Due May 2019

[natashaarr]

Hey, I’ve just found out I’m pregnant and that I’ll be due in May. I’ve had 4 miscarriages and have no children so I’m really nervous! It’s still really early but would love to talk to other people due in May. Even though I know it’s still really early and lots of people may not know their due date yet!

Oh ladies, Im having a right time.
I'll be 9 weeks on Thursday and we are planning on telling the parents this weekend and I'm absolutely terrified. I know mine won't be jumping for joy or anything like that because it's my third. It'll be a case of "I knew it" or "suprised it took you this long". They're so supportive though but their initial reactions to stuff always suck. I actually cried so much last night just thinking about getting a blunt reaction. 4 hours sleep and I'm welling up now just thinking about it. I've been planting seeds for weeks now just so they can be reassured that im happy in hope I get a nice reaction from them. I think I'm also so afraid of the embarrassment because my OH is coming with me. I've got a lot of respect for my parents and I can understand why they haven't been thrilled in the past due to my circumstances I'm just praying they see that this is what we want. God I'm a hormonal mess.

On a good note, finally got my weight gain controlled!

Sorry you are worried @Lilbear14 Do you think they are blunt as a self protect thing? I know my parents are very factual at this point because they don't want to her over excited in case things don't go well. Fingers crossed it's better than you hope

@frankiefumbles
I'm not sure tbh, I had my first at 17, so as you can imagine that didn't go down well and my second was after being in a new relationship for a couple of months so they were really disappointed which is understandable I made some silly silly decisions when I was younger.
Just hope they can see it as a positive rather than a "you've done it again?!" But it's like I keep saying to myself I'm not going to not have a family with someone I care about and have been with for a while because society looks down on mother's who have children to more than one man....they're still my children at end of the day. But parents being parents it's hard for them to see that isn't it and they just see facts. I think I'm really over thinking about it because it's getting close.

@Lilbear14 Try a bit of raw honesty on them! Start off by saying 'I know you won't be happy about this and I've been dreading telling you but...I'm happily pregnant' the only way is up then or at the very least they'll know that their reaction has an effect on you.
I go from wanting to strangle my family to wanting to hug them and wanting to strangle them again within one conversation. If it helps we told my father in law (I'm 8 +6) and he decided that he'd tell everyone...needless to say what I wanted to do to him was not legal and a little bit permanent!!! All the best lovely and don't let their failings ruin your day xxxx

@lilbear14 I can so relate to this because I was worried about telling my parents because they're quite old school and we're not married (although we are engaged). I wrestled with my approach for ages before settling on the below principles:

1. Go in there projecting positivity about the pregnancy - don't kick the conversation off with anything negative because it sets the tone for the whole thing and gives them the opportunity to feed off that. Just blow them away with how happy you are. I said "We've got some really exciting news! We're having a baby next year! We're completely over the moon and have been looking forward to telling you!" Even if they're a bit taken aback, hopefully the positivity will soften their response.

2. Stay calm and don't revert to child/parent roles. Remember you're an adult, it's your choice and they have no business judging you. If they are arsey, simply smile and say - "ok, I'm disappointed you feel like that, I am thrilled with this pregnancy and hope that once it has sunk in you will be just as happy as me and want to share in the excitement."

We had a backup plan to get out of their place and stay somewhere else if it didn't go very well. I think the key thing was taking control of the situation - if they wanted to be negative then I would simply stay calm and positive and remove myself from the situation asap.

In the end they were really excited and happy for us, so all that fretting was for nothing! They might surprise you!

Best of luck and please let us know how it goes xx

Thank you everyone! Yeah I already have a plan in place to be able to remove myself from the situation as quick as possible. I am over thinking just because of past experiences.
I think they already know tbh, I see them 2-3 times a week and my mum always seems to know.
My parents really like my OH which helps. But my brother doesn't and he's really opinionated so I've also got into my head I am going to clash with him too.
I do feel like a scared child though! But it is what it is at the end of it isn't it!

@Lilbear14 it's really nothing to do with your brother. It sounds to me like actually your parents might turn out supportive this time because you've done it more "properly" in their eyes? I really like what @Noodella18 suggested

Hey ladies, i hope you don't mind me posting this, as I've posted on another chat but would like some insight....my scan at 8 weeks and 4 days had the following measurements (see attached). The mean yolk sac size looks small on their little scale to the side of the numbers? What did yours say (if you've had scans), would love to compare? Xx

@buntingandstarcharts I believe the yolk sac shrinks as the placenta grows, so maybe it's just a case that your placenta is ahead? Baby has a nice strong HB.

At 6+6 my scan simply said the yolk sac was visualised and at 9+3 that it had been seen. My 6+7 would have been 7+2 based on LMP and new scan. When things are small they are hard to measure on the scan too.

I've added my outputs (the more recent is the greyer photo and the older is the screenshot) so you can compare but unless she's said it's abnormal there's probably nothing to worry about :)

Aw@frankiefumbles thank you so much for your reply, that's so so so reassuring to know that the yolk sac shrinks and actually it makes total sense that it gets smaller as placenta takes over, I somehow thought this would happen later. Your stats look great too. I'm so grateful for your help 🌈🌈

Aw @frankiefumbles thank you so much for your reply, that's so so so reassuring to know that the yolk sac shrinks and actually it makes total sense that it gets smaller as placenta takes over, I somehow thought this would happen later. Your stats look great too. I'm so grateful for your help 🌈🌈

How early can they tell if you're having twins? Tia X

@bumblebee39 I'd assume at your first scan?
I think there may be a way of suspecting it depending on your hormone levels in bloods, but I reckon otherwise it's at your first scan. :)

Is anyone else feeling ridiculously bloated? My trousers are starting to feel quite snug and the bloat is just other level today. I feel so uncomfortable. :(

@ceecee I don't know if I'm bloated, have put on flab or if this is the start of 'THE BUMP' but I'm wandering round the office with the top button of my jeans undone!

I'm 10 weeks today and bloat has been replaced by a definite small bump, ie one that doesn't go away if I breathe in so for once not just fat.

I'm not having (or had) a scan until my 12 week scan so still terrified of bad news.

Hi I’m a new addition to the May 2019

I only worked out I was expecting last Friday (I’m not a complete simpleton honestly! I ovulated from both tubes each month so often have residual bleeding every month regardless ) it’s my 4th I already have 3 boys (10/7/5) slightly terrified -DH lovely and excited not told anyone IRL other than my midwife who I’m meeting this Saturday.

@buntingandstarcharts no worries. The caveat is I'm not a Dr! But usually they are quite good at saying if there is something odd about a scan.

@bumblebee39 twins would come up on any scan after about 6 weeks

@Expectingnumberfour congrats - how far along are you?

11 +6 I think ! To be fair I was 16 weeks with ds1 before I worked it out and 9weeks withds3!!!

I had a very early one at 2/3 weeks so still could be possible. I swear I look like I'm in the late second trimester and never felt so pregnant! Don't know how id manage 4...

Hello

Can I join you? 12 weeks plus 3 today.
Mmc in May and I've had bleeding this time for the last 6 weeks mainly old brown blood but some red. Cleared 3 times by epu unit. Need a staff permit at this rate!

I'm 39 this is my 4th my dps 1st. I have one dd20 and 2x d's 15 and 14.

Hoping that we are about to turn a corner...

X

Convinced I'm having twins now I look like a whale already and my bump was really neat with first 2 DCs...

Trying to do some "baby bonding" when my kids give me the chance. A hot bath, some cocoa butter rubbed into my tummy, a bit of Pinterest board building...

I am so glad my HG is being treated well and my medication is being reduced carefully otherwise I think I'd be struggling more. I have to say though it is easier doing it on my own than with my abusive ex. I am looking forward to antenatal classes, the first proper scan etc.

I know it will be hard doing it alone but I'm also excited about having so many choices to make and being able to make my own decisions about birth etc.

I know this will be my last one (or two) so trying to enjoy the process as much as possible.

@Happysbno4 👋 I've had bleeding too which is normal for me as I ovulate from both ovaries each month - it is why I've only just found out!!

@bumblebee39 me too -apparently baby number four is 1 in 44 chance of twins😳😳

My fundal height is by my bellybutton already!!

Well I've had a miscarriage and 2 DCs and Twins run in my family so my odds must be dreadful 🙈

How do I measure that @Expectingnumberfour