Pregnancy after m/c (part 7), true hand-holding and support along the road...

[Uki]

Thought I'd start this in honour of Purple's effort so far, hope you don't mind Purple I liked this title best.

Welcome to our shiny new thread

Heap Big Good Luck for tomorrow Taichi. The June ladies are all wishing you well

Good luck Taichimum!

Firststar 26 July
Uki -15th August
PurpleLostPrincess - 22nd September
Rubles - 28th September
Fettle - 29th September
Mumpbump - 1 October
ejt1764 - 2nd October
ejb1976 20 October
Glimmer November 13
mad4girls 4th December
hotchoc 10 dec
Bouncingturtle - 23rd December
becklespeckle - 17+0 EDD 27th December
MrsMcJnr ? 14+2 EDD 15 January.
VictorVictoria 12+0
Bluebell- 12+6
BellaBear - 6th February
Taichimum - 9+5 EDD 16th Feb
HAylstones- EDD 24th Feb (my birthday!!)
Winkygirl - 20 March
Spugs - 22nd March (4 + 5)long way to go

Hello everyone, still feeling sh!t!!
Beckle - I have weak bladder....
Tachimum - hello and good luck for tomorrow.
Uki - congrats on the scan, sorry about your ribs! Seems quite common that!
Hope everyone is well!

hi ladies

hope we are well today, sorry been quiet lately

well i had my 20 wk scan today. it went well lo was fidgeting around and wouldnt keep still for them to do their measuremnts, they couldnt find my fibroid and the cyst i had has shrunk by half so theyhave signed me off consultant care and back to midwife, which is relief as was frightened they would make me have a section if it had grown.

anyway me and dp wanted find out the sex, and it looks like ours is blue flavour, i really dont mind, but think dp is a little disspaointed(he has 2 sons already) which kind of mkaes me wish we hadnt found out, if that makes sense. hes not the type to talk about it, but could tell by his face he was disspointed , he was expecting it though.

i feel quite hurt by his reaction as i was just glad there was a healthy baby in there, not sure if its hormones, but actuley feel quite down now, which i didnt want as its not mine or db fault, its just part of life.

after everything weve been through i thought he would be chuffed (like i am) that everything is healthy and in one piece,its really put a dmapner on what should have been such a great day, the way he reacted made me cry earlier(hes at work) maybe he sint going to love the lo or as i feel he blames me for it being a boy, the whole thing is so pathetic why cant he be pleased that everything is ok.

Mad4, I don't know you but try not to worry about it too much. Your dp will love lo absolutely loads! And if he is a little disappointed then its better that he gets a chance to get over it now. That way by the time ds is born your dp will know exactly what is coming and can look forward to having another little blue one!
I'll be honest, I was disappointed when I found out ds was a ds and not a dd, but I am sooo grateful to have had another 18 weeks to get used to the idea, and of course I immediatley loved him to bits and still do!
And the important thing is that the baby is healthy - something else I'm sure that your dp will realise in no time! he's probably peeved cos he's had a bet with a mate about it being a girl, and now he's going to have to pay up £20

feedmenow- what you said about dp probably having a bet sounds like something dp would do as well, which made me smile thanx.think your right, just a bit over senstive at the moment, its not nice getting upset about every little thing, never had this with my dd's this horrible over emotional thing, starting to make me feel down quite alot lately, never mind ups and downs, seem to be a slow down, down, down, sorry dont mean to depress everyone. i should be over the moon i have happy healthy son on the way, so why cant i be happy, instead i just want to sit and cry about having no milk in ( im so pathetic)

Feedmenow-I totally understand how you feel about scans, my 9 week one was a year to the hour that I had the scan confirming my first m/c, in the same room!! I didn't look at the screen until the sonographer said about the hb, I then promptly burst into tears and she couldn't see much, because crying was making my tummy move!
In fact it has only been my 20 week scan (my 6th scan in this pg) that I have been able to look straight away, and then only because I'd felt the baby move when I was waiting.
I used a friend's hb monitor from about 12 weeks whenever I felt a bit worried (although had to be aware that at that time I might not find the hb as it may be too early) haven't felt the need to do that now I'm getting movements, but do lay down and prod my tummy if I haven't felt much for a while

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how you doing firsty?...not long now

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Morning all! Hope everyone is hale and hearty! I'm looking forward to the weekend even though the weather is meant to be miserable.

Firststar - I have started drinking a 500ml bottle of orange juice each day and skipping my morning pint of tea - very, very hard - as well as eating lots of beans () so hopefully that will boost those iron levels. I had a sweep with ds and it wasn't that bad. In fact the male consultant who did it was really quite good-looking so felt a doubly odd lying there with dh on the other side of a curtain with a strange man's hand up my private parts... Hopefully, you lo will get equally fed up with the waiting and put in an appearance without any prompting!

Uki - you're next in line to the title of grand dame!!! Am feeling very pleased with myself at the moment! I'm applying for a release of my superannuation funds on the basis that I have permanently departed Australia and although it's only about AUD6,000, it is going to be vital in extending my maternity leave. Statutory maternity pay in England sucks... I have been amazed at how easy it has been to do all by myself - the efficiency of the Aussie system never ceases to impress me!! Lucky you being pg in Oz. I always thought the health system there was markedly better than the UK.

Mad4girls - the reality is that your dh will love the lo when he arrives whatever sex it is! I can imagine feeling a bit flat after having the sex confirmed because all the mystery has gone at that point - that's why we are keeping ours as a surprise!! If you feel really low, maybe you should talk to your m/w. I don't want to jump on the "depression" bandwagon, but if it is more than a blip, you should not be scared to ask for help. I'm sure everyone here will help as much as they can, but sometimes, you need someone in RL to pitch in...

Juules - excellent news!!! Shout away!

Hotchoc - 6 August is not that far away now!

VV - good luck with the scan. Here's hoping everything is okay and there will be more good news for the thread!

Hello to everyone else!!!

Firststar - I did do a test before i ttc and it was negative so i know my levels were back to normal.

Mumpbump - was sick again last AND this morning too! Too scared to ring doctors yet so didn't - contemplating doing test over weekend but still don't know if it is too early and don't wana see a negative! If it is from when i started to bleed then it will be over 5 weeks so i suppose i could do a test, but if it is from when you stop bleeding then its just over 3-4 weeks so probably too early to do test.

Ladies - I'm so sorry to have to share some very sad news on this lovely, positive thread...
Well for me now, the dream is over again. Despite all the sickness and new early scans with heartbeats...
On Monday, at 10 weeks, while on holiday in France, I had some very light spotting and I was, understandably, jittery, I had a scan done the next day in a French hospital.

They found no heartbeat and bean had not grown in a week

We came home earlier and we are still waiting for things "to happen". I feel like I am walking towards a cliff but don't know when I will fall off

To make things even worse, the French hospital was the exact same one I had been in with my m/c in March. Then it was a school trip and this time, we had gone there for the weekend from our main holiday site to visit friends. What are the chances???? To find yourself in the same bed, in the same hospital 1000 miles from home???? It feels like some cruel joke

Sorry to be the bearer of bad news and I wish you all the bestest and most wonderful of luck in your pgs

Oh Basil, I am guttered for you hun. You must be in shock, how terrible for it to happen again, and in such a deja vu way.

I'm really sorry Your right it's just not fair

I hope your dp and family are with you and take care of you, feel free to cry on here or be angry if you need to.

Basil - that's awful. I really am v sad for you - just incredibly cruel and wretched.

Take it easy - wishing you all the best under the circumstances. If you ever want to talk / vent / whatever you know where we are x

BB...so so gutted for you . life can be so cruel and unfair.

look after yourself and wishing you hope and luck for the future.

take care xx

BB - so, so sorry to hear your news... What an awful coincidence re: the hospital. You take care of yourself and make sure your dh/dp does the same... Thinking of you.

BasilBrush I am so sorry Strangely I was in France 2 weeks ago without a clue that my baby had died I started spotting just after we got back and found that the baby had died 4 weeks earlier (after a scan which had shown the baby and heartbeat) The only way I could possibly cope (1t's my 3rd successive m/c)was to arrange an ERPC so my heart goes out to you as waiting for it to happen is awful I hope in the future (when you feel ready to try again) that you have a successful pg xx

Basil , nature and fate can be so cruel. My thoughts are with you and DP/DH and I hope the next few days are not too awful for you both.

bb- im so sorry this has happened again, i hope you and dp have some good support around you, and find the strength to get through the next few weeks.(((hugs)))

Wow ? this thread has been busy ? I?m sure there have been about 50 posts since yesterday!

Basil oh lovely, I am so sorry for you ? thinking of you.

Taichimum ? hoping all has gone well at your scan today!

Mad4girls ? good news on your 20 week scan ? and about the cyst and fibroid! Sorry to hear that your dp is a bit disappointed. Have you told him how you feel? I have to say that as it?s the sperm which decides a baby?s sex, then he obviously has good strong male sperm ? as most mc babies are said to be male. I have to say that I agree with feedmenow ? at least he?ll have a chance to get over himself before this lo arrives!
Neither dh or I could imagine having a girl, so we were both a bit shocked when we found out that this one is a girl ? there are no girls in ds?s family (his mum?s or his dad?s side) since the birth of his mum ? and she?s in her 60s!
And crying over milk? That?ll be the bl00dy hormones!

Jules99 ? fantastic news, my lovely ? I?m made up for you!

Firsty ? hang on in there girl ? it won?t be long now!

Mumpbump ? also to boost iron levels try dried apricots, or fresh beetroot ?

Hi to everybody else!

Well, news from me ?.

-went to see GP, to shove analgesia pathway up her nose ? only to find it wasn?t necessary ? in fact, she took my booklet (from the hospital) to have a good look at, and asked if she could take copies for the rest of the GPs in the practice ? So, I now have some cocodamol ? but they don?t seem to do it in suppository form, so she?s suggested I see the anaesthetist anyway, so that I can be given pain patches, or something similar.

• went into school today for the last day ? and am now in agony ? it doesn?t help that my classroom is at the end of the longest corridor of any school in Wales! Have come home and taken some painkillers ? and will be off to bed in a bit.

Hope everybody is having a good Friday ? we?ll be getting ready to go on our holidays on Sunday, so I don?t know how much mn time I?ll have. We?re going on the Llangollen canal in a canal boat: I?ll be in charge of driving, whilst dh and ds will be in charge of bridges and locks ? we?ve saved up our Tesco clubcard vouchers for 2 years to pay for it, and I?m really looking forward to it ? may even treat myself to the odd pint of real ale!

Love to all ?.

Firststar 26 July
Uki -15th August
PurpleLostPrincess - 22nd September
Rubles - 28th September
Fettle - 29th September
Mumpbump - 1 October
ejt1764 - 2nd October
ejb1976 20 October
Glimmer November 13
mad4girls 4th December
hotchoc 10 dec
Bouncingturtle - 23rd December
becklespeckle - 17+0 EDD 27th December
MrsMcJnr ? 14+2 EDD 15 January.
VictorVictoria 12+0
Bluebell- 12+6
BellaBear - 6th February
Taichimum - 9+5 EDD 16th Feb
HAylstones- EDD 24th Feb (my birthday!!)
Winkygirl - 20 March
Spugs - 22nd March (4 + 5)long way to go

Basil - I'm so so sorry . how utterly awful and while you were away as well. Words can't express what I want to say, so just sending you lots of virtual hugs - look after yourself! Take care.xxx

I hope everyone else is doing well - you have been really chatty. not sure I can keep up. We were sent home at lunchtime today due to the weather and I was supposed to work when I got home, but haven't. So now I'll have to work over the weekend, but I'm on here instead! DH just told me to remember I'm pg and me and baby are the most important and I should look after myself and minifet before worry about work, so I will!!

ejt, sorry to hear you are in pain, but thank goodness your school term is finally over now! Glad GP finally saw sense on the pain killer front.

Hello everyone else, taichimum, mad4girls, glimmer, MrsMc, firsty, babyboo and all you millions of others, who my pg brain has forgotten - need to go run DD's bath now!

take care all
xxx

Hello all. BAsil am so sorry. Can youget a referral to a recurrent miscarriage clinic?

My scan went well, downs score low, baby looked fine. #am mightily relieved.