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Thread number 3 ladies... good grief we can chat!!!

Hi all. Greedy - sorry to hear the work situation is stressing you out still. What would happen if you couldn't find a locum for your maternity leave? Would you be able to pick up where you left off from, or would it mean losing all your clients and having to start from scratch? The second scenario is basically what will happen for me! Just as things were going really well. Hopefully some clients will come back, but I expect it will take a while for things to get back as they were, and i'll have to advertise a lot again to get things going. I couldn't see any other way round it though. Would it be possible to do that, and just enjoy the time with your new baby and worry about work again when the time comes (my plan)?

Don't think there is any chance I'll pop early - was bang on time (well, 2 days over) with DD. And I've just had to fireman's lift her up the road (huge tantrum, busy road situation) and that didn't set off labour, so looks like I've got a couple more weeks to go...

firsty - you are lovely! i am going to center parcs next week so will try my hardest not to think about it then and just have fun! i have actually found someone today who could cover me for 4 hours a week! FOUR!!!!!!thats all!!!!! better thn nothi ng though i guess, so its a start! i keep saying to/whining at dh " i just want to give up, dont want to go back ever, just want to be a SAHM" and he just looks at me sympathetically. but the other day he said " isn't that what everyone wants? sorry, we just cant afford it and i cant think of any way to earn anymore money at the moment"...............he kind of made me think that yes, everyone would love to have enough money to CHOOSE whether to return to work or not, rather than HAVING to go back. so i guess i should stop wallowing in self pity and get a grip and accept things!!!

bodders - if i drop everything i will potentially lose quite a few regular patients, but also i still have to pay my association fees, my insurance, my room rent etc, so i need SOME money coming in really! i should have done the whole kids thing BEFORE i set up my own business really!

your story of fireman lifts reminded me of something that happened to me when i was 38wks pg last time....................................i was in budgens with my ds in his pushchair and bought WAY too much shopping, but decided i could stuggle home with it all attached to the pushchair! as i was leaving the shop, the underneth of the pushchair snapped and collapsed with ds in being squashed by lots of shopping! so i was left trying to figure out how to walk the 2 miles or so to get home with a 17month old, about 12 bags of shopping, a broken pushchair and a big bump!!!...........i ended up 'borrowing' a budgens trolley and struggling home with that up. not an easy task struggling with a shopping trolley up and down kerbs for a couple of miles i can tell you!.......i thought i was going to go into labour then, but i didnt!!! my dh was mortified when i asked him to walk back round to budgens to take the trolley back!!!

make sure NONE of you have your babies whilst i am in centerparcs, ok?!

Greedy! What an image! (The shopping trolley one) I have just had a good chuckle, thank you. Sorry to hear work/money are stressing you out. I am VERY lucky to be able to be a SAHM and I totally admire all mums who need to work to help with daily running costs.

DS has just come downstairs to tell me he is running a bath for him and DD... better go and check up on them...

Greedy sorry to hear you feeling down, but your shopping trolley story did make me chuckle! Sorry, I really needed it!

Firsty, you are lovely! I think you are going to make a fantastic mother! hope you are not still worrying about that!

I'm with you all the work/SAHM decision. We probably could just afford for me not to work, but not to give DD and future DS the kind of life that we want to. Also, I really don't think I could spend all day everyday at home with them all. I see too many army wives who have had no careers due to our unsettled lifestyles and they seem so unsatisfied with their lives (even if though don't admit it). I thought for a long time they disapproved of me working full-time, but now I think it might be slight jealousy that I've managed to work for the same company for over 6 years, despite living in 4 (nearly 5) different houses! Sorry, Greedy, the benefits of working for a large company, I suppose. Although they are working me to teh bone at the moment!! far far too much work to do and not enough time to do it. thank goodness Mum is still here to help out with DD, while DH is away. Really bad planning he away these 2 weeks, when we always knew I was going to busy at work. Oh well, hopefully a bit better next week, but still be busy. But that's the reason I'm not around much, working hard during the day and then still doing more work in the evenings. shouldn't be doing this much at 6 months pg and I was hoping my payslip today would make up for it, but they've forgotten to increase my money!!! That will be a grumpy e=mail when I get in tomorrow!

Anyway, sorry girls, needed to get that off my chest!

Taking DD to have 2 hours induction visit to her new school tomorrow - she's so excited, I hope it meets her expectations.

so much happening at once - getting hassled from removal men about doing a pre-move inspections, army housing about pre-move inspections and still trying to grow this baby. My ankles are huge tonight!! And I still want to talk to a builder about having our kitchen-diner made. I'm mad aren't I?!!!

Hey, I heard from MrsMc on the pg after mc thread today or yesterday (all merge into one at the moment). All seems well with her in Spain.

Take care all
DD bedtime calls!
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Sorry that was all me, me, me - really sorry. I just kind of think of you all as really good friends who I can rant and rave at - bit selfish really.

I really do hope everyone else is doing ok.

Bodders, Chooster, Firsty can't believe you are so soon! How many sleeps do you each think?!!

take care all
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fettle - you sound spookily like me sometimes! i just did a me me me post on another thread and then apoogized! we do have some sort of link.........definately! what day did we agree to have our babies on again? i dont care about the stupid autumn equinox anymore, so anytime late sept is fine with me!!!

lets hope your dd gets on better at her induction than mine did!...............she wouldn't leave my lap the whole time and then just snuggled up and fell asleep and started snoring REALLY loudly! it was only for pre school though and i know she is quite a bit younger than yours!

take it as easy as you can at work girl, you hear me!!!

just read manitz thread about her baby. made me feel so crap and stupid for getting upset about trivial things. some people REALLY have stuff to moan about dont they?

I know what you mean greedy - I feel awful moaning about trivial things - others have some real problems to worry about!

we are connected aren't we? bit scary! When we going to meet up then?!! I think we went for 24th Sept, but if you're not fussed about the Autumn equinox, the way I've rapidly expanded, I'd rather go for a little bit earlier. 38 wkish, if that's ok with you? I don't want to go 42 weeks, if I'm likely to have a 15lber!!!

How old is your DD again? I'm not allowed to stay with mine! Have to "give her a quick hug and a goodbye and leave her to it"! Then sit in the gym for 2 hours, probably more upset than she is as I fret about how quickly she's growing up! Mum is coming with me for moral support and give me her thoughts on the school, before we definitely sign on the dotted line!

Back to work!
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fettle - my dd is nearly 2 1/2. she is goign to the same preschool my ds went to. he used to scream and cling onto my leg every day for the first few weeks. it was heartbreaking............he used to say "but i just love you so much mummy, i want to be with you!" it used to make me cry! my dd always wanted to stay when we dropped him off, but now it is coming round to her turn (in sept) she doesn't seem so keen to go! i just hope she doesn't scream and cry like he used to, cos i dont think i will be able to cope this time! when i took ds to nursery (at 3 1/2) i had to just drop him off and leave him and he cried again! he LOVES it now though! in fact he is upset today cos they have an occasional days holiday and he isn't going in! i am sure your dd will be fine, even if you're not!

i could cope with 2 weeks early, although that will be aboout the time dd starts at preschool so maybe thats a bit selfish. never had a baby early though, so might be a bit of a novelty!

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it is FAR too quiet on here! i have resorted back to the due in oct thread!!! (sorry oct ladies!!!)

had a MW appt today and my bump is measuring at 32 wks! whoops! i am only 27 on sunday! mw wants to see me again in 2 wks to make sure this baby isnt really an elephant! both my other 2 were quite ickle 6lb 5oz and 7lb 7oz, so i am a bit surprised!

i blame you fettle ............its this weird link that we have!!!...........just cos you have big babies doesn't mean i want one too!!!

sorry i lied! i am measuring at 31 wks not 32! not that it matters really!

Greedy - don't abandon us - I haven't the energy for the october thread! But I need some friendly faces on here too!!

DD;s induction went very well, but I'm not sure I'm quite the standard parent-class! Not quite posh enough!! Thankfully the teachers are very down to earth! She had a great time and didn't really want to leave, which is a good sign I think. She's had a lovely afternoon with my Mum, although was a bit sick earlier, seems to have picked up again now.

I had to rush to work afterwards, when all I wanted to do was play with my DD. Starting to think, sod the money, we'll live of bread and beans and I'll spend time with my children! My boss's son (can't remember if I said yesterday?) has been admitted to hospital with an infected lymph gland. He's on antibiotics and may need an op. So she's not going to be in for the foreseeable future, which I don't blame her for, but it's piled so much more on my plate, which I'm doing without any credit from any senior management. I'm 6 months pg FGS (sorry dont normally swear, but today I have been!). My ankles are huge - I worry about the damage I'm doing to minifet with this stress. Going to have work this weekend as well (again). Was going to have only a little bit to do to prepare for a presentation on Monday morning, but now I have a very important audit to prepare for on behalf of my manager for Tuesday! Could really do without it, but can't really say no!]

Right - rant over - sorry ladies. Maybe it is me, that has sent you all away. I was like this last summer when DH was in Iraq, as I didn't want to worry him, I poured my woes out to Mumsnet friends. You'll pleased to know that he's back on Sunday evening, so I'll have him to moan at then!!!

Firsty, 3 sleeps how exciting!! Unlikely though! But I can well imagine how impatient you are getting now!

Greedy - sorry you're having an elephant like me! I don't have another appointment for a while yet, so we'll see what I'm like. Are we really 27 weeks? Maybe I should move my appointment forward, as it's not for 2 weeks still, so that will be 29 weeks, and I've not had any more blood tests yet? Tricky.

right, DD is out of the birth, I can hear her running around upstairs, so I'd better go kiss her goodnight. Thank goodness for my mother, I love her so much!! I hope i'm as a good a grandmother as she is when I get around to that age!!

Take care all, hope you all have great weekends, and manage to avoid the rain!!

lol
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Oh, Firsty, i am right with you about not wanting to be this heavily pregnant any more! Sooooo exhausted. Every little thing to be done is now such a chore. Can't wait to get my body and energy back!

Fettle, don't you worry about unburdening with us, it is so therapeutic to get things off your chest and onto a computer screen! Work sounds very stressful for you, i bet you feel like running away and hiding. But don't worry, I'm sure miniFett is blissfully unaware of all your stress. Sorry to hear about your ankles, that sounds uncomfortable - try and get your feet up as much as you can, even if only for 5 mins at a time. Your mum sounds great - once DD is in bed you can chill out and let yourself be mothered a bit.

Greedy - your Budgens story sounds horrendous, I bet you just wanted to throw yourself on the ground and cry! Sorry there's not much action on this thread at the mo - I'll try and pop a baby out for you soon! You could lurk on the due in July thread if you like, there's tons going on there

Well, kitchen update - it's almost finished. Hooray, but now I have realised that I have got to put it all back together again - get all the shelves, pictures, food etc. back in place. Give it a really good clean (covered in dust and grout) and generally get it back to a functioning kitchen... and I really don't have the energy (whinge, moan)! Maybe a coffee and some loud music will get me in the mood. It does look fab though, and will all have been worth it once it's back to normal

Good to see the post from MrsMc and that she is having a nice time and all is going well

Now where is that Chooster? I wanted to have a moan about the old vvv's, they're killing me! Am concerned about what will happen to them during the pushing stage - what if they, just like, explode ! that's what it feels like they might do.... eeek!

Bodders - VVV's sound very painful! Exploding while pushing, I wouldn't have thought so, but pretty scary thought!

Kitchen sounds lovely though, but I know what you mean about the no energy (and I've still got 12 weeks to go!). Hope you manage to get is all sorted before LO arrives! Has your plumber finished (or was it the decorator who was the part-time midwife!?!).

My supper is beeping, so have to go! hungry!

take care
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OOOOooooooooooooo bodders! VVVs do sound nasty! you could have them bursting and piles popping out at the same time whilst pushing!!!............and a baby of course!!!

i feel like a saussage who's skin is about to burst, does anyone else feel like that? i really think if i get even the tiniest scratch on my tummy then my skin will split right open! didnt feel like this till right at the end last time!

fettle - not long till your maternity leave and a well deserved break from work. try and focus on that!

anyone want to hear my really disturbing sex dream i had last night? i bet honeyapple would!

yeah, where is chooster.....thought she was supposed to be a lady of leisure now!!

OK greedy tell us about your dream, you have me curious at least!

As for feeling like popping, I remember getting that feeling last time. I was measuring big for dates for months and each time the midwives would ask me if I was sure it was not twins I was so big!, fortunately as many people predicted to me at the time, I got to about 30 weeks and basically virtually stopped growing, if I hadn't been so big to start with they would have been worried, but it was all ok in the end, and dd was smaller and earlier than ds! I hope this might be of some encouragement to you.

Fettle - poor you, work sounds harsh at the moment, I hope you find time to put those legs up and reduce the ankles a little.

Bodkin - when I read your due date it just sends me back a few years, my sons due date was the 15th July too. He arrived on the 12th though!

Yay - lets have this sex dream then Greedy....

Fettle - it was the decorator who was the part-time midwife - he has nearly finished, just got to come back tomorrow and go over the grouting again. It was quite sweet - Friday's are his day off when he looks after his 2 year old, but he wanted to put the silicon round our sink so we could use it, so I said to bring his son with him, and i'd entertain him while he did the siliconing! It all worked out quite well. He is a top bloke our decorator!

Oooh, the 12th would be great Rainbow! I do hope so, then we'd be able to go to the wedding of DPs best friend on the 21st (albeit with very small person in tow...)

Hey - sex dream - tell me about the sex dream. Will it put me back in the mood for DH's return on Sunday evening?!!!

Bodders - do you think your decorator would come to West Wiltshire to help with our house?!!! He sounds great. Shame he didn't get to deliver your baby, I was looking forward to that!

12th July, is a great date - same date as my friend I've known since we were born, so always fixed in my mind!

Rainbowdays - how you doing? Feeling more pg yet? hope you're feeling reassuringly awful, but not so bad you're suffering, IYKWIM!

Greeds, I know what you mean about bursting. That's what one foot is like. If I bend my foot or scratch it on something it is agony, like it really is going to burst open. Luckily it does go down overnight - belly bumps don't tend to (luckily!!!

starting to get the "oh you must be due soon" comments, which are annoying. Still got 3 months!! how big will we be by then?!!

CHOOSTER WHERE ARE YOU?!! WE MISS YOU.

~Hey, maybe, she's having her baby!!!
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Can't believe Greedy has got us all waiting to hear about her sex dream and now she has disappeared. I can't say I've had any good sex dreams lately.... although I keep dreaming about bumping in to the boy I had a massive crush on at school. Unfortunately nothing happens.....

I know Bodkin - I keep checking up on here, and she's disappeared. Probably to reenact the dream with her DH, knowing her!!!

My dreams sound like yours, sexy people I know, but always wake up before the good bits!! Even in my dreams, I remain faithful!

That greedy must be lurking in the oct thread again I guess. Nothing like keeping us waiting in anticipation!!

By the way this thread is getting a bit long, are we going to break out into a new one before the July babies start appearing? What do you think?

Oooh, oooh, Rainbow days, if we wait another 34 threads before starting a new TTC one, we could be thread no 10000 in Pregnancy.

Oh, dear, I seem to have revealed slightly anal tendancies....