Pregnancy after m/c (part 7), true hand-holding and support along the road...

[Uki]

Thought I'd start this in honour of Purple's effort so far, hope you don't mind Purple I liked this title best.

Welcome to our shiny new thread

Oh my god, Lissie -- I just do not want to beleive it. I am not willing to accept it. I hope so much this is just a horrible scare....

Fettle -- I am so sorry to hear about your spotting to other day. Just when you think you are safe... Glad though, the monitoring was a reassurance.

Uki sorry to heear that you are in pain as well. Have no advice have you maybe tried accupucture and yoga? The latter is helping me a lot. I go to the normal yoga and don't do all postures. I have no backpain for three days afterwards, but it is managable in the first place.

Bouncinturtle -- great news about the HB. Sorry about work but it seems it has accomplished something. If they try and make your work more stress-free that's great! (Will keep that in mind and will keep have manual handy :-)).

Choocolatepeanut -- welcome and congratulations. I am so sorry to hear about your loss and hope that everything will go smooth this time. This thread is a great support group and has helped me a lot.

Thanks to everybody who gave me advice about how and when to tell my friend. Unfortunately, I have come down with a bad, bad cold (from DH, grrr) which I am trying to get over...

Wave to Daisyboo, Firststar, Bleubell, VV, Mumpbump...

Hello all

Lissie I am so sorry. Are you seeing anyone about recurrent miscarriage? Sounds to me as though you need to have a series of tests if only to rule some things out. It IS possible to develop these issues after a healthy birth

Glad to hear everyone else is struggling on. I am 10 weeks on Friday and remain an emotional wreck. No bleeing at all but wildly fluctuating symptoms and am cconctantly convincein myself that it has all gone wrong...

Where is MrsMc Jnr??????

Lissie don't know what to say hun but big {{{hugs}}} to you, surely the docs have to look into this for you now?

Welcome ChocolatePeanut, sorry to hear of your loss, fingers crossed for this one. I know what you mean about not wanting to let your DD down, my DSs were very upset at m/c last year. Told them at the weekend about this pg and they are so excited, I pray that I don't let them down too.

Hi to everyone else

Just popping in quickly...

Lissie - so sorry to hear that you're going through this again... I know you had tests a while ago which showed up the Strep B thing - do they think that is the problem? If not, have they referred you to a consultant for recurrent m/c yet?

Chocolatepeanut - welcome to our thread. Fingers crossed that this pg will be uneventful for you...

Will pop back later to catch up properly.

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Firststar I devoutly hope you are right. My sickness is definitely tailing off (at nearly 10 weeks) although I am still sick most days early evening if I haven't eateb for a while. Some days am so tired I can hardly think and some I am fine. and some days my boobs are agony and some days they are fine. Am driving DH mad........

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Grrr... mini-rant ahead!
Just had phone call from hospital about my triple test - aparently I had the test done 1 day early so have to have it done again... According to the lady I spoke to, my second scan put me 1 day back from where the first one put me - no-one bothered to tell me though! All this fuss for one day's difference. Grrrrr.....
mini-rant over and breathe...

Afternoon all,
Quite a hectic weekend ? compounded by the fact that dh has done his back in ? he assures me it?s not sympathy pains, and he does look rather grey, love him!
Was hoping for a quiet day to recover from the excesses of the weekend, but have been doing work for school up to now ? and running around after dh ? he?s now told me to stop it, as I ended up in tears with the pain at lunchtime!

Bouncingturtle ? I am so glad that your place of work are taking care of you ?

Lissie ? so for you ? it?s so unfair! Hope the medics can give you some answers ? hope it?s just a false alarm, and that we see you back safe and sound very soon!

Fettle ? sorry to hear about your scare ? really hope that things settle down for you!

Daisy ? you keep on popping in, girl ? I, for one, need the reassurance that it can all go well!

Chocolatepeanut ? hi & welcome ? here?s hoping for a boring and uneventful rest of your pg ? from a fellow hyperemesis and spd sufferer! I found the hyperemesis was really helped this time by acupuncture too! I have had physio and now hydrotherapy for the spd ? I am going to a ?pelvic pain class? tomorrow to get more tips!

Uki ? it?s bizarre about the indigestion ? the gaviscon is keeping on top of it ? but the worst I felt this weekend was after eating some strawberries ? the curry had no effect at all! I am also making sure that I eat well before I go to bed ?
I like the mantra ? I find myself getting so wrapped up in the fact that I am not enjoying being pg, that I forget that there is a wonderful end result!

Glimmer ? I hate having a cold in the summer ? it?s so bleeding unfair!
Hope you feel better soon!

VV ? hang on in there ? wildly fluctuating symptoms are normal! Here?s wishing away the time until your next scan!

Becklespeckle ? breathe!!

Waves madly at Firststar, mumpbump and everybody else.

Have just had a rather rollercoaster few hours. Went to the loo at work and saw some bright red bleeding. Immediately rang ultrasound place (private) who could fit me in straight away. DH collected me and.............
its all OK. 9+3. Placenta over cervix which is probable reason for bleed.

VV - what a scare.... I am so glad you got and ultrasound ASAP. Well done... Now make that placenta quit hanging out over your cervix and make it move upwards.

EJT -- summer?

Explanation for uki: we are having the wettest and coldest June/July I have ever experienced. I even hat the haet on during the last days..

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glimmer - fair point on it not really being summer - but I am, if nothing else, an eternal optimist!

firststar - I have slowed down now ... promise!

VV - so glad everything was ok! Thinking of you!

Hey everyone, had a goodish day today.

Ejt - sorry to hear about your dh's back, hope it's better soon. You take care of yourself too!

Vic- glad to hear all is okay.

Glimmer - hope you recover from your cold quickly, it's all this horrible damp weather, it hasn't stopped raing for weeks it seems!

Hello to everyone else too!

Morning All

Don't mean to start of being but I am upset about lissie, This thread had been so lucky as of late, brings it all back. i really hope there is some treatment that can help Lissie, it's not fair.

Glimmer- thanks for your advice. i love Yoga and did loads last pg, but have moved and there is no where here to do it, i could try on my own, but not really the same is it. I have some great cream called 'Goanna oil' that really helps the back, but not much helps the ribs.

Oh yes i have heard about all the flooding, ditto that we have had the most amount of rain here since 2000, we really need it though, but not the floods. I have even enjoyed the od bath lately as we finally have a bit spare, i live on a small farm so every drop counts.

VV- sorry to hear of your scare. 9+3 is great though, you'll make it, Do you have a 12 week scan booked?

Oh my I'm getting the strongest kicks right now, it really is the baby trying to break my rib cage!!!!

hi fettle, turtle, PLP, daisy, beckle and Firstar Ejt, ejb, bluebell, Mump and chocpeanut- who'd I miss

I should apologize for my typing lately. DS broke my keyboard and this one has sticky keys and is hard to type on, not that I am any good with a good one. I have to look at the keys

Morning girls -

Uki I too am about Lissie. I logged on yesterday and read news and felt too moved to post. I know I'm new and I don't know her very well but she seems to have had such a rough time and it's all so bloody unfair. Is she trying for her first do you know or does she have DC?

VV what a nightmare, I bet you were so relieved you could just be whisked straight to your private scan !

8+5 today for me and trying to remain as calm as possible about scan tomorrow. Symptoms seem to be back. Have been feeling really sick last couple of days and even fainted yesterday. And couldn't do top bottom of jeans so am hoping this is all positive!

I am driving myself mad staring at CM though - how tragically sad am I.... I stare and squint at the stuff on the tissue and once or twice have seen mininscule pink streaks. Am trying to tell myself that this is normal and that it happens to everyone and only weirdo nutters like me actually notice it....

Remember when going to the loo just meant having a pee?? Sigh.....

I am very upset about Lissie, too. I still have a little tiny bit of hope, since I had so much bleeding myself. But in her last post she was pretty convinced it was over and she knows best. She has one DS, which was a difficult pg as I beleive.

Basil -- welcome in paranoia club. I think we all have slightly different obsessions, but nobody will understand better than us, that it's just part of pg after mc. The days before a scan are especially horrendous and difficult to cope with, but then the confirmation that everything is well is priceless. It's a high price to pay, though. I never suffered from knicker's-watching itself, but I had attacks of anticipatory grief and cried for hours and hours beeing convinced I had lost it again.

I am having the worst cold ever (Plus asthma)! Am a little upset of DH at bringing it into the house and passing it to me. But those of you who already have DC have no choice ....

Morning Basil,
sorry i missed you HI.

re: knickers the absolute worst thing is to have any red and white knickers, i have some with stripes and if wet of course the red part of the knickers looks like blood, have given myself quite a fright with that one LOL!!!!
*Probably said this before but to me CM feels cool, while blood definately feels warm, so that helps me from running to check.

Glimmer- poor you and cold with asthma, must make nights terrible, i have become a bit of a chronic disinfector of late. Just disinfected the whole kitchen from my fear of colds!!!

Uki, very clever. Will desinfect DH every night when he comes home now :-) Have taken some olbas oil for inhalation (and on my skin) and now found some internet pages that say it is not safe in pregnancy, while others recommend it. Now I am feeling bad....I guess I'll stop it, so that I do not regret it...Regret it already.

Sounds like you live in a lovely place, Uki -- a small farm! Interesting that you are having a wet year as well.

Morning all!

I agree that Lissie seems to be in an awful place at the moment. I don't quite understand why the medical profession aren't doing something more to help her, given her history - sorry to talk about you in third person, Lissie!!

Having a bad day today. Have a stinking cold courtesy of ds who was very ill with it over the weekend, spilt my mocha down my top this morning and, of course, I have no clean top in work and my mother is being very difficult (and unreasonable) about moving house which is stressing me and dh out massively. Someone on my antenatal thread said it might be the drugs and I think she does have steroids in her cocktail of pharmaceuticals, but she has a number of different options and seems incapable of making a decision. She keeps changing her plans and forgetting / cancelling arrangements that she has made with dh. Plus she wanted him to take time off to help her with her move this week, but he is horrendously busy at work, so can't and she's being quite nasty about it even though he has offered to help at the weekend... Okay, rant over...

Firststar - am I right in saying that you will be full term on Thursday?? How exciting!

Glimmer - you have my utmost sympathies on the cold front for obvious reasons!!

Basil - I think just before a scan is the hardest time to keep it together because you know that you're going to know, iyswim! Sounds like you still have all the hormones buzzing around which must be good...

Uki - I think this one is really bruising my ribs. I thought it was my underwire bra, but have swapped into a soft one and it's no better. The kicks always seem to be on my right hand side and that is where my ribs are sore, rather than all around. What we have to go through for the sake of our children, hey?

VV - glad everything okay. It must have been very scary.

Beckle - how irritating. When are you going back for your bloods, then?

EJT - you and your dh sounds like a right pair! Obviously very well suited...

Hello to anyone else!!

Hi all
Very about Lissie too, she has had such a tough time, I was praying and praying this little one would stick for her.
Ejt, poor DH, must be a nightmare with you both in pain, have you got anyone who can pop in and help out a bit?
VV, what a scare but what a relief for you! Lets hope that placenta shifts upwards a bit soon so it doesn't scare you again!
Basil, you are not the only mad knicker checker on here, I stare at the stuff in close detail! (Although unlike UKI my CM is warm and runny at the mo (sorry TMI ) so often sends me off to the loo to check). Things sound positive for you though hun so fingers crossed you will have a lovely scan tomorrow.
Firststar, I think they should have noticed the date on the blood test form too! It said the test was to be done after 2 7 (I read this as 27th (meaning June) but apparently it meant 2nd of July). I can't see that 1 day makes that much difference but there we go, will go and have them done again once new form arrives in the post!
Hi to everyone else!

Hey Glimmer- What part of Germany are you in?
(i think your there)
I have relatives in Austria, and I speak some deutsch. My cousin in Austria is also pg, and sent me a photo of herself in a bikini, I could send one back BUT it's way too cold ;0 here

Ooh, x-posts Mumpbump, Hi!

Sorry to hear your Mother is being difficult about moving. It very probably is the drugs she is taking that are affecting her, my Mum turned into a different person when she was having treatment and unreasonable would be the word most often used to describe her at that time! She was also forgetful and kept forgetting plans she had made and getting cross when people didn't do what she wanted immediately - steroids were definitely one of the things she was taking too. How hard for you to deal with all this while pg too, please rant on here as much as you need!