Pregnancy after m/c (part 7), true hand-holding and support along the road...

[Uki]

Thought I'd start this in honour of Purple's effort so far, hope you don't mind Purple I liked this title best.

Welcome to our shiny new thread

basil i am so sorry

Excellent news VV

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Hi all, just wanted to say hope that you LO arrives safely and unprompted this week Firststar!
Baby has been kicking me in the last few days rather than just wriggling which is great, saw it for the first time this morning while I was in the bath too! Keeps kicking upwards though which can wind me a bit, wouldn't think something so small would!
Off to Orkney in the morning, be back in a week or so, hope everyone has a good week!

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Oh WOW can't believe your due this week firstar You must be sooo excited. Let us know when your leaving for hospital (if possible) and hoping for a quick and easy delivery of LO.

I have started doing a few baby nesting things, the book, washing , packing bag, etc. Even managed to paint my toe nails!!!

How is everyone else today?????

Hi all,
Thought I would join the thread as really need some support and reassurance from people who are going through the same thing.
Have two young children already and got a BFP yesterday morning . Really excited and happy but really anxious too as have already have had two early m/c this year (at around 5 weeks - one in Feb the other in May).
Each time I go to the loo I feel sick, worried that I'll be bleeding. It's not helping that I have quite bad cramps and feeling really bloated (although I got this in my two healthy pregnancies).
How have you got through those early weeks without driving yourself crazy?
Also what do people feel about early scans? Was thinking of asking for one, but from what I've read on MN they seem to cause more worry?
Any support/advice gratefully received. Thankyou.

Hi Karma...I posted on your other thread.

Congratulations on your bfp.

We've all been through it on here so know how you feel.

I had an early scan after spotting at five weeks. They found a hb and dated me at 6+3. It was a huge relief, but didn't stop the worry. I was booked in for my dating scan at 13 weeks, but after what appeared to be a dip in ms symptoms at 9 weeks, went for a private scan. All was OK and the ms came back with a vengeance three days later, and didn't leave me until 20 weeks.

This thread was a lifeline as it was difficult to discuss things with people in RL who I felt thought I was being a bit unneccesary with my fretting and that I should be enjoying my PG. It's good to bounce your feelings off women who fully understand how you feel.

I've had my baby now, but dip in every so often to see how everyone is. Hope to see you on the other side in about 8 months

PS it's usually much busier on here.

Evening all, and hello and congrats to Karma.

God, I feel crappy. It only dawned on me today that I feel really rather miserable, and I think it's because of being pg. I mean, I feel really tired (of course!) and alternatively hungry/nauseas but the thing that makes me miserable is that I don't want to admit to being pg incase it goes wrong. And I don't mean admit to others, I mean really admit to myself.
Went to friends last night....rather fancied a beer and a fag but obviously didn't, however was thinking "why shouldn't I? This pg isn't going to last so why deprive myself?" I just feel torn in 2, cos I don't want to get my hopes up, but I don't want to "ignore" being pg. I'm only trying to protect myself, but this really sucks

Feedmenow-I think its natural to feel as you are-I know I felt really ill and felt guilty moaning about it as I was thinking that I should be grateful for feeling this ill!
I know that I didn't start to bond with the baby until I was 16 weeks pg and have only now started to think (at 22 weeks) that there is a chance that this one might make it-I feel really uneasy typing that, as if I might jinx things by writing it, so I guess the feelings never really go away.

Good morning sunflowers

WELCOME Karma, you are in the right place for worrying, even though a few of us are now at the frightened birth stage, I'm 37 weeks
My advice to you is wait at least till towards the end of the 8th week, before scan. if you see a hb then you have a really good chance, i think about 80 -90% from studies.
also if you have had more than one m/c i'd definately say take baby asprin each day. I'm sure a few others would agree here, but ask dr. i guess the thing is even though you have had babies before things can change and you may now be more prone to blood clotting. there is alot of research to say it helps early pg.

Daisy - hi the, how are u? has LO settled into a nice routine now? Hope so.

FEEDme- sorry to hear you a low, hopefully just a low spot for now. My dr says once you are 14 weeks you are at the point of no return, i.e that baby is comming like it or not - how many weeks are u? i'll have to look it up ....

all well with me, felt sick with headache and nauseous last night, took BP but ok, so no mad dash to hospital yet. I'm meant to go in if i feel unwell and/or BP is up.

We finally got skylights installed in baby's room, so it doesn't look so dungeon like, although it is still quite dark TBH, we were unsure how much would be to much IYKWIM. but better.

Hello ladies,
I havent been on this thread for ages, seems i dont have much time to post! _ Good luck to all you ladies who are in the early stages, i hope that thsi thread gives you support that you need, it def kept me from going mad them 1st 14 weeks!!

Firststar - this week - where has the time gone????

I am now 36 weeks (nearly) and so excited and pleased that we got here, just want my little man out now so i can at last calm down a bit!
Take care all of you

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must admit it wasn't an easy feat firstar
I hope you don't go over too, My ds would of, if i wasn't induced due to BP. i think patience and waiting for labour don't really exist do they? You don't feel like you can focus on much else!!!

it's you Pink (waves,what r u up to?) and I that are online right now, so we must be thinking the same thing

does any one else (or did you if you are past that stage) think that altho they feel feel a bit sick that they can't possibly be coz its going to go wrong? I feel mildly sick but am convincing myself that its all in my head because , well i don't know, i am just low this morning and worrying over everything. I want to fast forward a couple of weeks so i know whether io have got past the point i got last time so f*king hard!

mum- i think feeling sick is a very good sign, and so is the worrying as it means you are hormonal IYKWIM hang in there.

RE: ASPRIN there sems to be alot of new interest in women taking it to TTC and also prevent m/c, pre eclampsia and stillbirth have a look at this

www.buffalo.edu/news/8451

even my dh says i am on the asprin bandwagon ATM, i just can't believe the recurrent m/c clinic i went to, said i didn't need it when i have a history of m/c's and pre eclampsia

is nausea always a good sign?

Karma and any one else in early weeks - Here's a study for you on pregnancy outcomes

humrep.oxfordjournals.org/cgi/content/full/14/11/2868

I'm the link queen today

Morning all! Had a busy weekend looking after ds and dsc on Saturday and then having people over for Sunday lunch. Their ds is a bit older than ds so we had two toddlers in the house which was hectic... We then took the children swimming and ds was so knackered that he went to sleep at 18h and slept through to 05:30 this morning! Poor thing...

Karma - congratulations and welcome to the thread. The early days are very hard to get through, but we know how you feel so I hope you will find as much support from this thread as I did! I would go with what others have said about having a scan at around 8 weeks. I think earlier scans can't really confirm very much and can result in more worry...

Uki and Firststar - sounds like there's going to be a bit of a race to the finishing line between you two potentially, with pinkranger hard on your heels!!

Feedmenow - like Jossie, I only really started to relax after my 22 week scan and even now have days where the lo is less active (think it's running out of room!) and I end up worrying... As firststar says, you just need to take each day at a time and before you know it, you'll get to your 12 week scan and then time will speed up quite a bit! Same goes for you mumofmonsters!

VV - congratulations on the positive scan result!

Beckle - have a nice break!

EJT - didn't know about beetroot! Will try that. You've just reminded me that I forgot to get apricots at the weekend, but am chomping away on baked beans which seems to be helping!

Fettle - I agree that work has to come third to you and your baby. Being signed off ill the other week made me realise that. I think there is quite a bit of pressure to prove that you can carry on as normal when you're pg, but the reality is that it is very draining growing a new being!

Hello to everyone else I haven't mentioned!

Hi everyone. I am new to this thread.

I have a 22 month old dd.

I had a missed m/c in February. The baby died at 12.5 weeks but i carried her until 15 weeks with no problems until i got a few spots of blood.

I am now 4.4 weeks pregnant and absolutely thrilled, BUT scared as well that it will happen again.

I am trying to think positively but dont think i will totally relax until i can feel the baby moving.

Congrats Karma Do what you think is best for you re. early scans. I value them personally as they give me milestones to focus on. Also I would rather know sooner than later if something is going wrong.

Hey ladies hope all is well - I'm back and going to try and catch up now

Haven't been on the thread for some time (mainly because i have been sleeping pretty much constantly), so sorry for lack of individual messages.

Am totally knackered, and also starting to feel sick.

Have actually asked work to change my duties as not sure I can perform normal ones (involving very formal settings every two days). as think nearly falling asleep or running off to the loo to try and throw up wouldn't hit the right note.

I am 5+1 (I think) so presume this could go on for another 7 weeks!!! Oh what fun.

Must go anyway, trying not to sleep at my desk, but not finding it easy.

n.b. had my appointments through from hospital. They are seeing me at 8 and 10 weeks (considerably earlier than last time) so I presume this is due to keeping a close eye on me after MMC at 8 weeks last time.

Its nice to know they are keeping an eye on me, but does remind me that they see me as at greater risk!