Pregnancy after m/c (part 7), true hand-holding and support along the road...

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Thought I'd start this in honour of Purple's effort so far, hope you don't mind Purple I liked this title best.

Welcome to our shiny new thread

MrsMcJ you guessed my Bday, so only fair I guessed your dream . So we make a party out of it I like it!

oh, its that is quite a while before you go on mat leave -- it was totally understandable, I just didn't get it....I plan to work until the last day so that I can spend all of it once Lo is born and also thought it makes the final less painful (more distraction). Is that stupid?

pinkrangerstartstowaddle -- we do not know about firsty, but I am sure this is why?! Unless she cannot face being asked again....
Congrats on the 37 weeks and all the best for the final push. (Pun intended.)

What an awful MW MrsMc! grrrr... Bet it is baby moving you know, mine seems to respond well to chocolate or ice-cream!

Well I just phoned the docs for my urine test results and they have come back clear! No infection. Which is great because I didn't want anti-biotics really but I have to say it still stings a bit . I wonder if I did have a UTI but managed to flush it out by drinking plenty? The MW picked up stuff in my sample on Monday (with that strip they dip in) which suggested infection but Tuesday's one (sent to hospital for analysis) was clear. Only 5 more sleeps until my next scan - hopefully they will test again then and it will all be clear still. Don't know what I'd do if I had nothing to worry about!

helloo

left a message here - quite a long me me me post but after I hit post I got error. Grrr

My1st - have got everything crossed for you. Can't believe you can't get in at EPAU. Hoping & wishing you all the best for tomorrow

Angua - to echo others here, I found my symptoms did come and go. And I was very fretful that one day my boobs would feel softer and smaller than they had the previous day. Also, I was never particularly tired during the first trimester with this pg but with my dd I was abs shattered constantly. Here's to just hanging in there. Siameez - I too wished for vomiting

ejt - hope you are feeling in less pain today

Thank you all for yr kind wishes re scan. It all went sound. Diagnostic stuff was all fine - placenta working OK (this wasn't done in 4d tho - it flits between normal and 4d scan) Best of luck to you fettle re growth scans. I'm a nightmare and a bore on the subject cos of previous pg. Was evening questioning a bang on average head measurement yest cos it was bigger than average at 22 weeks - could it be sign of possible / impending microcephally. At least I can see the funny side of neurotic

DH was bit disapointed that peanut didn't put in an oscar performance for scan - was mostly asleep. I just was relieved that all other stuff was fine. Nice to see his face (no obvious dysmorphia - does look a bit like Marty Felman in some of them tho )- will put some pics on profile if anyone wants to see

est wishes to all x

Thank you everyone for all your best wishes and support. It really means a lot to me and I'm really chuffed to have found so many generous people on MN. It's a very conforting feeling to know there are poeple out there thinking of us and wishing us well. I will hold on to all the positive stories and hope that I will have one to report back tomorrow afternoon. One of my close friend has just given birth yesterday and hearing the news really made me realise how much this little beanie means to us. x

Glad to hear about hte scan ejb.
Ok I've got emails from Beckle, Winkygirl and ejt. Any more? I'll probably give it a couple of days then will send a group email out, does that sound OK? Then we can all decide how it's going to work!

mrsmc - what a cow, its a shame that amongst the ace mws theres also the moody bad tempered ones.

rainbowdays - what tests are you using hun? i only ever got faint bfps this time at the start cos i was using some rubbish internet cheapies. also had loads of cramps. i know its horrible but if it was our first pregnancies and we d never had a mc (or been on the internet ) wed probley not even give it a second thought. i remember when pg with dd1 i had some bleeding, didnt even think for a second it could be something bad and didnt rush off to docs as i would now just mentioned it when i saw mw 3 weeks later oh the days of innocence

Spugs - thank you and I agree, if I had not had the miscarriage before I would still be absolutely estatic and just enjoying the idea of being pg, but the mc has made me realise not to take things for granted and I am struggling trying to keep things in perspective.

I have today for the first day got a slightly more than faint test, it has coinsided with sore (0)(0)'s so I guess the beanie has finished implanting and started to give me symptoms at last. I can only assume that it too longer to implant because it has done so nice and securely!!!!

My1st - thinking of you, hope tomorrow brings good news.

ejb - good to hear that the scan went well.

MrsMc - maddening how horribly thoughtless some m/w's can be.

Siameez - good to have another April buddy here.

Hi to everyone else.

Morning people, how you all doing?
Just got back from Edinburgh last night, we went to the Zoo on Tuesday (fabulous but tiring as it is all uphill), then visited a couple of museums yesterday and sat in the park below the castle for a picnic.
MrsMc - I'm at your MW - obvsiously she skipped the "sensitivity" part of her training...
Myfirstbaby, I kno how you feel, m/c my 1st pg, and when I fell pg again it was so scary because it seemed like nothing could reassure me that nothing would go wrong with this one.
But here I am 19 weeks, still a little nervous, but the more weeks you go through the easier it gets, especially at scan time when you see little bean bouncing around!
No news from Firststar?

Glad you had a nice time in Edinburgh BT - I think its a lovely place and would love to visit again

Rainbowdays - great news!

Ooh MrsMc, meant to say yesterday, did you see that other thread on here about self testing kits for Group B? Involves anal swab and is £35 but I'm going to do it.

Thinking of you My1st. Glad yr finding the thread of comfort and support. I certainly have over last few months

Haven't signed up to contacting thingy cos mobile phone won't charge at moment. Have put sim in old handset of dh but can only find car charger for that. Might be getting a new phone

Had a bit of a scare last night - pink blood streaky discharge. Went to hospital and was told it was from cervical erosions. Had a trace - that was a bit scary at first cos it was making up and down patterns like is usual in labour. It settled down and apparantly early traces can be really misleading and hard to interpret anyway.

Do feel like this pg is an absolute rollercoster - something really joyous followed by fright - like Spugs said, everything is tinged by previous bad experiences. hey ho though. All is OK really. Am just grateful of that and looking forward to baby coming out (on time) and this all being over...

Nice day wishes all round x

Well, After months of heartbreak every month since my mmc in December finally got a BFP on Sunday. 10dpo!! Since then I haven't known how to feel and have swung from elation to despair.

The messages on here have made me realise that I'm not a complete freak, so thanks very much ladies.

I feel that I ought to just let go and enjoy this time, fall in love with my beanie and assume that everything will be ok, and if we get hurt again then so be it.

Strange really because last time I thought I was being really cautious, didn't tell many people and didn't linger on my dreams - although I obviously did.

Rainbowdays, I guess we'll be due around the same time then. Wish I felt more sick!

Congrats muddyboots, great to have you here.

I am relieved to say that again today I had the slightly more obvious line, so I am now a bit more relaxed to think things may go to plan this time. Of course in my next thought I was thinking "what the heck have I gone and done now!" . It is now a scarey excitement, rather than scarey fear, which I think is a much better place to be in. Thank you all for the hand holding.

My1st - hope the scan brings good news this afternoon, thinking of you.

muddyboots - congratulations on your bfp. Hope you have a really dull, unventful pg - sending you my bestest wishes

Completely understand what you say about trying to remain cautious / detatched. In my case, I know I have a 50/50 ish chance of pg not being viable due to gentic condition. I always try and put the pg to the back of my mind and just carry on in the early stages - but in actuality I find that impossible to do. I want a baby - so whether I try and pretend its not happening or if I have moments of sheer excitement - it doesn't change what I'd feel if it all went tits up. It is really, really difficult - like an endurance trial but as the weeks go by and things are more established / stable, it gets a bit easier. Best of luck x

Congrats on your stronger BFP rainbowdays. You too muddyboots. Hopefully it'll work out fine for all of us.

My scan is at 3.45 this afternoon and I'm slightly freaking out. Doesn't seem to have much pg symptoms but then my mind could be playing tricks on me. DH can't come with me this time so MIL has volunteered to hold my hand. Was planning to go on my own but thought better of it just in case. Managed to snatch some sleep last night. Abdomen was rumbling a bit, slightly crampy through the night. Still bleeding this morning but not much more than yesterday. Trying desperately to do some work from home as taken day off but have tons to get done. It's keeping me occupied at least

Hello Pinkranger 37+1 wow!!! we?ve had no news from Firsty ? hoping all is well! I?m 16+3 time flies I guess! (after the first 12 weeks as you say!)

Glimmer I sometimes think I should do the same as you and work straight up to my EDD but I can?t stand working between Christmas and NY nor on my B?day on 29/12 so I think it is probably best to stop at 37 weeks. That said, my BP is already a bit high so hopefully I?ll last until then! Firsty was meant to be having her sweep yesterday and today would be 8 days late so if she hasn?t had her baby she will be very soon

Beckle thanks for the empathy! Glad the results were clear, maybe you have flushed it out wow, not long now until the scan ? are you finding out the flavour?

Ejb ? glad things went well at the scan but that is NOT enough info for us, come on what did you see? Was it amazing? Re Edinburgh ? you can tell the Festival is now here, the place is full of nutters fun though! That?s interesting about the kits? Where do you get them from? I guess the challenge then becomes if you do have it to convince your carers that that is the case! Sorry to hear about the scare, glad you are ok

My1stbaby ? thinking of you today hon

Haylstones ? I?m banned from logging into my personal email from work so it might be a few days until you get an email from me as I am away for the weekend

Spugs ? thanks

Hey Rainbowdays sounding good hon, hang in there!

Bouncingturtle ? you came to my town and didn?t look me up?! Humph! I probably crossed you in the street! The secret at the Zoo is to take the bus to the top and walk down hope you had a good time!

Welcome and congratulations Muddyboots fabulous! It is a rollercoaster being pg after a MC and the thing is, the caution and holding back you find yourself doing isn?t conscious, you just can?t help but try and protect yourself even though you know it won?t work! We?re here for you so chat to us lots and we?ll help you through the hardest weeks. For all the worry and the fear, I am really enjoying my pregnancy now (I?m 16+3) a previous loss makes you realise just how special it is to be growing a baby

Just a quickie from me today - congratulatons to everybody with new bfps - and you have my heartfelt wish for a long and boring pg ...

Hope those who are needing reassurance get it - can't remember who's having a scan today - but thinking of you!

waving madly at everybody else

no real news from me ... just keep popping on to see if there's any news from Firsty!

Yes I agree that the days of innocence are behind us unfortunately. I really really want this baby to be ok because I dont know I could go through this AGAIN!

MrsMc Am so for you. I had a battleaxe mw for part of my labour with DD. And I am determined next time I wouldnt put up with how rude she was. But you only think after what you should have said.

My1st Good luck for this afternoon xx

Muddyboots welcome!

Myfirst - ohhhh, I really hope everything is ok for you this afternoon. Off to walk the dog on the beach, but will look back later to see how you get on. Will be thinking about you.

jules99 - eek! How exciting. You must feel really reassured.

Welcome to muddyboots. This thread is a great place to come and find that you are most definitely not alone.
Myfirst, will be thinking of you this pm.
MrsMc, you're not in Edinburgh, are you?! If I got a mw saying something like that I'd be v. hard pressed not be, um, quite rude, and at least I could prepare my DP to hold me back

Ejb - your scan pics are good! What a good view of his little sleeping face! Your DD is very cute too! Not sure if I have asked you before but where did you get the patch for her glasses? DS2 has to be patched daily and the stick on ones are rubbish! He is due a new pair of glasses very soon and I would like to get him a patch like your DDs, they look so much more practical and comfy.
My1stBaby - good luck with your scan today, hope everything is okay. Shame DH can?t be there with you but great idea to take MIL, I don?t think I would ever be brave enough to go to a scan alone.
Rainbowdays - glad your test was darker today, here?s hoping that beanie has burrowed in nice and deep! Sore boobs good sign too.
Bouncing - welcome back, hope you had a good time away! I am 19 weeks too and also still a little nervous, I am not sure it ever goes away when you have experienced loss.
Muddyboots - congrats on your BFP! Welcome to the rollercoaster again, hopefully it will be a nice smooth ride for you this time. You might regret wishing for more sickness in a couple of weeks though! Although saying that, I felt truly awful with this pg for the first 3 months but just felt too grateful for being pg again to mind or moan about it.
Jules - your post brought tears to my eyes, so glad your LO is okay and you saw little signs of movement. Very very lovely of the sonographer to scan you again, he sounds like the sort of person who really belongs in his profession.
Winky - how?s it going hun? I too had a battleaxe MW for part of my labour with DS1, she was there for the last bit and obviously not a people person! Very brusque in a moody way and she was holding my leg up by my head very roughly. Had a wonderful MW with DS2 though, hope I get her again for this one.
Hi to Spugs, MrsMc, Ejt, Fingerbobs and everyone else!

MrsMc - no its not long until my scan, am excited and a bag of nerves all at once! Not sure about finding out the flavour or not, DH really wants to know as he really wants a girl this time. Me, I am not fussed as long as baby is healthy and I quite like the idea of a surprise. I have a feeling it is another boy (I was right with the last 2!) though and I do wonder if DH will bond better if he has time to get used to that? Perhaps baby will have legs crossed!

Hi everyone.
My1st, really hope it goes well this afternoon. Will be thinking of you. And will check back later to see how you got on.

Jules, yes, what a fantastically lovely man! So nice of him to have another look for free! And so reassuring for you.

Firsty - where are you?????????

I've just been to GP to "register" the pg. Booked in to see mw on 21st when I'll be 9+4. Also, have just emailed a private scan place to book an appt for a scan. Although part of me really wants to go NOW, NOW, NOW, I'm going to hold off til 9 weeks so I'm past the 8+2 that my last bubba got to.

My dp told me last night that a "friend" of his (not much of a friend if you ask me, but they go back a long way.....) girlfriend is pg, about the same as me. He said that they've already told all their families, and I just pointed out how easy that is to do when you haven't already lost one. I don't know why them being pg bothers me, but I think it's cos they split up recently and my guess is that this was deliberate on her part. Silly girl, IMO, as he already has 2 daughters with 2 different women and doesn't see/contribute to either of them. Oh well, everyone is different I suppose.

Anyway, off out with the kids now. Shopping andlunch, then swimming. I might even go in today!!

Will check in later after my1st.

Have a lovely day all!

Hey Jules think the MW was probably in need of her summer holiday! so glad all is well, it?s so lovely to hear how well things are going for you hon, about time too I like to think that our angel babies keep a watchful eye on their younger siblings

Ejt hello

Winkygirl ? don?t worry about me!

Fingerbobs ? are you here too? I actually surprised myself in not being rude, vry unlike the pg-me!

Ejb ? gorgeous pics the 4ds are amazing. Is the sweet little girl your DD? I got confused as your profile says you don?t have any kids? Sorry, I?m probably being thick?

Beckle ? decisions hey!?