Don't know which dad it is

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Hello.

I hope this is the right place to be and that I don't get judgement for this as I am very scared!

I am pregnant, I am unsure how many weeks as I haven't had a scan yet.

My last period was 6th of October-9th.

I had sex with someone on the 18th October unprotected, and then again on the 27th and 28th, 27th with the same guy I slept with on the 18th and 28th with a different person.

I took a clear blue digital and it said I was 1-2 weeks which I think means 3-4.

Please can someone help me work out who is more likely to be the dad! The line on a test I did last week Tuesday the 6th October was almost invisible, then did one on the 9th that was more visible and also did the digital on the 9th. It's now the 15th and the line is very obvious and strong so surely that means it was the guy from the 18th October?!

Thanks so much to anyone that helps! 

In all seriousness OP, you should probably get an STI check if you're having unprotected sex with multiple men.

I think STI checks are routinely performed in pregnancy - or they were back in my day anyway.

@Alilwolf it was unprotected on all occasions. I got my implant out 3 months ago as it was giving me a constant period and am meant to be moving abroad next year for a year so was having a break on contraception before I go and made a stupid mistake.

The 12 week scan won't help I'm afraid. With my first pregnancy, it put conception two days before I'd even had sex.

Good luck!

@Foodylicious yes positive since Tuesday 6th but didn't realise there was a line until I looked back when I took on 09/10 and it was pregnant 1-2 weeks and took a clearblue non digital yesterday and there is a strong cross.

@HarrietKettleWasHere that's not very kind. You don't know the situation atall.

Are you going to keep the baby? Good luck with your pregnancy if so. This will make life a little more stressful than a normal pregnancy, so I feel for you. What's done is done now, so not much point torturing yourself about it.

@Alilwolf I really really want nothing more than to keep the baby. I do not want to have an abortion at all. It's a massive mistake but it's done now, thanks so much for the positivity. X

@eloliphant thanks for that! Didn't expect any mean people on here. Would regret coming on if it wasn't for the helpful responses!

was having a break on contraception before I go and made a stupid mistake.

The implant wouldn’t have protected you from STDs. Why didn’t you use condoms?

Why are some posters putting the boot in when the OP is obviously stressed, scared and came to a place like MN for some info/assurance? Retract your claws ffs.

I'm no expert OP but I expect going on common ovulation windows it would more likely be the 18th. Best bet is it to wait for first scan to possibly get it dated, if not then there are always dna tests.

It’s unlikely to be the guy you slept with on the 28th but it’s impossible to say for sure without a DNA test as you might have ovulated late. It’s not uncommon for your cycle to be pretty irregular after coming off hormonal contraception.

I would also second the recommendation for STI testing - you are tested for the big stuff like hepatitis and HIV in pregnancy but it would be worth making an appointment at your local sexual health clinic to be tested for chlamydia, gonorrhoea etc. They are very supportive and non-judgemental and if you do need treatment then getting it early makes a big difference.

Purpledaisies because she said she made a stupid mistake. She's paying the price now in fairness.

Op - in that case I will say Congratulations. Are you in a relationship with either of them?

I'm sorry you're being given a hard time OP. Nobody knows what your situation is, all you've said is there was unprotected sex with two men, we don't know the ins and outs so nobody should judge.

Best of luck to you!

@LadyRochfordsSpikedGusset thanks for that, that makes me feel a lot more at ease. I'm really hoping it's that date. And would 100% go with DNA if no solution but would be good to know without it.

Yes, when you go to the GP, ask them for the date of conception, not just the due date. It can get confusing counting 40 weeks from the due date.

@Darkstar4855 I have already had an STI test after the 28th. I have no STI's, thanks for responding.

@Alilwolf I am not in a relationship with either. The guy from the 18th who I slept with again on the 27th could have been a relationship if I didn't do such a silly thing but now can't speak to him as I feel so guilty. I will be telling both if I go through with the pregnancy with no clue. What a stupid person I've been!

I think you probably need a DNA test to be sure, scans can be five days out and it's all a bit close. If I had to lay money I'd say the guy from the 18th though. Good luck!

@eloliphant I didn't expect negative responses but I hope whatever's making these people mean isn't as bad as the situation I've tangled myself in! We need more people like you on these sites.

Early scans usually are +/- 5 days. So the only worry would be if they estimate conception as around the 23rd!

But it is very likely the scan will be able to tell if it was the 18th or the 27/28th when you conceived. If it says it was the latter (less likely based on cycle lengths but not impossible) then it's dna test time I guess!

@costacoffeecup another person thinking the 18th!! Thank god. I've got my fingers crossed.

Why didn't you get the morning after pill? Then you wouldn't be worrying.

There's not one of us here who has never made a mistake in their lives, so don't heed the judgment. Admittedly, you're facing particularly significant consequences, but focus on your health now during your pregnancy. There's nothing as bad as couldn't be worse as they say!

Why did you have unprotected sex? Or were you on the pill?