Sweaty and fretty- 3rd trimester safe place to whinge

[Paie]

Following on from the Itchy & bitchy 2nd trimester thread!

I'm now 25 + 6 weeks, so very nearly 6 months gone! 3 months remaining...

Morning sickness is still very present and I've been reminded of this 4-8 times a day all week.

On the plus side- movements are now very regular and I love them! Much lower down than I remember DC1 being- lots of bladder kicks which are /not/ fun.

Hows everyone else doing with the 3rd trimester?

@LMX0
@CremeDeSudo

How are you two getting along??

@Paie what is with pets and legs? My dog does the same when im getting dressed walks over and give them a good lick 😂 im glad your sickness has eased a bit for you
@Buddy17 welcome 😊 you poor thing acid reflux is the worst!! Have you tried little but often?
@WreckItRach hope your feeling a bit better today and thats good that its only dc if youve been sick for the pst three weeks your body could be telling you to slow down it needs a break if you need to go early do
@Embracethechaos how rude!!! Their just jealous that your off work thats all that is!!! Take no notice

Haha lmxo, I work in a hospital and she was only popping in to grab a cup of tea so didn't have much time talk. She's a funny lady, very honest, probably didn't mean anything about it, when you work in a hospital you learn to be direct about body talk...I've just not used to it and am taking offence because I'm hormonal. 'Big' is supposed to be a compliment when it comes to bumps I think but it doesn't feel like it.

Thanks guys, I will speak to them about starting it sooner. Like you said, my body clearly needs the rest, I'll get over it.
@Embracethechaos that is SO rude!! Some people are just idiots. I agree, it was probably jealousy. Why people think they can say things like that I don't know!

@Embracethechaos i dont see how BIG is a compliment i deffo could think of better words/phrases to use!!

@WreckItRach no harm in asking!!

Haha, I was taken aback, thinking maybe baby is growing well...I like to think the best of people... but yeah definitely rude, esspesally as I'd been worrying a couple of weeks ago about it growing too much and maybe having too much amniotic fluid...i needed an extra scan...

What your scan say? Im sure your little baby is perfect besides everyone carries differently and im sure your not that big

My scan said it was perfect, all within the growth charts, and got an extra health check up. The issue was there was no change between 2 measurements and I'm on quite new medication.

Are they going to monitor measurements @Embracethechaos ? Don't worry about what that person said, everyone does carry differently and I'm sure you look amazing 😊

I had sooooo many comments from work colleagues from about week 20- ooo your so big already. Thanks! Now when I say I’m 38 weeks people say I look neat/compact/small. I’ve realised you can’t win. I try to ignore but still grates In me that people just feel it’s a free for all to comment on pregnant women’s bodies.

I normally ignore comments but they are irritating, it's inappropriate to talk to a teenager girl about her boob size unless you know her well so why is it any different for pregnant women and their bumbs. My mum had always said that people touching her bump was the worst part of her pregnancy (she also found the first movements less wonderful but more freaky). I'm glad I have not had anyone try to touch my bump, I think my body language says don't touch me and/or I have different type of friends/relatives than my mum. Also my mum is short so I think was generally more patronised as a young woman. I also find the due date type questions difficult as it's a conversation opener and I'm not great at dates, and the questions are often slightly different (how far along are you, when's it due, how much time have you got left). I now have the awnser ready but took a while. I've been trying not to fixate on the date as I've got lots of appointments and birthdays to remember and other mums have said how difficult the waiting is if they are even slightly overdue as everything for the past 9 months was leading up to it. I now say mid July. My younger brother was funny, asked me what day of the week the baby is due because he was applying for a summer job and was thinking about asking for a bit of time off in advance. I told him it doesn't really work like that and it would be nicer if he visited a few weeks after anyway.

It is ridiculous, when your body is going through so much change and you might be feeling more self conscious than ever about it and people think they can say whatever they want. I have had people at my work touching my bump too, I don't mind close colleagues I work with every day but there's been a couple who I don't even really speak to!

I have spoke to my manager on the phone and my maternity leave now starts on Monday. I'm so relieved.

Hi, mind if I join you on the whingeing couch?!
32 weeks yesterday and have had some unhelpful pelvic pain that's stopped me walking much - plus over the last couple of days I've felt dizzy and nauseous quite often. It started when I had an ultrasound and they made me lie flat on my back until I thought I was going to vom... I'm also self-employed and getting SO little done what with tiredness, lack of brain power, and constant appointments.
On the upside, I have just bought a MASSIVE tub of delicious olives.

Just a. Quick moan, I was driving and baby started pushing my abdomen and touched my boob, I'm a. Pretty anxious driver anyway and was only doi2a short journey but it was really distracting... I really need a new bra.

@Embracethechaos thats good!! Extra scans or check ups aren't a bad thing!! Thats nice he wants to visit but is he going to the birth cause i dont see why he would need time off? There is always evenings and weekends?
@readysetcake i so agree its like your public property sometimes!! Ive been told im really neat and some people haven't even noticed however i heard someone say yesterday her bumps really popping now lol

Lmxo, he's probably undiagnosed aspershic, he likes to have things planned well in advance. He's not coming to the birth but he's really struggled with part time shift work, last minute changes etc. He is working in the lido over the summer and I called him when he was waiting to have a meeting to arrange his shifts so wanted to book time off then. When I said babies don't come on there due date, he could come up one day at the weekend with my sister he said 'oh yeah, ' he's about an hours drive away so evenings won't work. I do wander what goes on inside his head.

@Embracethechaos its nice hes interested my little brother is more interested than my little sister (both in primary school) yeah im sure it is hard and at least he knew he just forgotten my bil didnt know what babies ate!! We had a bbq the other week and he asked what the baby would be able to eat from it once she was here!!

@lmx0 that's really funny!

It makes me laugh the amount of blokes that think due dates are when the baby will definitely come too! My DH was talking about booking in for the birth suite, I had to explain you can't just book a slot, baby decides when they are ready haha.

The way medical checkups and maternity leave is all planned based on the due date I know some mums who have struggled when it's overdue. Years ago we didn't have our lives planned to the day months or years in advance. I was brought up in Europe and the window of normal birth was wider, I think my mum was only induced in Germany when my brother was 4 weeks late. It's the same with development targets, I worked in a nursery and I know kids all develop in their own pace but some parents got very anxious if their toddlers, mostly boys, were behind, the managers were great at reassuring them. Compared to my brother I was shocked how sociable and developed toddlers are and how few full on tantrums there were.

We should be more like that I think (although maybe not waiting until 4 weeks overdue haha). I work in a primary school and we are supposed to treat every child uniquely which is brilliant but then we have to push them all to reach the same targets at the end of each term and some of them just aren't ready. They would cope far better to be allowed to spend more time developing at their own pace.

My sister is a primary school teacher and she hates the current syllabus, every child should be at the same target in a year group... At junior school I was very behind in writing and mental maths, being dyslexic, cought up by secondary when times tables and spelling was not as important... At least I had achievable goal, level 3,4,5 even if I knew I was behind... Lots of teachers on myn family, all hate Conservative politions... My sister opared in Germany, they are relaxed before school but age 7 they start education and hit the ground running and are ranked and examed and streamed far more than England.

My mum had to be induced with all of us, older children in Holland where culture is very different to Germany, really relaxed deveoplentaly. We moved to Germany and they were shocked we weren't walking or potty trained yet... She also said the mean German midwife didn't explain what she was doing when inducing, gave her enough drugs in the evening to see what was the right dose but stopped short of inducing labour, then restarted in the morning when there was more staff around. All the NHS midwives I've met are lovely in comparison. Giving birth in your own country is always a plus when you understand the culture.

Gosh that's really scary for your mum, I can't believe that.
There was a woman on OBEM who had a forceps delivery in a different country and was terrified of them because of the experience.

@WreckItRach men really have no clue do they 😂
@Embracethechaos 4 week ovedue!! Hell no!!!

I seen that ep @WreckItRach and i felt so bad for her!!! My husband really doesn't want me to go down the road of venthose or forceps if possible!!

I've heard so many scary birth stories. Being a radiographer I've xrayed a couple of babies with broken collar bones over the years from a forceps/suction births... Fortunately babies bones heal quickly but still...

Oh god, that's horrible! You see how much the doctor pulls at times and wonder how the baby is ok though! I was born with forceps and no damage luckily.

@lmx0 I so felt for her! I didn't even know what the venthose thing was until OBEM haha