BFPs after MC - Christmas Cake for Christmas Babies - Thread 1

[Cakelaur]

Here we go ladies!!! Let's continue it here and hope we all just switch from the TTC group to the pregnancy group

@Martydog I know exactly what you mean. Very hard not to get excited and the days pass super slowly. I also panic every time I go the loo that I'm going to see red. I mc around a week after my booking app too but didn't know until 12 weeks. Very painful physically and emotionally. Our bodies have had a practice run now though so fingers crossed we will be OK xx

Panic over for today I did a test this morning about 4 o clock this morning and the pregnancy line came up before the control line. 😁

@Martydog yay I'm so pleased for you. What date do you think you are due?

@Martydog That's a relief for you x x x

@PineapplePrincess amazing news! Congrats babe. Now you can relax a teeny tiny bit!

@BobbySD345 congrats. I had an mmc in Jan and called Epu direct. They just booked me in straight away no questions really. I totally skipped the gp because I thought they'd just send me home. So I've got on W at Epu at 6+3 roughly and I'm probably going to have to pay for a private one around 8+4 (when I found out for the lost one so it's one of my milestones to pass)

@Martydog nice!! Glad it's calmed you a bit. I worry every day too. And I wanna test with every wee I do!! Haha

@cakelaur so you caught really quickly after the mmc? Mine was missed too. Found out 3 days before 12 week scan which was actually around 13 weeks in the end.

So you got into the unit for an early check straight away? Where abouts do you live? Wonder if it varies over the country. GP doesn't even do a first app where I am. You just have to wait for a booking appointment with midwife between 9 and 10 weeks

@BobbySD345 yes I was so lucky to catch on the 3rd cycle. My body was back to normal pretty much straight after erpc. Although I was an emotional wreck until this last cycle, when I finally let go a little and relaxed. We also did EVERYTHING possible, including pineapple core, preseed, 10days in a row DTD, progesterone cream, you name it we did it.
I found out just under 9 weeks and the baby stopped growing around 6+4. I now have an early scan at 6+4 so I'm terrified that it will be the same or too soon to tell. But just thankful that I have the scan. We're down in SW London. We have to self refer to midwife, which I've done and should see midwife between 8-10weeks. But I just called Epu to talk to them. And they booked me in. I thought they'd tell me to wait til 12 weeks cos I'd only had one mc.

@cakelaur I might phone our unit and see if they want me in. They did say when I was discharged last year to call up for an early scan but wasn't sure if they were just being polite and reassuring me as I have heard most places don't offer it.

I had to wait 8 days for a D&C after we found out at 12 + and unfortunately my body tried to do it for itself and I was very poorly in and out of emergency. Suppose maybe I needed more time to recover because we have only just caught after trying since december. Only just come off iron too for aneamia.
I guess your body knows when it is ready. Like you say, unsure if emotionally ready but fingers and toes crossed this one sticks

So pleased you have managed to get the early scan xx

@BobbySD345 defo give them a call. I think it's always best to know either way. Sorry you had such a rough time. Hopefully this one will be better.

Off topic... is anyone else scared to have sex? I haven't wanted to have sex with OH since our 10day marathon than got me knocked up. I'm so scared it might hurt the pregnancy. I know it's not going to actually. But I'm just so worried that I won't let him near me until after the scan. Luckily he's been away all week with work, but it's been 3 weeks haha.

@cakelaur yes I am !! Haha

@BobbySD345 how's your other half taking it?

@cakelaur the ban? Not too bad because I think he's worried about what might happen if we did too !!

@BobbySD345 I think I'm 5 weeks today

@Cakelaur My husband is away for work for the next 4 weeks so no sex for me even if I wanted it.

Haha I haven’t let my DH anywhere near since I found out. But it’s our wedding anniversary this weekend so feeling like I won’t get out of it. Haha x

Haha. Glad I'm not the only one. My OH is so good bless him. He's scared to death about it all too. But more cos I was hard to live with I think! I just turned really destructive, so he totally understands. Gotta love them in our lives!! 😍

@Martydog you must be due around same time as me then 😍 online calculators say 20th for me. We will both have to keep fingers and toes crossed for each other x

Hi everyone. I'm not feeling great today, the worry is just killing me. I'm about 5 weeks now and am basically beside myself with miscarriage fear. I can't shake the feeling of doom and I'm convinced that I won't be getting a baby. Still feel pretty 'normal' which isn't helping. Dh thinks the boobs are bigger but they are not sore at all. I have felt sick but just with worry rather than pregnancy I believe. Thought I'd feel happy but I feel utterly helpless and miserable and just waiting for blood. Anyone else feeling like this?

Hey @Athers666 sorry you're feeling so shitty. I feel totally the same way. I just know I'm going l get bad news in a week at the scan. And I know it's going to ruin the holiday and everything. I can't see past that at the mo. Personally I find a little bit of relief in this, because I know that if I find out the baby isn't developing, it will be as I thought. If it's great news then I'll be surprised. But just take it a day at a time, and try and find happiness in a few other things along the way if you can. Sending hugs.

@Cakelaur thank you for the reply. I'm so sorry that you're having similar thoughts. It's just so hard, isn't it? I'm so unhappy and feel alone. My Dh is great, but, of course he will never completely understand how I'm feeling. Or, maybe he does but he's trying to stay strong for me. I don't know. I just want to escape from my own thoughts for a day. Hugs back to you as well x

@Athers666 Maybe at the weekend you OH can take you somewhere nice and you can 'get away' for a weekend of something. Just to take your mind off. Or even a nice day trip. What do you love doing?

@Cakelaur Ooh that would be lovely! Unfortunatley I'm working all weekend. Which will be a distraction at least. Today is my day off and I've been up since 5.30am googling and upsetting myself!

Stop googling!!! It gets you nowhere good!! Instead, google cute outfits and prams and bouncers, or what nappies are best. Xx

@cakelaur you sound like me. I was 8 weeks in before mc and had already picked out a pram 🙈 I'm so impatient !

Positive thoughts @Athers666 they always say you should relax and de stress to help bean grow ♥️

@BobbySD345 Thank you. I'll try my best x