Catching up with those from TTC thread- 2

[MrsC87]

So I went with the same thread title so everyone could find us.
@sunshine1987 @SullyWifey @mrsof20118 @GemmaJen @RanchoRelaxo @Delilah7 @Crossfitgirl @EltzBee @MrsEG (tagged from memory, will come back and tag everyone else- baby brain 🙈)

@stormtrooperjulian it's definitely nice to have the 12w mark behind me. I am so relieved and it seems to be finally sinking in. I'm sure yours will be no different. I know everyone is different but I still feel awful, nauseous all the time and so tired, can't wait for it to pass! My DH is getting quite frustrated with taking on the extra responsibility around the house, he's got a lot if stress at work, but I'm really not used to us not being on the same page. We've had a good chat to air frustrations and it's better, but I do feel guilty for being less than helpful at the moment.

I've got crufts coming up this week and some challenges at work. Definitely feeling the pressure, just wishing everything goes smoothly for a few days. I haven't told my boss yet, think I'm going to wait a few weeks as I just can't face the conversation at the moment. Just feel so trapped if that makes sense, like there's no time just to think?

Wow then ended up being more of a moan than expected 🙈

@GemmaJen I'm 14+4 and no kidding, today was the first day I woke up and went, ooh, I have some energy. I've been sleeping for 13+ hours a night and afternoon naps, have done jack-all since beginning of January as I've been so tired and trying to do anything I pay for it the following days! So please don't feel guilty about not being 'helpful' - you're growing a human!!! It's bloody tiring.

If our husbands need to do the washing and cooking by themselves for a few months, whilst we're chucking our guts up or feeling sick all day, struggling to eat and barely awake enough to string a sentence together...they ought to be able to do that :) we're growing their baby!

I'm very lucky and my DH has been really good; we had a couple of normal arguments about things but on the whole he's been great at looking after me and the house.

Take each day as it comes hun - don't push yourself! For what it is worth - I found things much easier once my boss knew as he totally understood why I was feeling so cr*p and I didn't feel judged. Does that make sense? Nobody else at work knows though except one lady in HR who had to process my sick note, and my boss stressed to her that it was confidential.

Plus rant away - gosh this group is such a benefit for all our sanity being able to rant and moan and talk about what's bugging us!

@eltzbee so glad you're feeling better! @gemmajen I had the same with DH. He took on everything when I was feeling rough, but at the slightest hint of a few good days started to become resentful and fed up. Just explain to him exactly how you feel, it's hard for them to understand just how tired, rubbish, nauseous, mentally and physically drained you feel. You have to keep saying it! Mine just felt unappreciated and it really helped to just do little things like tell him how much of a big difference its making for you, in taking the pressure off and allowing you to concentrate on feeling better, growing the baby and getting the rest you need. They do need to know this stuff. I made the mistake of not verbalising this to DH but he was just feeling neglected and ignored, I hadn't noticed as I was too busy feeling nauseous and trying to eat food without gipping!

He will come around.
We've had a few arguments following the initial "honeymoon period" as I saw it, where we were totally over the moon about being pg and our relationship was dreamy... To the reality of the shift in chore responsibility. We're all new to this - even him! Don't worry it's totally normal and you'll be right as rain, just keep talking :-)

Should I be worried that I haven't had any morning sickness yet? I'm 6+2 (according to MW, going by LMP I thought I was 6+6) and apart from feeling a bit queasy a few times I've been fine...

I'm so sorry I've been out of the picture over the last week ladies. I have been beyond tired and every time I look at a screen it's tipped me over the edge. But I'm sorry I haven't been supporting and celebrating with you as I should.

@AngeloMysterioso no symptoms, like any symptom, can mean something or nothing. It's best to speak to your GP or midwife of you're concerned .

Sorry for not replying to everyone. Have a collective hug...

@chaosmoon returning your hug :-)

@angelomysterioso chaos is right, if you're worried then best thing is to speak to your midwife. Remember, not everyone has morning sickness, which can be normal, and it's still quite early for you. Have you got other symptoms?
Also I would say feeling queasy IS a form of morning sickness. I was never actually sick but felt dreadfully queasy xxx

@GemmaJen Grats on the scan! I totally know how you feel, I still get the sickness at 18 weeks but it definitely went down at about 15-16 weeks,its just not constant anymore. I do have more energy now and have been starting to help more but I did need to keep explaining that it just tough right now for me to do things. I still get moments of exhaustion especially in the evenings when I'm literally falling asleep at 9. Definitely talking about it helped.

What are you taking to crufts? I used to go alot back in my old dog training days. Loved it but super busy.

@AngeloMysterioso I was feeling queasy up until about 6 weeks then it fully kicked in. You may still be lucky and not get (I've had several people at work tell me they didn't have it!) or it may kick in soon (sorry!).

(also name updated in case anyone was getting confused!)

@GemmaJen @CrossfitGirl I’ve told DH multiple times that I’m sorry for being so rubbish at the moment, he just tells me not to be silly and that it’s his job to take care of me. He’s been doing everything around the house for weeks now while I just go to work then come home and lie on the sofa.

@AngeloMysterioso you won’t necessarily get obvious ‘morning sickness’. I’ve felt queasy on a few occasions but it’s never lasted more than a few minutes (and usually it’s been due to hunger) and I haven’t been sick.

Well the feeling good didn’t last long... back to exhausted and dizzy this morning!

So currently sat in the office loos crying my eyes out after a colleague was difficult to me before I'd even sat down, then hat the cheek when I said I've not even sat down yet to say well your were late weren't you.
Yes, due to cancellation and delays in trains which if you have a problem with talk to me line manager. Not too mention that I was sick 3x this morning. So fuck him what a twat.

Really want to just go home now, not have to sit next to this shit all day long.

Good morning ladies. Hope your all well.

I'm 5+2 today. I've noticed a loss of symptoms (not that they was many in the first place) but after a few days of feeling groggy I feel fine? I've had no cramping or bleeding, my boobs are still sore but no where near what they was. Is this normal or should I be worried? I know I'm still super early on to feel any symptoms but it's weird to suddenly feel fine? 😕 I have a scan when I am 8 weeks so it's quite a wait yet! So scared when I go there is nothing in there.

Also I still have a metallic taste in my mouth, and I feel a bit meh but I've found that's when I'm due to eat I've no aversions to anything etc still as greedy and ready to eat as always 🙄😂

@AngeloMysterioso I didn’t have morning sickness, I felt queasy and sometimes thought I might be sick but was only once sick in the evening and I think that was more because I ate too much lol. I’m 18+3 and had it very easy the whole way through, so please don’t worry about lack of symptoms meaning anything, in my case it didn’t xx

@thumper59 the first couple of weeks finding out I was fine, just had what felt like PMS type things. I only started getting nausea about 6ish weeks, then from about 7 weeks it became all day nausea, vomiting (not every day), and difficulty with what food I could or couldn't eat!
Everyone is different - some ladies don't have any nausea or vomiting, others get it badly - it doesn't in itself mean anything to worry about though!

Enjoy feeling good at the moment (trust me if you do get the nausea and sickness you'll be wanting to be one of the ladies that doesn't have it, lol!). The exhaustion, full blown cannot function, also really kicked in from 6/7 weeks for me. But everyone is different!

@cookie0508 aww I liked waffle! It was easy to remember lol. What is crufts?
@eltzbee what a fucking twatbag! You've been so poorly! Next time just go and be sick on him. See how he likes that!! Stupid man. I'm angry at him for you! Lol. Was he aware what you've been/are going through? Hope your day got better from then!

@thumper59 sounds normal for how far on you are. You have other symptoms, sickness isn't the only one! And they do all come and go as they please, sometimes by the day, sometimes by the week. I had mainly sore boobs, cramps sort of like PMS, increased thirst and needing to pee more. But not always all at once! I got through those early weeks by basically telling myself, I've not had a period, I have no reason to worry, therefore I am still pregnant and all is fine. You will keep worrying til the first scan though, if you're anything like most of us on here!

Also, I have definitely started feeling our little girl move now! The movements that I think have been the baby started a few days ago and I wasn't quite sure, but it's def been in the same place (low down by my pubic bone) and it's only when I'm sat down and sat still and concentrating, I feel these little sort of "pops". I wouldn't say it was "fluttering" like everything on Google says, it def feels like a little, teeny tiny weeny little jab every now and again, in tiny little bouts.

It's so exciting!!!! 😊😊😊❤️❤️❤️

Does that sound like what others have felt?

I'm 17+5 today xx

@EltzBee @Crossfitgirl thanks girls it really helps hearing other people have been the same who are further on :). Yeah defo gonna struggle until we have a scan! 29th I've booked an early one I'll be 8+4 I can't bloody wait!

@Crossfitgirl that's what mine feel like too. They are getting stronger each week but not enough for other half to feel them yet or see on the outside.

Been absent on here for a bit. Tiredness has crept up on me again in evenings. I have a few good days then I'm shattered by 9 (at the lastest). Anyone else feeling bad they aren't seeing friends as much? I would usually catch up one evening In the week with some but just too tired now after work. X

@Crossfitgirl thanks hun. My boss have him a talking to and told him it isn't acceptable to speak to anyone line that, he doesn't know why people might be late or what arrangement they may have and it's none of his business. So glad I have a supportive boss. Boys came and told me and said don't worry about it, I'm doing a great job and he totally understands how rough I feel (his wife was the same). Sat in a private booth today away from my desk to avoid Twat colleague.

Ah that's so exciting feeling her you must be so excited! I've felt what I could describe as mini taps already which I think is probably our little Bean having a wriggle! Can't wait til or gender scan, just over a week to go.

@thumper59 ah bless you we're all here to help each other! I'm another one who noticed the crazy thirstiness! Some symptoms come and go like CrossFit said too so please don't worry :) x

@mrsof20118 yes, I felt bad for not seeing anyone for ages. But actually, nobody made plans with me either, and as DH reminded me, it's a 2 way thing! So I feel less bad now. Its up to our friends to arrange to see us, too! I have, however, arranged a meet up this weekend, and it's made me feel better about the situation, regardless of who contacted who. Lol. I do worry about losing friends once baby comes. My 2 besties don't have kids and one of them is single, I'm the first one of us 3 to have a baby, and I did feel a little bit like they'd backed off a bit when I announced. Now it was also probably all just in my head and me being paranoid, but I do think that before now, even I underestimated how different it's going to be, being a parent. I've read about the reality of the first newborn months, getting baby in a routine for sanity and sleep etc... And actually I think my own appreciation of that with other friends with kids has really not done it justice! For example, before now, I'd maybe scoff a bit at the idea of revolving everything ever around the nap time of a child and maybe thought, ah for gods sake what's one night going to do if its a bit later or a bit different? But actually, now it's potentially me needing to do that for my own sanity, I kinda think... Whatever my child needs, that comes first... I can already feel my whole outlook on life changing, I know already that I won't want to leave my baby at all at first, I may not want to get a babysitter to go and have dinner with the girls... Yes I might just want to take the baby with me absolutely everywhere... Will my friends understand that?
I don't know! I'm sure they will. And I'm sure I'll figure out a good balance in the end.
But it's scary!!

Im glad I've got quite a few work friends pregnant or with very young children and I can have another network of mummy friends hopefully as well.

God, that sounds a bit awful like I don't think my friends will be supportive, I totally do think they will be, but you just worry don't you! Does anyone else feel similar?

I'm sure I'm not the only one that thinks like this xxx

Ahh @eltzbee mini taps! Yes that's what I feel!

I've not felt it today really, but I guess since I only started feeling it the last few days it's nothing to worry about... I did just get a leaflet from the midwife about reporting any reduced movements straight away, but when proper movements haven't been established fully yet, I'm not sure if it is normal to not feel it every day as it's small enough to move out of the line of feeling still? X

@Crossfitgirl everything I've been told and read is that they don't settle in to a pattern till twenty something weeks, so before that it is more sporadic and that that's normal! Our Bean is already a wiggler, I felt tapping sensation first time when I was approaching 13 weeks and thought I was going mad 🤣 but I've felt it more distinctly since and asked my Mum who said it is most likely Bean! It's definitely not wind (I know what that's like enough already lol). Some days I don't really notice anything though.

With you on the bit seeing anyone - I cancelled plans to see a couple of friends add was so poorly, and others haven't reached out and I've not pushed as felt so lousy. I don't really have many friends so I do worry about how it will be. But also agree that my life is going to turn upside down and baby will come first and potentially open up different friendship too. One friend hates children so not sure how she will be, although I did find out via social media they her sister is also pregnant do guess she's going to have to adjust this year!!

My bump is in a proper growth spurt the past week too; had anyone else found that it seems to be steady in size then boom is like it's grown overnight almost?!

Thanks for the reassurance @eltzbee, I did feel a tiny kick in the last half hour so feel a bit better. I may ring the MW tomorrow anyway just to ask when I should be watching out from, I'm not particularly concerned but I want to be clear about when I SHOULD be concerned lol.

And yes definitely on the growth spurts! Mine seems to have spurted at the weekend, on 2 consecutive weekends! Suddenly feel huge and bloated and seem to get a few symptoms for a day or two, then it calms over the week, then the same again the next weekend! X

@crossfitgirl from the third trimester you should start monitoring and keeping an eye on patterns x

Sorry I was quiet yesterday, had a 7 hour round trip for work and was completely wiped out after, I think it's the worst I've felt and I didn't even drive all of it 😑 .

@EltzBee I'm hoping that the exhaustion and sickness ends soon, everytime I speak to someone they seem to have suffered till 20+ weeks. 🤞 fingers crossed that's not the case for us. I'm still not sure when to tell my boss, there's probably not going to be a 'right time' to do it, I think I might just be scared of what she's going to say/ do. I already feel cut out of decisions and I can't imagine that's going to change.

@Crossfitgirl I'm just not used to falling out with DH, we usually never properly argue. But it is true we haven't been talking enough and not sharing whatever frustrations we have at the moment. I'm hoping the stress eases a little next week with this weekend out of the way - I'm looking forward to it, but also can't wait to have it over and done with.
@Crossfitgirl it must be so exciting to feel movement? Not long until the anomaly scan now? it'll be amazing to see how much they've grown 😊

@Cookie0508 everyday I'm hoping the nausea will lift, I'm sure when it does I'll be complaining that I don't feel pregnant and the worry will return, lol, never happy 🙈 My two terriers are qualified for the obedience classes, my training club and team have been awesome and so supportive, but it's getting so close now, I'm so nervous! Just hoping I don't trip over my feet or completely forget what I'm doing!