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Thread number 3 ladies... good grief we can chat!!!

Thanks Scorpio it?s not stopped though how are things with you?

Honeyapple thanks hon, I don?t think I have any pain but I am jumping at every sensation and imagining all sorts of awful things, like that this is happening because I flew up and down from London at the weekend and that I?ve hurt the beanie

Firsty ? thank you. I do hear you, I just can?t believe it. I?ll see how things go before I make any calls. Hopefully it?ll just subside and if so, I?ll mention it to the MW at my booking in next Weds.

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Mrsmcjnr - swetty, the flying has not hurt your beanie. i flew for 6 hours when pg with ds2. it doesn't hurt them. the spotting is not your fault

could you go to an epu? to keep your mind at rest. i really hope this worry is for nothing

Thankyou for asking, i am fine

sweety even!

MrsMC - have to be really quick, as really busy at work.

Keep an eye on it and ask for another scan if it carries on a few days. However, I seem to remember that it is around 8-10 weeks that the placenta kicks in and some people can have spotting around then, like firsty said, Implantation spotting.

Just remember you saw a very healthy, strong little one yesterday, so your flying certainly had nothing to do with it.

take care of yourself
xxx

Hi everyone. MrsMc - just to add to what everyone else has already said, a bit of spotting in early pregnancy is normal - I had it too around 12 weeks-ish, but I know when it is happening it is difficult not to panic. Wonderful news that you saw a heartbeat and the dates match up - hold on to that

Chooster - stressful times for you and DH at the mo, so things are bound to be a bit tense. Me and My DP go through phases of that, and it always seems to be DD that suffers the most - she hates seeing us bicker. But you'll come out the other end again and once DS2 is here nothing else will matter

Iwillbe - yay on the house! I love a good house sage too, so don't worry about boring us!

Firsty, I agree with Fettle, a bit of balance between being a mum and working means you get the best of both. It is exhausting, obviously, trying to juggle everything, but I find I am happier when I can contribute a bit to the family kitty and also I want to keep my hand in and not get out of practice with what I do, so part-time, fitting in around DD's pre-school and in the evenings suits me a treat.

God that cheesecake sounds good.... What can i rustle up in the kitchen....

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Just to add to the working / SAHM discussion, I think DS being in nursery has really helped him with the type of boy he is. He can be a bit sensitive and never pushes himself forward. Even if he was desperate to have a go on something (i.e a slide) he would hover and wait until no-one else wanted to go on it. I think nursery has brought him on a lot more than I could have done as a SAHM.

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It's a tricky one alright. After having my DD I decided that it just wasnt practical or financially worth it to continue to work. Also I didnt like absoulutely love my job.. was ok, but certainly don't miss it... miss having my own cash though! However re nursery, I'm afraid my DS hated it. He used to go 2 full days a week, my mum had him for the other days... I really regret him having to go there, but at the time it was the only option. I personally don't think any nursery situation is alright until a child is about 2.5 yrs old. Some children seem fine... my sister's kids went to nursery from 6 mths old...(however her DS has definite issues with aggression and attention) but I know that it has affected my DS in terms of his confidence and social interaction.

Anyway- if you want a giggle, there are some funny name threads going on.... people getting right snooty...

I would support that nursery has been great for DD - but I think each child is different and you should assess their character and how they are coping with their care. What is more important to them is consistancy and regularity. So you need to make sure that they have the same carers day-in, day-out as much as possible. What is most upsetting for them, particularly when younger is having different people look after them each day. We've always been really lucky with the nurseries we've chosen, turnover of staff has been really low and there has always been constant carers for each room, so DD has always felt secure there. Have to say now we are looking at moving her to school in September, I'm starting to feel a bit more wary about it all. Had a really tiring day at work today too, so really wish I could spend all day with her in the garden, but she'd probably exhaust me more!! Besides she's full of French songs this evening, as they had French at nursery today, which she absolutely loves!

Anyway, long and short of this ramble - do whatever suits you, your child and your personal family circumstances the best. There is no right or wrong solution, only what works best for you. Don't ever listen to anyone who makes you feel bad for being a working mother, or conversely for "just"! being a SAHM - both are as hard and as rewarding as each other in very different ways.

Like everything in life, each day there is new research on something or other being good or bad for you (still can't remember whether dark chocolate and red wine are good or bad!!!), and it is always changing and it is the same with effects of childcare on children. In my n of 1 trial, full-time nursery has been excellent for DD, but I'm not saying that it is right for everyone. Not sure this little one will be going to nursery, with DD being in school. School terms and holidays add a whole new dimension of worry over childcare issues!!

anyway, on that note - I'm off to tidy the house! One of the joys of being a working mother - housework needs to be done in the evenings!!

take care all
xxx

Of course- you should never feel guilty for being a working mum... I'm lucky that we can afford for me not to work at the moment. In the future this may change, who knows?

Sorry if what I said was taken the wrong way... I just do feel bad about my little DS having a horrid time at nursery. He was a funny thing when he was a toddler . Still has a lot of 'peculiarities'!

Went shopping today... got a new bra... 34D!!!
(seeing as i was a A/B cup before)
Also bought some black maternity shorts and a few long tops... starting to have trouble with belly poking out of normal tops. Tried on a few pairs of maternity jeans, but all massive still... have to stick to my jeans with the hairband for now!

Hope MrsMcJ is ok.

Oh Honey - I now feel bad, I wasn't reacting to what you'd said, just trying to reassure firststar and convince myself!!

And don't feel bad for your DS - you did what you had to do back then. Guilt is the worst thing a working mother has to deal with!

34D! Enjoy that cleavage while you've got it!! 38G here at the moment!! and DH is still more in love with my bump!!

Cor Fettle- that's an impressive measurement! I bet your DH can't get enough of all your bumps! My DP is out at a mate's house, football to watch or something...

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Agree nurseries and childcare generally is a very personal choice and one that is sometimes dictated by necessity. I think its good to discuss it but some newspaper articles about 'studies' that have been done really only end up making working mothers feel awful. Anyway, DS is on a trip today to a pet shop Am sure he will love it though , but I think he gets more excited by the bus ride.

I'm hardly at 'Pammy' level either Firstar but still a good few sizes up 38E. Nice increase too Honeyapple .

Hope she doesn't mind me letting you know but I've been in text contact with MrsMc and, as of yesterday evening she was doing better and the spotting had stopped. Hope it stays that way!

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thanks for letting us know about mrs chooster. thats good to hear.

mrs - if you are lurking, i am glad your spotting has stopped. i cant imagine how hard it must be for you after last time. i dont think it was ever so bad for me cos i have bled in the past with pregnancies and they have turned out fine, so i have that to reassure me. just goes to show that the worry never stops even after having a scan. do you have cervical erosions by the way? cos i think that is what they (well, one midwife) decided my bleeding could be caused by.

still fed up with work here! i really enjoy what i do, i just hate the fact that it is my own business and that i am so responsible for it. i would quite like a pressure free job where i just turn up, get paid and then go home, but i realise i would never be able to find one of them and earn the same sort of money for doing just a few hours a week.
i am now considering not finding a locum at all and working as late as i can and then coming back when baby is 2 weeks old (i think that is the soonest you can return to work isn't it?) i would only need to do about 10 hours a week to keep things ticking over, so its a possibility.............................can you tell i am in the blooming stage!? i dont have too many aches and pains and i feel a bit like superwoman at the moment!.......................i would probably regret deciding to work so much when i get to 36 wks. i just cant decide what to do for the best!

fettle - is your dh not a boob man then? mine isn't! shame when mine are quite impressive at the moment too! my dh is more of a leg and arse man...............my legs are ok, but my arse.................!

firsty - if you bf i bet they will go up then!!!! and they kind of support themselves then without the aid of underwiring! and they go rock hard!........not sure if thats good or bad!

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finding a locum hasn't been as easy as it was last time, which is why i am thinking of other options. dont know what to do really and i am just kind of drifting along waiting for someone to tell me what to do!

4 weeks isn't long! how exciting! how long are you having off afterwards? do you know yet?

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yeah, wish i had loads of money, so that working was something i chose to do rather than something i HAD to do.

my next patient is a little tiny baby, only 8 wks! i was really looking forward to seeing her last week, but then she screamed the whole time so i am not so keen this week!

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