Fresh Start thread for pregnancy after miscarriage or loss

[BertieBotts]

I've lost count of what number we were on, sorry.

Also there seems to be another BFP after MC thread running, but it has all different people on it so I didn't know if we should crash theirs or just have two running at once...

I'm 31 weeks tomorrow so potentially having the baby in 6 weeks. Best buy some things ! I'm struggling a bit to not catastrophise and think small baby = dead baby. Hopefully I'll feel better tomorrow after some sleep. I really could have done without this 2 days before my interview!

Hugs. I don't know if you remember, but my baby was just under 10th centile at 31 weeks and went up to 20th by 35 (will see how we've gone since then at 37 on Monday), so they can have a growth spurt and catch up a bit. I know that won't be particularly comforting because you want to know how your baby will do, not mine! I was also really panicky - it's not a nice place to be, at all. I really hope you manage to get some sleep tonight and that you're able to look after yourself.

Hey everyone. I had a horrible dream last night, the sort where it takes you a few minutes to determine it wasn't real but i think it will stay with me all day. I wish the anxiety would ease and let me enjoy this but no sign yet :0(

@Iswallowtoothpaste oh I’m so sorry to hear this 😢 really wish you all the luck for your next pregnancy

@keeponrunning85 I would personally ignore what the midwife measurements say. I was told the entire way through my first pregnancy I was measuring way above the maximum size for my stage of pregnancy for all the midwife tape measure measurements, yet the scans were all normal.
A friend of mine has just had the same thing as you, measuring well above the maximum for her stage(she’s 27 weeks) and baby hasn’t grown in 3 weeks. But following a scan the measurements are right where they should be and baby has grown.

Seeioualy until you’ve had it confirmed in a scan don’t worry about the tape measure measurements. I’ll never understand why they measure pregnancy in that way! All of us gain and lose water during pregnancy and your stomach varies in size depending on how much you’ve eaten too so how can it be an accurate measurement?

Try not to worry about it and just wait for the scan to confirm what’s going on x

Thanks lisa, that is helpful. Here's hoping this little one puts on a growth spurt in the next couple of weeks.

mummyj I had my scan yesterday which confirmed that although the baby is growing it hasn't grown as much as it should have.

I'm meeting my friend who is an obstetrics doctor for lunch today and she's going to through my scan report today.

We've got a labour and birthing antenatal class this afternoon and I can't help feeling it is all going to be a bit surplus to requirements because I think if the baby ends up needing delivering at 37 weeks I would probably request a section rather than have an induction.

snore sorry about your rubbish dream. I'm a vivid dreamer and it is horrible when you have one that leaves you feeling a bit out of sorts all day.

Finally I found you all, I’d dropped off the radar and then couldn’t find you!

Anyway thanks for the thread bertie

And toothpaste I’m so so sorry about your news. I wish you all the love and luck for future pregnancies. Hope you are taking it easy. X

keepon sorry you’re having a stressful time too. I hope you get helpful advice from your friend today at lunch.

I’m 18 weeks today and still not really feeling movement, it makes me feel so panicked. I have quite a decent bump (3rd baby) which makes me hope something is working ok in there but I just have to get to that 20 week scan on 3rd July to check things are ok and then try and relax a little again.

It’s so good they now offer the 30 week scan as standard @keeponrunning85
At least this way they can monitor you and if needed you can go for an early section rather than wait. Was baby’s heart rate etc all ok at the scan?

Hope your friend is able to reassure you, keepon - and that if not she can tell you what to be watching for and pressing for. I know what you mean about the antenatal classes; I'm doing the hypnobirthing ones at my local hospital and they're good in some ways but I keep thinking 'but I don't think this will be me', as they seem to think (though no one has ever been very clear about it) that they'll induce early if the next scan isn't good, but before my due date whatever so the odds of me having a lovely natural birth seem slim. And the classes are obsessed with the bloody birthing pool, which I'm not allowed!

Been having a really anxious/wound up day today - I'm really struggling to sleep now, which doesn't help. My CTG this morning was good (as they all have been) so I don't have anything in particular to fret about. I go between being worried about something going wrong with the baby, and then feeling like a fraud and an attention-seeker who's taking all these resources for nothing! I'm just really tearful, too.

I went for a scan this morning at 5+5 due to the previous ectopic. The good news is that there is a pregnancy in the uterus but no heart beat yet. I know it’s early and the midwife didn’t seem bothered about the lack of heartbeat but I feel more anxious than ever. Back next Friday for follow up scan and it seems forever away.

That’s good there was a pregnancy there @somethingfromnothing
It’s still really early so I wouldn’t worry. They couldn’t detect anything with this pregnancy until 6+3 weeks and there was the tiniest heartbeat. Here’s hoping for more good news after your next scan :)

@somethingfromnothing I had a bleed at 6 weeks exactly. When I was scanned, they could see a pregnancy, but no heartbeat. I immediately thought the worst. Had to go back at 8 weeks (longest fortnight ever!) and much to my surprise, there was a heartbeat! I'm now 35 weeks! Good luck for your follow up scan.

Thanks @mummyjl15 and @flatwhite32 that’s reassuring to hear. I think I’m just nervous as 6-7 weeks is where my previous mc pregnancies went wrong so I’ll feel much better if we can see that heartbeat.

My friend was really helpful thanks lisa. I'm glad all was well with your monitoring today.

Sorry to hear so many of us are having an anxious time at the moment. Here's hoping it passes soon.

Your scan sounds positive something. I think it would be very early for seeing a heartbeat. I hope the time passes quickly between now and your next scan and you get to see a lovely little heartbeat.

Just off to local mw unit as I'm sure u haven't felt any movement since Tuesday.
Hope I'm getting myself at it.
Seems like a lot of us are having a tough time atm.

I hope all is ok intelligent.

Hope things are ok, intelligent.

How are you feeling today, keepon?

I think scan is really good news, something - as people have said, too early for a heartbeat but knowing it's intrauterine and measuring approx to dates is a great start. Really hope time passes quickly before next scan - I know how much it drags in these early days.

I am currently crapping my pants lisa but that is because my job interview is in an hour! The cat has felt the need to bring me 2 dead shrews this morning as good luck presents. Just can't wait for it to be over.

How are you?

Ooh, huge good luck for the interview! Do you know how soon you'll find out?

I'm still in a funny place mentally. I said to DH last night that I feel a bit like I'm slipping into old 'irrational' anxiety patterns, whereas I had been anxious but in a more normal way, if that makes sense? I have had past periods of bad anxiety and depression when not pregnant, including one prolonged bad patch that only lifted with medication, and this feels a bit more like that - but that in itself could be paranoia! DH wants me to talk to someone, but I'm a bit reluctant as I know it'll take a long time - longer than the baby will take! - and I'm hoping it's just a bad/hormonal patch that'll pass by itself.

Oooof! Well it is over at least! I feel like I waffled and didn't really answer any of the questions. Hopefully I will hear today.

Have you had any input from the perinatal psychologist lisa? My friend found it very helpful and it was left open ended for her if she wanted to have an appointment after having the baby.

I got the job! What a relief!

(Sorry for completely hijacking the thread with non-pregnancy issues today everyone!)

Yay - huge congratulations and very well done!

Congratulations keep that’s great news!

Lisa sorry you’ve not been feeling great. I have anxiety too and feel like the pregnancy is making it worse. I see a councillor but it’s a 5 week wait in between my appointments which I feel is too long at the minute.

Hi everyone! I’ve been keeping away from munsnet as I’m strangely anxious the last week. Think I’m at the point where I feel well but just have a fat belly (no bump) and still no movements so I’m just expecting it all to go wrong. 14weeks.

iswallowtoothpaste I’m so sorry.

keep hopefully baby’s growth will pick up but you are at a great gestation now at least. Congratulations! My first interview is next week but I don’t expect to get this one!

Lisa I think that it’s normal to be anxious at this point even without your history. I think you should take all the help you can get.

Intelligent I hope everything is ok.

I’m sorry if I’ve missed people!

Congratulations @keeponrunning85 🙌🏻