Due January 2019 (2nd thread)

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I'd be reassured if the experts were telling me not to worry about it.

I'm generally quite an anxious person but I'm trying to enjoy my pregnancy as I can't actually change anything.

I turned down the downs screening today as I wouldn't abort and it's just a risk factor so don't want to spend the next 25 weeks freaking out if it's high.

@fuckmyuterus I don’t think you’re being a drama queen following your history. I think those 2 days aren’t too worrying though if you consider that the sperm can infiltrate the egg up to three days after sex, so it could just be that you didn’t conceive on the exact day you expected. After all, when I had my scan I should’ve been 12 weeks 3 days and it turned out I was 13 weeks 5 days according to the size, which is shocking as I had a heavy period after i apparently concieved. Completely understand why you feel how you do, it would play on my mind, but as an outsider that would possibly be the explanation in my eyes.

buttercup the 2 days out really don't worry me, it's that she said my sac is measuring small. My last pregnancy ended due to the sac being too small for the baby so that's why it's worried me. No point stressing though I guess, nothing can be done even if it is a bad sign.

Ah right that’s makes sense. I feel like I’m the worst person to offer any advice because this is my first pregnancy, but I hope you feel better about it after your next scan. On my notes it looked like mine was slightly below the 50th percentile (again, don’t really know what that means) and no one said anything about it so maybe it’s similar?

buttercup opinions are valid whether it's your first or 21st :)
That I can answer for you, 50th centile is smack bang in the middle average of what baby should be measuring for your gestation. They say anywhere between the 25th and 75th is normal, so your baby is just below average. My son was on the 15th centile roughly all the way through, and then all of a sudden he shot up over a few weeks and was born bang on the 50th :)

This is my other photo, nub??

@sexnotgender - wow, your kid looks properly like a wee person. I had my first scan on Monday. I was 11 +2 then, and due date pushed back from 15th January to the 26th January. I'm glad that i had thought the first date was wrong as it does not feel like i have had extra time added.

Has anyone else noticed the nausea dropping off? I'm really happy not to be feeling like i am going to be sick over everyone. Now i just need the headaches and fatigue to get in the bin. :)

I'm much less nauseous now, still get the odd wave but so much better.

I am still struggling with food though, meat in particular is an issue.

My sickness comes now and again but have noticed my symptoms easing in recent days.

sexnotgender nub isn't visible on that picture, and it's only semi visible on the other picture. I'd defo lean more towards boy :)

Morning everyone! Ooh pictures! Very exciting! Must be such a relief to see baby on the scan, I cannot wait, just want everything to be ok! This wasn't planned at all, so now the shock of it's worn off, I just want to relax, doesn't seem likely whilst everything is so small.

@fuckmyuterus, fingers crossed for you, I'm sure it'll be ok, but I know someone saying that and actually believing it are two different things! But extra scans are nice for reassurance.

So so pleased it's Friday! Anyone doing anything fun? Or is sleep the best thing to look forward to

Morning all

@Jigglyjugs I'm off to a friend's birthday night away tomorrow. Part of me is looking forward to it and part of me is a bit worried as I no doubt will be knackered by 10 I can't do the staying out late anymore however as we are away I will kind of have to try and manage.

I had my 12 week scan on Monday - where I thought I was 13 weeks, but due date was moved forwards 5 days, so I was actually 13+5, so today I'm 14+2.

We got the letter with the results from the scan/blood test today, and it's really good news.

I called my mum and the first thing she noticed was that the letter was written on pink paper - so now she's wondering if it's some sort of sign or hint

had my scan yesterday and all looks good was put forward to 13 weeks, now waiting for blood results, how long do these usually take?

Hi everyone, checking in again. My 12 week scan is this week so very much looking forward to it! I can’t tell whether I’m showing, bloated or just getting fat (which let’s be real likely to be the latter as I’ve really let my diet slip this first trimester!) - this is my first and I’m generally quite petite so I thought I wouldn’t show until much later 🤷🏻‍♀️...

Hi everyone. Spotting again here, but after a BM when I've been constipated for 3 days, so think that may be what's causing it.

Morning! Hope you've had a good night's rest for today @purplesmiler, an all nighter sounds tough!

Ahh I feel like I'm the last one for my scan! Glad everyone's have been good so far. @ladydanger, I looked far father than I was a few weeks ago due to bloating and constipation, it all went down after I took something for it! Which was good, I was so fed up of feeling giant and uncomfortable so early on!
@fuckmyuterus, I'm sure that's it - constipation is the worst, especially straining on the loo!

Morning jigglyjugs
Is anyone else having the worst dreams?! I spent all of last night dreaming that I was 14w5d and the local hospital put me on this rotary scanning thing (kind of like the luggage thing at the airport that goes round and round) and as I went round and round they told me my baby was "falling out of your vajayjay I'm afraid sweetheart". I woke up so confused this morning.

So I made it to 2.15am (We went out at 12.30). A couple knew I was pregnant but otherwise no questions and I had pop all day. My back started to hurt and my feet are swollen so I had to admit i couldn't dance any longer. Good day though with a little sickness but manageable. Now time for sleep.

Morning! Fuckmyuterus, I would say I've had odd dreams, but mine are never ever normal anyway, always something odd going on. That sounds very weird though!!

Ahh well done purplesmiler, if imagine you'll crash out for the rest of the day!

Hi! Can I join in too, feel a bit late to the party. I'm due January second (yikes). Got my 16 week appt on Tuesday and hoping the MW will listen for babas heartbeat as I'm a bit of a worrier so need the reassurance.

Currently awaiting a return of appetite which has been absent since pretty much I found out at 3 weeks, putting it partly down to heartburn and partly down to heat but I'm normally a kinda of if I'm not fed by 10am I get hangry kind of person so the lack of appetite is seriously bogging me down.

I'm with the whole no mum in the room either. Have a good relationship with her but I don't know, just don't think I'd want her in the room and would rather just me and my partner.

I'm really struggling with how to tell my mum that i am pregnant.

Our relationship seriously broke down when i was in the last year of my doctorate (2017), and we have not managed to mend it.

To put it briefly our relationship is very difficult, we barely speak except when she gets in touch by email to complain about how awful a person i am. I have tried to maintain pleasantries, but she sees these as deliberately hurtful rejections. Whatever i choose to do it will never be good enough for her. She has Aspergers which seems to manifest in our relationship as an inability to see the other persons side, and a hyper-focus on the wrongs that have been done to her. She literally cannot agree to disagree.

I do not want her to find out from someone else that she is going to be a grandmother, but i also do not think i could tolerate her response. Although i cannot know how she will react, based on her past behaviour, as well as her current anger towards me, she will almost certaintly feel rejected that she is not going to be involved.

I feel stuck between a rock and a hard place. Any advice?

@Tamantha a cute scan card in the post perhaps? Hopefully being at a distance and her having to put un-pleasantries pen to paper may make her think twice?

@FirstTimeBumps Welcome to the gang :) Lack of appetite sounds frustrating! I get plenty of hangry, but also a lot of nausea if i don't eat regularly.

I like your thinking, but I can't send anything in the post unfortunately as she and her wife live on a narrowboat and they are off travelling the waterways at present.

@Thamantha she isn't half making it difficult for you. Not quite as effective but email perhaps? Or if you're not too far or know someone close by either you or them could drop it off on the boat. If she says anything about why you didn't wait to tell her in person, she was out when you passed by?