October 2019 thread 2

[Secretlifeofme]

Hi @CowBrow and everyone, thought I would start a new thread since the old one has filled up and I can't find another! If there is one and I've missed it, let me know how's everyone doing?

Hi @SadieSue29, thanks, it's been helpful to read stories like yours and remember that it's not always worst case scenario. I'm glad to hear it's going well for you.

@neuroticnumpty I'm lucky in a way as have had anxiety in the past which was treated really well with CBT, so I have a lot of strategies I have been using to help me cope with the uncertainty.

@Trinnidad Thanks for sharing your story as well. I have been absolutely starving for a few weeks and still am right now but I am aware that you can still have symptoms even when things have gone wrong.

I'm on my way to the urgent care centre at the advice of 111 so I'll update later. Really appreciate you all taking the time to respond.

I'm thinking of you @coconutlatte44 hope they can see you quickly and remember there will be folks on MN at all hours if you need to talk any more tonight. xx

@coconutlatte44 I'm thinking of you xxxx

Is anyone else quite isolated where they live? Im finding this first trimester tough. We moved to where my DP is from 2 years ago and Ive made no friends!!! Tried a few classes etc but older ladies and I work 50 min away in countryside. My family live a couple of hours away. I suppose Im just feeling a little lonely with feeling so low. Am sure am not the only one. I know having a baby will probably be an opportunity to get to know some new local friends. Ive had a long rubbish week!!!!

Hi everyone, thanks again for your support tonight. So still in a bit of limbo but the good news is they have basically ruled out ectopic pregnancy (which was their biggest priority) and according to the urine test they took I'm still pregnant (although I'm aware those can take a while to register a loss). However due to the bleeding they've referred me to the EPU for Monday morning. It means there will be some anxiety this weekend but I'm going to try to use all my strategies to let it go.

I'll keep you updated and hope for the best.

I'm glad they've ruled out an ectopic. Look after yourself @coconutlatte44 and try to relax by focussing on something else over the weekend - time for a boxed-set binge perhaps? xx

@Nextchapter19 luckily I'm not isolated but I can easily isolate myself due to anxiety and depression, plus not sharing the news is hard and can feel isolating. We were thinking of moving out to the country as we are looking for a bigger home with 3rd child on the way but like you say not much support/ groups out there. Hopefully there will be an antenatal group to join soon. Older people can be great friends too though!? Best wishes x

I'm actually in a very busy area however I also feel isolated which shouldn't make much sense but we have decided not to tell anybody until we are at 12 weeks and not being able to tell anyone means it's just us anyway.

@coconutlatte44 I think the best thing is to take it one day at a time. Ectopic is ruled out so that is hurdle one. Find things to keep your mind busy and I really hope that the EPU give you some positive info on Monday. Spotting, bleeding, cramps are not always a bad sign, you just have to hope.

@nextchapter19 I've often felt very isolated. I came north for university which is where I met my now husband. I stayed here as I was so worried we'd split if I moved back to my family. We've stayed here ever since. I know it's not what you want to hear but it's taken me about a decade to come to terms with it and feel less alone. I had acquaintances at work who were lovely but didn't have a hobby or meet with people. It always felt like i only had dh.
It was probably the birth of dd that pushed me to get out a bit more and give me confidence which has led to me feeling a bit better being here. Through her going to nursery I met other mums and we regularly meet up and I feel I have actual friends and roots of some kind in the area.
I'm not going to lie and pretend that I want to stay here, I'd honestly give anything to move closer to my family as I miss them terribly (189 miles away - 3 hr drive) but I'm having to accept that it's never going to happen. But now, it's manageable and not the hell it was in the early days.
I'd say try and find some groups. Check out local Facebook pages for mums which might have cafe meet ups etc. Be honest when you meet people that you feel isolated as they'll be a load of people who will just want to scoop you up and tell you that you're not alone. The worst thing we all do is bottle it up and pretend we are OK and then people don't see that you need help/support.

Hi ladies,

I hope it's not too late for me to join? I'm currently 9+6 and EDD is 7th October. It's my first pregnancy and I feel overwhelmed, I'm SO happy but also very nervous about anything that could go wrong.

@clarew78 sorry if my post sounded ageist! I do have friends from various age groups but just not where I live. I for example went to a barre class...fitness ballet...and was just me and 3 women aged 60ish who were not there to make friends!!! Have to laugh I have tried.

@Frizzy1986 thanks so much for the reply. I totally get what you are saying. Im 34 and I have people I talk to at work,but not really good friends and only started there in September. I live in a very family orientated village which is basically lots of young families in which the mums seem to know each other!! Having no children rules out many of the local meet ups but now Ill be able to join in. Im going to sign up for aquanatal classes, antenatal, and a group for expectant mums so am going to be proactive and try and make some connections. In the meantime my best friend is coming to stay for the weekend in 3 weeks so I have that to look forward to as miss her lots x

Re the Facebook Group - I've not joined because we haven't told anyone yet so don't want to risk either accidentally outing myself to the group or let anyone see on Facebook I've joined it. Give me a few more weeks and I'll be more confident to join and might need the details again!

A fun symptom I've noticed today...my stomach hurts when I sneeze or cough.

Yep, me too! Or blow my nose, or anything that involves tensing abdominal muscles really.

We had an early scan at our EPU this morning. Measuring 8+2, with a due date of the 17/10/2019 and a heartbeat of 176!

FANTASTIC @Bluespace ❤️
Thank you for sharing x

@Bluespace congratulations, that's lovely to see

Great news @bluespace

Beautiful photo

Can't believe by 8 weeks you can make out its features x

@Bluespace that amazing!! Congrats.

On a side note, is anyone else getting really awful acid reflux?! I've had it all day today. Any tips on getting rid??

@Emjm9 I was murdered with it and went to the doctor and got omeprazole and it's really cleared it up.

Beautiful picture @Bluespace x

@Trinnidad it is a secret facebook group so no one sees who joins and post unless you are part of the group xx

@Bluespace amazing ❤️ like @Baba11I can't get over how much we can see at 8 weeks.
Congratulations and thanks for sharing.

Hi everyone. I am not quite so worried about reduced symptoms now as my boobs are sore again and I was feeling sick yesterday.
New thing is stabby cervix sensation. Anyone else?
I have my early scan this evening so I'll keep you all updated.