's often not possible to see everything in a scan this early on. Spotting and light bleeds are totally normal. Please let us know how the scan goes.

How is everyone else feeling today? I am feeling exhausted and very down the last few days. And anxious too. It sucks that some of you are also going through this, but nice not to feel alone. It's all natural. Epic changes happening in our bodies and lives.

Still just have very mild nausea (especially when i have an empty stomach), and my boobs ballooned but have now stopped growing. Have managed to convince myself that the pregnancy has failed, but resisting every urge to pee on more sticks! Wouldn't mind stronger symptoms so as to feel more reassured.

Erm, another thing. Anyone else having an epic plummet in their libido? I have no interest in sex, which is unlike me and it's a bit worrying. DP very patient and supportive, but still it's not nice, as I don't feel as connected to him as I normally do.

Have a great day everyone!

@smitch82 - re: feeling weird about having to lie... I have caved every time with about 90% of friends. I can't do it! I know we're supposed to keep it under wraps but it feels so weird holding something like that in. The way I see it, if the worst should happen you'd want the people closest to you to know right? Rather than have to go through it alone. So, for better or for worse, maybe it's not so bad? Do whatever feels right for you though, if it feels dishonest and weird lying to your sis, maybe tell her?

I've woken up today feeling full of energy! Yesterday I was the complete opposite, I didn't want to do anything but sit on the sofa all day and sleep. Today I'm hinching the kitchen with the music blaring, sing and dancing along lol! Although I will day I do feel nauseous today and my boobs are soooooo sore!!!!! I keep worrying because my boobs are already big, and I'm terrified they will grow a stone bigger and I dont want massive boobs! Lol!!

@Maizie83 no she has had 4 kids and will just panic me more than I already am! I don't see her as I live miles away from them so I am sure I can keep it in!

Drs went well. They have taken a blood test but also said that if I have had 2 positive tests I am definitely pregnant. They placed it at 5 weeks. Get my blood results back after 2pm tomorrow.

Said all was fine on the spotting, totally normal but if it changes to go to the EPU at the hospital but she doesn't think I will need to do that.

Carry on as I am with exercise but probably not netball as it is a contact sport and not worth the risk.

I have all my booklets now and get a booking appointment with the midwife in around 5 weeks!

The scan won't be till the 14th week according to my notes which is the week before I go home for my parents wedding anniversary so if all good it would be the right time to tell them.

Fingers crossed 🤞🏻 it all looks good so far. Now to try and get on with life and stop panicking! 😂

I got a positive pregnancy test on Monday. I'm 1- 2 weeks with clear blue digital which would make sense. My first day of my last period is 12th March. What I can't work out is today one app says I'm 4+1 and another says I'm 5+2 and nhs website says 4 weeks. Anyone shed any light?

I have to pop down the drs to fill in a form to book an appt with the midwife. Why they can't just take my details and arrange an appt over the phone i don't know.

It's good i have a day off today as otherwise i just don't have time to go to the digits just to get a form.

But i feel awkward about it. I'm finding the idea that I am pregnant to be really weird. I almost feel silly. As if I'm just eating they're time as obviously nothing will come off this. I know it's silly to think like this bit i can't help but feel disbelief!

I hope everyone else is feeling a comforting array of symptoms. I presently have none. Even my bloating had gone down. But i guess I'm not far in.

But oh well. Good luck with your scan @Bumpingalong84. Stay positive.