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Pregnancy after m/c (part 7), true hand-holding and support along the road...

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Uki · 23/06/2007 05:03

Thought I'd start this in honour of Purple's effort so far, hope you don't mind Purple I liked this title best.

Welcome to our shiny new thread

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firststar · 30/07/2007 17:04

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MrsMcJnr · 30/07/2007 17:06

Glimmer ? the black humour is just classic self-defence hon have to say I feel slightly misled now, my consultant told me that my personal chance of MC would pass at 20 weeks ? what she really meant was that if I lost Beanie after that (a thought I cannot bear ? we need an icon for fear!) it would be a still birth! Re your expression, a famous well, Scottish band had a hit with ?Alive and kicking!? never before did I see the significance!

My1stbaby ? hope the bleed stops, in the meantime, you take it easy; baby yourself, not too long until you see your beanie again

Feedmenow ? glad I made you laugh mission accomplished! ? they sound great mixed with a Mc surname believe me! Joking aside, my great grandmother was called Ynnocencia!

Beckle welcome home and glad you had a good time! Sorry about the UTI, not nice. PMSL at the vision of you in your nappy trousers ? might have to steal that one. My very cheap mat tops from Littlewoods arrived today ? 2 for £4

ejt1764 · 30/07/2007 17:51

feedmenow - you have my endless sympathy with the ?m?s ? I, too had the all-day variety, and ended up signed off work for 12 weeks with hyperemesis. It?s awful ? I can only say that I found trying to eat just little and often (I had a slice of toast with marmite, or a tiny bit of plain pasta) helped me get through. I also had acupuncture, and found that very useful ? I also used nux.vom. ? give that a try if the sepia doesn?t help. The travel sick bands didn?t work on me ? but the acupuncture points on me are underneath the vein in my wrist (so says the acupuncturist), so it wasn?t really surprising. I?m now at 31 weeks (gulp), and although I?m still occasionally sick, it?s mostly passed ?

As for the names, I can think of a few shockers ? why not suggest the name that Jordan has given her baby ..Tiaamiii (or something just as awful!)

spugs - can I suggest that you try a bit of emotional blackmail on your GP? Or even a bit of bending of the truth?

feedmenow ? hoping your wait won?t be much longer! Oooh ? waves of pains ? will be looking out for a childbirth thread from you!

mumofmonsters - there?s been research that seems to show that the most successful treatment for recurrent mc is tlc ? if it helps, I went through the dread of it all happening all over again, and was absolutely terrified before all 4 of the scans I?ve had so far (7 weeks - reassurance, 12 weeks, 20 weeks, and 22 weeks ? after a bleed) ? the worst one by far was the 12 week scan ? that was the one where my dreams were shattered the second time, and I was a mess. Also, the ms fluctuating can in fact be a good sign ? I had very little ms with the first mc, and horrendous ms with the 2nd ? but this one has been by far the worst in terms of ms ? worse, in fact, that the ms I had with ds!

my1stbaby - thinking of you ? hoping your bleeding stops soon. Hang on in there until your scan ? we?re here to prop you up of you need it.

Glimmer - I am so glad you are starting to be able to enjoy this pg ? I felt the same when I got to the 24 week mark too! I?m now at 31 weeks and the odds are increasing all the time ? as are the alien moments in my belly! I remember being on this thread too right at the very beginning, and it was really reassuring to me to read that other women were experiencing successful pg!

MrsMc - your boss seems to have the same level of tact and decency as dephead where I work! Hope your migraine is getting better! Thinking of you as you go into your mw appt on Weds.

Rainbowdays - thinking of you ? I?ll hold the other hand for you while you have a wobble.

Griffin - just want to give you big gentle hugs. DH is in a similar situation at the moment ? not his dad, but a cousin he was brought up with, so like his brother, was given 6 months to live about 5 months ago ? due to an inoperable tumour in his brain. It just seems so bl00dy unfair ? I?m thinking of you.

Beckle - lovely to hear you are getting fatter ? I found the bumpbands invaluable (and, in fact, still do!) in helping to keep my maternity trousers up!

No real news from me at all ? just wanted to catch up with you all ? am still lousy and streaming with this head cold ? am also coughing like a chain smoker ? hopefully it doesn?t go onto my chest, as I?m severely asthmatic and could do without a chest infection!

my1stbaby · 30/07/2007 18:47

Ladies, so tempted to add my name to firststar's list but a bit worried that might be tempting fate . Sorry for being idiotic but on the plus side, I'll have that to look forward you once I'm past the m/c danger stage {fingers x'd emoticon} x

Bouncingturtle · 30/07/2007 18:50

Helloooooo!!! I'm back!!! Seems like ages... had a nightmare of a time with my laptop, the wifi card stopped bloody working, and mentally busy at work so unable to get time to browse mumsnet there.
Hope everyone is okay, I'm okay apart from ear infection returned...
Hope to catch up properly soon but incredibly busy atm crisis at work due to 2 people handing in their notice agghhh!!!
Have decided to limit my mumsnet time to this thread and the antenatal club i'm in due to the fact that i'm amazed how much more i can get done in the evenings when i'm not glued to t'interweb and mumsnet of a night....

fettleandminifettle · 30/07/2007 20:30

Hi all

feel so bad, this thread is so busy, I can't keep up personally with you all - but big hugs all round!

Glimmer so pleased to hear you sounding so positive! I felt the same as you when I finally reached 24 weeks - can't quite believe how quickly it has gone - you're at 24 weeks, I'm at 31!

Can I admit to you all, that finally I'm getting a bit impatient to get this little one out?! having spent so long panicking that it would be all over too soon, I'm now getting impatient for it all to be over in the best possible way! think I'm just so utterly tired after yet another long, tiring, stressful day at work. But I do know that he'll be so much better off inside me for another 6 weeks at least!!

Rubles - how you? no work in ages, hope everything is ok with you!

Big waves to everyone - must get off the 'puter now and do some washing up - DH is away for a few days and he normally does it - bless his heart!!

take care
xxx

Rainbowdays · 30/07/2007 20:57

Firststar 26 July
Uki -15th August
PurpleLostPrincess - 22nd September
Rubles - 28th September
Fettle - 29th September
Mumpbump - 1 October
ejt1764 - 2nd October
ejb1976 20 October
Glimmer November 13
mad4girls 4th December
hotchoc 10 dec
Bouncingturtle - 23rd December
becklespeckle - 17+0 EDD 27th December
MrsMcJnr ? 14+2 EDD 15 January.
VictorVictoria 12+0
Bluebell- 12+6
BellaBear - 6th February
Taichimum - 9+5 EDD 16th Feb
Haylstones- EDD 24th Feb (my birthday!!)
Jules - 10th March
Winkygirl - 20 March
Spugs - 22nd March (4 + 5)long way to go
Rainbowdays - 8th April (4+0) very long way to go!!!

Thank you all for your strong grip in your hand holding with me, it seems to be working. Yesterday my tescos cheap test came up as a faint positive. I got a bit more of a convincing bfp from the cheap internet tests today and the clearblue came up with a cross within a minute, not dark but clearly there today. So I am a little less worried today, but will be happier as I get a bit further on I think.

Fettle - thank you so much for your support, I really appriciate it. I am so amazed at how far along you are already, it is great. Not long til your ML now.

Myfirstbaby - I am sorry to hear about the bleeding, I hope it stops soon and that you get good news at the scan next week.

ejt1764 - thank you for the handholding.

Beckle - thank you for reassuring me on the lines not getting darker quickly with you, it helps me feel a bit better.

MrsMc - thank you for handholding too, it means so much knowing that you understand.

FMN - glad to hear that the sickness is more undercontrol, and thankyou for sharing about your morningsickness persevering after m/c, I thought I was crazy when I was experiencing it, it helps to know that I was not so stupid afterall.

Glimmer - thank you too for the reassurance over the cheap internet tests not getting darker soon, it has helped me relax a bit about it all. And congrats on reaching the 24week mark.

Spugs - sorry to hear about the cramping.

Hi to everyone else, it is such a big group.

Bouncingturtle · 31/07/2007 06:49

Morning ladies!
Raninbowdays, congrats on your BFP, those first few days are so anxious, you have my sympathy! I hope time goes quickly for you. I'm 19 weeks now and it seems to have flown by for me!

Fingerbobs · 31/07/2007 09:10

Morning all, hope everyone has a sunny start to the day.

Firststar 26 July
Uki -15th August
PurpleLostPrincess - 22nd September
Rubles - 28th September
Fettle - 29th September
Mumpbump - 1 October
ejt1764 - 2nd October
ejb1976 20 October
Glimmer November 13
fingerbobs 22 November
mad4girls 4th December
hotchoc 10 dec
Bouncingturtle - 23rd December
becklespeckle - 17+0 EDD 27th December
MrsMcJnr ? 14+2 EDD 15 January.
VictorVictoria 12+0
Bluebell- 12+6
BellaBear - 6th February
Taichimum - 9+5 EDD 16th Feb
Haylstones- EDD 24th Feb (my birthday!!)
Jules - 10th March
Winkygirl - 20 March
Spugs - 22nd March (4 + 5)long way to go
Rainbowdays - 8th April (4+0) very long way to go!!!

my1stbaby · 31/07/2007 10:42

rainbowdays: yay! congratulations!!! Hope it'll get stronger for you as the days go by.

Think I might have stopped bleeding now but still can't help feeling anxious. Just been on pipsqueeke's thread; she'd just found out that she lost her baby a week ago. Feel so for her. Was crying my eyes out when I read her news. I'm feeling panicky all over again. I know I'm being silly, normally quite a level headed person but I guess all these surging hormones doesn't help.

Hope everyone else is doing well .

spugs · 31/07/2007 11:13

Firststar 26 July
Uki -15th August
PurpleLostPrincess - 22nd September
Rubles - 28th September
Fettle - 29th September
Mumpbump - 1 October
ejt1764 - 2nd October
ejb1976 20 October
Glimmer November 13
fingerbobs 22 November
mad4girls 4th December
hotchoc 10 dec
Bouncingturtle - 23rd December
becklespeckle - 17+0 EDD 27th December
MrsMcJnr ? 14+2 EDD 15 January.
VictorVictoria 12+0
Bluebell- 12+6
BellaBear - 6th February
Taichimum - 9+5 EDD 16th Feb
Haylstones- EDD 24th Feb (my birthday!!)
Jules - 10th March
Winkygirl - 20 March
Spugs - 22nd March (6 + 6)long way to go
Rainbowdays - 8th April (4+0) very long way to go!!!

hiya ladies, thanks for all the fab advice. im feeling much more confident today my boobs are the sorest theyve been and my siatica is killing me silly to be happy about pain i know. i was really constipated yesterday so im hoping that was what caused the cramps, there much better today.

mumofmonsters - im the same as you and i think the thing thats worrying me the most is another mmc. im not actually that worried about starting bleeding as that never happened last time (i knew something was wrong so lied to get a scan saying i had bled, dont want to do it again as i cant help but feel i jinxed myself last time iykwim) my worst nightmare is getting to 12 weeks and them telling me it died weeks ago i did read though that mmc are less common then 'normal' ones and make up something like 1% dont know if its true but i like the sound of it and after 1 mc you have 85 % chance of it being fine the next time. im trying to think of those %s every time i panic.

glimmer - my cheapy internt hpts were exactly the same and i never got a very dark line on them whilst the line got darker on the supermarket cheapys.

hi to everyone else hope your all well xx

VictorVictoria · 31/07/2007 11:27

Hello all

Haven't been on here since my 12 weeks scan but hello to all, especially the newcomeers. I have been un believably paranoid on this thread and have found it a great comfort. Here is today's..........

I am now 13+3, excellent scan at 12+2 but really have still not got a bump and am starting to worry a bit. 2nd pregnancy so thought it would be igger this time. do remember being v worried about this with DS last time but am MUCH scareder now thatn I was then with 2 miscarriages in between....

Keep looking at websites with 13 week bumppictures where they all look HUGE

Uki · 31/07/2007 11:34

Hi Ya All

Well I'm thinking we might not hear from firstar today, although she is probably going to kill me if she does come on and read that, I just seem to have a feeling today.

Hey at least we might up on the same Aug post natal thread if you are still around firsty

My1stbaby and rainbowdays glad you are holding here with us (big hand squeeze) and positive thoughts from me.

Mump- getting organized with LO clothes , I can't quite imagine holding a tiny baby again either, it will be a bit surreal.

Glimmer- glad to hear you are well, and dh is enjoying your bump, my dh is scared of mine!!!

Ejt- where did you go?

I think i started nesting, i have been cleaning the house and today also washed and vacumed the car have given myself rotten heartburn though.

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spugs · 31/07/2007 11:36

with my 2 nd my belly was concave till at least 16 weeks. and i took ages to look actually pregnant (no matter how much i stuck it out) i did have 5 yrs between dd1 and 2 though.

this time i ve only had 15 mths between dd2 and this pg and im no where near as concave as normal not a bump though just bit puffed out. i wouldnt worry at 13 wks babys only just moving up from behind your pubic bone so if you did have a bump i dont think it would be baby!

VictorVictoria · 31/07/2007 11:38

Spugs that is so helpful. I know this rationally to be the case - but can't help worrying. Alos, whilst I am not the thinnest person in the world, I do have extremely strong tummy muscles............

Fret fret fret - that seems to be all I do!

MrsMcJnr · 31/07/2007 13:06

Hello ladies been very busy working this morning hence it?s taken me until now to log on.

Updating Firsty?s list: I?ve hit 16 week mark today

Firststar 26 July
Uki -15th August
PurpleLostPrincess - 22nd September
Rubles - 28th September
Fettle - 29th September
Mumpbump - 1 October
ejt1764 - 2nd October
ejb1976 20 October
Glimmer November 13
mad4girls 4th December
hotchoc 10 dec
Bouncingturtle - 23rd December
becklespeckle - 17+0 EDD 27th December
MrsMcJnr ? 16 EDD 15 January.
VictorVictoria 12+0
Bluebell- 12+6
BellaBear - 6th February
Taichimum - 9+5 EDD 16th Feb
Haylstones- EDD 24th Feb (my birthday!!)
Jules - 10th March
Winkygirl - 20 March
Spugs - 22nd March (4 + 5)long way to go

Ejt ? lovely long message from you hope you feel much better soon migraine bit better thanks, Boss hasn?t bothered to ask. Maybe I should tell him I in fact had a hangover from my wild weekend of drinking and clubbing, he clearly thinks it was Monday-itus anyway! Thanks for your good wishes for tomorrow Think I felt something last night, a slight pulsing feeling way down low on my left that I knew wasn?t me ? my friend suggested that Beanie might have had hiccups

My1stbaby ? can understand why you want to wait until the danger point is over
Before you join the list Glad to hear the bleeding stopped So sorry to hear about Pipsqueeke I have to say, I had a bad feeling based on her signs hence my post for her last night, it?s so sad

Bouncingturtle ? good to hear from you but sorry to hear that it?s mad at work and that you have ear ache get well soon. I know what you mean about limiting MN time but the topics in Pregnancy and elsewhere are so compelling too?.

Fettle sounds like a natural response to me! 6 weeks ? wow!

Rainbowdays ? you should be the Peeonastick website?s new tester!! Glad things are looking brighter! Like BouncingTurlte says, once you get past the first awful weeks, time goes quite quickly well? until you only have a few weeks to go!

Hello Fingerbobs Hey Spugs

Hey VictorVictoria great news about the scan, don?t worry about the bump, I really didn?t have one until last week and I?m 16 weeks today. I think they just use big bumps on all websites ? it?ll pop out soon, just wait and see!

Hey Uki PMSL ? it would definitely be odd if I cleaned the car!! Take care now!!

Ladies ? updated weeks needed on Firsty?s list

Firsty ? all crossed for you

Glimmer · 31/07/2007 13:47

Uki -- :-) at your feeelings why Firsty hasn't posted yet. I think you are on to something... YOU ARE NEXT!!! Grand-dame to be... Can't beleive how close you are now. I remember when you reported your BFP on the TTC after mc thread. So, do we have to separate into different postnatal threads? For me that would be quite lonely, since I seem to be the only one in November :-( and have not really connected to anybody on the Nov antenatal thread (they seemed to have very different concerns from mine IYKWIM). Have you had a look at the house?

Spugs -- Maybe you rather don't know (then stop reading here) but the number I know is that 25% of all mc after 4 weeks are missed mc. I think that the ladies on this thread fall into two categories: the paranoid knicker-checkers (mc) and the scan freaks (mmc). For me it was the same: not bleeding didn't mean anything, because the LO might have died anyway. Actually in my case, I bled a lot in the viable pg and not at all in the missed one. I had a number of early scans, and without them I personally wouldn't have been able to make it.

BecklePhoenixBird · 31/07/2007 13:58

I agree Glimmer, we need an AN thread for us ladies to graduate to, I know just what you mean about your antenatal thread having different concerns to you. I don't feel I have really settled on Due in Dec thread the way I have on here, for starters there are so many of them and they are soooo chatty I can't keep up!
MrsMc - congrats on reaching 16 weeks! Where has the time gone?! Your pulsing feeling does sound to me like baby movement, is very exciting! Like the nappy trousers, hehe! Thank goodness no-one can see!
Rainbowdays - glad you got another BFP today!
Hi to everyone else, hope you are all okay.
DH was teasing me last night when I got in from work, he says I am waddling like I am 9 months pg at the moment! The underside of my belly is very stiff/sore at the moment, especially when I have been sitting for a while and it does make walking a bit uncomfy for a while. MW says it is just ligaments stretching, apparently it is quite usual for it to be more painful with 3rd babies than with earlier ones.

Mumpbump · 31/07/2007 14:22

Afternoon all! I will keep this short as I am struggling a bit today. I have finally admitted defeat on the anaemia front. I don't feel any better despite my attempts to boost my iron intake through my diet so I have put my prescription in for the iron and folic acid tablets...

VV - time goes so quickly! Seems amazing that you are 13 weeks already! Don't worry about the bump - it will come in its own good time and you will be wishing it was smaller in another few weeks!!

Uki - nesting already, hey? I still reckon it's going to be a close-call as to which of you (you or firststar) get your lo first!

Bouncing - sorry to hear that you're busy at work. Still, it's generally better to be busy than not, I guess!

Beckle - I also have achey pains on the underside of my bump! I did wonder if it might be the ligaments! Take it easy and don't rush around too much.

Glimmer - there is a success after m/c thread knocking around somewhere which daisy mentioned. I think we should all graduate onto that. It would be a shame to lose touch completely after sharing the rather difficult experience of being pg after a m/c... If we can't find it, we'll have to start one!

Rainbowdays - pleased to hear that you got another positive. I really don't think you can get false positives so this must definitely be it!!!

Firststar - hello!!!! I am not going to say anything as there is only one burning question on my mind and I'm sure it will p*ss you off to be badgered on here!! But fingers crossed... I do hope you'll get your dh to come and let us know when it does happen...

My1stbaby - it sounds like everything is settling down again. Try to keep positive. I am sure the bleeding was a testament to the passion of your love-making more than anything else

Spugs - I didn't twig that this was your third. Your brave woman, you!!

Hope everyone else is well. As Fettle says, we haven't heard anything from Rubles for a while now. I hope everything is okay...

greedygreedyguzzler · 31/07/2007 15:42

sorry, i know i dont belong on here, but i just wanted to say to rainbowdays............... a big congrats! i really hope this time it works out. its not quite what we planned, but its close enough!! i'm not very good at hand holding (my palms get too sweaty)....but i am VERY good at head stroking...will that do?

ejt1764 · 31/07/2007 15:50

Hi all - a real quicky from me ... have been busy building dens and doing lego this afternoon - my attention is required outside in the next few minutes - a snck is required by ds - what a lovely day!

Glimmer - you are so right about us being the 2 different types - I fall into both the paranoid knicker checkers (1st mc) ... and the scan monsters ...

I'm also making up my own camp today - the frantic movement checkers ... I haven't felt madam bean move much today - even though I keep prodding her - must go and eat something sweet to give her a bit of a kick start!

Right, ds cannot possibly wait any longer for his snack (so he tells me), so I'd better go and be mammy ....

Glimmer · 31/07/2007 17:45

Hi Greedy . Good to hear you are doing well. Thought it might interest you that the early weeks of bleeding are over and this pregnancy seems to be viable (25 weeks today). Thanks so much for helping me when I was in need! How far are you? Shouldn't be long until your LO arrives?

EJT - oh, yes I join you in the camp of the frantic movement checkers. What are the tricks:
sugar and caffeine and cold water I hear. Haven't used any of these tricks yet.

For the experts amoung you: when does the LO normally turn head down and when is it advisable to start the exercises that facilitate this. LO is defo in breech and always kicks me into the right hip bone. Is is normal that they do not change position much (he never kicks me into the left hip bone). Can also ask MW next time I see her...

ejt1764 · 31/07/2007 17:47

Glimmer - I find a cold drink / some chocolate works well ... but this afternoon I made myself a strawberry milkshake (can't beat it!) - fresh strawberries and ice-cold milk - yum - and that worked a treat - a bit less frantic in my movement checking now!

And, what's even better, it doesn't give me indigestion like strawberries on their own do!

Off to cook tea now - see you all tomorrow!

ejt1764 · 31/07/2007 17:51

Sorry - also to Glimmer - madam bean was transverse at my last mw appt - at 29 weeks - and they were completely unfazed about it - they've still got enough room to flip around for quite a while I think ...

Madam Bean has only moved in the last couple of days (now at 31 weeks) - but whether she's head up or head down, I have no idea ... but I will be having acupuncture to flip her if she's breech - but I won't do that until at least 36 weeks (she's liable to end up breach as all the ofp positions are really uncomfortable on either my coccyx or with the spd) ...

Now, really off to finish cooking tea ...

Glimmer · 31/07/2007 18:14

Thanks for the info, EJT. All the things we stress about.. Glad the strawberry smoothy did the trick! Sorry to hear that the position will affect your pain.... Hope everythign will be as painless as possible....

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