Pregnancy after m/c (part 7), true hand-holding and support along the road...

[Uki]

Thought I'd start this in honour of Purple's effort so far, hope you don't mind Purple I liked this title best.

Welcome to our shiny new thread

A colleague just asked me in the loos if I was pregnant - outright like that I couldn't hide it when asked like that but I asked her to keep it to herself just now. I asked if I was really that fat already and she said it was in fact because I was glowing that she noticed - nice compliment (even if I do think its cos I'm fat!)

SMOM, I also had cramps at 5-6 weeks with this pg although didn't get them with any previous pgs so was quite worried at the time, fingers crossed hun x
Mumpbump, My work trousers are truly awful, nice tapering leg with a crease down the front! I work for Tescos 2 nights a weeks, no maternity shirt yet but they have managed to find me an XL t-shirt which is nice (not!). Thankfully I have a work fleece which covers up the vast and vile t-shirt or I don't think I would leave the house in clothes that fit so badly! Mind you, at least they are comfy... So pleased your Mum has responded well to the Chemo although sorry you have bad news about DH's ex too.
I agree that scans are teriffying, I was in tears with both scans this pg and luckily had a lovely sonographer who told me and showed me all was well each time before doing her measurements and things.
Had a MW appt yesterday, nothing to it really, just blood pressure, ask if I was okay and check urine. They tested for LOs heartbeat too (which they don't normally do here unless you ask), at first she couldn't find anything and then she moved the doppler and I just knew it was on the baby, as soon as she pressed it down baby scooted away to the other side of my tum! Felt a bit like being winded actually and even she felt it move over. Then she tried again and it scooted away again (hehe!). Thankfully she found the HB in the end.

Firststar 26 July
Uki -15th August
PurpleLostPrincess - 22nd September
Rubles - 28th September
Fettle - 29th September
Mumpbump - 1 October
ejt1764 - 2nd October
ejb1976 23
Glimmer 19+3
mad4girls 4th December
hotchoc 10 dec
Bouncingturtle - 23rd December
becklespeckle - 17+0 EDD 27th December
MrsMcJnr ? 14+2 EDD 15 January.
VictorVictoria 12+0
Bluebell- 12+6
BellaBear - 6th February

Also guys I know this is a bit of a personal question and I probably wound up for no reason but Ihad my screening tests done on Monday for HIv and also DVT because of a previous DVT I had a couple of years ago.. I am going on holidayon Sat and I am worried that I am going to get a phone call that something dreadful is wrong.. My dh just laughed at me last night, we have been together for 5 years and are both faithful, but I asked whether I would know if I had HIV i know its silly but would I know?? They said I probably won't get the results for 2 weeks !!1 Did you go through this or is it just me??

Ahh MrsMc, it feels official when people start to notice doesn't it! I had another person shocked last night that I was only 17 weeks along. She said "mind you it is your 3rd isn't it", I then had to point out I was just as big with both the others...
I am slim and very short in the body - baby has nowhere to go but outwards!

Here's mine added:
Firststar 26 July
Uki -15th August
PurpleLostPrincess - 22nd September
Rubles - 28th September
Fettle - 29th September
Mumpbump - 1 October
ejt1764 - 2nd October
ejb1976 23
Glimmer 19+3
mad4girls 4th December
Bouncingturtle - 23rd December
becklespeckle - 17+0 EDD 27th December
MrsMcJnr ? 14+2 EDD 15 January.
VictorVictoria 12+0
Bluebell- 9+0
BellaBear - 6th February
HAylstones- EDD 24th Feb (my birthday!!)

That's sweet MRsMcJnr, I'm sure you are just glowing, not fat! DD is only 3 and has already twigged as she keep staring at my stomach and asking if there's a baby in there then rubbing it saying 'Mmmm, big fat tummy'. I just say 'maybe one day' as it still feels too early. I've even caught dh staring at it incredulously, it doesn't look anything like 8 weeks! My stomach was flat(ish) before this pg so clearly my muscles have been shot to pieces by my pg with dd as it's glaringly obvious, none of my trousers will fasten and I'm living in lycra (attractive it's not).
Ah well have left dd eating lunch downstairs so better go and check she's oK. We have a code to make sure she's Ok where I shout her name and she has to shout Yoohoo back, very sweet. Little chance of her going anywhere cos Cbeebies is on [guilty emoticon]

Bluebell I think it is normal to worry, I certainly did, even with this pg (same father as the others, no affairs - still worried though). I don't know how long your results will take but they let you know quite quickly if there is a problem here so no news is good news. Try and enjoy your holiday and don't worry too much xxx It is part and parcel of pg to constantly worry there is something wrong!

Hi all, When ttc after m/c when you count it from (when you are able to conceive again etc) from when i actually m/c (when it started) or once the m/c had completed (i had stopped bleeding etc)??? If that makes sense??? Anyone?

Firststar 26 July
Uki -15th August
PurpleLostPrincess - 22nd September
Rubles - 28th September
Fettle - 29th September
Mumpbump - 1 October
ejt1764 - 2nd October
ejb1976 20 October
Glimmer 19+3
mad4girls 4th December
hotchoc 10 dec
Bouncingturtle - 23rd December
becklespeckle - 17+0 EDD 27th December
MrsMcJnr ? 14+2 EDD 15 January.
VictorVictoria 12+0
Bluebell- 12+6
BellaBear - 6th February

Hello ladies. Been away for a bit so am v behind. Camping. Quite eventful. Won't bore now with full tales!

Wahh Firststar - getting v warm now!

Can't believe how the weeks are zipping past. Its grand to see the weeks totting up. Tho I know it doesn't seem like it at the beginning.

I'm taking the liquid iron stuff - well forgetting to a fair bit but does seem to be helping some

I worried about the HIV test as well, Bluebell. Hey - I've worried about everthing! As each worry / hurdle is settled, I find something else to worry and fixate on. Think its natural to worry and stress about everything - especially when you've had things go tits up / not turn out as expected previously. Honestly - if I shared all my worries / neurotic thoughts I'd be kicked off the thread I can see that a lot of my fears are somewhat irrational and highly unlikely and do laugh at them a bit which helps.

I think just do what you need to do to get through - that goes for private scans - whatever. If something is going to put yr mind at ease, even if only for a bit - go for it

All the best to everyone x

Beckle - sounds like the very height of maternity fashion!!! Move over Isabelle Oliver...

Louise - are you talking about how you date a pg? If you had a m/c and haven't yet had a period, I believe you need to get a dating scan as they can't reliably date it any other way.

Firststar 26 July
Uki -15th August
PurpleLostPrincess - 22nd September
Rubles - 28th September
Fettle - 29th September
Mumpbump - 1 October
ejt1764 - 2nd October
ejb1976 20 October
Glimmer 19+3
mad4girls 4th December
hotchoc 10 dec
Bouncingturtle - 23rd December
becklespeckle - 17+0 EDD 27th December
MrsMcJnr ? 14+2 EDD 15 January.
VictorVictoria 12+0
Bluebell- 12+6
BellaBear - 6th February
Spugs - 22nd March (4 + 5)long way to go

Hi

Mrsmc- thanks for the link, I don't recognize many names anymore, we are all here. Although there are a few people (around elsewhere) who I desperately hope for still . nice to hear you are glowing

Firstar- I was thinking of andi the other day, I imagine she had her little baby by now, did you read anything somewhere?
I'm way behind in my pg /baby book too. i have so much to do before LO, but no energy, hope i'll get some mad dash of it though. I have been watching alot of movies snugged up on the lounge though

I had scan today and saw cramped LO, it is actually his bottom up in my ribs, giving me so much uncomfort

It was a scan to check growth as I have been on asprin for this pg, LO is measuring a week behind, but i think all ok, all the organs are good and strong heart beating. Seems not long ago at all it was just a little flicker.
Ob said today he will not use forceps or suction because of my lack of pelvic floor, as instruments could damage it more. he also mentioned c/s which would damage it the least. All feels very real now

Bluebell- i think being tested for anything makes you paranoid. I never had any blood tests or knew what type i was till TTC, now I've had about 27 blood tests and still worry that I will hear something i don't want to know, those 80's campaigns were quite successful IYKWIM

Uki, hope you don't mind me asking such a personal question but how did you know your pelvic floor was not good? You don't have to answer but I have been worrying about mine as it is feeling the strain already at 17 weeks! I especially find it is uncomfortable underneath when I sit on the toilet - have been panicking in case it is not strong enough to hold baby in there! (MW told me it is likely down to being nearly 5 years older than last time and it being my third)

Beckle- I don't mind you asking at all, It is quite obvious though, I have had the flu for a week and half and with it came a nasty cough. So everytime TMI alert- i cough, i leak, have had to wear a pad night and day since then. Some women leak when they sneeze or laugh too, also have been going to the toilet very frequently and need to go even when the tinest bit full.
I'm not sure why it would feel weird when you go though, do you just mean pressure or does it sting?
I'm trying to do loads of pelvic floor exercises now to repair myself but I can barely do them. NOTE to everyone do your pelvic floor exercises before it's too late

Beckle - I have a friend who has 2 dc and she said that with the second one, it felt like it was falling out a lot of the time. I guess they just sit lower in your pelvis 'cos everything has stretched. I feel like this one is going to fall out over my pelvis sometimes...

Mumbump - I meant like i read that somebody thought if you was to get pregnant you can start it from when you start the m/c. What im saying is i started my m/c on 18th and it was completed by 26th June so does it mean that i could be pregnant now already? When technically i only finished the m/c 3 weeks ago or technically is it 5 weeks? I suspect pregnancy because i keep being sick when i want to go to sleep and ive had some cramps in one side etc, but then i would not know if i was only 3 weeks? im really confused!

Thanks Uki. It is just pressure really (although stings a bit today - I suspect I did not drink enough yesterday). I just worry that after 2 big babies it will not be strong enough, although my pelvic muscles are quite good (although can't go on trampoline unless just been ) they are not fantastic and after DS2 it just all feels a bit lower than it did before IYKWIM.

Louise - I think it is possible that you could be pg if 3 weeks have passed since you stopped bleeding, but you can't date a pregnancy from a m/c because nobody knows when you have ovulated so when conception occurred.

If I were in your position, I would firstly do a pregnancy test. If it is negative, then my understanding is that your miscarriage is likely to have been complete and there is nothing left. If you have a positive test, call your EPU and ask for a scan, if you haven't already had one. It is possible that you might not have completely miscarried and that might be why you're feeling sick. On the other hand, it might just be a new pg - here's hoping!!

Mumpbump - I know i have completed my m/c because i went for a scan on 27th June but i had already stopped bleeding by 25th, and they checked me over and scanned me and it was completely finished so i know that has nothing to do with it. But everything i have been reading says that you wouldn't know if you were pregnant at 3 weeks. I think im going to see if i am sick again tonight and if i am make appointment with doctor.

I think that's a good idea. As I say, it all depends on when you ovulate after the m/c. People are meant to be super-fertile so I guess you could be pg. I know after my first m/c, I had a period about 4 weeks after the bleeding stopped which meant I must have ovulated about 2 weeks afterwards. So it is entirely possible. Fingers crossed for you!

Hi all, not keeping up with this thread again! Can't seem to manage it with too much going on in RL and too busy being anxious and doing knicker checking. I have a 10 week scan tom - I hope I do not see a dead babe tom like last time at 10 weeks. Oh grim memories . I hope I stay on this list - will let you know what happens tom and then hopefully I can contribute in a more meaningful way.

I remember seeing Jules pop up a few days ago. Just wanted to say welcome as we were on here together last time. I hope we both stay here

Firststar 26 July
Uki -15th August
PurpleLostPrincess - 22nd September
Rubles - 28th September
Fettle - 29th September
Mumpbump - 1 October
ejt1764 - 2nd October
ejb1976 20 October
Glimmer 19+3
mad4girls 4th December
hotchoc 10 dec
Bouncingturtle - 23rd December
becklespeckle - 17+0 EDD 27th December
MrsMcJnr ? 14+2 EDD 15 January.
VictorVictoria 12+0
Bluebell- 12+6
BellaBear - 6th February
Taichimum - 9+5 EDD 16th Feb
HAylstones- EDD 24th Feb (my birthday!!)
Spugs - 22nd March (4 + 5)long way to go

Hello, Taichimum!!! Best of luck for tomorrow! I (and I'm sure everyone else) will be thinking of you and keeping everything crossed! Here's hoping for good news...

Ladies I?ll be AWOL for a few days, wedding tomorrow and Sat ? just in case you miss me!

Taichimum -- I have just been asking about you yesterday... Good luck for tomorrow and a lot of strength! The last 24h before a scan a very scary...

Am I the only one in November????? What were you doing in February ?! :-)

Firststar 26 July
Uki -15th August
PurpleLostPrincess - 22nd September
Rubles - 28th September
Fettle - 29th September
Mumpbump - 1 October
ejt1764 - 2nd October
ejb1976 20 October
Glimmer November 13
mad4girls 4th December
hotchoc 10 dec
Bouncingturtle - 23rd December
becklespeckle - 17+0 EDD 27th December
MrsMcJnr ? 14+2 EDD 15 January.
VictorVictoria 12+0
Bluebell- 12+6
BellaBear - 6th February
Taichimum - 9+5 EDD 16th Feb
HAylstones- EDD 24th Feb (my birthday!!)
Spugs - 22nd March (4 + 5)long way to go

louise - i am now 19 weeks preg after a m/c and no period. they would not scan me until they thought i was 8.5 weeks and when they did i was a week further on. i was sure i was pg before the bfp so here's hoping for you. hotchoc

good luck at the scan tomorrow, Taichimum