Fresh Start thread for pregnancy after miscarriage or loss

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I've lost count of what number we were on, sorry.

Also there seems to be another BFP after MC thread running, but it has all different people on it so I didn't know if we should crash theirs or just have two running at once...

Thank you all. Feeling so much better today. Feeling very nauseous this morning, just had a crumpet and hopefully that will ease it a little bit.

So pleased you’re home unicorns that’s quite a stint in special care. Hope you’re settling into things.

para yes I’m pleased they are ok about me cooking baby for 40 weeks, just have to hope it stays put I guess otherwise I’ll be giving vbac another go!

Currently lying down to check baby’s movements - felt like they were reduced yesterday, still moving but not my normal amount. I don’t want to rush these last few weeks but I also really want to meet whoever it is in there and know all is ok. It’s amazing how much miscarriage and loss can get to you at every stage of pregnancy. I have 2 hours to check on movements. I’m so busy with working on a deadline it’s hard to just stay still for 2 hours, but I need to hope all is ok in there!

I had a check up with the midwife and all was fine except that she picked up an ‘ectopic’ heartbeat from the baby. She said that she is going to check this with the doctors and it may need monitored. Otherwise, if they don’t think that, she’ll check again in 4 weeks....... I’m trying not to worry but can’t really help it. Anyone else had this?

@Anxiousfeelings, an ectopic heartbeat isn’t anything to worry about. Just means a few extra beats. It’s good that they’re keeping an eye, reassuring for you too x

Thanks @iswallowtoothpaste that’s reassuring. I think anything to do with heartbeats after miscarriage seems so much more worrying. I just have this horrible, irrational feeling that one thing going wrong will then trigger a kind of chain reaction. I know, it’s crazy.... still I find it hard to believe that this baby could be ok, as I fell pregnant so soon after the last miscarriage, which I know doesn’t make any sense!

Glad you are feeling better today.

Congratulations @unicornsandrainbows1 that must be so wonderful to have her home with you.

@nocatshere hope everything is ok? Did baby move enough with you lying down?

@anxiousfeelings toothpaste is right, ectopic heartbeats are really common and I'm sure it isn't anything to worry about! I know what you mean about finding it hard to believe that everything will be ok though...

Cervix scan for me tomorrow and I can't help feeling really anxious about it. On the plus side movements are definitely getting stronger and he/she has had a really wriggly afternoon today which always cheers me up.

@anxiousfeelings I completely get where you’re coming from. You second guess everything when pregnant after a loss or losses. But honestly, nothing to worry yourself about!

Anxious totally normal to be anxious after pregnancy loss. I'm very anxious. I find yoga helps but obviously worry about movements etc.

31 weeks now. Swelling has set in. Rings off and had to buy bigger wider shoes. Checking my urine every few days and no protein so far; fingers crossed it stays clear.

I'm going to be ducking out of this thread unfortunately. Had a confirmed mmc yesterday. Early scan last week at 7+7 by lmp showed baby at 4.5mm with no heartbeat. Wasn't too concerned as drs said unlikely to see hb yet and I know I ovulated and conceived around a week and half or more after lmp which would coincide dates.

Back yesterday, baby only 6mm measuring 6+2. Not sure if growth or they seem to think none but measurements off last week. No hb again.

Back next week for final scan but they confirmed mmc yesterday. Final scan is because they can't start any medical management or advise me as of yet because there is inconsistency between the two scans.

I've had a previous mc some ten years ago, don't know exactly how far along, likely 6 weeks or less. Miscarriage started on its own. Also had chemical in June and now this. I see everyone on this thread has had a loss and have gone on to have healthy pregnancies, has anyone had 2 or 3 miscarriages and gone on to have a normal pregnancy? Drs won't test until after 3 I don't think & im just sad my pregnancy won't be enjoyable as I'll be too anxious if I get there.

I’m so sorry @sprinkleofsunshine. Really hoping for you to get one that sticks next time. I had 2 miscarriages, both missed, found at 12 and 10 weeks. After the second I was struggling to believe that I would ever get past the 12 week mark - I’m sure that must be common for people who’ve had miscarriages and no live birth yet, but the stats show that high proportions of women go on to have a baby after 3 or 4 or more miscarriages!

Might it be worth talking to your GP and see if they will count the chemical? That way you could get some investigations done which might be reassuring. Wishing you all the best xx

So sorry to hear that Sprinkle. I think you should be referred for investigations at this point too. I’ve had 3 in a row since having my daughter- first at just under 6 weeks, second just over 6 weeks and 3rd missed and picked up at 10 weeks. I’m now nearly 31 weeks. Most of us on here have had multiple losses unfortunately. There’s a TTC after recurrent miscarriage thread also which is really helpful.

I’m so sorry @Sprinkle. I’ve had two in a row before falling pregnant with this one - the first was 5-6 weeks in December 2015 and the last one was a MMC picked up at 10+3 (baby had died at 9+3).

I’m currently 7+5 so certainly not out of the woods but I’m hopeful. Xxx

I'm so sorry @sprinkle, its definitely worth pushing your GP to see if you could get a referral based on the chemical being counted.

I had one MC before my DS and then two further MC in the last year whilst trying for #2 before falling with this pregnancy, am now 23+3. All my miscarriages were missed and happened around the 10-12 week stage, by scan growth had stopped at 8-9 weeks and a heartbeat had been seen on an early scan with the most recent MC. I was waiting to be referred for tests when I fell with this pregnancy. Its utterly crap. The TTC thread has a lovely group of supportive ladies all in the same boat.

Take care of yourself lovely.

Thank you everyone. So pleased you all have positive stories now and hoping it's the same for me.

Yes once this is over I'm going to go to the doctors and ask what can be done.

So sorry @sprinkles it’s just crap and I hope it works out next time. Like many here I have had 2 miscarriages, both missed. One at 12 weeks and the other at 8.5 weeks. One month after the last I fell pregnant with this one and am now 32 weeks. I also have a 4 year old DD. Do go and see the GP and get a few different opinions if you can but also remember that tests often don’t find anything. Take care of yourself

Thanks ladies, your positive stories are making me feel better. Hopefully it will be my time soon.

I am sorry @sprinkleofsunshine. There are quite a few of us on here with recurrent losses, I take strength from the others and how they persevere. I hope you can manage to take it easy over the next while and I hope that your current miscarriage goes physically ok and is over swiftly. Much love to you. 
I am slowly losing my mind over movements. I go from feeling loads to then feeling none for days on end and it's just torturous. I keep reminding myself that with dd I didn't have any this early but it's really tough. I am 19 weeks today.
All my serious scans coming up in the next few weeks. Anomaly on 1st nov, doppler artery (for placenta function) on 13th nov and then Manchester rainbow clinic for some more placenta assessment on the 15th. I keep feeling incredibly anxious about them all.
But today I am more then halfway, as we will be delivering at 37 weeks one way or the other, I am so very hopeful that we make it that far. Consultant had a very serious conversation with us on Tuesday about that is of course the plan but that we will be responding quickly to any changes in baby or growth scans because of my history. Which I have taken to mean that any dip in growth = baby delivered. I like that she is being very definitive about what the plan is but it scared the shit out of me at the same time.

vuduvu thank you yes after the 2 hours was up I did count the 10 movements I was supposed to and baby was more active yesterday which was reassuring.

sprinkle I'm so sorry to hear your news, but like others have said I also had 2 losses before this pregnancy (I'm now 35 weeks.) 1st was a natural loss at 7 weeks, second was a mmc at 10 weeks. I don't know your age, but if you push that you've had 3 losses they might start investigations. I also think the ttc board after loss kept me sane too. Talking about it all definitely helps. Best of luck for your future pregnancy.

Thanks both. I'm 29. My only concern is that my first mc was 10 years ago when I caught by accident. The next one was the chemical
In June and now then, I'm guessing that would still be counted as in a row even given the time time gap?

It also makes me worry that there's such a large gap and the same thing has happened.

Miami I can’t imagine how you are feeling at the moment. Re movements as you know they are likely to be erratic now, especially with an anterior placenta. But of course you’ll worry. I wouldn’t be afraid to ask for more frequent reviews right now if it helps at all.

It’s great that they have a plan in place and will deliver quickly if growth is faltering and will measure placental dopplers from 20 weeks. I know it all sounds scary but remember better to know early if there’s a problem and get baby out then. Re anxiety I find yoga helps (partly due to eye rolling at all the nonsense the teacher spouts, seems to help me relax!) and mindfulness helps too so might be worth a try?

@Miami81 that sounds really tough with anterior placenta and movements - I am also driving myself a bit mad with them but it must be so much worse with an anterior placenta and your history. Wishing you all the best for all the scans coming up. It must be so anxious making, but it's great that they are keeping such a close eye on you.

I had the cervix scan a few days ago. My cervix was measuring 28mm which is lower end of the normal range I understand, so far so good but they want to check it again in a couple of weeks time just in case it is getting shorter, so I'm still catastrophising about that a bit.

On the plus side they had a trans-abdominal look at the baby as well, all seemed ok so I'm feeling less stressed about the anomaly scan this week.

Hope everyone is doing ok xx

Just popping in to say 24 WEEKS TODAY! Know you ladies will appreciate what a big deal this milestone is.

We've had a long tiring weekend with a family party and a lot of travelling. I also lost my shit a bit last week and made a HUGE list of all the stuff I want sorted in the house before Christmas as DH was being his usual laid back self about it all. His philosophy in DIY is "why do something today you can put off until tomorrow?"! I feel better just having made the list though rather than trying to keep track of everything in my head.

Hope everyone is ok with everyone.
@Anne is your 20 week scan coming up this week?
@vuduvu good luck with your anomaly scan!
@Miami81 hope movements soon become more regular to ease your mind a bit
@paranormal and @hidcat it's the home straight now!

Ok so I'm back.

MC last month on 22nd Sept, and found out last Tuesday at 10DPO I am pregnant again. So 16dpo today and 4+2.

Scan booked at EPU in 2 weeks time. For now I am remaining on the postitive side of neutral. My symptoms are really strong, as are my lines on tests and I got stronger positives at 11 and 12 dpo than i did on 14 dpo last time. So I am taking it all as a positive.

Come on little bean, lucky number 7 I hope! My story is this, MMC @12 weeks March 2013, MC Dec 13, MC March 14, DS born 2015, MMC @ 9 weeks October 2015, break. MC last month at 6 weeks. and now here i am.

I am on Cyclogest and Aspirin.

Vuduvu 28mm is good, I think threshold for intervention is 20-25mn most places. Mine was less than 15mm when my stitch went in, and they thought it was mostly non functional due to scar tissue too. They’ll be able to check if it’s remaining stable or shortening at the anomaly scan too.

Labmum huge congrats on getting to 24 weeks! Big milestone!

31 weeks. Nausea has returned with a vengeance. I remember this happening in the 3rd trimester before so just hoping I can manage it now. 5 weeks left at work! Next scan Friday.

Hoping everyone else is doing well!