Due January 2019 (2nd thread)

[InDreamland]

Hello
Last thread was closed............?

I have my scan on Thursday its a bit early I'll be just under 12 weeks. Would any of you wait for screening results before sharing your news or tell people the day of the scan? I've been so excited to tell people but don't know what the usual thing is.

@FuckMyUterus I had the same thing as what you're describing re spotting (and checking internally etc!) I was scared and ended up in A&E on Sunday where they scanned me and said it was an irritated cervix.

Hi

I’m just over 11wks pregnant and am already so fed up. I’ve had extreme tiredness and nausea constantly. The only thing that helps remotely is eating carbs so that’s all I’ve been eating mainly sandwiches and bagels 🙈I’ve already got 2 boys and don’t remember having tiredness like this in first trimester. I’ve also come down with a tummy bug had one at 5wks pregnant and now got another one! Sorry for the rant but I’m well and truly fed up 😢

Agree that it's a relief it's a winter baby. Tube on commute will hopefully be more bearable. This heat is terrible, on way home now but heat and tube combo is hust awful, without the heat I feel lightheaded and shaky anyway on the trains so throw in heat and I'm just tempted to get a cab but would cost £100 each way.

I always said I wanted to be heavily pregnant at Christmas - the idea of being in third trimester in summer or having to hide pregnancy with Christmas drinking would have been a nightmare!!

Bit random, anyone else struggling with good shopping. My food aversion is a little crazy at the moment - I can't even think about food right now and if there is a window of opportunity then I have to eat, stat! Supermarkets I am really struggling though - I've tried to go three times now and I have been really sick each time! I figure it must be being surrounded by food, thinking about food. I just get dizzy and then 🤢

velvete really? It's still there now, although not as strong, it's barely there now and only if I 'dig deep' :/
I'm just so, so worried every single minute of the day. I've got a feeling I'm causing the spotting by keep rummaging around, as the inside of my vagina is so unbelievably sore from checking so often, but it's like a compulsion, I physically can't stop myself from doing it :(

@Wowthisisreal I am just happy I don't have to deal with hot sticky uncomfortable summers heavily pregnant. Think it will be more bearable in the winter.

With food shopping I do it all online. Have done for years. Find it saves me tonnes of time plus no impulse buys and easier to compare prices so I save money over going to the supermarket.

Not able to get comfortable tonight laid in bed with the fan on and still very warm. Also making me feel a bit sick just wish it would cool down a little.

@fuckmyuterus I understand the compulsion. I've gone through periods of health anxiety and obsessively checking my neck for lumps or other lymph areas.
You are making yourself sore and I'm pretty sure any spotting will be caused by you irritating your cervix by checking.

I got passed the obsessive checking by spacing out the checking. Every time I wanted to do it I'd tell myself you can do it next time. I had pains in my neck, because I checked so frequently, those pains went once I stopped myself.

I understand the anxiety, the cold sweat when you think you've found something.

There are support groups/forums online for health anxiety.

I've been awake since 5.30... bloody hay fever. I've also run out of antihistamines .

Also if anyone is struggling with constipation can I recommend homemade lentil soup! Wowsers...

@sexnotgender with you on the hayfever my eyes are so puffy this morning.

It was a real effort to shave my legs this morning, my stomach is bigger probably due to bloat but I felt like I was really having to crouch over. Another advantage of the winter months lol.

@sexnotgender lol. Does that also increase gas? I'm farting enough at the moment. Thankfully I've not had constipation yet as been trying to keep up my 5 a day intake.

Getting anxious again about the screening tests and looked up the harmony test just in case. It's so expensive!!!! Really anxious this pregnancy is going to go wrong somewhere. After 5 years TTC I'm so scared of things now not being right. Like what if at the 12 week scan nothing is there and it's like some phantom pregnancy? Or something wrong with baby?

I want to tear my eyes out. Need to go out soon and get some antihistamine.

There have been some gas issues! But they were mostly caused by the constipation, now that's better the gas is less awful.
Thankfully my DH is away at a conference all week!

@InDreamland those anxieties especially after what you have been through are more than understandable. The 12 week scan is so significant and as it gets closer the worry increases along with the excitement. We had a MC nearly two years ago and it has taken us that long to get pregnant again I worry on the days my symptoms are less.

@FuckMyUterus - in the kindest possible way you need to stop poking around up there! You are probably making any spotting worse and irritating your cervix as well as your poor vagina. Have you spoken to your midwife about how you are feeling, and told her - truthfully - about the need to keep checking? It sounds like you need additional support for your anxiety and that's part of what the midwife is there for.

Spotting in pregnancy can be 100% normal and doesn't mean anything bad is going to happen. If you wear a pad you will be able to see any significant spotting on the pad, which is a much better option than making yourself sore.

I'm sorry you are going through this level of anxiety, it sounds awful. Please talk to your midwife.

whirlingturkey no, I haven't but I will. The thing with wearing a pad is that there is no spotting that actually exits my vagina. My discharge is slightly stained, but there is NEVER anything on the tissue when I wipe, or in my underwear, never mind on a pad if I was to wear one. I have committed myself to only checking once a day from today (have been to the toilet 3 times and not checked once) and hopefully after my scan tomorrow I can stop altogether.

@purplesmiler sorry to hear of your MC and how long you had to wait to get pg again. Good to know someone else understands my anxiety. You're right it is ramping up as the scan gets closer. Just praying that things are all fine for all of us.

Thank you @InDreamland its great that we have this group for support and I hope we all have positive journeys. I was trying really hard not to look at baby things in the shops this morning but I kind of caved. My plan in my head was I wouldn't do that until after the 12 week scan but the temptation got to me.

@purplesmiler I too have been tempted to look at baby stuff but online and now feel really overwhelmed. Who knew there were so many different categories of car seats and buggys/prams/carry cots/ travel systems. Then there's so many other products, what is necessary and what is just something created to make mum's think they need something they don't and then spend more than they need to?

@FuckMyUterus If your spotting isn't even enough to show up on a pad then I would think it is definitely nothing to concern yourself about. Probably just a bit of stained cervical mucus from the mucus plug (which can have all sorts of blood and crap in it). Good luck with only checking once a day, that sounds like a positive step.

Re: baby stuff - it is SO overwhelming and so much stuff marketed towards parents isn't really necessary, and what is or isn't kind of depends on the parents.

I was crazy and bought a pram about 4 weeks ago! In my defence it was an amazing bargain...

@InDreamland and @WhirlingTurkey I agree there is so much. They believe people have unlimited budgets too. Its clear with many things people choose to pay double the amount for something branded too.

@sexnotgender thats super super organised! I had a little push with one in a shop today and had to make myself walk away quickly.

What is it about FB that makes us feel the need to ‘announce’ these things? Surely in the ‘before FB days’ you just told the people closest to you that you knew would care..?

I’ve been overthinking this, I know. I’m just a muddled mess of anxious and excited.

FB has been my main social outlet as I have lots of friends/family that I don’t see/speak to regularly for a new pregnancy to crop up into conversation, so an ‘announcement’ seems less ‘awkward’ for lack of a better word.

Generally I have no fucks to give for peoples opinions, but I find myself more reserved, probably because this is our 3rd pregnancy/baby in as many years.. I told my eldest brother and he went down the ‘don’t you own a TV’ route.. childish I know.

DH and I are happy and excited now, but I find myself overthinking it, like we’re not ‘worthy’ of an ‘announcement’..I have half a mind to just continue on and give birth and tell no one.. but another part of me is bursting at the seams to tell everyone..

Bah humbug. Can I blame hormones for making me feel weird/miserable about this?