Due January 2019 (2nd thread)

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@Buttercup53 How does it feel to be further along than you expected? Do you know how long blood results will take.

I have my scan on Monday and switch between wanting to tell everyone and wanting to keep it as my secret because I have gotten used to no one knowing.

@thamantha if I’m being brutally honest I’m extremely happy, because it means pregnancy will be over quicker. I’m not enjoying being pregnant, this is the first positive experience I’ve felt, so for me, the sooner its due, the better. I know other people won’t feel like that, but for me it’s a real positive. I hope that doesn’t make me sound awful!

I was going to tell everyone after this scan but now I feel very strongly that I want to wait until the test results come back. Before we started TTC me and DH agreed that we will terminate if it’s very high risk, following all the proper tests of course, so knowing that, I just want to wait until the results come back. Certain members of my family who know are pushing for me to tell everyone sooner, but DH says it’s important for me not to say anything until I’m ready. So I’m not. I am excited to tell everyone though, because it’ll explain the change in my behaviour more, and it’ll mean I have a wider network of support.

Oh, and they said results should take about a week, they’ll call if it’s high risk or send a letter if it’s low risk. So obviously going to have a heart attack every time my phone rings over the next week.

@Buttercup53 how much further along are you than you thought? aww a new year baby thats lovely. I think my dates may change at my next scan as they have already changed a couple of times with my earlier scans.

@purplesmiler my original due date was 12th Jan. so in the grand scheme of things it’s not a massive amount of time but being stuck in the first trimester-wise it feels like a big jump forward! I know a new year baby is lovely, I just feel a bit sorry for it with birthdays in the future when it’s an adult. Do you think you’ll be further on than your current date?

@Buttercup53 Well I have been dated between 26th Jan and 2nd Feb so far so my guess is it may go back in to January. My scan isn't until 24th July so a bit of a wait.

Congrats to @Buttercup53 and @m4rdybum on good scan news.

My 12 week scan is tomorrow. Not sure how much my dates can change as it's an IVF pregnancy so we have exact timings. But we shall see. Just crossing fingers all is well

Sorry you've been having a tough pregnancy @Buttercup53 hope things improve but as you say, at least you've had a week knocked off!! Time off for good behaviour

This work trip has been tough food wise. Where I am, everything seems to be/have high-mercury fish, soft cheeses, egg (which I'm unsure of in a foreign country) and steak (which I've been steering clear of as I like it rare). So first night was McDonald's, last night was a simple margarita pizza and tonight was Wagamamas where I had a chicken dish... so glad to be coming home tomorrow!

So happy to be reading about the good scans, it's all getting very exciting! Mines on Monday and I can't wait for it to finally be here and see the little one.

Is anyone starting to show yet? I feel like I am when I see myself in the mirror while getting changed. It's not noticeable through clothes yet, all you can see is the bloat which is making me look pregnant anyway lol

Hi everyone just thought I would update you as had our scan yesterday. They put me at 13+5 so due on 3rd Jan. they said to allow 2 hours but such a wait and then baby wasn’t in right position for the measurements. Had a bit of a scare at the end as they took us in a side room and said the nuchal messaurement was a bit high (2.9) and warned me it could mean abnormality such as downs or a heart defect but would have to wait for the bloods. Had a horrendous evening worrying and thinking the worst. They called today though to say all fine and bloods came back and I am low risk! So grateful and relieved. I still hve to have a cardiac scan with the 20 week scan but said heart looked good yesterday! So fingers crossed. X

Hi everyone, just checking in again and hoping for a bit of handholding after a stressful day... I am having shared specialist care at a tertiary centre 2 hours from home. I went and met theee different docs today, two to do with my medical problems and the obstetrician, and I also saw two different midwifes. It was all a bit exhausting and now feel a bit overwhelmed. I have been put on daily heparin injections which I have to do myself - yuck - and I’m going to have to keep going back for multiple tests including an endoscopy, MRI, regular growth scans and lots else. They also told me I am going to have to deliver there rather than on my home town, so I will either have planned section or be induced at 38 weeks. I’m glad they are taking good care of me but it just all feels a bit much in one go. I’ve also got my 12 week scan next week and for some reason have got myself all wound up and convinced that they will find an abnormality even though none of the docs has said I have any increased risk. Is anyone else high risk and going through this sort of thing? Hoping I’ll feel better in the morning but jusy feel very overwhelmed right now x

@SuperVeggie what a tough day for you hope you are managing to relax now. I was told at my booking in appointment that I will be consultant led (although will see the midwives the majority of the time) and there was some mention of me possibly having to give myself injections but this would be looked in to later in my pregnancy. Me and my DH feel it is extra care and support. It does mean more appointments etc but the extra monitoring is positive.

@Firsttimemum1829 glad your results were positive news and have hopefully reassured you.

Thanks for your messages, just hope that the genetic testing comes back clear sooner rather than later - always something new to worry about. Realised that the 20 week scan isn’t going to be that far away, but that after that there’s nothing?! Seems like a long time to go between that scan and the birth.

@firsttimemum I bet that was a real relief I’m so pleased they got back to you quickly and that it’s all good news.

@superveggie that sounds really tough, I hope you’re feeling better this morning. They do seem to just bombard you with information and then there’s no contact for weeks, my appointments have been relatively straight forward and I felt overwhelmed. I don’t have any advice but I will be thinking of you.

Hope you are all having a good day in this crazy heat.

My nipples are sore and dry today think I need to invest in a cream/moisturiser for that area.

Think im going to have to have a nap today as I am out for the evening with a friend and im usually in bed fairly early.

Thanks for your kind words a few pages back @InDreamland - I did end up 'announcing' last night somewhat out of awe for my husband and in spite of my FIL. Hubby did a late night McDonald's run for me at 11.30pm because I suddenly couldn't sleep without the desperate need for a burger with pickles, lol! So I ended up taking a pic of my 'snack' (it was a smorgasboard of Maccas because he didn't want to disappoint haha bless him!) and also because my FIL had a random rant to my MIL the other day about our finances because it turns out BIL gossiped to FIL that I was pregnant with #3 and FIL took it upon himself to suddenly re-plan our lives thankfully she told him to f*ck off because he's been doing the same to her since they divorced a good 20-ish years ago..

In better news I had my 12wk scan today (well it's midnight here so I suppose it was yesterday technically) and despite some bleeding and me convincing myself I was surely having a miscarriage everything is hunky dory with a very wriggly baby! I'm 13wks now, starting to feel very surreal.. have my first visit with the midwife next week!

Can anyone who’s been pregnant before tell me their experiences of the supposed 2nd trimester energy boost please? I’m 14 weeks today so didn’t expect to be jumping out of bed this morning, but I’m so done with this chronic fatigue. Will I really start feeling more lively soon? It’s not even normal tiredness where I still feel physically normal, my body feel exhausted all the time, climbing stairs is knackering and even light house work is overwhelming. I’m not normally unfit, I’m a pretty healthy and active person so it’s not a sensation I’m used to!

@Buttercup53 although I'm 3 weeks behind you (11 weeks today) I so feel your pain. For the first time during this pregnancy so far I actually cancelled my space on my gym class lastnight. I couldn't take the exhaustion. I'm surprised I have managed to go so far to all my classes but taking it easier. I'm normally so active and try to be healthy but this really has knocked me for six. I sleep as soon as I'm in from work, I sleep through the weekends, I'm becoming a social outcast not going out anymore. It's just horrible. So I would love to know the answer to your question too.

I've struggled all this week and just feeling sorry for myself. My terrible eczema is also really not helping.

Scan next week Friday and I'm anxious about that too. What if there's no heartbeat? Or a problem?

Hi everyone! Sorry to hear about all the stress you've been through @superveggie, I hope you've managed to relax a bit!

@buttercup53 I so want my energy back too! Like @indreamland, I'm usually so active and spend a lot of time in the gym - that's completely gone out of the window and I swear I'm turning into a blob! It's just so hot and that is making it worse! I was determined to stay fit when I found out, if anything to keep baby healthy but also to hopefully get back into shape quicker after birth, but perhaps Not! I'm worrying on and off about the scan too, I definitely feel pregnant, but until it's done you just don't know!

I've seemed bigger the past couple of days and feel huge today (I'm not a small build anyway). My mum said it is becoming more noticeable too depending what I wear. Want to get to 12 week scan before telling anyone else but it may get noticed.

@purplesmiler I know what you mean, I'm quite a small build so I've been feeling massive recently.

I've been hiding under loose fitting tops and flowy skirts with a stretchy waistband as they seem to hide more than wearing shorts or trousers, or even a nice loose summer dress. Also it's been more comfortable with the growing bulge and bloat. What I'm struggling with is hiding the growing bust, all my buttoned shirts for work have been popping open and the non-buttoned shirts don't fit comfortably across the chest anymore.

@jigglyjugs and @indreamland I’m honestly impressed you’ve been to the gym at all! I feel like I had all these expectations of what I’d do when I got pregnant, eating really healthily (like I usually do) and exercising, and it’s all gone completely out of the window. I just didn’t realise how physically exhausting it would be, hopefully in the next few weeks I’ll start to feel better and you guys will as well.

@purplesmiler abd @cryptonaut I’ll wake up one day and think I have a bump and then the next it’s gone. I know I’m bloated, but I think I will actually start showing soon. All I do know is how huge my boobs have gotten now, I think I must have gone up a size or two. Everything’s so tight!

Haha I can't believe how much mine have grown .... they're big enough for my usual frame size - some clothes just show a ridiculous amount of cleavage and my nipples are poking out of my bras ! Just so expensive to replace them though, guess I'll do it one pay day at a time!

I've gone up 2 cup sizes so far, had to buy a new bra because of the amount of pain the incorrect size was causing. This is the one I got https://www.debenhams.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/prod107011100011500108135866-1 it's just so comfortable and it fits perfectly, I tried on quite a few but this one I knew was right straight away.

Sorry I've not been chatting ladies, it all felt too good to be true... And then the last few days my sickness disappeared and my boobs started shrinking and now look :(
I'm gonna drop off this thread, but I hope each and every one of you get your babies.

@FuckMyUterus have you been to your GP or anything? I wouldn’t write it off just yet, I’ve been bleeding a fair amount of bright red blood for a week complete with discharge but just had my Nuchal scan the other day and everything is fine. I never have much in the way of other pregnancy symptoms (morning sickness, sore/tender breasts etc) but I’m still very much pregnant at the moment (13+1 currently).

Hi everyone, I'm 14+4 and these last few days I've been experiencing a constant dull ache feeling really low down. It feels like the heaviest day of a period. Making me slightly paranoid! Has anyone else been getting this? Thanks x