Fresh Start thread for pregnancy after miscarriage or loss

[BertieBotts]

Welcome everyone :)

I am feeling much more positive today, how is everyone else?

Sorry to hear about your FIL @BertieBotts  how long will you be in uk for?

@zaalitje hope all went well and you are snuggling your beautiful baby

Welcome to @hayleyfx @DBoo and hope time passes quickly for you, I found the first trimester dragged but second has flown past in the blink of an eye!

@UnicornsandRainbows1 when's your 20 week scan? I found myself much more relaxed after that was done.

@NoCatsHere I felt flutters around 15-17 weeks , it was nice but also scary as so inconsistent in the early days

Sorry meant to finish - so don't worry if you feel something then nothing for even a week or so. My baby went quiet from 18-20 weeks although I'd had definite flutters 15-17weeks. Since 20-22 weeks movements have become more and more frequent which is lovely.

I hit the third trimester tomorrow! 28 weeks can't believe it. Still feeling ok bar a bit of heartburn and having to wee 3-6x a night! Starting to feel very big and cannot walk fast or bend over which is debilitating and makes me feel a bit vulnerable but I know it's only temporary and I'll be meeting my son in 9-12 weeks time not finishing work till 38+4 but allowed to work from home as much as I need towards the end (I intend to basically stay home from 35w).

Cooking chicken for a chicken curry and the smell is making me wanna vom 🤢

Usually nausea just come in infrequent mild waves but it’s been quite often today. Haven’t actually been sick but I’ve felt a bit that way at times. I’m guessing that’s about normal.

@UnicornsandRainbows1 thank you! It’s so true, sometimes it just takes a couple days, testing everyday doesn’t help stress levels haha!

@TheGrumpySquirrel thanks! In my last pregnancy the first trimester dragged so much and I wasn’t even worried about MC back then!! So I can only imagine how much it’ll drag this time. So thankful & excited though!

Huge congratulations @hayleyfx that’s great news!!

Oh no, it’s horrible when something sets of the nausea...mine is anything with a strong fragrance, so all our air conditioners in the house, any pot pourri, my perfume, basically anything with a strong floral scent makes me feel so so sick! We’ve had to turn off all our auto air fresheners for the moment haha!

Hiya ladies, how is everyone?
Just realised how ridiculously slack i am, dont think iv shared the news in here, but my Rainbow BabyBoy was born at 37w 2d on 19th May, weighing 5lb 4oz. I was induced due to him being a small baby he wasnt growing at the rate that they wanted him to be, when he was born i had skin2skin with him for an hour or so and then he was taken to Neonatal Unit because he had very low blood sugars so needed that managing and antibiotics as a precaution too, i had developed an infection and had a few funny turns so i was poorly as well. He spent his first week in Neonatal but now we are both home, im feeling very lucky, keep pinching myself and it feels so surreal that hes actually here😁

@BertieBotts Such crap news, hope you guys are holding up okay.

@TheGrumpySquirrel on the 1st (Friday). I hope I'll chill out more afterwards

@hayleyfx No worries, we've all done it

@xxmissbrightsidexx So glad everything turned out well. He's gorg

@xxmissbrightsidexx congratulations!! He is a gorgeous little thing. So happy for you.
Enjoy. Xx

Hello Ladies!

So happy i've found this thread, i've been hunting for it the past few days.

Is it okay to join please? I sadly had a MC in Feb and am 6+1 today. Feeling a mixture of excitement and anxiety, particularly as i've been spotting the past few days. Has anyone else experienced it around this time? I had a scan on Friday and they said everything was fine, we even saw the heart beat which was incredible. I still feel on edge though a the spotting has been worse since, I guess because they've poked around in there!

@xxmissbrightsidexx your baby boy is absolutely gorgeous! Congratulations!

@hayleyfx so good to see you here too lovely!

I’ve been trying to gear up the courage to post this for a few days.

I’m exactly 6 weeks today in a very unplanned pregnancy. This will be my third, I was here over 14 Months ago with DS2 who was after a MC & 2 chemicals.

I remember you Bertie & Im so sorry about your FIL.

I retested this morning & the line is so dark.
I just don’t have the sickness I had with all my other pregnancies but have giant boobs, exhaustion & heartburn as well as metallic taste.
I’m also so bloated I look 20 weeks pregnant.

Im also in the dilemma of do I take the offer of an early scan or wait until dating scan.

Hope everyone has a nice bank holiday.

xxmissbrightsidexx gorgeous baby!

PumpkinPatch000 welcome, though sorry for your loss.

I just keep expecting something to go wrong. I'm not sure if I'll relax at all this pregnancy.

@mummyjl15 thank you!!

@xxmissbrightsidexx what a beautiful little boy! 😍

@Wellthisunexpected I’m feeling the exact same way as you! It’s like I’m waiting for it to go wrong but I’m trying to stay as positive as possible. It helps knowing that I’m not going through this alone! I hope everything goes as smoothly as it possibly can for both of us 🤞

Aw congratulations @xxmissbrightsidexx what a gorgeous baby boy! 💙

@PumpkinPatch000 sorry for your previous loss but congrats on this pregnancy! It’s so reassuring seeing that heartbeat isn’t it? It’s totally normal to feel anxious.
Following 3 recurrent miscarriages I’m now just over 11 weeks and even after 3 scans confirming all is absolutely fine my hubby and I still haven’t really admitted to ourselves this is actually happening. Too scared to get our hopes up until further down the line!
I haven’t had any spotting with this pregnancy but I know it’s completely normal in early pregnancy but I can totally understand why you’re feeling anxious. It’s great you saw a heartbeat though. Have they offered you another scan?

My little mouse arrived 4 days ago, sorry, been a little slack with news, too busy staring through the side of his cot. 😍

Planned cesarean didn't go exactly to plan, bit why would it? Nothing else has this pregnancy :). After spending whole preg breech he'd turned head down at 39 weeks (but not engaged) that morning I was offered chance for induction instead, opted for cs as was mentally ready for it. Despite things not going quite as hoped it was a very calm experience and I'd do the same again. I'd hoped for immediate skin to skin and for delayed cord clamping and got neither but I got a healthy baby and 4 days post section I'm a little tender, wouldn't attempt a marathon but I'm off painkillers killers and have been since yesterday lunch.

Due to undiagnosed issues with my placenta I lost 4.5 pints of blood and spent a night in high dependency. Had I not had the Cs there would likely have been a haemorrhage in labour and maybe a less happy outcome.

My mouse had managed to tie a knot (they called it a true knot) in his cord, again undiagnosed, and each contraction, if I had laboured would have tightened the knot. Could again have been a less than happy ending.

I knew nothing of either issue till afterward apart from a slight change to the surgeons tone, that i didn't have skin to skin and they didn't delay cord clamping. Birth partner with me throughout.

I can't believe how much love I have for him and he's just the most incredible perfect little man I just can't believe that he's mine!
I so much hope you all get to feel the same.

Awww zaa he's lovely. What a great outcome.

@Zaalitje so pleased to see your happy news, have been thinking about you over the past couple of days. He’s absolutely
Beautiful!

Sorry you had a rough time, he’ll be so worth it though.

I hope you continue to recover well, take care and congratulations x

@zaalitje he is gorgeous. A very happy outcome.

Do we have a due dates list? If not I'll start.

Wellthisunexpected pregnant with DC2, 1 MC, edd 4.2.19

Congratulations @zaalitje what a gorgeous baby! Hope you are doing okay!

Thank you @Wellthisisunexpected keeping fingers crossed and trying to stay positive.

That's a good idea about a due dates list! I've added mine below

Wellthisunexpected pregnant with DC2, 1 MC, add 4.2.19
PumpkinPatch000 pregnant with DC1, 1 MC, EDD 20.01.19

Thank you @mummyjl15 it was so re-assuring, especially seeing it that early at 5+5, just amazing. I was very lucky as I have a tilted uterus and it makes the examination tricker and very uncomfortable.

I'm so sorry to hear of your losses. Congratulations on your pregnancy. I know what you mean about getting your hopes up, you're nearly past the 12 week mark and then just two more weeks and the first trimester is done. Hope it will go quickly for you. How have you been feeling?

The next scan isn't until around the 12 week mark, not sure exactly when as I haven't received the info yet and definitely can't wait that long. We are going to go for a private scan at the 8 or 9 week mark for some re-assurance. I'm 6+1 now so a couple of weeks to wait. Keep your fingers crossed. x

@zaalitje many congratulations! He is so lovely :) sorry it was a difficult time.

Oh hi @PumpkinPatch000 I had a mc in feb too and remember you from September board.

So so happy to hear u are now 6 weeks. You asked about bleeding and I wanted to say I had some at 6/7 weeks. It was light brown and a little pink but nothing like mc.
Went on for about a week.

@zaalitje You have a beautiful baby there. Sorry to hear that it didn't go to plan. Sounds like a nightmare actually so good that it did go the right way.

Long time lurker. It's lovely to see all these positive stories and gorgeous babies.
Im currently 9wks after a mc last year at 8+4. We had a scan last week and saw the heartbeat which was great. I just cant shake the anxiety that it is going to go wrong again. My lovely DH is getting excited and I feel like im bringing him down. Im trying so hard to be positive but I just feel like im waiting for something bad to happen. Im starting to dread the 12wk scan.
How do I get past this?

Congratulations @zaalitje. He's gorgeous! Hope you're recovering well from the difficult birth.

I'm now 32 weeks and have been crying this evening with anxiety about something going wrong. I'm really tired and hormonal, so that isn't helping, but I'm just so nervous about everything. I have only had one appointment with the current community midwife as my other one I was seeing went back to work at the hospital. The new one is lovely, but I just don't feel I can communicate my anxieties very well as I have barely spoken to her. My GP is fantastic, but she's obviously extremely busy. I don't really know where to turn to with the anxiety.