Pregnancy 12 weeks + post IVF/infertility - General chat and support Thread 2

[Janefx40]

We've run out of room so let's start again.

New people welcome. The group aims to support those who are pregnant post difficulty.

All are welcome - we are aimed at 12 week plus as those early weeks are a different kind of roller coaster and another group exists for support then. However you are welcome here too if you want to join.

Some of us have been here a while and nearly ready to pop. Others already had their babies.

Welcome one and all xxx

@Beherenow32 you are lucky it’s weekend as triage is very quiet over the weekend as I was seen immediately (I went on Sunday and was told that if I went any other day I would have waited hours). Can’t remember but I was about the same as you -ish and though no point in guessing as movement seemed less and decided that I didn’t want to risk. So I called triage and was told to go in, was hooked up to monitors for hour and then I went home- with all clear!
Call them definitely if in any doubt at all, that’s what I thought and did

Something I just realised made me laugh- before I had my baby I physically couldn’t sleep to the size of my belly (and myself) or stress at work or whatever...
however- since I had her I have come to conclusion - insomnia is a luxury!!!!
I mean as soon as my head hits pillow I’m out- totally out. And only baby noises wake me- NOTHING ELSE -NOTHING 😁😁😁😁

@Fox23 oh well I was awake all night- so will keep that in mind to help me feel better 😩
Back is sooo sore- have ordered a different pillow. Was also worrying about movement but have felt a couple kicks and rolling. Thanks for sharing your experience though x

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Hi girls,

Happy new year, hope everyone is well! I think we do have a couple of people due really soon!
My little boy is 6 weeks on Monday and it’s gone so fast! He’s still really good and slept through the night last night. Hoping it continues! X

Hello ladies! I hope everyone’s 2019 has started well. 🥳 So lovely to hear how the new mums are getting on. 😊 Who needs daily showers anyway! 😂

@fox23, I’m doing well thanks. I’ve been off work since the 1st and enjoying not waking up so early! 😂 I have my induction booked for the 13th, but doing what I can to bring on labour naturally between now & then. 😁

@Beherenow32, congrats on 30w. That’s so nice that you had a 4D scan. It’ll be interesting to see if your LO looks like that when they arrive.

Sorry you’re having some discomfort. I think I’m one of the odd ones, where this last trimester has been very good for me. Other than feeling heavy some days, I’m coping ok. 🙏

@Barcelo18 @Fox23 phoned hospital who are happy for me to go up and get checked if worried but I done the sugary food/ drink and lying for an hour first. Felt a few jiggles and jabs. Then fell asleep after 30 mins!! Lol hospital said that movement seemed ok, but go up if I’m really concerned. Baby seemed to be moving towards my back. Did anyone else feel like this?

@SouthernBella74 hope baby is here with you soon. I felt amazing during 2nd trimester. As soon as I got to 3rd it all went down hill lol xx

@beherenow32 I did go to the assessment unit once when I hadnt felt movement And they had me hooked onto the monitor and then sent me for a scan and they realised why I wasn’t feeling the movement as I had done previously as the baby had moved lower down into my pelvis and now had his back to my belly so the lovely was different to what I had felt previously as he was now kicking inwards rather than outwards. I would say it’s always best to go get checked and the staff at the hospital are so lovely and would rather you have peace of mind than be at at home worrying x

Hi Ladies! So nice to hear from you all. I'm due in 2 weeks. Booked in for induction on Friday 18th but may push it back to the Monday - give her more of a chance to come on her own.

@Beherenow32 glad you have felt the baby move now. I have definitely had times when I've worried and times when she's moved loads. I went in to the hospital once. I didn't call before as it wasn't my local. They were very nice and did some listening.

Our local NHS are endlessly telling us to call and go in if there are any concerns. They always say they will be pleased if they find movement and to never think we are wasting time. Go in if you feel worried at all, I reckon. No reason not to. But it sounds as tho maybe things are resolved for today!

30 weeks! Time has flown

Xxx

@Janefx40 wow that’s so close. Very exciting!
I just wish that the movement was more obvious. But they didn’t seem concerned at the hospital. Baby may be facing my back. And I have an anterior placenta, which won’t help with the feeling of movement.

How are you feeling? All organised for baby coming? Xx

@Beherenow32 we have most things but I've forgotten all the stuff we learned about breastfeeding and even labour so need to do some revision!

I reckon you could go to the hospital if you are concerned. It could reassure you if nothing else. That is what they are there for. Of course chances are all is fine.

@fox @Liverpool19 @Barcelo18 Sounds like all your babies are doing well. Sleeping through the night is impressive. Glad to hear you are happy even if the bruises/scars are still healing!

Xxx

@janetfx40 what an exciting time for you. I’m sure everything will come flooding back to you regarding labour and breastfeeding and there is loads of help in the hospital with regards to breastfeeding so if you get there and forget your techniques they will have a midwife to come and show you once again and assist if you like. How many more do we have left on this thread waiting for their much longed for babies now then x

I’m still here but also further behind so feel a bit out of place. 25.5 weeks.

Oh you’re not out of place at all, it’s lovely to watch everyone else’s progress and hopefully offer any advice if we can. Honestly once you hit the 20
Week mark the rest of the time flies over, well apart from the last couple of weeks x

I'm only 20 weeks. Having spent years dreaming of becoming pregnant, I have to say I'm not enjoying it at all! The supposed second trimester honeymoon is not happening for me! I'm still sick multiple times a day, with about five seconds warning (fun at work!) and tired as a dog. Think my thyroid levels are off again maybe...? Will get them rechecked.
Enjoying the movement, which I'm feeling more and more often. Even getting excited about things now... hopefully this will help but I'm sure you ladies understand more than most how hard it is not to worry things won't work out?
Anomaly scan is Monday so fingers crossed that goes well.

Glad everyone seems to be doing well xx

Hi @felicityheather it's really tough getting that non stop sickness. My best friend has had it for all 3 pregnancies but hers eases off after about 20 weeks so fingers crossed for you.

I think the anomaly scan is a massive milestone so hopefully once you are through that you may start to feel less anxious but it is hard when you've had a tough road to getting pregnant

Xxx

Thanks @Janefx40 sorry for whining.

@felicityheather no need to be sorry. That's what these threads are for! I'm just sorry it doesn't have more people on for you to chat to. It was busy at one point but a lot of folk have had heir babies now!

Xxx

@felicityheather I hope your sickness will calm down ❤️ As for worrying, it’s normal and for me it was on and off. At some point towards the end I felt really confident and even walked my dog (very big dog that pulls a lot) when everyone was freaking out looking at me. But then one week before due date I started to panic, what if something goes wrong when I am soo close to the end? Nothing you can do. Just enjoy those moments when u feel confident and hang in there when you feel worried ❤️

fleicity my friend suffered from sickness all the time like you it’s not fun. Good luck for your scan. I know a few of us when worried booked private scans, just to see the baby again maybe that is an option for you.

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Thanks ladies. Sometimes it feels out of control and like you say sometimes I feel quietly confident and excited. Just have to take the rough with the smooth I guess.

You need more people for this thread? Well, I’m 17 weeks today, so I’m definitely past the 12-week mark.

I think I qualify - DH has low morphology and motility - low enough that it seemed unlikely that pregnancy would happen naturally. We tried for 15 months, probably with7 months of him taking many supplements, and were just gearing up for IVF with an HSG when I became pregnant. His results still weren’t great, but clearly they were good enough!

So now this baby is due 19 June (I really wanted a May or June baby, so it is completely amazing that this miracle not only happened, but at a time to please me!) No idea if we’ll manage any others, but having partly given up hope of ever having a child, well, I am over the moon!

It’s been a bit of a nausea-full pregnancy so far, although it’s been entirely manageable since about 13 weeks, and I keep feeling normal and can appreciate food quite often.

So yeah. I can be a person to carry on on this thread for a bit. Hopefully some others in a similar position will join, too!

Lovely to have you @Spargle

@Spargle @felicityheather I'm due 19th June with an IVF baby. We were lucky enough to get pregnant on our first cycle after 3 failed attempts at IUI. Really enjoying the 2nd trimester- feels like it took a long time to get here and I don't know if we'll get another chance so I just want to enjoy it all - even the nerves!

@2countries1bump we’ve got a lot in common, then! Except that if I’d not fallen pregnant before starting IVF, we wouldn’t have the same due date!

I’m not enjoying the nerves all that much! Every stabbing pain to the uterus has me worried! (Funny, that.) I am enjoying being pregnant, even with the nausea which I thought had left me but was actually just biding its time, but I think I would like it more if I was guaranteed a healthy baby at the end! In retrospect, I expect I will feel sad for not appreciating it more - it is so very lovely having this portable little baby I get to keep inside myself for a while!