Pregnancy after m/c (part 7), true hand-holding and support along the road...

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Thought I'd start this in honour of Purple's effort so far, hope you don't mind Purple I liked this title best.

Welcome to our shiny new thread

MrsMcJnr - I guess you're never completely out of the woods (as my doctor told me when she signed me off sick a couple of weeks ago!). That was why we ended up having ds induced at 40+2 because they were saying that, although unlikely, my placenta could fail at any moment... Scary times!

Late m/c are statistically pretty uncommon, so remember that it is very unlikely to happen to you! Keep in mind that you have a 99.4% (I think it was) chance of a successful pg having reached this stage!

Not good news here today

Griffin- I'm really sorry, that's really sad for you and your dad and family. how has your dad taken it? thinking of you.

Mrs Mc- sorry to hear about goingfor3, how terrible. we had the same thing happen on my ante-natal thread, it was really hard. i still think of her. although she did get pg quickly again and had a baby 6 months after us.

Firstar- thinking of you, how you holding up????

Jules- i could really go some of that cake, half thinking I'll make one, as i've been craving cake since i saw one on telly 10 minutes ago. just feel a bit weird/lazy to make a cake at 9:04pm

HI to everyone else, PLEASE bring good news.

Haylstones - hoping and praying that good news comes from you

Thanks Mumpbump - those stas helped

Not good news, BUT Dh is getting the box of ds' newborn clothes out of the loft for me at the weekend (can't do it myself for obvious reasons) and I am SO looking forward to sorting through them all!!! It really feels like it is going to happen at last and I can't wait to see how small ds' first babygros are - we had to buy tiny baby stuff which went up to 7.5lb! I think there is going to be a lot of nostalgia in our living room this weekend... I am starting to get just a little excited about bubba arriving!

Hello to everybody on the thread and I'm so sorry to hear of the bad news that so many of you seem to be going through. It's so fantastic that you're still able to offer support to other people when you're suffering yourself.
To bring some good news, I had a scan this morning and saw a little baby curled up with a strong beating heartbeat and kicking away. Everything looks normal, baby developing well so hopefully bleeding nothing to worry about (no more nookie for dh though .) Still got light brown discharge but only when i wipe and think it looks more than it really is because I have been getting loads of 'normal' discharge anyway and it is staining it (sorry, TMI) They've dated it as 2 days less than my LMP but did say that becaue baby was curled up it could have been bigger than they were able to measure...never mind, 2 days difference is fine with me!
I'm obviously really happy but cautious ans will probably remain so until everyhting settles down again. DAting scan is week on Mon so hopefully will still be OK then.

Thank you for all your helpful messages. I am sorry to say that no, it was not residual hcg, I had a negative test even before the bleeding stopped, and I rechecked a couple of days before the bfp and it was a definite bfn. So the bfp's (all three of them on the same day) showed another genuine pregnancy, but unless I get a definite positive tomorrow, then I guess it is another chemical pregnancy, at least if that is the case then it was very early. This mornings tests (two of them) showed grey lines within 5 minutes, but I could not see the colour like I did yesterday. My only hope is that it was more dilute wee this morning, but this just seems like grasping at straws. Trying to think positively it does mean that, if I am not pg then I will be stopping ttc as I am due to have an operation in September under GA and that will be able to go ahead. As I will be approaching 40 at that time too, I think it will be time to stop trying and just enjoy what I have got. A friend of mine died in a motorbike accident two weeks ago and reading Griffintribe's news today too, it is a strong reminder that I need to live for today, not just keeping hoping for a different future. But thank you all for your support here.

Griffintribe - so sorry to hear your news about your dad, it is a difficult time for you, hope that you get support in this time of grief.

Bellabear - so pleased to here your good scan results, great news.

MrsMc - so sad to hear of goingfor3's news. I hope that you are ok too, it is difficult hearing news like that.

Haylstones - very, very pleased to hear that all is well with your lo! Excellent news!

Rainbow - I am sure I read somewhere that you can get a false negative, but you can't get a false positive. So perhaps you are still pg. I would suggest you take yourself off to the doctor's and get them to do a blood test to check if you're pg. I imagine that would be more reliable than home tests and you don't want to be agonising over something like this because of a dodgy test! Fingers crossed it is a false negative...

Ah Mumpbump that will be so much fun, enjoy!

Haylstones ? yeah! thank goodness hon, what a relief! No celebratory nookie now! good that you are having another scan so soon too, that will keep you from going mad with any wobbles in the meantime

Rainbowdays ? hon, this must be plaguing you, how about going to the GP? Or the EPU? You have already been through so much, some medical help may assist. Where they all the same type of test or different makes? This morning?s box could have been dodgy. My gut reaction is to tell you to preserve. Sending positive vibes.

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Hi everyone!

Griffin, I am soo sorry to hear about your dad. I know that anything we say isn't really going to help a whole lot, and I'm sure your family will all be supporting each other, but just to let you know that big hugs are definately coming your way.

Rainbow, sorry to hear of your woes

Firsty, are you doing all the normal things? Drinking raspberry leaf tea, eating fresh pineapple, etc, etc? Are you not really frustrated now and just wanting it to start??

My dear SIL came to see me yesterday and brought me some goodies to help with this pg and to remember with me that my "due date" was next weekend. I got some choccies, and a rose buch and some Rescue Remedy to help me de-stress, as well as a chick-lit book to take my mind off things. It really is lovely having someone like that around

Anyway, am off to search online for a homeopath now in an attempt to help morning sickness. Am going camping in a couple of weeks and desperately don't want to feel crap the whole time!

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Hello all, had a bit of an emotional rollercoaster ride this afternoon. Had quite a bit of bleeding at about 1pm and really freaked out. Thought it was all over. Called DH back from work, fortunately he's back from overseas last night. We managed to get a private scan done at about 3pm-thankfully little one is fine, heart beating away and we could even hear it on the monitor. It was such a relief!!! I really thought that it was all over TBH and was just waiting for the consultant to confirm it. I am more scared than ever now. I kept telling myself over and over to take each day at a time and not to put too much hope. Thought I was doing ok but this afternoon's episode just proves to me that I am not ok and that I will be more than devastated if it happens again. Throughout the waiting time for scan, I kept thinking why, why me, what have I done, I just want one pls, pls... I am so emotionally drained now and too terrified to go to the loo even though desperate.

rainbowdays: I hope you'll get a BFP tomorrow. Good luck. x

Firststar, fingers crossed for you for the weekend then!

Hi all thank you for all the hand-holding here, please keep a tight grip as I got another faint bfp this morning. Todays test had colour in rather than just being a grey line like yesterday, but it is still faint. But having said that my af was not due til tomorrow anyway. So I am hoping you guys can hold on tight to me and not let me slip away as I really really want this one to work out. When do you think the lines should start getting more obvious? I am trying to think it through logically, and all I can think is that if the first test was done with ultra-concentrated wee (due to lack of fluid intake) then that could be why it was positive and the following day negative, and today the same as two days ago.... sorry I am waffling here. I am anxious, and trying to keep the balance between positive thinking and false hope.

myfirstbaby - wow a bit of a crazy rollercoaster day for you yesterday, I hope that things have settled down and that you are feeling a little less down today and can get back to a less fragile state. Thinking of you.

Firststar - hope that you get a lovely start this weekend.

Feedmenow - aww, how lovely of your SIL, hope that you get relief from the m/s too.

MrsMc - thank you for your support too, I going to wait it out for a few days and see how things progress, I will go to the doc's on Tuesday if I am still in limbo-land.

Mumpbump - thank you for your support too.

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Hi all

Rainbow days, good news today, I think you need to relax now and see what happens. I NEVER get a BFP till about 4 days past AF date, and even then always faint. To be honest you sound like you almost need to forget about the pg, as you will work yourself up too much in the next few weeks, take your vitamins, think positive and relax. I hope you know what i mean, i just had to tell myself if it was meant to be it will.

my1stbaby- you poor hun, I can imagine how bad yesterday was. Great news
What did they date LO?

Firstar- i'm trying to forget about it all too, I'm such a whinger right now, I'm not the type to have early or on time babies either, quite sure of that.

Hi MrsMc, griffin, Mump, Taichi, Ejb, Ejt and all I've missed this thread it's probably moving faster than Thames right now eh????

Rainbowy - holding out my hand to hang on to you and your BPF!! hope this little one sticks!! I'd expect lines to be more positive over the coming week - you're still testing quite early - the clear blue fairy, would tell you off!!

My1stbaby - sorry to hear about your awful day yesterday, but glad that everything seems ok. I bled quite a lot with my DD when about 6-7 weeks pregnant and really thought it was all over, but we came through it.

Hello everyone else - anyone else get a glimpse of proper summer weather today?!

take care
xxx

am just waving to everyone..too much to cath up on and i don't feel i "know" most of you enough to coment tbh.

On the bright side, i woke uo feeling very roughthis morning. I know i won't like this roughness after a while but for nw its very reassuring. I am sticking my fingers in my ears though wrt ppl telling me they have felt sick and m/c anyway...thats just too much to take in

mumofmonsters - enjoy the rough feeling, it is about the only reassuring symptom you have at this stage!!! Until you know any different, you're feeling rough because you are pregnant, don't let anyone take away your positivity!

Take care
xxx

rainbowdays - congrats on the bfp, mine started off really faint with this pg and eventually got darker after much panicing from myself
im still up and down, one minute i think all is fine then the next convince myself that its died and im having another mmc i dont think it helps that i dont really feel sick! it feels the same as the one i lost. with my last succsessful pg i was chucking up from 6 wks though with my 1st i never felt ill at all. Can this happen? i thought it got proggressivly worse with each pg or stayed the same? also (and sorry this is gross) but is it normal to go from having loads of cm to having hardlys any? i ve gone from feeling like i was wetting myself every 5 minutes to feeling like normal down there!! sorry for rambling on but im not feeling particulrly positive at the min. thanks for listening

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Hi all, here I am again battling through one more day. Still have slight bleeding but not as much as on Fri. Don't know what to think TBH. We are just keeping our fingers tightly crossed. I have been charting my temp since getting BFP and it's still high. Perhaps there is still a chance for the little beanie. I hope so.

spugs-how far along are you? I didn't have any pg symptoms at all until about a few days ago. I am 7+2 today. Not sure about the cm though, when I did have some, it was streaked with a bit of bleeding. So I don't really want to see any CM on me at all!

rainbowdays- thinking of you and hope that you've got another BFP on HPT.

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Hi all... back from holidays ... (it was fantastic!) ... anybody fancy giving me a synopsis?