Pregnancy after m/c (part 7), true hand-holding and support along the road...

[Uki]

Thought I'd start this in honour of Purple's effort so far, hope you don't mind Purple I liked this title best.

Welcome to our shiny new thread

Ah mumof.. no need to apologise. Its an anxious time. I think we find all sorts to worry about. I got quite worked up about pain on the one side. However, it was more an achey cramp - not intense take yr breath away pain.

Do you have a scan booked? Wishing you all the best x

Firststar - congrats on your bouncing baby boy let us know how you are getting on!
Cefer, Oinker, congrats on your bfps, there are lots of hands for you to hold here and offload as much as you can! I found sahring my worries here very carthatic.
Uki- sorry you are feeling down, i have a friend who is due in less than 6 weeks, she's feeling a bit down too. But I think getting your bloods checked sounds like a good plan.
MoM - you are NOT being insensitive - totally understandable to feel that way.
Hello to everyone else!
I've been feelin a bit depressed but that's more to do with work, plus been having mood swings again.

HI
We kinda had a live birth on Aug thread this morning, well haven't heard final news, but i imagine LO is here now, very exciting.

Mump - Hi and thank you i should of had my bloods done by dr, but think his mind is on other things, my cough and BP, I am taking my multivitamins though, did you feel fuzzy headed with anaemia? i feel constantly hung over IYKWIM?

Bouncing- Hi, these preggy hormones do knock you around don't they, I used to be so sensitive at work and my job was pretty stress free. don't think I'd have coped at all with anything to demanding.

Blubell- How you feeling hun? Hope things have settled down.

Siameez- Not long till scan then, Hope all is well and you do see that HB

MrsMc- Hi, is is feeling quite real now?

Cefer - WELCOME

Jules- What a lovely post, don't think I could sum it all up so well

I'm 8 days till DD, I can't quite believe it, but can if i look at my belly!!!

Uki -- I declare your honourable Grand-Dame of the pregnancy after mc thread. > Sorry you are feeling down, but it's count-down now for you and you will have the little one in your hands sooner as you think. If possible at all, enjoy these last days of LO kicking you in the ribs and squahsing your bladder and stomach!

CONGRATULATIONS FS!
We should really have a smiley for 'hormonal welling', since that's what I seem to spend most of my time doing at the moment....

Morning ladies

Bluebell sorry to hear you?ve had a bad time. I hope you are feeling much better now take it easy!

MOM ? don?t feel bad hon, we all understand where you are at

Ejb & Daisy & Fettle & Mumpbump & Ejt & Jules & VictorVictoria & Feedmenow & my1stbaby ? hello

Bouncing ? sorry to hear you?ve been feeling low how many weeks until you go on mat leave from that wretched job?

Uki how exciting the August thread must have been! hope you feel better soon. LOL I guess it is feeling quite real it?s people?s reactions to the bump really, they look at me amazed as if to say ?where did that come from!? can?t believe you are nearly there; the months seem to have flown when you think of it that way! hope that hospital bag is packed hon

Beckle ? how are things today? I haven?t really told many friends yet; I?m waiting until after my anomaly scan on 4/9 ? getting tricky though if I see people in the street as it is getting so obvious!

Siameez - it is a weird world! I have a great EPU here too and it really does help. I had a scan this time round at 5+6 and then at 8. I would say that the measurements were pretty out back then so try not to worry if the dates don?t seem spot on, I?m measuring spot on now but at the 5+6 I was measuring 5+2. At that scan we saw the sac and the yolk in the right place but not much more but hopefully those extra days will make all the difference and you?ll see more but don?t worry if you don?t, it?s their policy to scan you again to make sure they see a viable pregnancy hence getting me back at 8 weeks. Hope it goes well

Haylstones ? Congratulations hon we decided not to have any NHS screening. We paid for a private nuchal for Downs as it is more accurate but decided that there was no point having a screening test for the neural tube defects and worrying about it when we?ll be having an anomaly scan anyway. My email address is amanda dot moore figure one at tesco dot net. Please add me to your list

PLP ? sorry about the scare, hope all is fine now

Dropping in quickly to say a big hello to everyone. Been struggling to keep tabs on you ladies, this thread moves so quickly .

Many congratulations to all with BFP!! Wishing you a successful and uneventful (IYKWIM)pregnancy.

Jules: OMG! The supermarket experience must be really scary . Glad DH was there to look after you . It's lovely isn't when they bond with the little one? My DH has too and it makes me feel so good. I know what you mean about regretting not enjoying the pregnancy. I do want to so much but every little niggle and bleeding just triggers the panic button in my head. It's so difficult not to when we want to have the little one in our arms so much.

MumofM: I get a niggling pain around my left ovary every now and then. I know that my pg is not ectopic. I can understand you worrying though... would you be able to get an early scan? I had one at 6.5wks privately. It might ease your mind a bit?

As for me, I'm still bleeding lightly . Think have resigned myself to the fact that I'm probably going to till the end of the 1st trimester. Also have been very very sick since yesterday, not nice! A bit worried about not having enough nutrients and fluid in my body. Work is driving me mental as well. Oh well, at least the sun is shining . x

You haven't worried me anymore than I already am Daisy! I remember the plug with both boys and it is very similar but is not tinged with any red streaks or anything and MW says it is not that. I do know a friend who lost her plug at 16 weeks but it grew back so fingers crossed if it is that. I have phoned them again this morning and waiting for a call back... Got scan tomorrow so perhaps they will check me over while I am there.
I have to say I can't believe how much the MW service has changed here since I had DS2! We used to have AN appts every 4 weeks where they would always check heartbeat and fundal height etc. Now we have one at 16 weeks where all they check is blood pressure and the next one after that is at 28 weeks! They only check for the heartbeat if asked and then reluctantly - I personally don't think that is enough care (for paranoid mums-to-be like me) and am beginning to wish I had not insisted on MW led care (they wanted me under a consultant). Also appts used to be with a doctor and a MW and now is just a MW.
Sorry guys, rant over...
Hope everyone is okay today!

I hope everything is OK Beckle. It could be an infection or something? Good luck for your scan...is this your 20 week scan already?

ante-natal care here (Leeds) has been fab, but it really pisses me off that there is not consistency of care throughout the whole country. The good old NHS post-code lottery again, doncha just love it...not!!

UKI accepts 'Grand Dame sash' with honour

I don't thik anyone else wants to accept it quite yet.

We ALL like well cooked babies here

Babymad- from Aug thread had a little/big girl 2 hours ago.
9 pound something, Some big babies ATM

Fingerbobs -- It has taken me until now to notice signs of hormonal welling. Why don't we make up our own symbol, e.g. >o

Thanks Daisy, me too. It is my 20 week scan already (well, will be 19+6), seems to have come round really fast! Consistency of care annoys the hell out of me, it used to be very good here but in 4 years has completely changed. I guess a lot of it is due to resources being overstreched but still...
Glad Babyboo is doing well - 9 weeks already !

Uki - yes - I was complaining to my roomshare and dh that I felt as though my head was in cotton wool and my brain only operating at half-mast. I would seriously see if you can get hold of some combined folic acid and iron supplements (don't know if they would be called Pregaday in Oz) as there is a folic acid related form of anaemia.

I know you're really close to your EDD, but I felt so much better within 2/3 days of starting the tablets, it's remarkable... I was told to stop taking my normal pregnancy vitamin supplements though as you can overdose on iron... I always thought the Aussie health system to be very good so I'm surprised your doctor hasn't checked this out properly for you. Last Tuesday, before I started taking the tablets, I told dh I was feeling so bad, I was having thoughts like "oh if I just fell down this flight of stairs, at least I'd go into hospital and be able to sleep and have time to myself". Not healthy thoughts, but a sign of how terrible I was feeling. PLEASE, PLEASE give it a go!!!

Back later...

Sorry - Uki - the point being that I was taking Pregnacare and thought that would prevent anaemia becoming a problem, but I guess the dose of iron/folic acid isn't necessarily high enough in all pregnancy supplements...

Thanks for the advice Mump, I was planning on having a big whinge to him (DR.) anyway, I still have quite bad diarrehea (TMI I Know) but i'm sure that's part of why I'm weak too, can't really be getting any nutrients when going 5x a day. One web site on Diarrehea said if you feel very sleeply, go straight to hospital, while another of pg & dia said it can be quite common. I think you can also get injections for iron if needed.

Well, I'd definitely get that checked out too. Childbirth isn't much fun and is bluddi hard work when you're in prime condition, let alone when you're feeling knackered... I don't want to scare you, but I did hear on here about women who had to have blood transfusions after childbirth because of anaemia so definitely worth getting checked/sorted out.

Spoke to MW and swab results were clear too. MW said they do not know what it is but increased mucus is normal in pregnancy. I asked if it could be some of the plug come away and they said it is possible but not to worry if there is no blood or abdominal pain. Apparently with 2nd, 3rd etc pregnancies the cervix does not always completely close so you would be more likely to get more gunk.
Fingers crossed all is fine, scan tomorrow so I may mention it there too.

Beckle - I have had sporadically greenish gunk. did last time too. am choosing not to worry aboit it although may mention it to consultant when I see her at 16 weeks

Beckle -- glad the MW could reassure you.
All the best for the 20 week scan. It's a HUGE milestone, isn't it?

Well, i had my hospital appointment today...I waited nearly four hours for a poxy 5 minute chat and a blood test....

WHOOPPEE DOOoooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo

I can't help but feel let down.
I saw a doctor who I haven't seen in months.

He totally opposed the STEROIDS. It was never my idea it was his colleagues idea.
They took some blood for a TEG and pregnancy hormone test.
He questioned why I tested so early and seemed a bit concerned that I had.
The only reason I did was cos I knew the clinic was only open today and tomorrow. My test day should have been thursday... By then it would be too late i am on hols from 14th to 29th...

Have I been that stupid by testing early...

Beleive it or not when I phoned prof Reagans clinic yesterday and explained my situation I overheard one of the staff say to the other....." She has tested to early and got a faint line, she's not pregnant then"
RESPONSE...from another female in the room," Don't be stupid....of course she is it is a positive it doesn't matter what colour the line is....get her details and make an appointment"

I thought they would be a little mre switched on!!!!!!

OK.

RANT OVER.................

Oinker - I'm furious that you were treated the way your were. It was incredibly insensitive and small minded, you'd think these people would have a better idea of the hell you have been through - I feel another of my pregnancy rages coming on! I am sorry hon. What happens now? x

I wait for my test result. They sould be available tomorrow.

to be quite honest with you I have no idea what will happen next....

I told him I thought the TEG test was pointless as I took a baby aspirin this morning on the advice of the other doctor I saw... He seemed to think it would make no diference...

I wish I knew more about this and could help you but I would say from my own experience that if someone is saying something that you think is not quite right, don't accept it, insist on seeing the dr who suggested the steriods if that sounded to you like the most sensible way to go. My consultant was delighted I went to see her when I did, I was 4+6 - gave her time to make sure I got the right meds at the right time.

It really is amazing how insensitive these people can be, isn't it? And how cr*p that you're getting conflicting advice. Do you have another appointment? Can you go back to the person who recommended steroids and tell them that this consultant says no and see what he says? If the medical profession can't agree, how the hell are you meant to be able to make a decision? And for something as precious as this!!