October 2019 thread 2

[Secretlifeofme]

Hi @CowBrow and everyone, thought I would start a new thread since the old one has filled up and I can't find another! If there is one and I've missed it, let me know how's everyone doing?

Hi everybody,
6 weeks today and happy to have hit a milestone of sorts!
My biggest symptom continues to be cramping, anybody else? I've had it since even before my bfp. It varies in intensity and sometimes disappears for bits of time but is often there in the background.
I am really hungry too but luckily I'm always hungry anyway so not likely to arouse much suspicion!! 😅

Oh, almost forgot, my other fun one is waking up in the middle of the night and not being able to fall back asleep for hours😴

@PositiveThinkingRainbow congratulations!! That's so exciting xx

@HarryPottersSecretSister I think this one is a boy simply because my last 2 were girls and the nausea and sickness started at 6 weeks with them and I've had nothing yet, and I'm around 8 weeks now

@flowersaremyfave I feel less sick then I did with my girl so I'm wondering if it's a boy!

I'm attempting the gym this morning. It's either going to make me feel great or exhausted.

@GinMama1 are you planning on finding out? I've always loved the idea of a surprise but I don't think I can wait. The constant guessing would drive me insane 😬

@flowersaremyfave no I don't think we will. We didn't last time. I ended up with emcs after a difficult time but my husband was still able to go and tell me we had a girl. It was a real highlight.

@GinMama1 how lovely 😊 I'm always envious of people that choose to wait.

HarryPottersSecretSister I think I've got a boy. I'll never know what my MC was, but I had the most vivid dream just before it all started that I was holding my perfect little girl and we went on a journey together. Nothing like that this time. Plus I can tolerate orange juice this time. My symptoms were never all that, but my goodness was orange juice bitter.

Irregardless, I will be remaining team yellow until the very end. I love surprises.

We didn’t find out when I was carrying our daughter. I’m torn this time whether to stay yellow or to see if daughter would like to know. The only niggle I have in my mind is that they can get it wrong! We were possibly leaning towards finding out so she knows if she’s getting a brother or sister, but just the possibility of her getting all excited because she’s getting a sister and then he pops out a boy, I think she’d struggle to come to terms with that! So now I’m thinking of just staying Team Yellow to the end.

Hi ladies, can I join? I'm 7+2 today (EDD October 15th) with my first. I'm so delighted to be pregnant but I've never felt so ill in my life praying it passes soon!

I just need alll the crisps today.

We are staying yellow. I wasn't bothered either way but DP is adamant he doesn't want to find out so I'm happy to go along with it!!

I feel awful at work today, I have told the HT and AHT's about the pregnancy for LOA and safety issues but I haven't told my TA's I work with. I want to tell them because of how awful I feel but DP wants me to wait until after the scan because he is so worried. Is he justified in asking me to keep it quiet or he being a bit irrational?

@Sal1987 I think it's entirely up to you.

My colleagues have known both times now. First time because I got over excited and told everyone. This time is because morning sickness got the better of me in the changing room and I fessed up rather than faking a tummy bug. I didn't want to tell until after the scan, but now people know, there's a bit more understanding about why I feel (and look) constantly tired.

My husband on the other hand is keeping it quiet from everyone, but finding it difficult since he's got a couple of expectant colleagues and there's a lot of pregnancy talk around his office.

IMO, if you're happy to reveal it, and it will help you, go ahead.

@sal1987 it's got to be totally up to you what you want to do. It's you who work with them, you who see them and you who will have to tell them.
I'm starting to feel really guilty as I've only been in my job since mid October. Dreading saying, even though I think people will be happy for me.

I've been getting a slight cramping today, it's totally freaking me out. In my head I'd presume that the first thing that would happen is cramping and bleeding and my symptoms would actually be the last to disappear so the sore boobs and sickness aren't really picking me up.
Just need to remember that we've seen a heartbeat so it was alive at almost 8 weeks and then it's just keeping my fingers crossed.

I've had bacon super noodles for lunch today and they didn't hit the spot at all. Really want to eat the chicken ones I have in my bag, but pretty sure 2 lunches will raise suspicions.

@Sal1987 as others say, it's up to you. Last time, my husband really didn't want to tell anyone, but he wasn't the one who was pregnant! I told a few colleagues and a few friends because I found it impossible to hide. Early pregnancy can be pretty tough physically and emotionally, and I think as the pregnant person, you sometimes just need to tell some people.

Welcome @princesstinnedpeach and congratulations 🎉

Loving all the might find out/ will not find out chat.
We didn't find out with our first (girl) but then did with our second (boy) and third (girl).
I'm not bothered finding out this time to be honest, I think I'd like I surprise on the day (that said, its a surprise whenever we find out and can only go two ways) but DH mentioned he might like to know sooner so I don't know. Neither of us too adamant either way so will see how it goes.

princesstinnedpeach huge congratulations and welcome! I'm sorry to hear you're feeling so ill. Fingers crossed it passes really quickly for you.

Sal I'm with everyone else on this one. You're the one who's pregnant and you're the one who has to spend time with your colleagues so I feel it's your choice entirely and not anyone else's. Anything that makes it easier for you IMO!

Frizzy counting the hours until I get home and crack open the chicken supernoodles and cream crackers #stayclassy

I feel like I'm the irrational basket case of the the group. When the rest of you appear to be adulting better than me: I had another cry in work today. I spotted lots of bright red blood when I wiped last night but it's not the baby, its coming from my back passage (sorry, TMI) so I'm obviously entering a chrons flare.
After a year of being really well.
I'm so worried what will happen now and cant help but feel upset and disappointed with my body. I have my GP appointment for Monday (to book in the pregnancy basically) but I'm going to get signed off for a week or two.
Between the level of pregnancy sickness and the threatened chrons flare I feel I cant cope with work at the minute. I'm also hoping if I rest, the flare might cease before I end up in hospital/ on new medication.

Feck it anyway.

Just 5 + 6 today - useless!

@harrypotterssecretsister you are totally not useless. Better anal bleeding than any other kind right now so rock it in any way you can.
I'm on almost daily morning diarrhea at the moment. It feels shit (no pun intended) and not good with the sickness too. Is it a thing? Probably the awful diet right now.

@princesstinnedpeach totally sorry I missed the welcome. Early pregnancy pretty much sucks. No one knows how crap you feel as you are terrified of sharing and spend 12 weeks hoping the dampness in your pants is because you've partially wet yourself. Joys!!

Tomorrow is the first dress down Friday with a bump of bloat. I'm going with jeggings and a loose shirt in an attempt to hide it. Booking in tomorrow which will be boring as hell. They say allow 90 mins but I'm hoping we can do it way faster than that so I can get to work without to much questioning.

These bacon noodles are now repeating on me. Bacon burps while nauseous are not good.

Do not fear @HarryPottersSecretSister you're not the only one struggling to adult.....I just wanted to curl in the corner of the classroom and cry I felt so overwhelmed with work and all this anxiety and worry of being pregnant on top of already feeling like absolute shit and so tired!! Seemed to have found a bit of energy this afternoon (maybe from the cake I ate?!?!?!) but you're doing great. I'm doing this without any other kids, hands up to you for doing it with 3 of them!!

I've got light brown discharge ... I'm devastated this started at 4 weeks last time through to 6, got a heart beat at 7 weeks then had a MMC at 12 weeks. I'm currently 6 weeks and this feels like it's happening again. Due to go on holiday at the weekend and just completely lost at what to do 😢

@random2468 sending hugs. It might be totally ok. Give your midwife a call and see what they say, I know an early scan might not ease your concerns after last time but it doesn't necessarily mean history is repeating itself.

@Random2468 sorry to hear, try and not panic too much (easier said than done I know) sometimes spotting can be normal. Might be worth a ring the midwife or go to the EPU? Sending you loads of hugs xx

I’m going to find out the sex! Only 7 weeks gone now but already looking at nursery ideas on pinterest. Must slow down. I was off work on Tuesday as felt so unwell, no way I could teach. Told my line manager and head of HR yesterday was a relief actually. Line manager guessed. I only said I have something to tell you.....womens intuition hey! Im finding driving is making me feel ill at the moment especially the commute.

@princesstinnedpeach Im due 17th Oct, first baby too and feeling terrible!

Hugs @Random2468 brown discharge definitely doesn't have to mean the worst. Hope all is ok.

I'm due to wfh on Monday and am trying to persuade DH that we should have a scan. I'll be 7 weeks - is that too early to see a heartbeat? Would potentially have another at 9 or 10 weeks if all is ok. I just feel the need to be sure