Disappointed about sex of baby and need some help pulling myself together!

[Chattyhan]

I don't want to be ungrateful and I know i'm being really pathetic but had 22wk scan this morning and found out it was another boy. Both DP and I wanted a girl and i'm finding it really hard to accept. I can't stop crying and feel i'm missing out on that special mother/daughter relationship. We can't afford to have any more children and wouldn't want to risk 3 boys so that's that.

Please don't be angry with me and i'm sorry to those who think i'm being stupid.

OK - had a very long chat with nannytax about this but maybe i'll try the inland revenue then!

just remembered nannytax said that because i've been earning under £92 per week my employers haven't had to pay NI and as studying pre DS1 no NI contributions for about 6 years so can't claim incapacity benefit! I will get the inland revenues opinion though.

regarding the maternity allowance still, you have earned more than the qualified amount (average of 30 pounds per week, so you could apply for it. unless your employer doesnt have any record of your job, ie. pay stubs to prove the weeks you worked, then you wouldnt be able to apply...

Ok so DP and I had that little chat - turns out he doesn't want this baby or me or family life anymore but he loves DS to bits - so thats ok then - started a new thread any help/support appreciated here

Hi Chatty, I had the pleasure of going to stay with my sister in law and nephew at the weekend. My nephew is 3 and is just the most adorable and affectionate little boy I have ever met (I might be biased of course ). He's absolutely fascinated by the fact that I am pregnant and when his mum put him to bed the first night we were there, he asked her to remind him in the morning that he had "a big kiss in his belly for Aunty Marie".

Also, the next morning, when I was in the shower, he strolled into the bathroom, proceeded to take off his PJ's and climb into the bath so he could spend as much time talking with me as possible. He would snuggle up in bed with me and DH too.

Really, Mum's can have wonderful mother/son relationships too that are incredibly rewarding.

Chatty - sorry, hadn't gone through the whole thread to get to the bombshell. I hope that all goes well on Sunday.

Marie

Well I have a girl who had one ballet lesson and hated it, won't wear skirts or dresses and is as mardy as hell (6yo). Me and my friends all reckon its the girls who are stroppy and boys are more laid back!

Just read your other post - sorry. ((((hugs)))

Thanks for all the posts - unfortunately can't find a babysitter at the moment - why is life so crap!

Hi Chattyhan,I felt the same when i had my 2nd scan with my 3rd child & found out i was carrying another boy. Like you i cried and cried but i soon got used to the fact that i was having another boy. I actually left the hospital crying my eyes out & my dh and mum kept telling me how lucky i was to be carrying a healthy child & what was ment to be would be. I then realised that if i lost him i would be devastated & then my attitiude changed. I then enjoyed my pregnancy & was looking forward to meeting my new son. I love my boys more then anything in the world as any mother would but i still yern for a daughter and the mother/daughter relationship you also mentioned. I also understand you not wanting to risk another incase you have yet another son. I have 3 & if i was financially better off i would consider carrying on until i got my little girl but this is not liekly to happen. We are considering adopting a baby girl though in the future, although not came to a descion as yet as there is alot to think about. all you have to think is that you are carrying a baby and some people can never have a birth their own (birth child) and how fortunate you are, thats how i mananaged to put things in prespective. You will soon be feeling much better. x

Chattyhun, hope you feel better soon. Sorry to hear things havent turned out as you had hoped. x