Due March 2019

[Bozley47]

I'm 10-11DPO and just had BFP on a digital. I know it's incredibly early but looking at a due date March 3rd 2019!

I'm also very happy to find this little group we only decided to try in May and it's all taken me a bit by surprise! Very nervous

@firsttimenerves this is my first too! I flip from excitement to fear hourly I think. It's just about sinking in now, and like the others I've been half expecting my period and quietly noting its absence every day this week! My GP appointment is just before yours on the 5th July and I'm making a list of all the questions to ask as I'm definitely going to walk in and be overwhelmed! I'm 4+3 I think, what about you?

@firsttimenerves Welcome! I'm very nervous too but taking it a day at a time rather than letting it worry me. It's a long road ahead so we will work things out together as we go along!

@Velcro88 I hope your doctor is better than mine, she tells me to ask the midwife all my questions 🙄

@ladycarlotta I follow Clemmie on FB and Instagram and think she's great so will read her book soon too!

@ladycarlotta thank you for your lovely message! I will definitely look to order those books. I have ordered "what to expect when you're expecting" already, because it reminded me of the movie!

@Velcro88 My Flo app says I am week 5 day 5, but the CB test said 2-3 weeks so I am lost on that already! DH and I got married on 2 June and stopped being careful, thinking it would take a while, only to be delighted with a honeymoon baby. He is beside himself with excitement, I am struggling to process! I would love to hear how your appointment goes, may make me less nervous for mine!

None of my friends have started having children yet, so it's great to have you all here! I am in awe reading some of your stories of blending families etc.

Cross post, thanks @RedRobin7 !

Hi all! Hope you all don't mind me joining in! Got my official BFP today and I'm due 7th march 2019. Have my first midwife appointment on 17th July which is exciting. The only annoying symptoms I have atm is feeling constantly tired and with strange period like pain cramps on and off. Does anyone else have this?

@Kittymumma I felt exactly the same last week! I'm now 4w + 5 (or 5w + 3 going by LMP but I'm fairly confident on my ovulation date)

@firsttimenerves change your Flo app to "displayed weeks - completed" in "pregnancy mode" in settings. It makes more sense then 👍

@firsttimenerves very similar boat then! My DH and I got married on the 4th June and stopped being careful too. We knew we wanted to start trying for ages, and I was convinced it was going to take ages to get anywhere. We have close friends going through IVF and some that have been unsuccessful so honestly I'm a little embarrassed how quickly it's happened! If it all works out we have to work out how to tactfully tell our friends (although we have a feeling she's pregnant now, can't wait for them to tell us!).

Do any of you ladies have any advice on how to be most tactful? So hard to get that right - maybe you just can't get it right? X

P.S. @frankiefumbles @firsttimenerves have you noticed you can get 3+7 instead of just 4(+0)? I'm subtracting a day in my head when thinking of the age, but do you know if midwives would measure as 3+7?

On Flo that is! 🤦🏻‍♀️

@Velcro88 I have a similar situation. I have two close friends who have trouble conceiving / keeping a pregnancy. One couple have been trying for two years and are starting IVF next month and another couple can get pregnancy but have had several miscarriages. The first time I got pregnant and told them both they were very happy for me but admitted having a little cry about it. When I had a miscarriage they were so supportive. We have just managed to get pregnant again first cycle since trying after the miscarriage so I feel guilty. I know my friends know that it's not a competition and that I deserve for this to work out. Friends support each other no matter what but it is okay for them to feel jealous and upset for themselves. The friend who has had miscarriages is pregnant again so we will go through this together. Haven't told the friend having IVF yet but I will keep telling her that her time is coming and to be positive!

I started the conversation saying I understood how hard it is for them to see lots of people becoming pregnant around them and then explaining I was and that it was okay if my friend wanted to take a step back because it was too hard to deal with. I also didn't talk about the pregnancy unless they spoke to me about it which suggested they wanted to talk about it. Also be mindful about what you write on social media. It's so painful for people who have had fertility issues or miscarriages to see people constantly posting baby scans or updates on how their baby is kicking, or their bump is getting so much bigger etc.

@frankiefumbles top tip! It's now saying 4+6 which makes more sense.

@Velcro88 that's so funny how similar our situations are! We don't have to deal with the friends issue - my group seems unlikely to get going any time soon, although we've had a few weddings. Seems like a real challenge on how to go about that sensitively but @RedRobin7 's advice looks sound!

I got back in the gym for the first time properly since coming back from honeymoon yesterday, and spent the rest of the day completely exhausted! I think it's going to take some adjustment. There's been some talk already on exercise on this thread - is the general advice to just continue as normal but rest up when necessary?

@Velcro88 @firsttimenerves ooh honeymoon babies! how lovely! The ClearBlue test says 2-3 weeks as it's counting from when you ovulated, not from your last period. It's really annoying and counter-intuitive, I know.

@kittymumma welcome too - I'm also experiencing cramping at 4w +6. From what I can gather, it's normal (uterus stretching and rearranging itself), but it is quite painful sometimes. I think as long as you're not bleeding you're golden - really hope mine stops soon.

I did a FRER this morning (I know I said I'd wait til tomorrow, but I couldn't help myself) and got a beautiful line at least as dark as the control line. Feel much, much better as I was so nervous that it was just going to disappear. In fact I'm cheerier about the viability of this pregnancy than I ever have been, although have definitely crossed from feeling merely nauseous to 'I'm about to spew'.

(not ovulated per se, I mean from when it thinks the egg was fertilised)

@firsttime most of the advice I've come across says that you can carry on as normal, but listening to your body. I've definitely found that some days I get knackered easily and some I am really up for it - trying not to overheat and I'm personally not pushing myself anywhere near as far as I can go.
Later (? I think not yet) our ligaments will loosen up, which can make injury more likely. Planking and that kind of stuff in second and third trimester is not advised. I'm going more for squats than abs, and focusing on stamina with labour in mind. I know it's a long way off but that's basically my health goal right now.

Thanks all. So chuffed to be part of this group. This is our first so tbh have no idea what to expect or what i an doing. Had trouble sleeping the past 3 nights as my body just can't get comfy and the on and off cramps are annoying 😂

I've lost my message 3 times now 😂😂😂 I can't write all properly again

We have an employee I will have to tell before it becomes obvious. She was trying for an IVF baby but it didn't go well. She knows I want children so it won't be a huge surprise.

@velcro 3+7 must be the new 4(+0)! Re what midwife measures, Flo assumes I've ovulated on day 14. In my case that is very likely to be true. But if you didn't ovulate on day 14 (and you'd only know if you were testing) then the day may be slightly off anyway so midwife may tell you a slightly different date from what you expect

I got 1-2weeks on a clearblue on the day of my missed period, so I'm planning to test 9 days after that and hope to see the 2-3weeks on the next test

@firsttimenerves when I spoke to my GP last time he said I can continue to exercise as I usually do but not overdo it. So as long as you keep an eye on your heart rate and don't do anything explosive or unusual for you I believe it is fine. As I said before, I'm off for a week cycling from tomorrow. Mum reckons that this is a bad idea because it's what people used to do before abortions were available (!). Tbh I think that's a bit nuts and as long as I go gently it should be fine.

A couple of days before my BFP I was riding up my local hill trying to get my best time. I went crazy anaerobic, could barely stand at the top of the hill. And bean hung on through that. I don't think i would necessarily do that again! But I'd much rather try to stay active as long as I can. It is quite tiring though and realistically if I had a day like yesterday I'd be fine, if I had a day like Tuesday I'd be a total waste of space. I'm going to take it as an opportunity to work on my swimming...!

Also. Does anyone else have achey ribs?! Bottom of rib cage. Strange location...!

@frankiefumbles not quite but I do feel like I've done 100 sit ups which I've never even done

I think that's the same as what I've got. And I definitely didn't do sit ups.

I also can't get my bra on 😂 I can't get over this. It's like I've had an overnight boob job. And we are only talking about less than a week since my period was due. Serious stuff is going on in there...

@frankiefumbles I'm so looking forward to sports bra shopping at the weekend it's going to be amazing 😂

Maternity bra maternity bra maternity bra!
Or something that unclips.
I lived in my sports bra for months with dd. But literally cried getting it off and on (pull over, no fastening)
Or simply strap em down!
I sound crazy don't I....

oh my god, just come home and immediately taken my bra off. I need new ones, my norks are out of control since BFP. When I was younger and skinnier I never wore underwiring, perhaps it's time to go back to that.

I had lunch with a friend who works in the same field as me and has a one-year-old. I asked her LOADS of questions about how the baby has affected her work; she knows that we are planning a baby but I wish I'd been able to tell her it's actually in the - er - pipeline.

So I filled in a basic form at the gp when I got my midwife app booked (was only there as have a sore throat) and casually ticked 'would consider a homebirth'. Now the homebirth team midwife has called and said I'm now under their care. She'll come and do my booking in at home and book my scan. Means same midwife care throughout pregnancy but seems quite a big decision to have made so early on. I can still have a hospital birth if I want - but even so...
I really wanted a homebirth last time and was all set up, but gutted that I had to be induced in hospital. No idea what I want this time!!

Plenty of time to look into both and see how the pregnancy goes @pushit!

@ladycarlotta you'll be hard pushed to find absolutely any maternity ones with a wire. I had to ditch my wire when my boobs started going bezerk, it hurt even more with it. I think with the fluctuations of getting bugger and reducing through pregnancy and post preg, the wire can actually do more damage than good to the tissue. But that's just what I read last time....