Due November 2019 Continued

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This is a continuation of the previous thread since we are coming up to the 1000 post limit.

Lozzlepop - would you tell them if something went wrong? I can’t lie to people so I have told 2 friends (I was meeting up with them and didn’t want to lie about not drinking, partly because I think most people assume you’re pregnant anyway if you suddenly stop drinking!). I took the view that I would tell them both anyway if something goes wrong. TBH I don’t really like the whole concept that you “should” wait until after 12 weeks as I think it implies miscarriages shouldn’t be talked about/should be kept secret. Sorry...I’ve just totally hijacked your comment .

Cake - Oh good. At least you’re early enough that you can still fly (I think 28 weeks is often the cut off, but check with your airline). I would just deal with the insurance point nearer the time. At least you’re on it and know it’s something you’ll need to consider .

Yes, absolutely dreading the long haul flight . I saw on another thread a lady is having to fly long haul around 36 weeks though !

@cakeordeath89 I did think of that, don't want to seem sneaky though, think I will play it by ear, I know they will be delighted.

@TheGruffalosLoveChild don't worry about hijacking, happy for everyones opinions. I totally get where you are coming from and that is a very good point, my friend told us for exactly that reason but she was a bit further along at 7 weeks and if i was 7/8 weeks I wouldn't have a second thought but I will only be 5+3

@lozzlepop good to know about the exercise thanks!!

I am used to going out drinking every Friday with work and tonight and next week are two preplanned big nights so I needdd an excuse!!
If people ask, I’m telling them I’m on an 8-10week course of antibiotics proceeded by a good moan about how crap it is 😉

I had/have mild gastritis which was bad this time last year, so I will say it’s flared up again hence the tablets. But another good excuse is that you have a rash (somewhere inconspicuous) that needs antibiotics. E.g. my mom has just had an 8 week course of antibiotics for rosacea on her chest! 😉 crafty eh??

Imagine if some of know each other and we all start using that excuse haha!!

I have felt a little worried today as my symptoms have been less, but notice you lot see them going up and down too.

Has anyone had like a tight chest verging on chest pains?

@Lozzlepop I'm not religious but I'm playing the whole 'giving it up for lent' card, saying my liver needs a break, it's also perfectly timed because I'll be having my 12 week scan at around Easter time!

Can i join. Got my first ever bfp this morning.

Welcome @NutterPotter and congratulations on your BFP :)

@MindyMoonstone bad timing on the two big work nights out but good idea on the 8 week course of antibiotics! Very craft :) I'm so glad I don't drink so nobody will ever suspect :)

Not heard of the tight chest although there can be all sorts. Perhaps try doing some stretches and breathing exercises to try and get a bit more oxygen on board. Perhaps it's hormonal?

Thanks @Lozzlpop!
Yes always difficult, my friend is visiting for the weekend at the end of April which is 2 weeks before my big scan so know what you mean about evading or telling! You could say that you’re on antibiotics for a tooth infection? Or you could say that since the last night...when it took you so long to recover that you just can’t face alcohol right now?

Ps also want to say how much this group has helped!! I’ve only told my DP and one friend as I kind of had to in the context of another discussion. It’s great having you all for guidance and support and I hope we can continue it!

Lozzlepop - it’s totally your call and I don’t think there’s a right way or wrong way to play things. It’s so hard in the early weeks. For all pregnancies I’ve found out shortly after 3 weeks (3+3 this time). I wish I was one of those people who found out at like 6 weeks or something so I didn’t have to stress for as long .

As for excuses, people could always say they’re on a health kick/diet or something?

Hi everyone.
I've recently found out I'm pregnant (first pregnancy), I think I'm about 6/7 weeks (first midwife appointment isn't until 9th April so I've tried to work out my weeks myself...). So this would mean I'm due in November!
I'm very excited and VERY nervous,
I just wondered if anyone could give any advice on symptoms etc at this stage. I've noticed my boobs have become very sore, I've been really tired and I've recently been getting terrible headaches...
I know there are certain bits of advice around paracetamol/ibuprofen during pregnancy.. anyone got any advice on how to treat headaches at this stage in pregnancy?
Thanks so much x

@Gmex31 Welcome and congratulations :)
I can definitely sympathise on the headache front. Paracetemol is ok as long as you only take it when you really need it and limit the number you take in 24 hours. Ibuprofen is a no unless agreed to by your GP/Doctor.
For me, I've found regular snacking and drinking plenty of water has helped and fresh air is also a big plus :)

@Gmex31 I’ve akways been told to take paracetamol as normal but try and have the lowest dose possible. Ibuprofen I’ve always been advised is a nono in pregnancy which is annoying. I suffer from migraines so find that cold compressed on back of neck or forehead help headaches

@Mintypea5 @cakeordeath89 Thanks for your help with that.
So I could take 2 500mg paracetamol tablets at a time? x

Gmex you can

I'm not religious and I said me and my friend was giving up alcohol for lent to help us have summer bodies ready (ha! fat chance) but we are going out tomorrow for a meal and it's very unlike me not to have a few gins! So I'm going to drive anyway and say I got drunk tonight (last night, tomorrow) and that I can't face anymore alcohol right now. That's quite easy for me as all my friends know I love a good drink 😂 my best friend actually recently went as far as to say I am the bad influence as since finding out I was pregnant she's hardy drank too as it's me that always gets her too! 😂

I'm just telling people as I see them and it comes up 😂 can't be doing with the antibiotic stories. It's all people I'd want to discuss a miscarriage with anyway, family and close friends. It's making it seem very real talking about it.

When is everybody planning on telling the important people then? I'm supposed to be taking my parents out for a meal tomorrow night (it's a thank you for some help/support that they've given us recently). I feel like it's going to be an elephant in the room but I don't want to tell them and risk something going wrong and having to have that conversation with them. I'm 99% sure I'm going to wait until I've had my first appointment.

I told my mum as soon as I knew, same with his mum. Last pregnancy I had to tell them I'd had a miscarriage and I'd rather they knew in advance of any issues.
My 2 closest friends also know for the sane reason.
Everyone else, siblings included I'm waiting until at least the first scan, maybe even the 20 week scan. But I'm a very private person.

@rharri91 woohoo! Go you lol it's so hard trying to be patient. I'm going to do the same and book one for when I'm 8 weeks-ish

@rharri91 woohoo! Go you lol it's so hard trying to be patient. I'm going to do the same and book one for when I'm 8 weeks-ish. I'm 5+1 now

Cakeordeath, it's easy for me as I'd want then to know if I'd have a miscarriage. I'd need their support, emotionally and practically with my 9 month old. Definitely worth keeping schtum if them knowing would be stressful if anything went wrong.

@NutterPotter congratulations!!

@cakeordeath89 I'm telling my mum and dad, OH's mum and dad and siblings of us both after our 8 week scan, after that it will be 12 weeks for everyone else!

@cakeordeath89 I've told close family and close friends. I can't keep it a secret lol I'm dying to tell everyone!!

Thanks for the advice Cakeordeath89!

We told both our parents as soon as the BFP came through, my mom would pick up if I was hiding it anyway and it’s nice to have people to share the excitement and nerves with. Telling our parents meant siblings too because we are all very close.

Other than that I have only told my boss who is like a good friend, and means I have someone at work who knows and I don’t have to hide anything or act shady.

He has told a few close friends (again, like family) but I’ve asked him not to tell anyone else until at least after we see the midwife and maybe not til after that. Plans to announce wider (we work together so have a big network of friends at work etc) after 12 week scan, and keep lots of happy thoughts and fingers crossed in the meantime!!

Everyone does it differently but it’s so nice for me to be able to talk to my sister and my boss and not just bombard DP!