First Pregnancies with Nov/Dec Due dates :)

[Emma198]

New thread ladies, first one nearly full ☺

And the size (or rather length) of baby hammeringinmyhead !

Step one of getting organised! Utilised a miserable wet bank holiday Sunday and decorated the baby room yesterday.
Will see if I can work out how to put a picture up.

Nope picture not working, it's pretty wallpaper with clouds on.

Sounds lovely shallen We're trying to work out what to do with our walls - thinking wall stickers but none of them are straight or even so I'm not sure!

I've just had my first unsolicited bump touch! 😱

House hunting almost 7months pregnant on a tight budget is becoming stressful 🙈 reduced movements last night resulted in a trip to the assessment centre, all ok thankfully but have a feeling it's down to having so much going on at the moment.

😱 @Another who was it?

@Brews sounds stressful. Glad everything's ok. You found anywhere promising?

Step-mother-in-law! To be fair, I like the woman, but it was the leaning through the car window and unsolicited pat with "ooh look at you!" that got me!

I'm a big fan of personal space....

Oh gosh so she had you trapped! Mine have mainly been family but a few work colleagues too.

At 27 weeks, everything is just absolutely dragging and I swear I've lost half of my brain power. Working is hard, my concentration has just disappeared. Pelvis feels like it's falling out from my skeleton. Also I think I am depressed.

Mother in Law has made no secret that she dislikes our name choice. She keeps "forgetting" it and getting upset that we haven't considered "her" names. Most conversations go:

"What's it's name again?"
"Evelyn, or Evie."
"Sounds like a cat name."
"It's quite a traditional name really though..."
"I'm upset you haven't considered any of the names I suggested. What about Rhiannon?"
"It's Evelyn..."

And so on.

I just want to sleep.

@Pigeoncat I'm nearly 30 weeks and started feeling depressed as well, I'm currently living with my in-laws and SIL who makes it very obvious she doesn't like me and just feeling so miserable atm, off work due to recurring chest pains from heavy lifting in my job and just want a day not talking to anyone but feel like I need to be chatty and will be judged if I just keep to myself all day. No one in my family likes our baby name either. I love Evelyn though, it's beautiful, would have been on our list if my husband's friend hadn't used it already.

@pigeoncat Evelyn is such a gorgeous name. I’ve stopped telling people what names I have chosen as they aren’t British and the response seems to be laughter because it is a name they haven’t heard before. The names don’t sound weird or funny to me or my partner. I have a middle eastern heritage which the names have come from so I haven’t just plucked random words from the air!

Have you spoken to your GP or midwife about depression? I felt depressed in my first trimester and my midwife referred me to the local mental health services and they have been fantastic. Being pregnant means you will be on top of the list for any treatment so it might be worth mentioning it?

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@Pigeoncat definitely speak to your midwife or GP about how you're feeling. I was really concerned about the effect pregnancy may have on my mental health as have a history of depression and anxiety but bizarrely I feel better than I have done for years. I'm sure it's not a coincidence that it's coincided with me totally cutting contact with my mum though....
Evelyn is a lovely name and was also on our brief list of potentials for a girl. Stick to your guns and sod anyone else (just like we are if we have a boy despite BiL and SiL using the same name last week - and they still aren't acknowledging what they've done )

@dw23 we're in a similar situation - 30s, married, baby on way....and living with mother in law! It does work well for us though, it helps all of us financially although it was meant to be a temporary measure (back in 2015!). We have taken the upstairs of the house (we have a room, baby will have a room and the third bedroom is our living room) and then there's a living room downstairs that we all use, share the bathroom and kitchen and mother in laws room is out in the extension. Works well and means we all have our own space (no one comes upstairs - having a ln aggressive dog really helps!) I do hope to be able to get our own place sometime in the not too distant future though

@Another when is your scan?

Thanks everyone. I realised just how terrible I'm feeling and spoke to my [thankfully understanding] boss. I have booked the day off work tomorrow and am going to see the doctors about my mental health. I'm used to anxiety and am medicated for it, but am not used to depression so this is all a bit unusual for me.

@Emma198 we've had a couple options in our price range so it could be worse... It boils down to the amount of DIY work we're willing to do before baby arrives and the area...being in East London good areas are sometimes hard to come by!

We're not sharing the name just because when we introduce him it's a done deal. I think it takes a far ruder person to say they don't like a name when the baby is here than it does when it's an abstract baby.
29 weeks today and I am so, so done with work. 7 weeks to go!

@Emma198 when isn't my scan?!

Private 4D scan on Sunday 2nd September followed by an NHS growth scan on 21st September and another on 5th October, with a few midwife, obstetrician and cardiology appointments and a GTT all mixed in between!

I’m due 18th nov and just been diagnosed with shingles. I feel right down in the dumps now. Does anyone else feel like their stomach feels so tight and uncomfortable?

@LittleMG I came pre-stretched after losing over 10 stone but my pregnant colleagues are definitely uncomfortable with stretching skin, itchy too.

Hope you're feeling better soon, shingles sounds miserable at the best of times, never mind when you can't take anything for it!!

Aw @LittleMG that sounds rubbish :(

I have itchy stretchy days and days where I'm OK. Does anyone have stretch marks yet?

Thanks for replying 😊 no stretch marks yet! I’ve been moisturising, it prob won’t help lol

@Emma198 no stretch marks yet but my belly has got very sensitive. The other day I had my cat laying on my bump and when I took my top off the slightest claw marks (which I didn't feel) had left red raw marks all over it!

On the depression side of things, I have never suffered. I do have anxiety though but I too am feeling a bit depressed - . Coming up to 28 weeks and I have no self-esteem whatsoever which isn't really me... Winds me up. Hormones.

I haven't had depression as such, but am struggling to control emotions, particularly anxiety and anger!!! Pregnancy and work has turned me into a bit of a psycho! My work is quite demanding anyway (even though I don't do anything important) but these days the slightest thing sets me off on a mad rant! Think people at work are getting a bit scared of me!

In my defence, it's incredibly busy, someone in our team left 4 months ago and hasn't been replaced properly and I have been expected to pick up 80%of their job on top of my own with no extra recognition!

Can't decide if I'm being unreasonable, don't want to wave the pregnancy card l, but I think having to stay 2-3hours later several days a week to keep on top of things is a piss take at nearly 6 months pregnant!

God look I have gone off on a rant again!!!
Need to calm and practice my yoga breathing!

It's anger for me. I told my husband what I was making for tea last night and he pulled a face because he's trying to lose weight and I was making fajitas. I told him to fuck off and make his own tea and made something for myself.