Pregnancy after m/c (part 7), true hand-holding and support along the road...

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Thought I'd start this in honour of Purple's effort so far, hope you don't mind Purple I liked this title best.

Welcome to our shiny new thread

Hayls I had bleeding with all my m/c but also with my successful pg with ds. The latter started at 5 weeks and went on til about week 11. The colour was pinky/brown. It wasn't heavy loss. However, others have had bright red heavy loss and still the baby has been fine. Are you getting any pain with the bleeding? I think the two together is more of a concern. I do feel for you as it is so torturous isn't it

Hi Jules and Mrs McJnr - thank you for the info. It is very useful. I think I will do as Jules has done and take it during the two week wait, though I don't know where I am in my cycle at the moment as I am still bleeding post m/c (not much, mainly pinkish streaks - sorry if tmi). Maybe will start after next period. I don't know how easy it will be to convince a dr to px clexane if the results are inconclusive but I guess I will cross that bridge when I get to it. Hi to everyone else

congratulations siamiez and rainbowdays on your bfps.
haylstones, a woman i used to work with had really heavy bleeding with her pregnancy from fairly early on and was fairly sure she had lost the baby on numerous occassions but went on to have a healthy pregnancy when the bleeding stopped at about 12 wks. i hope everything goes well at the epau tomorrow x

im feeling a bit more sick and getting spotty could do without the migraines but otherwise couldnt be happier. i didnt feel this sick with my pregnancy that i lost so im taking it as being a good sign.
hope everyones feeling well x

Glad things are going well spugs

Okay - I am about to do something which I know to be really annoying, so apologies...

BUT do you think firststar might be having her baby today? She manages to post on this thread pretty much every day, but nothing since yesterday afternoon and now it's getting late... Fingers crossed we'll get a birth announcement soon!

maybe she is having RL today

Spugs, i didn't have any symptoms with the ine i lost either. Feeling quite sick myself today (YAY!), can't go with the spot things as i can get quite spotty with AF at times lol!

Mumpbump - I know! She had MW appointment today anyway didn't she? fingers crossed!

Haylstones have posted on your other thread good luck for tom.
Mrs M thanks for your kind words understanding and good advice as usual. What a wise and nurturing mum you are going to be.
Griffin so sorry to hear about your dad. Life's difficulties often seem to come at once don't they.I am sure your baby will be fine despite all the stress. They are pretty resiliant. I was completely stressed out when pg with ds and he is so chilled out he is virtually horizontal. Has been since the day he was born. I could not believe he came out of me like that!
As for your toddler, I read somewhere it is best to show your emotions to your toddler, within reason obviously. This can help you release all the feelings you are having that, when pent up, can make you sanppy with them. When I had my mc's I let ds see my crying and I said that mummy was very sad but that I was ok and I loved him. He just used to study me for a bit and say 'mummy crying' and then 'don't worry mummy' and give me a cuddle and go off and play.
Firststar are you having sex eating curry etc.
Mrs M, Jules etc is it safe to take asprin just to be on the safe side, even though not diagnosed with any condition?
Siameez congrats! and welcome to knicker checker central.

Haylstones, just wanted to say it maybe is the sex, unfortunately - your cervix is fuller of blood than normal and potentially a bit swollen so more likely to be bumped.
Everything crossed for you
x

Thanks everyone for your support. I have felt a lot more positive today and less stressed.

No news on my Dad as yet but he is stubborn as hell and will fit anything that comes his way.

He is 62 and goes to the gym 4 times a week and he is as strong as an ox so i am sure he can beat anything

Am not posting much but still keep up with the posts!

Haystones -- I have posted on your other thread.

Mumpbump -- I was thinking the same about firsty....I hope she doesn't have to wait to long before she holds her little one...

Hey Rainbowdays - fantastic it happened again so quickly!! i conceived this little one immediately after my mc, so don't worry if anyone tells your risk of mc is increased if you conceive that quickly - I think you're more fertile and it happens more easily then. so pleased for you. Let's hope the pregnancy panda has a run of luck now on the temp thread!!!

I hope all is well with Firsty, as no sign of her all day now!! She is due today though!

Hope everyone else is doing well - DH wants the puter before he goes out, so i have to pass over to him now!!

xxx

Helloooo

Haylstones - best of luck for tomorrow

Fingerbobs - I had pp at 20 week scan when pg with dd. It did move of its own accord and all was fine in that respect. Hoping the same happens in yr case

Firsty - sending you special happy birth vibes. If you are sweating and grunting right now, you have my best wishes (well you have anyway - even if yr lying on the sofa feeling fat and fed up )

waves to everyone else

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Tested again this morning and got a BFN so I am guessing it was a chemical pregnancy, I have confused emotions, wishing that it is not true, wanting to be patient to test again tomorrow to know for sure, and sad and hopeful at the same time - I hope that you can understand my mixed-up-ness

Hello all,
Haven't posted on this thread (or last one?) since I was about eight weeks, I'm just no good at keeping up with these sorts of threads, but i thought I would let you know I had a 12 week scan yesterday, really put my mind at ease, saw the little thing hiccuping, and I might (just might) bring myself to join the feb AN group. Perhaps. Thanks all who were v supportive about a month or so ago.

Just want to quickly say hi to everyone . Sorry, am finding it difficult to keep up as fairly new on this thread but am very pleased to read that everybody is well.

rainbow I'm sorry about your BFN today. Just wondering if your BFP are due to the residual HCG still in your system? I know that my HCG level didn't drop until about 3.5 wks after m/c and I got faint BFP every time I test until then. So it's possible that it's not a chemical pg. But I'm keeping my finger's x'd for a BFP for you when you test again . If you use test that shows a line, keep the stick so that you can compare strength of the line. HCG level doubles every 2 days, so you should a stronger line after 2 days but not after 1 if that makes sense? Good luck. Big hugs. Take care. x

bella congrats!!!

FirstStar - hope you are keeping well, best wishes and good luck.

My Dads results were back yesterday and he has mantel cell lymphoma.

Basically cancer of teh immune system. The doctor has said that its not a curable illness.

He is having 6 months of chemo and even if that works they are 100% sure that the cancer will return and will eventually kill him.

I dont know what time scale it will be.

Life is so shit. I have been devastated since losing the baby in Febraury and things were just starting to get better with me being pregnant again and having something to look forward to and now my Dad is going to die

I know it sounds daft but i really did think my dad was going to live forever

Griffin - SO sorry to hear this. Could they give him a life expectancy? The reason I ask is because dh's ex has lymphoma (don't know if it's the same type) and should be around for the next 10 years so it depends on how aggressive it is. I know how you feel though as even with treatment, my mum's life expectancy is only 5 years... I wish there were something I could do to make you feel better, but I can only sympathise with how you feel...

Rainbow - very sorry to hear that you have a bfn. As others have said, it could be pg hormones lingering post-m/c. Hopefully, it won't be long until you get a genuine bfp!!

Bella - congratulations on your scan!

Firststar - I hereby solemnly promise that I will not speculate on whether you are in labour or not, but will sit patiently (or at least try to) to hear from you! I think it's because I'm starting to feel that I'm on the home run now and am a bit excited about the prospect of bubba arriving so am getting a wee bit excited by the prospect of other imminent arrivals!

Juules - good news that you have got past your milestone!! Fingers crossed for the next 33 weeks!

Hello to everyone else!!

griffin: I am so so sorry about your dad. How utterly devastating for you. How is your dad holding up? How are you? Big hugs x

I know what you mean about dad living forever though. My dad passed away very suddenly last year, didn't even get a chance to say I love him. I was so heartbroken. I know it will be a very difficult time for you and your family, but I hope you will be able to spend some time with him and help him through this difficult time.

Can I suggest something though? We know a family friend who had chemotherapy; he also went to see a homeopath at the same time. I remember him saying that the homeopathic herbs helped him tremendously with the nausea and weaknees from the chemo. Perhaps it's something that you might want to think about?

Take care. x

Hello ladies How are you all? Having a little wobble after beginning to feel so safe as one of our lovely ladies on the NY thread (Goingfor3) has just lost her son at 16 weeks my heart is breaking for her but also filled with selfish fear .

Thanks for the compliment TaiChimum I like the story of your chilled out DS, whenever I am stressed or thinking emotive thoughts, I rub my belly and try and explain to Beanie that it?s not him/her but that X has worried me but that he/she doesn?t need to worry.. silly I know but I don?t want a neorotic child like it?s mother!! Not sure about taking aspirin without diagnosis, I have read that it can lead to bleeds and MC too, I did quite a lot of research and was pretty sure they?d prescribe it to me hence why I started taking it. Interestingly, my Mum is getting tested for my condition at the mo (my docs say that if I have it, she most likely does) and even before her results are in, based on me, they have put her on aspirin. I?m so gald she?s being tested, she is on HRT and shouldn?t be if she has it.

Fingerbobs, Ejb, Fettle, Mumpbump & Glimmer ? hello

Hey Firsty keep smiling hon, let?s hope your LO gets impatient to meet you before that sweep.

Jules ? glad you got past another milestone hon

Oh Rainbowdays not again hon you must be all over the place. Wish I knew what to say and what would help

Bellabear that?s great news! Don?t be a stranger.

Myfirstbaby hello.

Griffintribe ? I?m so sorry to hear your Dad?s results I think we all dread thinking about our parents not being around for ever. My Dad had kidney cancer 10 years ago and I remember the terror I felt thinking I would lose him ? I really feel for you hon. We are here for you.