Fresh Start thread for pregnancy after miscarriage or loss

[BertieBotts]

I've lost count of what number we were on, sorry.

Also there seems to be another BFP after MC thread running, but it has all different people on it so I didn't know if we should crash theirs or just have two running at once...

@Anxiousfeelings I haven’t got results from NHS tests either but they said I’d hear in a few days if it was high risk. The FMC where I had harmony did the nhs tests too and all came back as low risk too.

I’m feeling a bit nervous tonight. Seeing a consultant tomorrow morning following my recent cardiac adventures so will hopefully find out what it means for the rest of my pregnancy. Only got 9 weeks to go now though.

After that I’m back down to cardiology for more tests. I’ve had to stop my medication in preparation - I feel like my heart is going to leap through my chest! Keep wondering how I didn’t realise before.

I’ve been feeling quite down about it this week. I had my mc in June last year and all this has stirred up a lot of the feelings and fear again.

Great news sooz and paranormal!

I hope your appointments all go ok tomorrow vox and provide some reassurance. It sounds like you're in good hands.

Glad to hear about your scan @sooz
@Paranormalbouquet also great that your harmony is low risk. Did u find out the sex too?
@Anxiousfeelings my nhs results of 'high risk' came back by Tuesday. And I had my 12 week scan etc the Friday before. I think they are pretty fast to let u know if it's high.
@voxnihili hope it goes ok tomorrow. These anniversaries are so hard. Thinking of u.

Thanks for the new thread @BertieBotts

Going to catch up tomorrow, sorry I’ve been a bit rubbish on here lately. I’m a wedding stationery designer and it’s peak wedding season at the mo so work is INSANE!!
Still, it’s making the weeks fly by which I’m thankful for!

@UnicornsandRainbows1 I'm on 40mg omeprazole a day and it's fine to take that. I couldn't be without it. Even if I forget one tablet the heartburn is back with a vengeance. Just about to throw prescribed iron tablets into the mix, as my 34 week bloods came back showing low haemoglobin.

@voxnihili good luck at your cardiology appointment. Keep us posted. Xx

Feeling a bit funny today - DH put up a photo last night that was basically a social media announcement (photo of me very clearly heavily pregnant at an event and with a caption referencing it in a jokey way) and I've been getting notifications all day of people saying congratulations. DH was a bit incredulous when I hesitated when he asked if he could put it up - 'you're 35 weeks, lots of people do this at 12!' - but I somehow feel like it was jinxing things to do it this close to the end, but before we get there and while we're still having this extra monitoring, however over-cautious the monitoring may be. Someone give me a gentle slap and tell me how ridiculous I'm being?!

I also feel a bit shit about it because I'm pretty certain I said that I'd never do the social media announcement thing when I was the one that was feeling low after miscarriage, and I guess that's probably how we've made other people feel.

I won't slap you as I am still fairly concerned about jinxing - although mine is related to buying anything baby related. You are so so close now that I can understand your DH's viewpoint but also yours. Only a few weeks to get through and then hopefully this anxiety will dissipate for you.

Thanks, kirin - I'm sorry that you're still feeling anxious too. This is an absolutely ridiculous example of how crazy we are about our cats, but I got myself over my reluctance to buy things when the vet told us that it was good for us to introduce things into the house gradually because it was less of a shock for them than everything changing at once!

Hi all, could I please join you?
Found out this week I'm pregnant, think I'm between 4-5 weeks. My first pregnancy was a ruptured ectopic, all a bit scary, had emergency surgery and spent a few days in ITU. Then had positive tests in March but started bleeding 4 days later so think it was a possible early loss.....
This time feels different, the tests are all the strongest positives I've had at the start and did a clear blue digital today that came back as 2-3 weeks. Trying not to get my hopes up and I'm pretty anxious worrying about whether it will all be ok....

Yay I’ve found you all again!

Had some more brown blood this morning after I’d had a poo. Have been having mild period like cramps since last weekend which have been coming and going.
Completely freaked out and sobbed this morning but I’ve hugely calmed down now. I’m around 10+1/2 today. Rang the EPU who said that they can fit me in on Monday morning for a scan so I’m hoping and praying everything is ok and it’s just the ectropion playing up again and the cramps are just everything growing and stretching. Symptoms still remain to varying degrees. Im trying to remain positive but my M/C’s all started with brown blood clots high very gradually got worse. Also terrified of the possibility of a MMC. Hear a lot of ladies say that light bleeding/spotting was the only symptom they had.

Will the scan on Monday likely beinternal or external? The one I had at 7 weeks was internal, I’m carrying a bit of timber so perhaps would be clearer done internally. This weekend I going to drag!

Hi Bobbino i had an ectopic in the past but I was lucky and avoided surgery. That must’ve been really scary.

@iswallowtoothpaste I have a cervical ectropion too and always have spotting. It’s so hard to be rational, I always think the worst instead of the most likely reason for the bleeding. I work in cervical screening and know a lot about the cervix and how easily an ectopy can bleed. But as soon as I get spotting my brain just jumps to miscarriage straight away!

somethingfromnothing all logic goes out of the window, no matter how much you know!! Thought that having an actual cause for the bleeding would hugely reassure me which it does, to a degree. I should be grateful as I know that a lot of women have the anxiety of bleeding with no obvious cause.

It’s absolutely awful, especially when it settles down and you start to relax a bit then it starts again from nowhere!

Yay you found us @Iswallowtoothpaste
How did your scan go today?

I know what you mean about social media @LisaSimpsonsbff
It’s so hard as it seems the done thing now but with my first we never posted anything until I was 7 months pregnant and even then it was just photos of me at a wedding so not an official announcement. I just couldn’t bare to share the scan photos like so many do, I’m always so anxious that somethings going to go wrong!

Social media has definitely made things harder when it comes to things like this. Maybe just turn your notifications off for the post so you don’t keep getting messages?

Scan didn’t go well. No heartbeat and stopped growing a week ago. Gutted. I’m so exhausted but I can’t sleep. Want it all to be a bad dream.

@iswallowtoothpaste I am so so very sorry, thinking of you

I am so sorry toothpaste. I hope you manage to get some sleep.

I'm so sorry, toothpaste. I really hope that you have people around you to take care of you, and that you take care of yourself. It's so devastating and I'm thinking of you

I've just seen the midwife and based on her measurement the baby hasn't really grown since my scan 3 weeks ago so I'm straight off to the hospital for a growth scan Here's hoping it is just the student midwife's dodgy measuring.

So sorry you're having this stress, keepon - really hope it is her dodgy measuring, but glad you're being checked out straight away. If it's any comfort (and I know nothing will be until you have that scan) they measure me every time I go into hospital (so 2/3 times a week) and it's laughable how varied their measurements are - I sometimes 'lose' or 'gain' 3cm in three days. And they're all experienced midwives. Fingers crossed that you have a reassuring scan very, very soon.

So sorry toothpaste thinking about you.

Thanks for your kind words lisa. Baby is growing but not as much as it should be. It has dropped down to between the 5th and 10th centiles and is officially classed as small for gestational age. So it is going to be growth scans every 2 weeks as a minimim and likely delivery at 37 weeks. Fingers crossed it keeps growing until then and doesn't need to come out any sooner. I've got antenatal clinic a week tomorrow so will be able to discuss things a bit more then.

Sorry it wasn't more straightforwardly reassuring news for you keepon, but glad they'll be keeping a closer eye on you. How far along are you now?

I'm so sorry @Iswallowtoothpaste xxx